? Friend going to far to lose weight...

AbiNichole

Yeah we're all on a healthy path now, but that's because we all learned there is no magic quick fix... many of us learned that the hard way. We've all prob done fads just like the ones she's researched it's only by process of elimination that we get the real answer it's just hard work.

I would tell her to try "your way" for 2 weeks first. Get her to log her calories and set her a reasonable calorie deficit just like MFP teaches. Give her an idea of a healthy balance of carbs, fat and protein. And tell her if you promise to stick to "my way" for 2 weeks and do everything as I say, you'll see results. If she does indeed stick to your plan w/ you guiding her she'll see results and will likely stick with it.

Even if she doesn't come to the conclusion right away that those diets suck, she'll figure it out eventually. Just try to approach her with an attitude "I'm doing it with you and I want you to understand some myths that I learned by trial and error" She'll come around. :flowerforyou:

Elzecat

I think many of us have been the ones looking for the "quick fix". I know I have been there...but now I am focusing on healthy and happy...I had someone I had not seen for several months recently ask me what I did to drop my weight (a total of about 12 pounds in the past 5 weeks)...I think she thought I was on some crazy diet...I was like, no--basically I eat less and I move more. It's a little more scientific than that, and I have to be very thoughtful about what I am putting in my body and what I am doing WITH it for exercise...but that's basically it. It took me years to figure out what worked for me, and it may take your friend years...but I think you are being the most supportive you can be under the circumstances. I wish you the best and I hope your friend reconsiders her "plan".

krystleRD

I agree with everyone..... Being over weight we are all in denial, we want it quick n easy.... Im 388 and for the past month I have sweated,walked,ran and danced by big butt off. Your friend needs to realize that quick 30 in 2 months can easily make her gain double of what she lost.. May she find luck in whatever she does but, stubborness will get her no where...

cowlover22

Well I have just about died ended up with a colostomy, have no large intestine, am in renal failure and still have trouble..yes I have anorexia but sounds like your friend is on her way. Unfortunatley at different times in my life I would do ANYTHING to lose weight...for what I dont really know..hasnt gotten me anywhere but in the hospital and miserable. I hope your friend is ok. If I dont stop what i am doing it will kill me..that is why I am trying so hard this time

bbb84

You can't help those who refuse to help themselves. If this was an easy process then everyone would be healthy. I have had to learn the hard way and crash and burn a few times to start down the path of doing things the right way. I have finally come to terms with the fact that "living" this way and being conscious of what I'm eating and exercising regularly is something I will have to do for the rest of my life. There is no quick fix and I know this but I do have my moments where I look at the success of those who have done the b12 shots with the crack in the bottle pills who only eat 800 -1000 calories a day and am jealous of how quickly the weight just seems to fall off, and all without exercise or proper diet. But then I snap back into reality and look at the number of people who stop the program and gain it all back and then some and wasted not only time but lots of money ($250 down, $75 a week or more) and laugh. The program I follow is free, it's called portion control and choices and although I do have a gym membership exericse can be found free as well. I don't need weekly meetings to make art's and crafts and talk about my feeling (not to offend anyone on WW just saying it wasn't for me), I've got amazing MFP peeps who are not only supportive but full of knowledge and experience and do not hesitate to call me out when I've been slacking. You can't put a price on that, not ever!