running...afraid i'm going to look stupid

calliope_music

so i've always wanted to be a runner, but i'm afraid i'm too heavy to run. i'm mostly afraid i'm going to look completely stupid and idiotic when i run. i'd prefer to run outside, but right now the weather is fickle and i spent most of my time in the gym. i have the couch to 5k program on my iPhone and i'd love to start using it, but i'm afraid that there will just be too much of me moving in ways that i shouldn't (i'm 5'9" and around 298).

advice? how did you get over this fear? i should also mention that i am totally okay with using the elliptical, bike, etc at the gym and i'm fine with walking on the treadmill.

tryinghard2012

((cyber hug)), I felt like you when I started my journey standing 6 feet at 346 pounds, but didn't let that stop me from hopping on the treadmill, elliptical and ARC Trainer sweating and pumping!!! Now at 262 (and counting my fat away), I can't allow me to be my own worst critic. I have to stay focus and realize that everyone has insecurities even those we deem as "perfect."

I say just pop on some music you like, and take your focus off of your body and more on the results you want. You can do it!!!

DanNoonan

The only way you'd look stupid was if you didn't do what you needed/wanted to do to be healthy. Trust me, the whole world isn't going to stop to watch you run - it's all in your head

sarah44254

I know I look stupid. But it feels so good to be running, it feels so great to be home and finished and accomplished, it burns a ton of calories and I can eat my favorite (healthy!) high calorie foods that day.

This is something I need to do soon, go to a running shoe store, or a fitness store, anything specifically for athletes. They can fit you in a pair of running shoes, and watch you run. They can tell you whether or not you are running correctly, and also give you a specific shoe for your type (flat foot, weight on the outside of foot, weight on the heel and such)

that way, when you go run on your own, you can remember their tips and have good shoes and really do well

As for your body moving in ways it shouldn't? It will do that for a few weeks. Then it will shrink. And shrink. And shrink. :happy: Running is one of the best cardio exercises you can ever do, I SAY GO FOR IT !

gidjet11

I think that anyone that is running is really smart! Working out in any way is great for you physically and mentally! I think that if you start out by walking outside and slowly start doing some running when you can you won't care what other people think soon. Maybe you could think about all the other people you are inspiring to get out of their houses to do a little running themselves!

SuperStorm

You know, I worry about that too but I finally got comfortable with it when I looked at it this way
Yes I am overweight and when I attempt to run I have horrible form and there's a whole lot of jiggling going on but I am doing this to be healthy so if you want make fun of me go ahead because one day I'll be skinny with perfect form and just as beautiful on the outside as I feel on the inside and you'll still be making fun of others to make yourself feel better because you're an ugly person on the inside and that's never going to change.
If they have a problem with you running, it is just that, THEIR problem.
You run your heart out girl!!
Hope that helps

NatashaAlexandra

so i've always wanted to be a runner, but i'm afraid i'm too heavy to run. i'm mostly afraid i'm going to look completely stupid and idiotic when i run. i'd prefer to run outside, but right now the weather is fickle and i spent most of my time in the gym. i have the couch to 5k program on my iPhone and i'd love to start using it, but i'm afraid that there will just be too much of me moving in ways that i shouldn't (i'm 5'9" and around 298).

advice? how did you get over this fear? i should also mention that i am totally okay with using the elliptical, bike, etc at the gym and i'm fine with walking on the treadmill.

To be perfectly honest, if you are confident enough to go to the gym and exercise there, then I don't see how running in public can be so hard for you! What I'd do is, try and run at a time of the day when not many people will be about, eg in the morning or at night, BUT if you can't fit that around your schedule, try find somewhere quite private, but not completely far away from houses etc to run! If you live in a big city, or a place with not many tracks, try and map your way around the nicest streets, or maybe even if you live in an estate, go and run in another estate - so you don't feel unconfident if you see someone you actually know!

I too am afraid of looking silly, even though I am a healthy weight, but that is because when I tend to exercise my face goes extremely red - and I look as if I'm on fire haha! I managed to overcome this by finding a quiet place and going running at about 9 in the morning!

Once you start running - believe me you will gain confidence. And you will probably have more fun than if you were just in the gym all day.

What I'd do is, sign yourself up for a charity run thats happening in about 3-4 months time (eg race for life, moonwalk, there are millions out there!) - and work up to it. It will give you motivation to reach your goal and will give you something to look forward to!

donnawilding

Don't worry about what you look like!! You are on the right track to doing what you want! All of those people out there are strangers that don't know you and who cares what they think?! I would be careful with stress on your joints and shin splints, etc. until you have lost a little weight, which will happen because you are doing all of the right things! Keep on running, working out, eating right, and you will be running that 5k before you know it!

Elzecat

I can completely relate to this...I started out doing a variation of Couch25K on the treadmill at my apt. complex fitness center because it wasn't used very much After about 2 weeks, I moved it into the gym I actually pay money for and no one has ever said anything about how goofy I look...I'm very self conscious, I run really slow and sweat like crazy...but I'm doing it and that is what's important to me. Generally the other runners nod, smile, we all put our headphones in and no one comments on anyone else I think you will find that people will be supportive. The trainers and employees at the gym always say hey and ask how I'm coming along--I've gone from jogging 15 second intervals to jogging 4 minute intervals in the past month--

I think you should try it...especially if you are already doing the other types of machines/exercises at the gym. You just keep focus on your goals and know that you are doing something healthy for your body...if someone else doesn't like it, screw em

Feel free to friend me--I would love to talk to some other people who are beginning runners...

sibelarditi

Hey, I've been a runner for almost 6 years now. 2 half-marathons and many 5 and 10k's later, I still think its the best hobby ever. Not only is it a mental break from life, it also is a great way to stay in shape. My mom is a crazy athlete (she's ran many ironman's) and she got me started on running when I was a bit heavier. The easiest thing to do is to just start out running in intervals, 1 minute jogging, 2 minutes walking, etc. And before you know it, you'll be running an hour straight! I know it seems impossible, but if you stick to a set schedule and really dedicate yourself to it, I know you can do it. As for what others think, who cares. This is something you're doing for your own health and well being, and everyone else, especially people at a gym, will know that. Just wear something you're comfortable in, and always have your goal in mind. Have you signed up for a 5k yet? Hope I've helped at least a bit! Let me know how everything goes

taso42_DELETED

Oh gosh. You won't look stupid. You will look like someone who is taking control of their fitness. If I saw you out there I would be cheering you on!

I understand the anxiety though. I felt it too when I did the couch to 5k way back. I thought, "everybody's going to laugh at the fat boy running". But the desire to to do it was bigger than the fear (which is an irrational fear by the way). Just know that the feeling is pretty normal. Try to ignore it and get out there. You'll be SO glad you did

Elzecat

I would be careful with stress on your joints and shin splints, etc. until you have lost a little weight, which will happen because you are doing all of the right things!


If you're not already stretching after workouts, if you decide to start a running program make sure you stretch really well after running/jogging. Especially stretches for the shins. I learned that the hard way after the first two days I tried running. You can find some good ones (with pictures, no less) online

bbygrl5

I so completely understand where you're coming from. I started out over 90 lbs heavier than now and actually cried the first time I ran because I was embarrassed of how I looked running, but I didn't let it stop me and I'm sure glad I didn't because I would have never known I was capable of loving running and it changed my life.

mangorabbit

...also, if you have been doing some walking or running in one pair of shoes and would rather the running store people not 'watch you run' (I can be REALLY self conscious) - take in your old shoes, a lot of times they can get an idea of how your feet hit the ground based on the wear patterns of the shoes.

And if it helps? The only people who are going to think you look stupid are the ones who aren't interested in their fitness. Pretty much any time I see someone running I think 'Way to go!' No matter the speed, the clothing, or the size of the person, I applaud their choice.

And if you like: Silly/embarrassing moments?

Running in the winter I totally surfed around a corner (icy sidewalk!) and ended up on my butt. Right next to a bus stop of waiting people. Yeah, smooth.

Also from winter running - it gets cold in MI, so I run with socks on my hands - had been going in the mornings to save most people the sight of my 'hobo fitness attire' as I refer to it. ...however the police car that passed me, then I think went around the block and passed me again? I don't know what they thought I was up to.

So take a deep breath and rock on! (I highly recommend running outside when you can, I find it much more interesting than the gym, and you can't downgrade the hills!) ^_^

slimyfishy

YOU CAN DO IT!! I've been addicted for a long time, and I'm not a small runner. Who cares? I've had people look at me, honk, wave, scream gibberish, etc. while I'm running. Many folks may look at you, but how many are thinking: "Wow! She's doing it. Maybe I should get out and exercise too?"

When I started out jogging, I was completely out of shape. I started walking, then speed walking, then jogging, and then I did a 5K. I've got marathons under my belt now. I'm not tiny as I usually do a marathon around 165lbs. Sure, I'd like to be the tiny little lady racking up the miles, but I'm not. My heart is in it and I set on getting healthy.

You are doing the exact same thing. The thing is to MOVE. Whether you are walking, jogging, skipping, biking, roller blading, etc. You aren't being sedentary. You are putting your health first. I say.....RUN STRONG, girlfriend! YOU CAN DO IT! :drinker:

tryinghard2012

BTW you inspired me to start C25k, I just downloaded the app on my Android. I will start tomorrow! In addition to my regular work out. :flowerforyou:

emariec78

I used to feel the same way. I'll admit the only reason I ever got on a treadmill was one very busy night at the gym when it was the only equipment available, but doing it just that once made me realize that it was fine. When I took a moment and looked around there were plenty of people of all different shapes and sizes running, I realized I needed to stop being self-councious and focus on what I was there for-the exercise! Sometimes all it takes is facing it that one time.

LorinaLynn

Personally, I'm more impressed by someone who's obviously stepped out of their comfort zone and working their tushie off on the treadmill than someone athletic cruising along making it look easy. It takes heart, guts, drive and determination. Be proud and run!!!

kristarablue

So here is the deal....I totally feel ya...been there done that. I began the C5K program in Aug....(but it was not designed for someone with my lack of fitness at the time). I began running in a wooded area by my house so that no one could see me, when I would get to an opening, I would stop running for fear of looking like an idiot. Because you know, who was I at just over 300 pounds (at the time) to even pretend to run. I felt like I was a menace to society because I was exposing so many to such a ridiculous looking spectacle. Through continued running and once again staying in the wooded area I gained confidence. Then it got cold and me being the baby that I am, I had to go to the gym and run in front of lots of people, this was one of the most difficult things I have had to do yet.

But here is what I realized, no one is making fun of you or looking at you like you are a crazy lady. If anything they are cheering you on that you are taking control of your life. If you see an obese person trying to exercise, what do you think? I think...Rock on!!! Good for them and I am so proud of them for making a change. I can guarantee people are thinking the same of you, they are probably secretly cheering you on, I know we are cheering you on for making a change.

I like the elliptical as well, but I will tell you, nothing makes me feel stronger or more confident than running. I have been riddled with injuries from running, but I still love it or at least I love the way it makes me feel. Nothing gives me more of a work out or sheds weight like running has for me. I strongly suggest sticking with it....People are proud of what you are doing...the only person that thinks you look stupid is yourself and that my friend is the hardest obstacle to overcome, I still battle with it daily.

Good luck and stay strong!

rharris86dc

I had the same fear as you. I'm 5'5 and started out at 212. Right now I'm at 192, and I still feel like I'm too heavy to be running (I still jiggle, ugh!). Also, I was afraid that people would judge me for not running very long, since I'm doing C25k on the treadmill at the gym.

But I started it, and am on week 3. I'm finding that the more I do it, the less stupid I feel, and people are generally into their own thing anyway, so they generally pay no mind to what others are doing.

So don't worry about looking stupid. I think everyone kind of looks silly when they work out, anyway! Just do what you have to do, and eventually you'll look like a natural!

proverbs31chick

OMG, I was having this fear a few weeks ago. I use the treadmill but wanted to amp my workout by starting to jog at first I was like ok these people are going to be looking at me like why did she jog for like 2 minutes then walk again, but then I just did it, I walk fast then jog for like 2 minutes and repeat like twice. I didn't care who was watching me, and plus my brother who works out with me said no one is really paying attention to you, its all in our heads.Just do it, this is about you changing and even though we might feel uncomfortable its ok. Man when I see people bigger than me at the gym joggin I am IMPRESSED. I am 221 lbs 5'3 , do it girl its soooooooo worth it.

california_peach

I used to feel the same way. I would only run on a treadmill at home, but I really wanted to run outside. Finally I just did it. I never did the C25k, but I ended up basically doing that on my own by alternating running and walking until I could cover the entire distance. Once you get out there and get going you are going to stop worrying about everyone else, because you are going to feel so damn good. It is going to feel good to be moving and then is going to feel good to see the results on the scale and in your clothing. I have been running regularly since the end of Aug '10 and I have gone from a size 20 jeans to a size 14!

Also, you will be mostly encoutering other people who are running or walking or biking. The runners will support you and not look down on you because that is how most runners seem to be. The walkers will be thinking....I should starting running. The bikers, well they will just zip by and honestly I have no idea what they might be thinking. LOL.

Good luck to you!

elliecolorado

I used to be afraid of that too, but then I decided not to care. I decided not to stop myself from doing something that was good for me just because of what other people might think.

donicagalek

When you can (if you haven't already) get some spandex-type clothing for under whatever you wear to the gym and a *good* sports bra. It's one thing to tire out from running, but when the pain from the jiggly spots stops you if feels so disheartening. :-/

cenafan

I went for my first jog/walk session last night. I have been walking my hour for the last 5 weeks and found it wasn't hard enough anymore. I would jog for as long as I could...then walk fast to recover my breathing and heart rate and then repeat. I would up jogging 18 minutes and walking 42. I think not too bad for the first try. Of course I am concerned about what people are going to think. All I could feel was my butt jiggling. But all the other joggers/runners smile and wave...so it kinda went out of my head really fast. As for people driving by...they can think whatever they want. I am doing something to better myself...so I'm putting aside any concerns of what people think. You can do it!!!

lesliekae

Don't worry about what you look like!! You are on the right track to doing what you want! All of those people out there are strangers that don't know you and who cares what they think?! I would be careful with stress on your joints and shin splints, etc. until you have lost a little weight, which will happen because you are doing all of the right things! Keep on running, working out, eating right, and you will be running that 5k before you know it!

I couldn't have said it better. You can't ignore the fact that you are making an effort to regain control. Any decient person would respect that and who cares about all the other a**holes that would rather critic and pass judgement. I read another post that said put on some music and distract your mind. That is also excellent advice.

LG61820

Gee whiz, I thought I was the only one who thought I looked stupid.. . looks like almost everyone does. Since I don't see a lot of other people that I think look stupid doing it it must be nothing but negativity trying to stop me. I like to think "I'm running off my belly" or "I'm running back the clock" when I have those thoughts while out.

Do some warmups before you start to get the hips, knees, ankles and feet warmed up. Start walking before running to make sure the joints are ready. Be sure to do cool down stretching after. Wish I had started out this way instead of letting injuries force me to learn it!

Also, don't wait until you're injured or have sore joints before you break down and have yourself fitted for the proper shoes. It makes a world of difference. Wish I had done it earlier.

Wishing you much success!

kelsully

See if you can find the Friends episode where Pheobe runs with Rachel and runs like she did when she was a little kid....Rachel was emabarassed to be with her silly run until she just let loose and ran like a little kid too and it was so freeing. You only look as silly as you think you look and it only matters what you look like running if you assume people are watching you and judging.Don't assume people are making judgements and don't put thoughts in thier minds and just enjoy the run...it is wonderful!!!

manymuses

I used to feel the same way. I ended up basically doing that on my own by alternating running and walking until I could cover the entire distance.

That's me too, hun. I used to care what people thought about how awkward I must look, but frankly I am doing this for me and I really just don't even care what anyone else thinks now. I am getting healthy and strong. I do intervals of walking and running and I find that it really gets my heart rate elevated and keeps it up there for my entire workout.

You can do it. Just DO the thing. xx

loro1971

Training Tips for Marathon Wannabes
Ken Earley, a 12-time marathoner and an RRCA-certified running coach as well as a member of Weight Watchers, offers these tips:

Start slow. Then go slower.
Go to a real running store and get fitted for good shoes. This expense will pay for itself in better health and fewer co-pays. The staff can tell you if you over-pronate, supinate, etc.
Start with the Couch to 5K plan, walking and incorporating running.
Never increase your distance more than 10 percent at a time.
Up distance first, then speed.
As your running progresses (and your distance), look for training plans for 10Ks, ten-milers, and half-marathons. Two popular online programs for beginner runners are Jeff Galloway’s Run/Walk Programs and this one from Cool Running.
Check out your local running club for marathon training programs. Charity groups have training programs as well. “There are people running marathons at every pace, and runners come in all shapes and sizes, so don’t be shy. Twenty miles is a long way to run alone, so running with a group is a very fun, social, and safe way to train.”

gailosborne

The only way you'd look stupid was if you didn't do what you needed/wanted to do to be healthy. Trust me, the whole world isn't going to stop to watch you run - it's all in your head

This is absolutely true! If you wanted to you could look at clips on youtube of correct running form etc, but basically do it! When I started to become a decent runner, people at my gym took the time to say they could see a bit improvement! :flowerforyou: