Does your spouse know how much you weigh??

Jaccilatt5

Ever since I started trying to lose weight my husband keeps asking what I weigh....Now back when we met I had no problem telling him because I was 118lbs and Im 5'8''. Clearly that isnt the case anymore cause Im on here. He keeps saying to me " What, do you think that Ill think of you differently if I know?" Well....yea. See he is 6'3'' and 190lbs...Tall, thin, and in shape. So I dont want to tell him that when this all started I weighed more than him (195). I have tried to comprimise with him by saying that I will tell him once I am happy with the number on the scale again, but I dont think that will ever really happen.
So what should I do? Tell him? Keep it to myself? Does your spouse know how much you weigh? Are they more supportive because they know?

XBabigrl72

My husband knows how much I weigh. He supportive of me no matter what whether I happy with being majorly over weight or unhappy with it. If he knows what your working on number wise he may want to help or keep you motivated. A good partner takes your challenges on with you.

doramouse

Nope
I've never felt that he needs to know my weight
He is super supportive
But I don't tell anyone my weight
My numbers are my business - and I guess MFP's

RockaholicMama

My husband knows exactly how much I weigh. He's 6'5 and in the Air Force so he's in shape. I'm 6' and just hit 289. He always tells me I look like I weigh so much less and helps me with my work out goals and food choices. At first I didn't want to tell him, but my husband and I have the relationship where nothing is held back.

dawnna76

yes, he has always known what I weigh and i always check in with him after my weigh in.

khk2010

Nope. He has never known how much I weigh. He still thinks I wear the same size I wore when we met or so many pounds ago. Rose colored glasses I suppose.

ultraviolencexo

My mister knows exactly how much I weigh and is very supportive and hasn't even mentioned that I clearly weigh more than he does lol

Eava57

My hubby is supportive but he doesn't know my exact weight. I've raised my boys to never do two things....Ask a woman her age or weight. LOL:blushing:

AnitaAntone

my husband knows my weight. he is under weight for his height. he is suppotive. i hate being bigger than him but i probably will weigh more than him at my ideal still! he is 6ft 2 155lbs now , me 5ft 8 250lbs. we say we married the metabolim we need.funny thing he is as embarrased/self conscience about his weight as i am about mine!

doramouse

I'm with you Eava57!!

Mads1997

My hubby knows exactly how much I weigh. Why would I keep something like that from him.

HunnyLuvsJorge

I completely relate to how you feel. I don't like to share my weight with my husband, but he's smart enough not to ask me. haha I'm sure he knows cuz we have one of those scales that records weight, but then again I don't think he really cares all that much. But I really don't like it when he tries to pick me up. He says that I'm light, but I am no where near light. He might ask me things like what size clothes I wear cuz he wants to buy me clothes or something and I still refuse to tell him. I shouldn't feel embarassed about my weight with my husband. He knows everything there is to know about me, but for me personally, I carry a lot of shame with my weight so I'm ashamed to share anything about it.

ahsongbird

I've told my husband but he doesnt care, hes a naturally thin muscular guy but he eats like a cow haha so he would prolly prefer me to stay fat so he can eat all his junk food 24/7 lol

angiedwill

Mine knows but not because he wants to. I tell him just to give myself a loud reminder that I need to fix it. I don'thave major support at home. Well, I do from my kids. He loves me no matter my size apparantly lol. He's proud when I tell him what I accomplish, but he doesn't really ever ask me about any of it. I recently started walking and running. I have to tell him to tell me I did good sometimes. It's really aggrivating, but I know that when it's all said and done I did it for me and not for him anyway. I have you all and others that encourage me and motivate me to do well. You make up for what he doesn't do lol

jordanlell

I think everyone's relationship is different. I like to share everything with my man, but that's just us. I know he still thinks I'm attractive--he tells me everyday!--so I don't feel I have anything to be ashamed of around him. Especially now that I've been losing, I'm constantly updating him because I'm very proud of the weight that I've lost. He's proud of me, too, which feels awesome!

NZblue

My husband sure does. He's the most supportive man ever, though.
He's a bit of a midget - short, but still taller than my 5 foot 2, and thin. He's always been a good deal lighter than my weight. (He was underweight for a good deal of time, too.)

But he's never ever commented on my weight. Only the comments like, "Wow, you've lost weight baby." And tells me where the loss is showing. And the daily, "You're so beautiful."

:blushing:

thektturner

My hubby knows my weight. I tell him whenever I lose anything. However, he has much more weight to lose than myself. If he was in shape (and especially if he weighed less than me) I don't know if I'd tell him. Though, I was 202 when I started and that was about 10 pounds more than my dad. That hurt.

n0pants3ver

My boyfriend knows how much I weigh. He is so so supportive. It's wonderful having him there. I weigh myself in front of him, so we're very comfortable together. He's such a motivator. He's a little bigger guy too. He's my support system & here the whole way through this life time change!

missmiller1

My husband and I tell each other how much we weigh every morning and every night. It's a competition who can lose the most now. He's down 40 pounds in a year and I'm hovering between 20-25 pounds.

losing4myself

I used to keep my weight very much so on the down low with my husband. But I've come to a point where now I do not care because I know I will NOT be that weight forever. Letting him know my weight makes him a part of my journey and makes it easier for him to support me. Mind you...my husband is in the army and very fit. I have been heavier than him now since we had our son 2 years ago. My husband comes home this month and i've talked to him by phone about my success and fails along the way. He weighed the other day and to my suprise...we are close in weight now. Of course i'm all fat and he's all muscle...but still....it is SOOO important to me that my number on the scale is less than his. I'm the women...so I feel ungirly in a sense being heavier than him. Almost like i'm not worthy of being treated like a sexy wife by him. My confidence will boost way up once I weigh less than him. Even though I will still have a far way to go! But now that i've let myself get out of that comfort zone I must say it is very very nice having that bond with my husband and sharing this life changing journey with him. I vowed to share my life with him, and this is a big part of my life that he wants to be in...and deserves to be in!! Not to mention...it keeps you going because it kinda sucks to slip up when your hubby knows your weight :laugh: But your hubby knowing your weight and if you slip up...means that you have a support system to get you back on track!!

bonnykate

can't say if it makes him more supportive, but my husband and i both know eachother's weight, and it's no biggie. i mean, at least with us its obvious i'm bigger than him (more curves, more rolly bits when i'm bending around), so i don't think it's any kind of a shocker -- plus, it seems like a lot of guys hear weight numbers in an entirely different way than a lot of women do -- in my experience, they're used to thinking of the ideal weight being around 160 at least, whereas women seem to have some ridiculously small number like 130 in mind for a MAXIMUM weight. regardless, tell him if you want to - he's your husband, he's clearly not going to run off once he hears some number off a scale

mummum2

My husband knows and supports me, after my weight in last Sunday I said, "no loss today" he replied "why?" lol

curleesam

I was too embarrassed to tell my hubby how much I weighed after I gave birth but promised him that when I was more comfortable with my weight I would tell him. This week I got to 12 stone 12lbs (or 180lbs) which I am pleased with but still want to lose more. So I confessed to what I was before and how much I weighed now and he was so impressed that I had pulled my finger out and done something about it to improve my confidence.

I say tell him when you are more comfortable with the weight you are at.

marie111

Noooooooooooooooo they dont need to no what u weight, just tell him how much ur loseing thats all he needs to no. good luck with ur weight loss.

mainey65

I'm with you Marie!

SueGeer

He doesn't know *exactly*. Even if I told him, he'd forget straight away....... If he tells me I'm fat (5'5 & 138lbs), I just tell him how much I've lost...but I don't think he takes much notice.

Good luck to everybody!

NicNac86

Me and the OH tell each other after every weigh in.

It's nice to be on this journey with him

Barelmy

My boyfriend measured my bodyfat with calipers once. It was embarrassing, but I just thought, well, he's not going to find me less attractive just because he knows the numbers.

fitness63

My husband does not know how much I weigh. He never has, even when it was 115 pounds and I was 5'7". I met him around that weight. I was not eating because I was in college (18 years old) and disliked going to the dining hall. I married him around 130 (25 years) pounds and hit 160 (27 years). He once mentioned to his buddies, "I didn't mary that." Since then I haven't felt the need to tell him as he can clearly tell. He is very supportive..maybe over-supportive and I only feel comfortable telling him how much I lost.

Secret_Agent_007

My husband does not know how much I weigh. He never has, even when it was 115 pounds and I was 5'7". I met him around that weight. I was not eating because I was in college (18 years old) and disliked going to the dining hall. I married him around 130 (25 years) pounds and hit 160 (27 years). He once mentioned to his buddies, "I didn't mary that." Since then I haven't felt the need to tell him as he can clearly tell. He is very supportive..maybe over-supportive and I only feel comfortable telling him how much I lost.

That had to hurt. I'm sorry you heard that from him.

Having read this whole thread, I have to say that your partner should know everything about you. How can he help you, understand you, encourage you, and support you if he has no clue what you weigh and what you think of your weight.

It's obvious your men know what you look like. Guess what, they're still here. Knowing the number isn't going to change that. Especially when they see your hard work and food choices and understand why.

At the end of the day it's your journey. I just can't see passing up on the person who should be / could be your biggest fan.

Be great, people. It's in you.

JennsLosing

yup, he helps me stay motivated...i tell him every pound i drop and what i weigh now.