Just Starting, and family already annoyed.

Mynewyearsvow

Today is day three of logging in food, and my minimal exercise. I love the barcode scanner on my phone. I LOVE the fact that at the end of the day is says "if everyday was like today you'll be.... in 5 weeks." It's so encouraging.

However, I tend to obsess over current things in my life. I've been telling my poor husband how many calories i'm over, if I get enough protein. How hydrated I am and how much water I have.

Today I tried to talk about how I got too much cholesterol... And the response definitely told me "Ive had enough!"

Anyone else's family getting annoyed about your new found notice of food and carbs and protein and sugar, etc?

sarahs440

Just come on MFP and tell us all about it!! lol

AsaThorsWoman

Maybe you should try something positive, like "I exercised for 20 minutes, and it felt soooooo good." and leave it at that.

kettlewitch

Oh yes. My husband would never say as much but I can see his eyes glazing over. Had my retinas scanned last week and went to supermarket after but eyes were blurry and couldn't read the labels. Husband had to read it all for me and it took about an hour to get a dozen items hahaha. Think he quite likes me being up early at weekends for the gym so he gets a lie in with the bed to himself tho

jennywrens

My husband rolls his eyes at me in a jokey way when I stand reading labels on everything in shops. But honestly, he's learnt that this is the new me - I will always be checking the labels out otherwise I'll end up back at the start again!!

misslo718

Barcode scanner? how am i missing this? is this on iphone4?

jennywrens

Barcode scanner? how am i missing this? is this on iphone4?

Its on the Android app!!!

kcmckillip

I've been very lucky because my husband has been very supportive, but I do find myself obsessing way more than I should. It hasn't gone away in nearly a month!

I've tried to obsess a little bit less, otherwise I will drive myself crazy!

ANeWcRe8N

I've had a couple of family members that seemed annoyed when I mention calories and the new things that I had learned when I first started. They didnt really say much but had that look like they thought I was acting like I knew it all.. so I kinda felt like I was bragging about it so I just stopped telling them and kept it to myself. I use to feel like I bother my husband when I first started but I honestly think he didnt think I would stick to it and was kind of jealous that i was making some changes and he wasnt. Now he is supportive and doesnt act that way anymore. Dont let it discourage you from making those life changes.. it will be all worth it in the long run

WalkingGirl1985

I got my fiancee readling labels now, because of me. :laugh:

LadyPersia

Everyone is on board in my house, we are all training for something or trying to do better. Once in awhile, my son will comment about" only water or milk is in the house to drink", but My journey is to become better....Nothing can get in the way of that.

I agree come on here and tell us about it!

etpx3

Just come on MFP and tell us all about it!! lol

AGREED! we're all here to listen and give feedback... he's just jealous he's not on top of it like you are hehe

mistyb47711

Well....honestly, he is your husband and I am sure there are things he talks to you about that you could give a crap about. But you listen. Tell him you would like his support in this lifestyle change so you can bug him for the next 50 years with your numbers...lol....Come on here and tell us about it. My hubby is doing this with me so he doesnt act like that. We talk together about it. That is what MFP friends are here for.......

stevemcknight

My family/friends were annoyed at first too.... That was 2 years ago. Screw them. Take care of yourself.

stevemcknight

My family/friends were annoyed at first too.... That was 2 years ago. Screw them. Take care of yourself.

jeyoung03

In my case my boyfriend is trying to help me big time, since we mostly eat almost all our meals together. (This is where i believe a lot of my bad eating comes from and my weight gain because we are comfortable together, and when we once broke up for 4 months I lost almost 20lbs while watching what I eat, not that I'm putting all the blame on him I am the one who is eating the food!) But the only problem is when he is trying to help, he says things like "no", "do you really want to eat that", and I'm stubborn (there I said it!) and I hate when people tell me no or that I can't do something! So we are working out a way to come up with something, but still haven't found it.

I'm sorry to hear your support system isn't there. Maybe buddy up with someone on here, and chat about how your food dairy is going! Since we all want the same thing here! good luck with your weight loss! And if you want to chat feel free to message me, since this is like a new facebook for me! hehe

JaXXster

I have the bar code scanner on Android (HTC).

Being single I don't have anyone rolling their eyes at me or telling me they've had enough but I'm boring my friends on Facebook!!! :-) Luckily 3 of the girls in my office joined with me so we can talk about it all day abd encourage each other.

suzykitty

Oh yeah, my husband and I were in a 5 day no speaking jag a week or so ago. He's totally annoyed with all my calorie counting, label reading and exercising! I think he's jealous of me spending time doing something for me!

autumn13

My family/friends were annoyed at first too.... That was 2 years ago. Screw them. Take care of yourself.

Second this!

Aeriel

I was excited too when I started and wanted to share my success. Now, after 11 months, I only share if asked, because I learned people don't really want to hear if they are not ready. You can't force it on them, so explain if asked, continue to a deeper explanation if they seem interested and share it all with the people on MFP.

jazzminx

I'm always apologizing to my husband when I go on a rant about exercise and my calories (which I do often) He just smiles and tells me he doesn't mind, even though we both know he doesn't care beyond wanting me to feel better about myself.

sbwood888

Wow. Too bad that he cannot see that you are just trying to get used to this new way of doing things and that you just need his support. If he will not give support, that is ok. That is what WE are for. Just voice your issues / concerns / hopes / successes / let downs, etc to us. Keep on keepin on!

kld4239

I am very fortunate that my husband is very supportive but every once in awhile I get a crack from him. Like a few weeks ago we ate Chinese and my fortune was "Be concerned not obsessed with your health" after reading it my husband said "Amen!" and he's not even religious

loveandprideforever

Yep! I agree with what someone else said up at the top, STAY POSITIVE. Don't focus on the negative, with your family or with yourself. Having good experiences and sharing them will be beneficial with your family as well as hopefully, allowing them to jump on the bandwagon too because they see how great it can be.
I, too, have this "annoyance" problem with my family. They are always frustrated because they have to sit out some food without salt, pepper, bacon, etc, or when they order out, I'm very specific (dressing on the side, no sauce, extra greens and tomatoes, add...whatever, etc.). They are getting used to the fact that I just won't feed my body junk and expect it to perform and there are even times where they will joke and say, "You'd be so dissapointed, I had three brownies today." or "You'd be so proud, I skipped the seconds on the greasy lasagna today."
Just know that it will get easier and any time someone is varying outside what is expected of them, there are going to be people trying to pull them back in.... Stay Strong and (like someone else said), just come on here and tell US about it because Trust Me, We are all doing it too!

daniellefsc

It's frustrating when you are surrounded by people who are not supportive. We'll cheer you on! I've only been on this site for 4 days and have already lost 1.5 lbs. Keep up the good work!

Drlnmc

My daughter was annoyed when I first started. However, she has seen me drop the weight and she sees how much energy I have. She told me, "Mom, you look great. You've made me a believer." Now she's considering joining me.

It is easy to obsess over something you are passionate about. However, simply come online to the site and find other people (like us) who are just as passionate as you. We will always provide support and a positive attitude. :happy:


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FaithandFitness

Maybe it is just me, but I try to keep as much of it to myself as possible, I love MFP because I know here I can get support. I will get occasional compliments from hubby or from friends, but I don't rely on it. They don't know how much of a struggle this is for me. I make the food in this house for meals, so if I am preparing something that I don't want to have to be embarrassed about logging, I just fix myself a salad with spinach and tuna or something like that. The kids know sometimes I eat something different because I don't have "enough calories' left for that day.

I do, on occasion, have to take my kids to the daycare at the gym or get up early/stay up late to fit in my workouts, but that is about it. If hubby asks what I did at the gym, I tell him. Otherwise I keep my victories to myself. No one is more proud of them than I am.

I do have a supportive hubby, and my kids are great. No one is trying to sabotage me (unless you count hubby bringing chick fil a to bed when he gets home late from all our activities) so I am lucky in that way. I know I get all the support I need here so I try not to drive my hubby and family crazy.

butterfly_lvr

I too have a very supportive husband; in fact it is really because of a recent health scare of his that got us both to make changes in a hurry. I think this time around will be easier for me as he is doing it all with me. We made the food changes, we cleaned out the pantry together, he reads labels more, understands why it may take me a bit longer in the grocery store, he works out with me and is keeping me motivated and from getting discouraged because I don't see the numbers dropping. Even when it was just me doing it last year, he was supportive; he made up log sheets for me so I could log everything I was eating and it helped but my big downfall had always been exercise - or shall I say - lack of it. Well I now have 3 different DVD's to work out with and my dad gave us the money to buy an elliptical; plus I have a set of 3 pound hand weights for me, 5 pound for hubby, resistance tube and body ball so we have enough things to use - it is just a matter of DOING IT.

suzooz

I'm single with no kids, so I only talk to my dog about this. She sometimes looks annoyed! LOL

MFP is a great place to come for people to listen to your successes and the tough days. Hit the boards -- we'll listen!

And I'll bet that your husband can't wait to see the new you!

Pamc64

Yes, i know what you mean.....I've been on this site for a week (lost 4 lbs this week !!! ) , and I love it. But, I too, have started receiving that "OMG, here she goes again" look when I start talking about it to my husband. But, you know what ? He reaps the benefits of a happier/healthier me, also. SO, he can just listen and be supportive. Last night we talked about going to Dairy Queen for icecream after running a few errands. At first I said yes, then after thinking about it a while, I changed my mind and told him I didn't want to go after all. He seemed kind of disappointed, but complied. I felt a little guilty, but not so much that I would jeopardize my progress because of it. I worked too hard this week for those 4 pounds ! Hang in there. If your spouse isn't enthusiastic and supportive, then find someone who is. I like this message board too. It's nice to read that others are having the same experiences, and to learn how they're dealing with it. Good luck to you.

JennS19

What kind of barcode scanner do you have? Does it tell you the calories and such for your food?