Relationship frustration

ali106

good luck hon!!! I think being around mutual friends will ease the tension...just be true to what you want and who you are....it will all work out for the best either way kiddo! rooting for you!:flowerforyou:

hugs!
Ali

ShellyBee

It sounds like you have given this a lot of thought and I think you are making the right decision. If she respected you then she would be wanting to help you out and please you. You sound like a very respectful guy who is employed, living on his own, leading a healthy life, I would say see ya later hunny. I think you will be just fine without her. Keep searching you will find love and respect sooner or later probably when you least expect it.
Isn't this site kinda great all the love and support out there!
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Good luck bud xoxoxo

amymeenieminymo

Good luck with your talk! I do beleive people can change, but they have to want to. So hopefully she is willing to listen and hear your side and agree to change.

My boyfriend and I both do things that get on each others last nerve....He goes nuts when I leave hair in the drain (on accident) and don't keep up with the litter box, and I hate when he leaves his dirty clothes all over the living room floor and forgets to flush the toilet. We all have faults and to some degree you have to accept the other persons faults just as he accepts mine...but your situation sounded totally one sided and it sounds best that you two either go your seprate ways, or you come up with a compromise that you both agree to.

I take it she was kind of just staying with you, in your apartment? It sounds like she only worked part-time and maybe didn't have the funds to split everything 50/50, but since she does have some funds she should be contributing whatever percentage her salary allows. At the very least she should have household responsibilities....making messes and not cleaning up after yourself is just plain rude, let alone when it is in someones house that you are in a relationship with.

When I first met my boyfriend he ended up basically living with me in my apartment for a few months. Him officially moving in wasn't an option since it was too small for the both of us long term, and my landlord wouldn't allow double occupansy. So since it was MY apartment and he wasn't reaping full benefits of really living there, I didn't feel that he should really be splitting all the expenses, so I paid for the majority of things. He was also quite messy and we couldn't seem to get past the "this is my place" thing and he didn't feel he needed to clean MY house or do MY dishes.

This arrangement wasn't possible long term so we planned to move to a new apartment that would be OURS together just as soon as we could and things have defintely improved. We worked out ahead of time who would pay for what, and who would do what chores. Sure we have the occasional gripe about leaving dirty dishes around or not taking the garbage out soon enough, but since it is HIS apartment too, he feels more responsibilty toward picking up after himself. If you guys are able to work things out, I suggest you lay out some ground rules of what you expect such as what, if anything she will pay for, and what chores she needs to be responsible for. I think if you kept on going how you were, you would eventually grow to be very resentful of her (which it sounds like you already had a little) and things would blow up sooner or later. Good luck!

areason4stars

I hope your meeting goes well. Sometimes two people can be attracted to eachother and even like eachother, but are not compatable living together. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Doesn't make it any easier :brokenheart:

Ditto!

Hugs!!

I hope you can come to peace with whatever happens!

hmmm racking my brain for a appropriate quote lol

jlwhelan1

Good luck in this hard time. I hope your talk goes well.

neha

Good Luck!