*Snowflakes to Sunshine* Discussion Week #9 3.4.11

IsMollyReallyHungry

I fear that my family and friends will not accept the "new me". A lot of them are unhealthy and overweight and I don't preach to them about the importance of getting in shape. But when I am around them, I don't give in. I don't think they are intentionally trying to sabatoge me, but they are certainly not helpful either. But I think it annoys them when I order healthier choices or if I miss their call because I'm at the gym. They think I think I have this attitude like I'm better than them, but that's not the case at all. I just want to be happy and healthy and I hope those around me can understand. I sometimes think they secretly want to see me fail. Maybe its all in my head, but its how I feel...

I find this to be true also. People are more comfortable with the old you and they do not or will not except the new you. When we order healthy it makes them uncomfortable (SOME, NOT ALL) even though we are not judging them. Don't let it bother you. Think about drinkers. Sometimes when you don't drink it makes the drinkers uncomfortable. They want all to engage. Hopefully they will get used to the new you. Some of my friends have gotten used to the new me and some have not. It hurts too but you will make new friends and hopefully your family will all get used to the new you. My family is small and they may feel uncomfortable but they understand and accept I am doing what I have to do to keep lost weight off. Some of them will even follow my lead and order healthier options also.

One night my Dad ordered brown rice and when it came he thought it was supposed to be dark like fried rice and was surprised it was an ashy white. Me and my sister did not comment until we were alone and we both knew he just ordered the brown rice because I did.

Some of your friends and family may not know how to take you at 1st but some of them will admire you and want to follow your example and may even ask you for help. And some of them are definitely proud of you too! but I do so understand this fear because the new you will change some of your relationships. But be encouraged you will still have your friends and family that love you. They will be forced to accept you as you are, the new and improved you! Just be patient with them. It will be a period of adjustment on both sides.

Krys_T

So since everyone talked about their fears...I wrote a blog kind of in response to what a lot of you Snowflakes were saying. Please take a look!

www.krystlesweightloss.blogspot.com

Steph_135

I fear that my family and friends will not accept the "new me". A lot of them are unhealthy and overweight and I don't preach to them about the importance of getting in shape. But when I am around them, I don't give in. I don't think they are intentionally trying to sabatoge me, but they are certainly not helpful either.

I feel like that around some of my extended family as well. :flowerforyou:

Krys_T

Ok everyone....so sorry I haven't been as active this week...for some reason I am really behind on work, at work! However, just an update from me. I went to the doctor on Monday and I am going on regular BC pills now...NO MORE SHOT! Thank God! After that 10day TOM...I was done! My doctor also said that he thinks that based on my activity level and what I am eating I could probably be losing more weight than I am, since the estrogen in Depo is fighting the weight loss a little.

So I started the pills today, and I hope this helps. I may not see anything until next month since technically I wasn't due for another shot until mid-April...but I am all about it! Also, I am pretty happy that I have lost about 22lbs since October 25th. I guess I didn't realize that I have lost half of my total weight loss within 4 months! So I am pretty excited about that

Also, I will be doing Day 4 today of TurboFire and WOW...it is no joke! I was so sore a few days ago I could hardly lift my water bottle lol. But I am doing good now and I love the fact that Chalene really pushes you to work hard. This will be my first 55 minute DVD, so we will see how that goes. I am looking to burn a good amount of calories.

Still finding it a little hard to net 1200 calories, but I am coming a lot closer than I was before. Hoping to see a decent number this week and an even better number next week!

Krys_T

I fear that my family and friends will not accept the "new me". A lot of them are unhealthy and overweight and I don't preach to them about the importance of getting in shape. But when I am around them, I don't give in. I don't think they are intentionally trying to sabatoge me, but they are certainly not helpful either. But I think it annoys them when I order healthier choices or if I miss their call because I'm at the gym. They think I think I have this attitude like I'm better than them, but that's not the case at all. I just want to be happy and healthy and I hope those around me can understand. I sometimes think they secretly want to see me fail. Maybe its all in my head, but its how I feel...

This is true when it comes to one of my "friends" in particular. She makes comments about not being able to reach me because I am working out, or preparing meals, etc. I think she is a little jealous, because she might feel like she isn't the center of attention if we go out. Funny thing is, I could care less about being the center of attention lol. This is why I always say, "I do Krystle..no matter what anyone else says or feels" You find out who your true supporters are when you are this journey for sure!

Krys_T

Since I am talking about this...I need some advice.

So a friend of mine (In California) Marisa, that I have been really close with for almost 5 years has not said ONE THING about me losing weight. I can talk to her on the phone or on FB and she won't ask me how it is going...posted pics on FB (the same ones I did here) and NOTHING. Now all my other friends have said something, and even people that I haven't seen since I graduated can leave comments but not her. Her own mother leaves comments on my page.

Then I talked to her a few days ago and she says, "Oh my mom told me to make sure I tell you that you look AMAZING!" She said that her mom was like, "Have you seen Krystle, OMG she looks so good...come look at her pictures" but yet, she hasn't said anything to me still. No great job girl, so proud of you NOTHING! So at first I thought I was crazy. But then she posts on her FB last night, "Got my fitness fetish back!" Since I always post about working out and pictures of dinners that I make. Hmmmm sounds fishy to me. Now Marisa is 5'5 and probably 140 or so, has nice toned arms...a good shape for her. So it is not like she is overweight or anything. But she is use to guys approaching her and being the center of attention. And anytime she posts a pic of herself that I like...I will say, "looking good girl" or whatever compliment. Because I am a friend and I have never been one to be threatened any woman...let alone someone I call a friend, we call each other's kids nephews and niece....really?

How should I feel about this?

glittersoul

Since you said she was already toned and all that then she may just be jealous that she isn't the one getting all the attention right now, even if she normally does. Basically I think its a territory thing and she isn't used to the 'new' you. If she's your real friend then she'll come around soon and act a little more normal. Sorry you are having to deal with it but if you two are good friends then maybe she'll get a reality check of how she's making you feel, soon.

glittersoul

As for fears that you guys were talking about. I guess I'm afraid that I won't be happy with how I look even when I'm at my goal weight because I've been overweight pretty much my whole life. I know that is shallow and I can get surgery for loose skin and all that. But then my head goes, well having surgery just means that you didn't put in the hard work to look like that, only half the work because I f**cked up so long ago that nothing I do will ever matter. .. Now I would never ever, even if I was highly intoxicated, tell someone else the things that I tell myself because well that would be really mean and demoralizing. So I am working on that with myself, but it is seriously hard to not be self-critical. I have been getting better about it but sometimes I relapse and am just never good enough for myself.

yellowfairy

I fear like you guys, not succeeding. Not getting to where I want to be and always looking in the mirror and seeing what I look like now. Then when I really think about it-that is when I over eat again. Which is very counter-productive! I just want so badly to look differently, but sometimes I just say "i am fat-and might as well have this candy bar". I don't know why-but I do. Then I just sabotage myself. Never ending cycle so far.

JulieSue

I know I dont get on here often and comment on these discussions but its mostly becuz I am just not happy with myself!!! and I just feel like I am always negative...and I do sooooo good for a week and then the next week I dont...I just have no will power if the food is in front of me I will eat it and sometimes I feel guilty if I dont eat it becuz its out!! idk I just struggle with a lot of things and I just dont like myself!!!

but anywho my fears: never getting there :0( becuz I just dont have the will power to do it!!! I have the motivation...ill do a big ole workout then eat a slice of pizza and a breadstick and part of a cinn a pie (that was on Friday night)...and if frieneds call me to go to dinner or to do something and I say "ill come after zumba or wahtever it is" and then I hear "oh last time u said that" or "gosh thats so late so just forget it gosh i feel like i never see you becuz you are always so busy" IDK its just alwayss so negative towards me wanting to exercise like it disrupts their schedules or something....then when we do go out to eat i hear "oh gosh u have been doing so good one meal wont kill you" or "sorry i know u love cheese dip but im oredering it anyway" soo of course I have no will power so i eat it...idk its just very frustrating!!! IDK soo my fear is that becuz I have no will power I will never get there!!! and then once I get there I wont stay there..i have been 135 once in my life and it lasted maybe 4 months :0( soo IDK ive always been overweight and i think I should just always be overweight!!! )

Krystal....I have a friend like that too I am interested to hear what people say to your questions!!! I feel for ya tho becuz I know how that feels and it blows big ones!!!

CuteMommy88

I know I dont get on here often and comment on these discussions but its mostly becuz I am just not happy with myself!!! and I just feel like I am always negative...and I do sooooo good for a week and then the next week I dont...I just have no will power if the food is in front of me I will eat it and sometimes I feel guilty if I dont eat it becuz its out!! idk I just struggle with a lot of things and I just dont like myself!!!

but anywho my fears: never getting there :0( becuz I just dont have the will power to do it!!! I have the motivation...ill do a big ole workout then eat a slice of pizza and a breadstick and part of a cinn a pie (that was on Friday night)...and if frieneds call me to go to dinner or to do something and I say "ill come after zumba or wahtever it is" and then I hear "oh last time u said that" or "gosh thats so late so just forget it gosh i feel like i never see you becuz you are always so busy" IDK its just alwayss so negative towards me wanting to exercise like it disrupts their schedules or something....then when we do go out to eat i hear "oh gosh u have been doing so good one meal wont kill you" or "sorry i know u love cheese dip but im oredering it anyway" soo of course I have no will power so i eat it...idk its just very frustrating!!! IDK soo my fear is that becuz I have no will power I will never get there!!! and then once I get there I wont stay there..i have been 135 once in my life and it lasted maybe 4 months :0( soo IDK ive always been overweight and i think I should just always be overweight!!! )

Krystal....I have a friend like that too I am interested to hear what people say to your questions!!! I feel for ya tho becuz I know how that feels and it blows big ones!!!

Try not to be so negative and down on yourself!! just because you have always been over weight doesnt mean that you always have to be. You are making the right decision and the right moves to get there just try to stay positive and dont sabatoge yourself. If they are truly your friends they will understand, maybe the next time you all go out pick somewhere with healthy options

CuteMommy88

Hello Snowflakes!! Sorry I have been so absent lately, I have kind of fallen off the bandwagon a bit. I have been super stressed out and worried lately, which unfortunately has resulted in me eating out a lot more because the lack of motivaiton to cook. I have been so preoccupied with my daughter that I have completely neglected all other aspects of my life. My diet is definately suffering along with my school work and my fitness goals. Hopefully once I get some help with my daughter i can work to get the rest of my life back on track. however she is my number one priority so with all that is going on i really havent even thought about losing weight, luckily i have you all otherwise i would have completely given up already. Thank you all so much for the support :happy:

ltlhmom

I know I dont get on here often and comment on these discussions but its mostly becuz I am just not happy with myself!!! and I just feel like I am always negative...and I do sooooo good for a week and then the next week I dont...I just have no will power if the food is in front of me I will eat it and sometimes I feel guilty if I dont eat it becuz its out!! idk I just struggle with a lot of things and I just dont like myself!!!

but anywho my fears: never getting there :0( becuz I just dont have the will power to do it!!! I have the motivation...ill do a big ole workout then eat a slice of pizza and a breadstick and part of a cinn a pie (that was on Friday night)...and if frieneds call me to go to dinner or to do something and I say "ill come after zumba or wahtever it is" and then I hear "oh last time u said that" or "gosh thats so late so just forget it gosh i feel like i never see you becuz you are always so busy" IDK its just alwayss so negative towards me wanting to exercise like it disrupts their schedules or something....then when we do go out to eat i hear "oh gosh u have been doing so good one meal wont kill you" or "sorry i know u love cheese dip but im oredering it anyway" soo of course I have no will power so i eat it...idk its just very frustrating!!! IDK soo my fear is that becuz I have no will power I will never get there!!! and then once I get there I wont stay there..i have been 135 once in my life and it lasted maybe 4 months :0( soo IDK ive always been overweight and i think I should just always be overweight!!! )

Krystal....I have a friend like that too I am interested to hear what people say to your questions!!! I feel for ya tho becuz I know how that feels and it blows big ones!!!

Maybe you can invite them to do Zumba with you. You can't let what they say affect you! You are important and you owe it to yourself to give it your all because at the end of the day you are all you got!

ltlhmom

Since I am talking about this...I need some advice.

So a friend of mine (In California) Marisa, that I have been really close with for almost 5 years has not said ONE THING about me losing weight. I can talk to her on the phone or on FB and she won't ask me how it is going...posted pics on FB (the same ones I did here) and NOTHING. Now all my other friends have said something, and even people that I haven't seen since I graduated can leave comments but not her. Her own mother leaves comments on my page.

Then I talked to her a few days ago and she says, "Oh my mom told me to make sure I tell you that you look AMAZING!" She said that her mom was like, "Have you seen Krystle, OMG she looks so good...come look at her pictures" but yet, she hasn't said anything to me still. No great job girl, so proud of you NOTHING! So at first I thought I was crazy. But then she posts on her FB last night, "Got my fitness fetish back!" Since I always post about working out and pictures of dinners that I make. Hmmmm sounds fishy to me. Now Marisa is 5'5 and probably 140 or so, has nice toned arms...a good shape for her. So it is not like she is overweight or anything. But she is use to guys approaching her and being the center of attention. And anytime she posts a pic of herself that I like...I will say, "looking good girl" or whatever compliment. Because I am a friend and I have never been one to be threatened any woman...let alone someone I call a friend, we call each other's kids nephews and niece....really?

How should I feel about this?

I would call her on it! But the next question you have to ask yourself is if you all the one that has to put all the effort into the relationship is it really worth it?

ltlhmom

My biggest fear is never getting to my goal weight and always trying. Always hoping next year I will be thinner. I don't want it to be like that anymore. I mean I have already been like that for 4 years. i don't want to be like this anymore. I want to be thinner. I was always thin. I didn't get heavy until i got married to a *kitten*. I gained 15 pounds (went from 135 to 150) and he never let me hear the end of it. It was mostly because I was in recovery for bulimia, on antidepressants, started birth control and got in a car accident that messed up my back. Gaining 15 pounds really isn't that bad considering. But the more he said something, the more I tried to lose weight for him, the more I gained. He even told me to start purging again because I still had a eating disorder (he said I was a compulsive eater) and at least this way I would be thin. I lost it, completely. By the end of it I was over 200 pounds and just ashamed of myself. I am with a much better guy now. He knew my in high school at my thinnest, and he loved me at my biggest. He does't care, he thinks I look perfect all the time. I am scared when I lose weight I don't be attractive to him anymore. I am scared he is just with me because he has a thing for big girls, even though he says I am not big. I am scared that it won't stay off if it actually comes off. I am scared of being fat for the rest of my life. I am scared of always struggling with my weight, either losing it or keeping it off. I am scared of having kids and gaining that weight. i am scared of not looking right when I lose the weight, the saggy skin, the stretch marks, I am scared of looking gross.

I am scared of a lot of things I guess.

What an *kitten*! You are beautiful girl! You will get there because you are worth every effort you are putting into this!

Krys_T

I know I dont get on here often and comment on these discussions but its mostly becuz I am just not happy with myself!!! and I just feel like I am always negative...and I do sooooo good for a week and then the next week I dont...I just have no will power if the food is in front of me I will eat it and sometimes I feel guilty if I dont eat it becuz its out!! idk I just struggle with a lot of things and I just dont like myself!!!

but anywho my fears: never getting there :0( becuz I just dont have the will power to do it!!! I have the motivation...ill do a big ole workout then eat a slice of pizza and a breadstick and part of a cinn a pie (that was on Friday night)...and if frieneds call me to go to dinner or to do something and I say "ill come after zumba or wahtever it is" and then I hear "oh last time u said that" or "gosh thats so late so just forget it gosh i feel like i never see you becuz you are always so busy" IDK its just alwayss so negative towards me wanting to exercise like it disrupts their schedules or something....then when we do go out to eat i hear "oh gosh u have been doing so good one meal wont kill you" or "sorry i know u love cheese dip but im oredering it anyway" soo of course I have no will power so i eat it...idk its just very frustrating!!! IDK soo my fear is that becuz I have no will power I will never get there!!! and then once I get there I wont stay there..i have been 135 once in my life and it lasted maybe 4 months :0( soo IDK ive always been overweight and i think I should just always be overweight!!! )

Krystal....I have a friend like that too I am interested to hear what people say to your questions!!! I feel for ya tho becuz I know how that feels and it blows big ones!!!

Ok, I want you to do something for me FIRST...DON'T EVER doubt your abilities! You can do ANYTHING you put your mind to. Also, I want you to do something else for me...make about 4 signs (one for your car, one for your refrigerator, and one for the bathroom mirror) that say "100 % Everyday...Because I'm worth it!". You have to remind yourself that you need to give it your all every single day! Am I saying you can't have a treat...,no! But what I am saying is, next time your friends comment about you being busy all the time, tell them,"I have to do me...I'm at a point in my life where I'm the most important thing and I need to fix myself mentally and physically in order to be a better person. And if that doesn't fit in your schedule, I'm sorry but this is for ME!". I'm dead serious...tell them! And no one meal won't kill you but tell them, "But it is going to put me that many more calories back from my goal, and it is not worth it! My life and happiness is way more important than cheese dip."

And just like lthmom said...invite them to try Zumba or TurboFire with you...bring them into your world, instead of allowing theirs to sabotage you. Whether they are doing it on purpose or not...you need to let them know!

I'm saying this because I know you can do it...and I want to truly believe in your heart that you can girl! Just take one day at a time. I'm not perfect, heck I had pizza and a swiss roll earlier this week...but then I thought back and said that it wasn't worth it...that 5 minutes of eating pizza did nothing for me nutritionally but make me feel bloated! So why the hell would I want to keep doing that to myself!

So CHIN up Julie...and come to us Snowflakes...this is what we are here for. This is what I'm here for, to help you recognize how strong you really are!

Krys_T

Hello Snowflakes!! Sorry I have been so absent lately, I have kind of fallen off the bandwagon a bit. I have been super stressed out and worried lately, which unfortunately has resulted in me eating out a lot more because the lack of motivaiton to cook. I have been so preoccupied with my daughter that I have completely neglected all other aspects of my life. My diet is definately suffering along with my school work and my fitness goals. Hopefully once I get some help with my daughter i can work to get the rest of my life back on track. however she is my number one priority so with all that is going on i really havent even thought about losing weight, luckily i have you all otherwise i would have completely given up already. Thank you all so much for the support :happy:

I totally know what you mean about the little one! Good news is..when they hit 2 they come up with this crazy amount of independence lol. Now my little man works out with me, or attempts to lol. First thing he says when we get home is "Mommy, Zumba!". Its like he gives me that kick in the butt...he knows the moves to certain songs and everything...so little Chloe will be the same way. . Like I always say...take one day at a time! I am also burned out on cooking, but what gets me excited is trying a new recipe out...it is a motivation and challenge for me. I have realized that I have to make everything a challenge for myself in order for me to do it lol...but it works! But I definitely know how stressful school can be...for me college was when I gained most of my weight because I was working and going to school full-time I was burned out! But kudos to you for doing all of it and still losing weight! Awesome! You will be ok girl...just keep pushing yourself...u are so close!

Krys_T

I fear like you guys, not succeeding. Not getting to where I want to be and always looking in the mirror and seeing what I look like now. Then when I really think about it-that is when I over eat again. Which is very counter-productive! I just want so badly to look differently, but sometimes I just say "i am fat-and might as well have this candy bar". I don't know why-but I do. Then I just sabotage myself. Never ending cycle so far.

I use to do this all the time! I would like at myself coming out of the shower and be like "Well I'm already 200+ lbs so why not eat the snickers...can't possibly make me look any worse than I already do!". But you have to flip the switch in your head from off to on...this took me a long time to do! U have to change your mindset to "I can't put that in my body...you know how much extra cardio that is?!" LOL! I just refuse to make more work for myself. Just stay focused on your goal. This journey in itself should help you appreciate how hard you have worked to get to where you are, and when you get to your goal...you know you worked for every inch, every half a pound and there is no way you are going to go back!

robynrae_1

Since I am talking about this...I need some advice.

So a friend of mine (In California) Marisa, that I have been really close with for almost 5 years has not said ONE THING about me losing weight. I can talk to her on the phone or on FB and she won't ask me how it is going...posted pics on FB (the same ones I did here) and NOTHING. Now all my other friends have said something, and even people that I haven't seen since I graduated can leave comments but not her. Her own mother leaves comments on my page.

Then I talked to her a few days ago and she says, "Oh my mom told me to make sure I tell you that you look AMAZING!" She said that her mom was like, "Have you seen Krystle, OMG she looks so good...come look at her pictures" but yet, she hasn't said anything to me still. No great job girl, so proud of you NOTHING! So at first I thought I was crazy. But then she posts on her FB last night, "Got my fitness fetish back!" Since I always post about working out and pictures of dinners that I make. Hmmmm sounds fishy to me. Now Marisa is 5'5 and probably 140 or so, has nice toned arms...a good shape for her. So it is not like she is overweight or anything. But she is use to guys approaching her and being the center of attention. And anytime she posts a pic of herself that I like...I will say, "looking good girl" or whatever compliment. Because I am a friend and I have never been one to be threatened any woman...let alone someone I call a friend, we call each other's kids nephews and niece....really?

How should I feel about this?

I have a little bit of a different take on this.
Would you consider your friend shy? Does she post alot on other peoples stuff?
I consider myself "socialy ackward" I am not comfortable posting things because my anxiety (social) tends to get in my way. I waaaay over analyse everything I write, even if my spelling is right or wrong. I have started to post things and then have problems with wording and delete the whole thing.

I am getting back into the swing of things this week. The bronchitis is doing much better and I am off the antibiotics. I went to zumba on Mon and Wed and also did Week1 Day1 of the C25K on monday.

Steph_135

A WORD TO THE WISE: Go out to your local library and pick up an inspirational non-fiction or self-help book. It doesn't matter which one, you will be drawn to the whichever one you are meant to read. Sign it out and read a little bit in the mornings, at night, or whenever you get a chance. If I hadn't have started reading these kind of books when I was 13 (I read Unlimited Power) I don't know where I would be right now.

There's such a wide range out there. If you don't know where to start try: * Jack Canfield * Dr. Wayne Dyer * Dr. Phil, Deepak Chopra * Shakti Gawain * Anthony Robbins * Rhonda Byrne * Louise Hay * Norman Vincent Peale * Miguel Ángel Ruiz * Honestly, their books can change your whole attitude if you approach them with an open mind. Read something positive, and read it often!

leandread

Good morning everyone..I've been a bit of a lurker this week because I told myself to "stop talking about it and just be about it". This week I have worked hard, stayed focused, drank gallons of water even with it being my TOM. I got on the scale this morning and there was no change between this week and last week but I wonder if I need to pump up the exercise. Even though I am overweight, I have been fairly physically active over the last ten years. I work out 5 days a week now (4 weeks going strong!) but even when I was gaining a bunch of weight, I was still working out about 2-3 days a week. So I think its time to punch it up. My intake is good, not always great, but I know that takes time because there's a lot of emotional eating I am purging from my life.

Im not losing weight but clothes that were in back of the closet are making their way to the front. I haven't taken my measurements in over a month but since the scale hasn't been moving much, and I know how much it takes for me to get my motivation off the floor with that, I've been avoiding the tape measure all together.

So next week is Spring Break and I think I'm going to....No let me start. Ladies, I'm really excited because I AM GOING to start Couch 2 5K on Monday. I might as well get some use out of my ipod

JulieSue

I know I dont get on here often and comment on these discussions but its mostly becuz I am just not happy with myself!!! and I just feel like I am always negative...and I do sooooo good for a week and then the next week I dont...I just have no will power if the food is in front of me I will eat it and sometimes I feel guilty if I dont eat it becuz its out!! idk I just struggle with a lot of things and I just dont like myself!!!

but anywho my fears: never getting there :0( becuz I just dont have the will power to do it!!! I have the motivation...ill do a big ole workout then eat a slice of pizza and a breadstick and part of a cinn a pie (that was on Friday night)...and if frieneds call me to go to dinner or to do something and I say "ill come after zumba or wahtever it is" and then I hear "oh last time u said that" or "gosh thats so late so just forget it gosh i feel like i never see you becuz you are always so busy" IDK its just alwayss so negative towards me wanting to exercise like it disrupts their schedules or something....then when we do go out to eat i hear "oh gosh u have been doing so good one meal wont kill you" or "sorry i know u love cheese dip but im oredering it anyway" soo of course I have no will power so i eat it...idk its just very frustrating!!! IDK soo my fear is that becuz I have no will power I will never get there!!! and then once I get there I wont stay there..i have been 135 once in my life and it lasted maybe 4 months :0( soo IDK ive always been overweight and i think I should just always be overweight!!! )

Krystal....I have a friend like that too I am interested to hear what people say to your questions!!! I feel for ya tho becuz I know how that feels and it blows big ones!!!

Maybe you can invite them to do Zumba with you. You can't let what they say affect you! You are important and you owe it to yourself to give it your all because at the end of the day you are all you got!

yeah I have tried that and they just arent interested!!! but thanks for the kind words!!! I know I can do this I can I can I can!!!!

leandread

A WORD TO THE WISE: Go out to your local library and pick up an inspirational non-fiction or self-help book. It doesn't matter which one, you will be drawn to the whichever one you are meant to read. Sign it out and read a little bit in the mornings, at night, or whenever you get a chance. If I hadn't have started reading these kind of books when I was 13 (I read Unlimited Power) I don't know where I would be right now.

There's such a wide range out there. If you don't know where to start try: * Jack Canfield * Dr. Wayne Dyer * Dr. Phil, Deepak Chopra * Shakti Gawain * Anthony Robbins * Rhonda Byrne * Louise Hay * Norman Vincent Peale * Miguel Ángel Ruiz * Honestly, their books can change your whole attitude if you approach them with an open mind. Read something positive, and read it often!

I'll add on the book list: The Beck Diet Solution is also really helpful! Its not a "diet" book even though it has the word diet in the title. Its a book based on cognitive therapy so it doesn't get into, eat this, don't eat that kind of talk. But deals more w/ helping you tap into the kind of relationship you have with food, the emotional triggers and the other things that we battle with. I always beat myself up about not having willpower and discipline but that book showed me some alternative perspectives on my behavior. HEY, I'm telling you all about it but I need to go back and read some of that this weekend!

JulieSue

I know I dont get on here often and comment on these discussions but its mostly becuz I am just not happy with myself!!! and I just feel like I am always negative...and I do sooooo good for a week and then the next week I dont...I just have no will power if the food is in front of me I will eat it and sometimes I feel guilty if I dont eat it becuz its out!! idk I just struggle with a lot of things and I just dont like myself!!!

but anywho my fears: never getting there :0( becuz I just dont have the will power to do it!!! I have the motivation...ill do a big ole workout then eat a slice of pizza and a breadstick and part of a cinn a pie (that was on Friday night)...and if frieneds call me to go to dinner or to do something and I say "ill come after zumba or wahtever it is" and then I hear "oh last time u said that" or "gosh thats so late so just forget it gosh i feel like i never see you becuz you are always so busy" IDK its just alwayss so negative towards me wanting to exercise like it disrupts their schedules or something....then when we do go out to eat i hear "oh gosh u have been doing so good one meal wont kill you" or "sorry i know u love cheese dip but im oredering it anyway" soo of course I have no will power so i eat it...idk its just very frustrating!!! IDK soo my fear is that becuz I have no will power I will never get there!!! and then once I get there I wont stay there..i have been 135 once in my life and it lasted maybe 4 months :0( soo IDK ive always been overweight and i think I should just always be overweight!!! )

Krystal....I have a friend like that too I am interested to hear what people say to your questions!!! I feel for ya tho becuz I know how that feels and it blows big ones!!!

Ok, I want you to do something for me FIRST...DON'T EVER doubt your abilities! You can do ANYTHING you put your mind to. Also, I want you to do something else for me...make about 4 signs (one for your car, one for your refrigerator, and one for the bathroom mirror) that say "100 % Everyday...Because I'm worth it!". You have to remind yourself that you need to give it your all every single day! Am I saying you can't have a treat...,no! But what I am saying is, next time your friends comment about you being busy all the time, tell them,"I have to do me...I'm at a point in my life where I'm the most important thing and I need to fix myself mentally and physically in order to be a better person. And if that doesn't fit in your schedule, I'm sorry but this is for ME!". I'm dead serious...tell them! And no one meal won't kill you but tell them, "But it is going to put me that many more calories back from my goal, and it is not worth it! My life and happiness is way more important than cheese dip."

And just like lthmom said...invite them to try Zumba or TurboFire with you...bring them into your world, instead of allowing theirs to sabotage you. Whether they are doing it on purpose or not...you need to let them know!

I'm saying this because I know you can do it...and I want to truly believe in your heart that you can girl! Just take one day at a time. I'm not perfect, heck I had pizza and a swiss roll earlier this week...but then I thought back and said that it wasn't worth it...that 5 minutes of eating pizza did nothing for me nutritionally but make me feel bloated! So why the hell would I want to keep doing that to myself!

So CHIN up Julie...and come to us Snowflakes...this is what we are here for. This is what I'm here for, to help you recognize how strong you really are!

thanks so much for the motivational words!!! I needed them!!! ) I recently posted two pictures of me in my room from when I was at my smallest in a bathing suit on my door so I can look at them!!!! I hope that helps but I think I will put the motivational notes in my car and places!!! at work I have two phrases up on my desk area that i like to remember:

"Nothing tastes as good as being skinny!!!" and
"As long as you keep on doing what you've been doing then you are going to keep on getting what you've been getting. If you dont like what you've been getting then you've got to change what you've been doing."

sooo thanks for taking the time to write this message to me...I truely appreciate it!!!

Krys_T

Ok so I am going to address this in a concise and straightforward way and then move on!

I am all about us venting about what's going on in life and on this journey...however, it will never be ok to personally blast anyone else who is a member of this challenge or MFP (since its not like this is private) on a forum. I don't want anyone participating to feel like they are uncomfortable or cannot speak their mind. Please everyone let's just be kind...u may not like everything that people may say...but we need to be cordial and keep the support for one another and positive energy high! We are here to support each other, motivate ourselves, and become better people!

Ok, so that's done . Love you guys!

Scubasab

Hello to all of my Snowflakes!!!!!

I'm back from the hospital. My surgery went well and now I just need to take it easy for now. They have me on lots of pain medicine and I'm resting. I'm still very sore and in pain but, I will get through this and be back very soon!!!!! I still don't have much of an appetite but, I have decided to go ahead and log my food starting today.

I just want you ALL to know how very proud I am of each and every one of you!!! You all are an amazing group!! I love the support and encouragement that we give to each other. I think it's wonderful that we can be there for each other as well as inspire one another!

Krystle, YOU are an AMAZING PERSON!!!!! Thank you for making this possible for all of us. I love your inspiring words and encouragement that you offer to others!!! You are going to be very SUCCESSFUL!!!!!!!

I hope you all have a wonderful week!!!! Be kind to one another. Life is short. Surround yourselves with people who love you and support you!!!!!!

Much love,
Sabrina

Steph_135

Even though I am overweight, I have been fairly physically active over the last ten years. I work out 5 days a week now (4 weeks going strong!) but even when I was gaining a bunch of weight, I was still working out about 2-3 days a week. So I think its time to punch it up.

Overweight does not = unhealthy. You just proved that perfectly!
Thanks for The Beck Diet Solution suggestion! I haven't read that one. Sounds a little like "Women Food and God". I loved that book. I think I read it in 2 days...

I'm back from the hospital. My surgery went well and now I just need to take it easy for now. They have me on lots of pain medicine and I'm resting. I'm still very sore and in pain but, I will get through this and be back very soon!!!!!

Have a wonderful recovery! :drinker: In your down time, you can take time to think about all the wonderful changes that are happening in your life. :happy:

ltlhmom

FYI the 30 Day Shred kicked my *kitten* yesterday! My thighs have hurt more and more as the day goes on. I couldn't do my hour on the elliptical tonight because my legs were to sore. But I will be back at it tomorrow! =]

I know some of you have done the Shred. Just wondering if you hurt the whole time doing it or got better as you went. I know being sore is a good thing it means you are working it. I just want to figure out my plan.

Sabrina I glad that you are back and in recovery mode! Much love and hope your back up and at it soon!

FluffyMamaNeeds2Lose

So glad to hear that you are out of the hospital sabrina.. I pray that you recover quickly so you can get back to your old self

leandread

Hello to all of my Snowflakes!!!!!

I'm back from the hospital. My surgery went well and now I just need to take it easy for now. They have me on lots of pain medicine and I'm resting. I'm still very sore and in pain but, I will get through this and be back very soon!!!!! I still don't have much of an appetite but, I have decided to go ahead and log my food starting today.

I just want you ALL to know how very proud I am of each and every one of you!!! You all are an amazing group!! I love the support and encouragement that we give to each other. I think it's wonderful that we can be there for each other as well as inspire one another!

Krystle, YOU are an AMAZING PERSON!!!!! Thank you for making this possible for all of us. I love your inspiring words and encouragement that you offer to others!!! You are going to be very SUCCESSFUL!!!!!!!

I hope you all have a wonderful week!!!! Be kind to one another. Life is short. Surround yourselves with people who love you and support you!!!!!!

Much love,
Sabrina

Welcome home Sabrina and hopes for a swift recovery