super fat , working out is hard.. what are good ways to star

Purple_Orchid_87

thats funny because sometimes when im walking with people or doing excersizing around others i will hold my breath becasue i dont want them to hear me panting

I wont walk and be on my mobile at the same time because i know i sound like a panting dog - again, self conscious
some people are not in the right place in themselves to be able to deal with losing weight, dealing with the ups as well as the downs, being too critical, and actually becoming obsessed with food - I see so many people who put themselves down time and time again, and I remember when I was like that, and then sitting in bed stuffing 6 bags of crisps into me for comfort - am only talking from my own experience, but I said year after year I would lose the weight, but would then put myself down and i never lost anything to write home about, now I'm in a much more positive frame of mind, with positive determination and motivation, and yes, i do still look in the mirror and see my lumps and bumps, of which i have LOADS, but I make myself pick out 3 things every morning that are positive about me, either physically or personality wise, and each thing has to be different for a week, so thats 21 different positive things a week - may sound big-headed and all but it really helps me - and if I have a bad time at work through the day, I just remember the 3 things from that morning

Purple_Orchid_87

If the bf likes to go for 2-3 hours...tell him you'll meet him at the treadmill for his last hour. Then go your own pace.

this is a great idea - you will be motivated enough to go because you are meeting him, and you wont be conscious about sweating etc because he will already be in that scenario by the time u get ther (providing he has done a proper work out hehe)

LeonaB17

When I was over 300 I started with walking and the elliptical machine. Granted when I was at my highest weight and I first started exercising again I could only handle about 15 - 20 minutes, but I gradually worked my way up. Now I walk several miles and jog some too. You just gotta take it one step at a time

KickassYas

im just super frustrated cause it makes me feel like **** that i cant do anything!!

I want you to know that you have every right to feel this way and know that you're not alone. The first time I did Tae Bo i survived 15 minutes and then threw up. my boyfriend of 185lbs at the time... finished the dvd and couldn't understand why i didn't. i was 296 lbs at the time.

i'm 308 now and this is me LOSING weight (almost 15lbs down). needless to say he and I aren't together anymore. but when we were, i sat him down and said simply "i love you but i'm not you. you can't expect me to do what you do. You want to help? be encouraging and not harsh. push me in a positive way. remind me why you are with me and let me do this for me."

he did and i lost almost 30 lbs with his support.

Soooo hit the treadmill. walk. walk at a pace that makes you just breathy enough to barely talk. he can run the treadmill next to you. he can support you in circuit. spot you on your sets and reps. work with a weight that when you reach the 10th rep, you feel the burn. if you don't feel the burn the weight is too light. move up a size. yoga. let him do yoga with you. if he complains tell him you hit the gym with him he could do yoga with you. its a compromise.

and finally... do this for you not him. you deserve to be happy comfortable and loving toward yourself and in your own skin.

by the way... get your hands on some Zumba Basic. its a 1 hour dvd that walks you through the steps. i still use it and burn like crazy doin it let him work zumba and try to keep up.

outersoul

First, you have to not only believe in yourself but you have to want it! You can do it. Being here is a great start. As others have said, go at your own pace and eventually you'll be going at it like a maniac.

dragonflies6

My husband used to be the same way and at times would even make fun of me (jokingly) about not being able to keep up. I finally had to tell him that I just cant walk as fast as he does and so I started using the elyptical....I love it (as much as you can love something that seems to want to kill you everytime you are on it). But it turns out, he can not do the elyptical so now when we go together we do different things and we both end up being there an hr and getting a great work out....I still however refuse to just go on a walk with him...Im 5'3" and he's 6'...he walks way faster than I can. You just have to figure out what works for you. I still struggle with getting motivated to even leave my house to exercise simply because I hate how I look but I know its to help me to become healthier and smaller, some days I suck it up and go, other days I crawl on the couch and kick myself later...its a working progress. Keep trying

lcoulter23

You can do anything you set your mind to girl! I am 325 pounds and I have only been on the elliptical 4 times, but I can stay on for 43 minutes, probably longer, but that's the longest I have been on it so far, and that's only because I had to get home so my hubby could go to his caseworker job at a local homeless shelter. Just start out slow, and if that means walking slowly or riding an exercise bike so be it!

xlacijeanx

SO, my boy friend wants me to go to the gym with him and im cool with that but, im like almost 300 and its really hard for me to keep up with him [170] , and he doesnt seem to get that i cannot do the same things as him.


its really embarrassing telling your bf of two years that your too out of shape to do pretty much anything at the gym without feeling like im about to throw up or pass out..


please someone suggest things that i can do at the gym without feeling like i am going to die ?

thanks

If your man doesn't understand you can't do it, tell him to go pick up 130lbs worth of weights and see if he can do his normal speed.. lol- Hey I know you don't want him knowing your weight (I didn't mention mine to my fiance until he asked where I started), but you weigh significantly more than he does, so he can't expect that you'd be able to do what he does, but remember to start slow- like what everyone else has said, treadmill, elliptical or swimming. I started at 345lbs, and all I could do was walk my neighborhood for a half hour each night- now I go hiking and do Biggest Loser workout videos- and I'm currently right under 300 Do what you can and just push yourself a few more minutes or speed it up every once in awhile and soon enough you'll be able to keep up with your man, but good luck- they like to show off!! lol

Pebble321

You know, you've already taken the first step by deciding to do something active. So, congratulate yourself on this step and go the next...

I'd suggest that you ask at the gym if they can work out a program for you - how long on the treadmill, which machines are best to start with etc. It is really hard to admit you need help from those lean and sexy gym people but they are probably going to be really nice and really helpful. That's their job and they need to keep people coming to their gym to stay in business.

Then you can work at the pace that is best for you and the boyfriend can't complain because you are doing YOUR program!
And don't feel you have to be there as long as he is - do they have a pool or spa where you can hang out for a while? Or do the time that is recommended for you then stop and read a magazine, or go wash your hair and paint your toenails in the locker room

Kkmama

Do what feels comfortable to you. Walk on the treadmill for 20 mins, just get your body moving. Anything you do is better than sitting on the couch. Ride the stationary bike. Don't worry about tension or resistance. Just get your heart pumping. Find some machines, hopefully a circuit that will show you what order to do the exercises. Start small. Baby steps. You can do this!

fitnessjch

I use the cross trainer or treadmill, but just do it at my own pace. I use a variety programme, so sometimes you might be on an incline, and sometimes not. The more you do it, the better and fitter you will get. Just take it at your own pace to start with. This is YOUR weight loss journey, if you start doing it at his current pace, there is a risk that you may burn out, and not enjoy it.

I am loving the gym, but am doing it at my own pace, and dont care that sometimes I'll be walking on the treadmill whilst others are running. I compete with myself only, and try to beat what I did last time, but if I have a bad day, I figure 30 mins on the treadmill at a slow pace is better than nothing, and therefore I wont try and beat my previous time.

Good luck!

PS Another option may be to buy him an iPod or something if you dont have a TV at your gym, and then he;ll focus on that, and not what you're doing!

binkybaby1

I agree with what a lot of people are saying. I think you have to try different things like the treadmill, ellitpical, stationary bike and see what is easiest for you. The important thing is to keep moving. Your bf should applaud your efforts and recognize that just going to the gym is sometimes the hardest part. You get stronger as time goes on. I have health problems so I can't do a whole lot of things that put stress on my knees or feet but I do at least 15 minutes each time I go to the gym. I figure 100 calories burned is better than nothing and I have been getting stronger and been able to go longer over the last couple of months. The most important thing is you have to be doing this for you and you have to find what works for you! I believe that as long as you are always moving forward you are a success story...

annarface

I started out on the elliptical. I could only do like 15 minutes max on level 1 at first, but it was a good start.

I couldn't even do 2 minutes at level 1 when I started... And that WAS embarrassing, as I was 15 and should've been A LOT fitter.

zeeeb

don't go on a machine near him, make sure you choose a machine where he isn't watching you... and go at your own pace.

you should feel like you are going to drop from exhaustion, and it doesn't matter how much it takes to get you there, as long as you are pumping sweat out, you are doing great! if you aren't huffing and puffing and sweating, you aren't working hard enough, that's what i go by. it doesn't matter how much you can do, as long as you are working hard for your level.

cmmull67

Why dont you suggest you go for a walk on the weekend? Walking is the best place to start and you can make it interesting by having a destination to walk to! You can build up from there. If you start out too hard at the gym you will hate it!

Ditto. Or find a park to stroll through. Having a pleasant setting makes it seem more like enjoyment rather than exercise. Plus, you spend time together, and can talk along the way. Before you know it, you have 30-6 mins of exercise out of the way, and it didn't even feel like exercise.

BflSaberfan

When I started at the gym I was almost 200lbs. I did 10 mins on the elliptical, about 10 mins of stretching and about 30 mins of weight training. YOu gotta lift some weights too, dont just focus on the cardio part of it.

Within about 2 weeks I built myself up to 20 mins on the elliptical, then 30 - you get the picture.

Dont let any one push you beyond your limits, you will set yourself up for failure.

My boyfriend and I are both in pretty good shape now and there is no way I could keep up with him on ANY machine even now, so dont sweat it.

georgiagorwell

I know how you feel, im 235 and my bf is training to be a personal instructor....