A B*tchy Rant - not for the easily offended 'cuz I might be

HeatherShrinking

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bayles1

Hey,

I think that your principles are to be admired and a blueprint for success.Really enjoyed reading your rant/observations and im sure we must be related somewhere along the line...lol.

Good Luck to you and you have my very best wishes..........

edorice

great rant

dad106

I have a feeling you and I would get a long great... because I often find myself saying the exact same things. I just graduated college and ate like an absolute slop.. Fast food/junk food everyday.. typical college kid. Now that I've graduated, I don't want the fast food except for once in a great while. When people ask me what I'm doing I say the gym and eating better.. cause thats really the two components. Nothing else has changed. ,I still eat fast food and chocolate.. I just eat less of it!

Noctuary

I must say, I agree with your whole post. I have found that I try not to comment on someone's under calorie goal posts unless I can see what they ate. I just feel like a liar to do otherwise.

peanutbutterpanic

You, my sweet, are a gift beyond words. I love your writing and its content. I love your tenacity and drive, as well as your vocabulary and restraint. I started reading out of curiousity but re~read it because I find myself being the occasional "cross that off my list of things to do" girl as well as the focused, constructive criticism cheerleader, alternately. But lately?? There's been much more of the former. I feel very much in tune with your "rant" and I appreciate every well placed, tangy, filtered, yet empowering word of it. I totally loved it.

monkeybuttsmommy

T-H-A-N-K Y-O-U!!!!!!! That ALL needed to be said!

becca0211

Well put

reba971

I wont say that I agree with everything you said, cause that is not true. But I think your opinion is very interesting, and some of it I cannot even relate to so I have no opinion on.
I love this part though.....
"but I am SO TIRED of reading "good job!" and "WTG's!" for fluff. I know everyone isn't looking for a critique, so I don't say ANYTHING on these occasions. But really? Are people just not invested and handing out casual kudos to cross it off their list of to-dos? Or do people really believe someone who logs 300 calories for their daily calorie intake is doing a good job?"

Don't ya just love it when people log cooking and cleaning or grocery shopping into their exercise diary?? LOL Really?

I think some people need the validation from others...those "way to go's" help them, with me it really means nothing unless I feel it in me. If I feel I did a great job...I will tell ya and then I appreciate the pat on the back...but if I just did something mediocre...then it was just that...mediocre.
Thanks for the rant...it was interesting to say the least. Have a great night.

VixFit2011

You are a great young lady! I really admire your ability to open up and tell it like it is. I praise you for all the hard work you put into making yourself a better person with better health and that you stand your ground. Excellent!

AngelsKisses75

I have found there are people that ask for the 'secret' are divided. Some actually want to hear how you did it. The whole nine yards blood sweat and tears. The others they want to know what doctor you went to, what pill you took, or diet plan you followed. They are the ones that don't get it. You rock for knowing that it is about the blood sweat and tears! You rock even harder for living the lifestyle change! :drinker:

I am a fluff stuff. I do cheer my MFP family on with comments like this, and some. I only hope that if they are offended as you have been that they tell me, or atleast delete me. :laugh:

I do hope you feel better getting it all out. It makes this journey so much easier with out the emotional weights we carry. :flowerforyou:

doriday

You give us all things to ponder and think about! Some of your thoughts on the "healthy lifestyle" make me think of the poem/story about the "journey." When you are serous about becoming healthy there is no final destination that you have arrived at! It is just an ongoing journey that continues on and on. Some days the travel is easier, somedays very strenuous, sometimes you hit a detour or a dead end and have to back track to get back on the main road. I appreciate your honesty and thoughtfulness in how you conduct yourself....and thank you for inspiring me and others today

MochaMixAZ

Well, thanks to all. I appreciate all of the comments. And I *do* feel better... like a <wait for it, wait for it> .. .... .... weight has been lifted!

Now back to the grindstone to make more of that "magic" happen!

taiyola

HAHA this is so true. I have been 'selfish' now for a good number of years, and honestly believe it's the best way forward. Doesn't mean I wont do stuff to help others, but I refuse to put myself last on the list! Although I guess I'm not too good at keeping quiet, but I work on that.

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taiyola

I have found there are people that ask for the 'secret' are divided. Some actually want to hear how you did it. The whole nine yards blood sweat and tears. The others they want to know what doctor you went to, what pill you took, or diet plan you followed. They are the ones that don't get it. You rock for knowing that it is about the blood sweat and tears! You rock even harder for living the lifestyle change! :drinker:

The latter piss me off soo much! :explode:

damonmath

Very true! I give kudos because I needed them and got them... Now I gladly say WTG, or Good Job! even if it's not 100% warranted... Anything to keep the people I consider My Fitness Pals coming back for more.

FaithandFitness

you've lost over 250 lbs, you have some credibility behind your rant, and I enjoyed reading it!

dragonflydi

I love this! I read it and thought "I could have written this" with one exception: I do give kudos (not necessarily over being under calorie goal, etc.) but I like to be able to encourage others to keep with it both when it's going well for them and when it's not. You never know when one small word of encouragement was all that other person might have needed

hedleyrocks247

I LOVED your "rant"!!!! And I completely agree!! Kudos to you for putting it out there and getting it off your chest!!

cckeimig

Seriously, you make d@mn good points. I get the same thing over and over: what are you doing?

Well, what do you think I'm doing? I'm getting off my @ss every day/night and doing something. I'm not just watching "The Biggest Loser", crying in my Big Mac about how lucky they are and I wish I had a Jillian in my life. Boo-hoo-hoo. Get over it, get up, put down the twinkie, eat some wheat bread as opposed to white, and quit thinking a large Pepperoni from Dominos a couple of times a week is ok. It's not.

Too funny and too RIGHT!!

And no, it wasn't b*tchy at all. It was right ON. 259 lbs so far is just flat-out AMAZING progress. You are definitely an inspiration to your fellow MFP-ers. BRILLIANT progress and an awesome rant!!!

BeesKnees

When I lost my weight before, I can not tell you how many times people asked me how I did it.The answer was exercise, and healthy eating-- it was never EVER the answer anyone wanted. They often looked at me like a liar.

cherilyn221

Every morning, I have to self-talk myself into being active and making good food choices. Some days I succeed wildly, other days I fail miserably. The support I receive on MFP is invaluable - it keeps me going. As I said, this is not a quick fix. While my BF is wonderful, he does not understand food issues and is blessed with the metabolism of a gnat. He doesn't understand food-crazy. So, I cherish each of my buddies. And I cherish the community and support I receive. I hope I can continue being a support to others. But... there is no magic, there is no secret. It's just sweat, a few tears, a ton of planning, and a lot of determination.

that... IS the secret

valz2000

Love this... Found it through another thread and it was just what I needed today'

chevy88grl

You know what? I totally agree with you.

Do you know how many messages or friend requests that say "How did you lose the weight? What's your secret? Oh, BTW you look great!".

I did it by not eating as much and going to the gym. There. I said it. Plain and simple huh? Finally, I wrote a blog about my journey and encouraged people on my friend's list to read it. Honestly, I think one (or maybe 2) people actually read it. Why ask me and then not want to read what I've written?
Oh. Because it isn't some secret pill that makes you lose 50lbs overnight. I have busted my *kitten* to get where I am today.

Like the OP, I struggle with my food demons EVERY SINGLE DAY and working in a grocery store type setting does not help. I am constantly looking for healthier alternatives to the foods I know aren't as good for me and I need to limit (or cut out of my life).

Another thing that drives me insane? Is what people will log as exercise. Come on, people. Walking to the mailbox is NOT a workout! And how did you come up with "Burned 25 calories walking to mailbox - slow pace". Puhlease. That's just silly. I want to read about genuine, hard working exercise - not walked upstairs once and burned 34 calories. GIVE ME A BREAK.

Okay. I'm done.

I wonder how many calories I burn when I'm typing out a rant? I should log those! ;0)

redhead91

You are a total inspiration. One day while I was logging my calories I accidentally hit the submit button after only putting in about 450 calories of food. I got about 5 people saying generic "WTG!" It pissed me off so bad. I deleted every person who did that. If I comment I make sure to actually READ the person's diary! Just saying!

whiskey9890

i feel cheated, i really wanted a good old fashioned up on the soap box waving flags wearing a sandwich board rant, and it was just a standard comon sense observation. i still liked it though its always god to be reminded of these things, i love the friends that comment on my diary because i know they actually read it and will comment accordingly if i have not commented on the reasoning behind it myself and vice versa, thanks guys!