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R_is_for_Rachel

if you feel you can't eat more -maybe you need to change what you are eating so foods with higher carbs and protein rather than just fruit and veg?

but seriously, you really need to stop punishing yourself. Your father sounds like a git and you need to realise that his opinion is bs and that unfortunatley just because these people are our parents-doesn't mean what they say or do is gospel.

You are beautiful, and you need to see that.

Janworkingitout

I don't even know what to say to this. I enjoy giving and recieving encouragement from my friends here at MFP, but you're attitude after only 3 weeks is not quite right. First, most of us are on a lifestyle journey, not a quick fix, secondly three weeks is not enough time for even a quickie diet to work. There is nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight just for vanity, that's a valid reason, however, don't expect a lot of empathy from people who are having to lose weight in order to save their lives!

I'm sorry but you need to work on your mind as well as your body. Stop letting other people define who you are, it's really not about a flat stomach, it's about inner strength. You have a daughter who will look to you as her example, begin to focus on loving yourself so she will model your behavior. I wish you the best of luck with your efforts.

NowGoWorkout

Ready for some much needed straight conversation? Stop your whining. You weigh a buck o' five drenched. I don't care how skinny you are, you will never be attractive with that attitude. If you see your time working out as not 'your time', then quit. Go eat pizza, and ice cream, and other "good food".

If that's how you define good food, and your time, you need more than a new diet plan. I'm sorry to break you the bad news, but life isn't easy, staying fit isn't easy, but it is just that - life. Remember, life is managed, not solved. If you don't enjoy the daily grind...grind something else. Now go workout.

P.S. By the way, to my 'old friends', you'll know me by my writing style...add me, this is a new screen name, unrelated to my previous...I couldn't keep up with so many messages and requests for advice. I'm gonna limit it a bit this time around!

McKayMachina

People are telling you "you NEED to eat at least 1200 calories!!!"

Well, eff that. *** No, you don't. ***

The AVERAGE PERSON needs to net at least 1200. But the general rule of thumb is 10 calories per goal pound. If you want to weigh 105, net 1050. (For example: I am netting 1200 til I reach 135 then bumping it up to 1350 to maintain.)

(People forget some of us are shorter or have different body types.) BUT! Every BODY is different. Listen to your body.

That said, try increasing for a bit, see how it works.

But I have to ask...why are you spazzing out over 4 lbs.? Sounds like there is much more going on here than your physical health. I hope you get everything under control because it is exhausting to let things make you so hysterical. Personal experience talkin' there. One thing I do know is that no amount of b*tching and whining will change your life. Though sometimes it's just necessary to purge.

P.S.: We're the same height and anywhere from 103-140 is in our healthy range. You're close to being underweight. Ease up a bit on yourself.

Good luck, honey.

nissafull

Very nicely said.... agree agree!