NSV ...weird comments about your weightloss ...embarrasing

cng1117

Too many people these days ignore the concepts of politeness, compassion & courtesy under the guise of Freedom of Speech.

So true, or my favourite: "I'm just being honest." No, you're using honesty as an excuse to be rude. I haven't had anyone say anything negative as of late but I do remember overhearing my mother discussing my weight with my grandmother, she was concerned there was something wrong medically. My grandmother, without missing a beat, replied "There's nothing wrong with her that sewing her mouth shut for a few weeks won't cure." I was 14, and as much as i love my grandmother, i'll never forget that.

purplespeckle

I would've said " I know I was FAT but I see that your the same *kitten*!"

haha! love it! GOOD ONE!

zoombie_bear

never mind him, so unsensitive, you are one hot mamaééé

PS: love the Me was FAT but you are the same *kitten*! lol

tryinghard2012

Some times men are just brutally honest. Congrats on your weight loss!!!

sylvia1970

I remember when i was single and only 9st and this friend of a friend (bloke) was talking to me and he was eyeing me up and down and said that i could do with losing a some off my hips LOL i was really slim with boobies and lovely shaped hips whereas all my friends were like beanpoles.

So i looked at him and said 'well at least i can do something about that like more exercise whereas for your big nose, you're stuck with it matey' and walked off PMSL.

Can't believe the gall in some people.

smileylittleorange

just want to say people please don't let idiotic comments get under your skin:-) a few years ago i'd lost 3 stone i was over the moon i bought myself a nice outfit for a family bbq . My sister came up to me and told me what she thought in her head 'the ***** she looks so good' i know she didnt mean it how it sounded but I was so sensitive about comments in the end I just stopped trying to be the person I wanted to be, the fit and healthy one with a zest for life. I felt I was not good enough .. I even did not bother ordering my own official wedding photos for a year as I felt I looked horrid. Actually I looked great but I became hyper critical of my body as suddenly comments seemed to focus on me. I had spent years being in the background of a big family ! Everytime I put on a couple of pounds I would get so upset I would eat more. In the end I ended up putting all that weight back on! And then some! Now i'm doing this for me and nothing is gonna stop me now! But i have wasted the last 3 years being overweight and miserable as I let stupid comments get to me x

kentlass

people are so insensitive!

about 2months back i was in the shopping centre with my sister, my husband and my kids, a lady came walking up to my sister, who she knows from my old gym
my sister turns and introduces me:

"this is my sister, she used to be biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig(holding her arms as wide as she could!)

i felt so offended...especially as my sister weighs about 70lbs more than i did even at my biggest!

charityateet

Sorry about the *kitten* hole.

I was shopping at a sporting good store w/my husband a few years ago at my heaviest weight (lost 50lbs after that, gained 30 back now I'm at it again) and the owner (small town store) came and asked what he could help with. We explained that we were going rafting and needed whatever it was....he looked shocked and said that I shouldn't be out in the sun for that long especially on the river. I looked puzzled I'm sure, he said - "well, in your condition" I said what condition - he said, "being pregnant and all" I told him I was NOT pregnant. He said "oh, you sure look like it" I said - well, I"m not. He said again "well you look....um, like it".

I was so hurt, it was aIl I could do to not bust out crying - we left the store and my husband was really sympathetic - but nothing can really help a blow like that.

NattyBo

Just having women other than my SO flirt or hit on me strikes me as very weird! And still not used to it, to be honest.

Shows you how shallow people can be in some ways though - I feel like I was always a great person on the inside that not a lot of people would get to know because I was so overweight.

zydratethief

Just having women other than my SO flirt or hit on me strikes me as very weird! And still not used to it, to be honest.

Shows you how shallow people can be in some ways though - I feel like I was always a great person on the inside that not a lot of people would get to know because I was so overweight.

HAH! Having people flirt with me is new to me as well...

I was completely oblivious to it untill she squeezed my rear and my friend explained to me she was showing an interest

kristarablue

OMG, I just posted something on my wall yesterday about this (so my MFP friends have already seen this)....Here is the story:

I was at work yesterday and a woman came up to me and said "Oh my gosh, you have lost weight, look at you, you are actually pretty" I said to her "I wasn't before" just to be cantankerous and she said again "no, really your face it is slimed out, you are actually pretty" Really??? I tried to let her dig herself out, but there was no digging, none, not even a little bit.

I know she did not mean to offend, and she does have a good heart, but what an awful thing to say....and I was mortified as it was in front of others.

Another time, one of my best friends took my license and said, "oh my gosh, isn't this the fattest face you have ever seen" Wow, you look different....

Moral to the story... I must have lost a lot of weight in the face.

zydratethief

I was at work yesterday and a woman came up to me and said "Oh my gosh, you have lost weight, look at you, you are actually pretty" I said to her "I wasn't before" just to be cantankerous and she said again "no, really your face it is slimed out, you are actually pretty" Really??? I tried to let her dig herself out, but there was no digging, none, not even a little bit.

Another time, one of my best friends took my license and said, "oh my gosh, isn't this the fattest face you have ever seen" Wow, you look different....

Moral to the story... I must have lost a lot of weight in the face.

You should have said to both of em "Well its a good thing you've got a bit of personality, otherwise you'd be extremely boring..." works like a charm...

dexter62

yea it happened to me the other day, the district manager of the company i work for came by, ( he only comes by every three months or so ) asked me if i had cancer or aids or something since i had lost some weight, i just chaulk it up to crude people.

Sden1231

I've said , "it's been awhile since I've seen you, it looks like you need to go for a run." he said, "yea ive gained some weight" then I said," some...more like a ton".....but I said it to my loser ex boyfriend who cheated on me with two of my good friends...so I felt he deserved it. Lol

kristarablue

I was at work yesterday and a woman came up to me and said "Oh my gosh, you have lost weight, look at you, you are actually pretty" I said to her "I wasn't before" just to be cantankerous and she said again "no, really your face it is slimed out, you are actually pretty" Really??? I tried to let her dig herself out, but there was no digging, none, not even a little bit.

Another time, one of my best friends took my license and said, "oh my gosh, isn't this the fattest face you have ever seen" Wow, you look different....

Moral to the story... I must have lost a lot of weight in the face.

You should have said to both of em "Well its a good thing you've got a bit of personality, otherwise you'd be extremely boring..." works like a charm...
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keepitoff99

Just laugh it off. We may have had weight to lose, but those people are idiots and there is no diet to fix that. LOL

:laugh:

dzilobommo

Very entertaining thread! It's so true that negative comments, especially if they come from people you care about, seem to stick in your mind forever...A few years ago, I lost about 13-14 lb in a short space of time and reached what I now consider my 'perfect' weight or thereabouts. I was excited about visiting a good friend and going shopping for size 8 rather than size 10 jeans (UK size!)...and I'll never forget how, when I turned up, she greeted me thus in front of her family: "Hurray! You've actually got a waist!" :embarassed:

I know she meant it in a positive and encouraging way, but my first thought was, "So...all these years you've been saying I had a nice figure and didn't need to lose weight, and you were happily swapping clothes with me (we were similar sizes although different body types)...but in fact, all this time you thought I was a bit chubby???" Jeans shopping wasn't quite so much fun after that...even though she clearly meant well... :laugh: But as someone pointed out earlier - no-one likes to hear themselves being criticised, whether it is their current self or their former self!

At the end of the day though - when you get these kind of comments, you just have to remember: the commenters are either jealous, or they have simply put their foot in it because they haven't thought about how your comment would make you feel...Either way, it reflects on THEM and not on YOU! :devil:

dzilobommo

That should be 'their comment' in the last line

Becky1971

I know they sometimes think it's okay to talk about it like that just cause you no longer are overweight, but still, they need to have some tact.

My family all live in Reno while I'm in Oregon. I hadn't seen my brother or mom in a few years. My husband and kids went to visit, and when we got their we met up with my mom and dad and my brother and his wife at the buffet in Silver Legacy. Well, my brother had lost 80 pounds and I had lost 40. he's much taller than me, so we both had changed quite similarly. He was there first, and didn't recognize me walking up. It was so funny to catch the look on his face when he realized it was me. We were both shocked seeing each other. But it was so funny cause we would get up and take our strolls through the buffett, (both eating quite healthy for being at the buffet) but we would end up walking next to each other heading back to the table, as if we were strangers, then all of a sudden realize it was us, and we would just get that look, shaking our heads and going whoa! it was just so hard to believe lol. Had us laughing our whole visit down there.