Negative Comments

MrsBrit2007

I just had an experience with this at a Zumba class a couple of days ago. My ex-BFF/maid of honor (long story) was there with her sister, and they spent the first 5 minutes or so of the beginning of the class basically mocking me. The younger sister even went as far as puffing her cheeks out and making motions of how big I am.
I haven't seen this two since before I was pregnant (2 years ago) and I know that I'm bigger now than I was then, but I could NOT believe how tacky and rude they were being.

I think that you're doing a great thing in taking steps to be healthy, and your 10 pound loss is certainly nothing to scoff at! Congratulations for those 10 pounds! Try your best to ignore their comments, but don't hesitate to defend yourself either!

Keep up the good work!

kentlass

people are so insensitive!


my sister does this to me all the time, she's heavy(about 250lbs at 5ft 5ish) and sneers when i eat something healthy, or refuse cake cos i'm on restricted diets...or deliberately picks up trousers 3sizes too big for me to wear and stuff

stacilynn_1215

ps~ i *love* your smile!

Thank you

stacilynn_1215

I just had an experience with this at a Zumba class a couple of days ago. My ex-BFF/maid of honor (long story) was there with her sister, and they spent the first 5 minutes or so of the beginning of the class basically mocking me. The younger sister even went as far as puffing her cheeks out and making motions of how big I am.
I haven't seen this two since before I was pregnant (2 years ago) and I know that I'm bigger now than I was then, but I could NOT believe how tacky and rude they were being.

I think that you're doing a great thing in taking steps to be healthy, and your 10 pound loss is certainly nothing to scoff at! Congratulations for those 10 pounds! Try your best to ignore their comments, but don't hesitate to defend yourself either!

Keep up the good work!

It is amazing how some people are just rude and immature - Ive let it go, I know that I am doing what is best for me. And I definitely know that I am 100% happier than I was 6 months ago when I was weighing in at 170. Thanks so much for the supportive comments! Good luck to you in your weight loss journey as well!

Dawntodusk

If you are a woman, the more beautiful and thin you are the more you will be bombarded with this type of nonsense. Men will approach you non-stop and women will loathe you our of sheer jealousy.

What kind you do? Find a very beautiful and thin woman, and be her friend.

TourThePast

Does anyone else have some friends or family members that always are so negative about your weight loss?

Unfortunately yes. Trouble is, they're trying to lose weight too because they're seriously obese to the point of it affecting their health, but whenever I see them they're eating totally the wrong foods and in inappropriate amounts. For instance if we go out for a meal they do dumb things like order a baked potato instead of chips "because we're on a diet" but then smother it with butter and spoon loads of mayonnaise over the vegetables. Then try and convince me to have a dessert, and seem offended when I don't give in and have one. I'm pretty sure they try to get me to order one so they don't feel guilty about having one themselves.

Any thoughts?

Yes, I think there are far too many stupid and unkind people in this world.

dawnw30

I use all the negative comments when I am feeling like I can't go on....when I'm in the middle of a hard workout and I think "I can't do this anymore - I have to stop"...I remember all the mean things everyone has ever said to me and it gives me the extra oomph to keep going!

supersecretsquirrel1877

I used to have a friend ( notice I said used to ) that would always tell me " You would be so pretty if only you were not so fat." I spent years wanting to punch her in the face for that.

kylakesgal

Hi and yes I do too. They ask me why do I want to lose weight for? Ha well when I first started my blood pressure was really high for one and I didn't feel good about myself for another reason. Oh and I was overweight!! They are just trying to drag you down in the pit of misery with them. Stay positive and keep doing what you are doing and let them talk. They are just jealous! Good luck to you and your continued success:)

TourThePast

I used to have a friend ( notice I said used to ) that would always tell me " You would be so pretty if only you were not so fat." I spent years wanting to punch her in the face for that.

Okay, some plain speaking... I wish I'd had a friend who was so honest; obviously as you are here, you agree with her that you're too fat. Real friends are those who tell the truth, not tell us what we want to hear.

If instead of wanting to punch her in the face, you had said "You are right, but I'm not sure I can do it" you might have found she was very supportive of your efforts.

Twylyght

I just had a problem like this last night when I came into work...i don't understand why people can be so mean when u are working SO hard to help yourself!! Good luck and keep on moving towards your goal!! Remember we're here for ya!

chnkydnknmomma

My daughter has a friend, and her parents drive me crazy. Both parents are over weight, and they both say the most horrible things about their daughter's weight. A couple of weeks ago I ran into the little girl and her mother at a school event, and her mother remarked about how tall my daughter is getting. Then she went on to say that her daughter is also growing, but she is growing wider not taller. What kind of person says that about their own kid!!!!???? Our kids also play soccer, and the other day when our girl's were competing against each other in a game, her parents kept telling us that their daughter won't ever make a goal, but as long as she is having fun they are happy to let her play soccer. They also yelled out to her, "Hey use all your weight to get through the girls". I try and say things to her parents to let them know that it isn't okay to talk about their daughter this way, but they just don't seem to get it! I know this is hurting their daughter. She has told my daughter that she is fat, and she has gained a bunch of weight over the last two years. I am sure she is depressed, and gaining the weight, because of how her parents have been talking to her. She is only nine years old. I am not sure what to do about this. If anyone has any advice on how I could help this family please tell me.

This makes me sad, and brings up a lot of bad memories and feelings about my own childhood. It's hard to voice an opinion, as the parents will probably say it's none of your business. They just don't realize how much REAL damage they are doing to that poor kid. Maybe have a chat with the coach or a teacher about it...Good luck and I will definitely keep her in my prayers xo

chnkydnknmomma

I used to have a friend ( notice I said used to ) that would always tell me " You would be so pretty if only you were not so fat." I spent years wanting to punch her in the face for that.

Okay, some plain speaking... I wish I'd had a friend who was so honest; obviously as you are here, you agree with her that you're too fat. Real friends are those who tell the truth, not tell us what we want to hear.

If instead of wanting to punch her in the face, you had said "You are right, but I'm not sure I can do it" you might have found she was very supportive of your efforts.

I'm sure she knew she was overweight, and was probably already feeling badly about herself. There are ways of being honest and supportive without being negative and hurtful...A very good friend of mine always tells me how pretty I am, and offers support in the way of taking walks together, or tips on working out, and always tells me how proud she is of me when I tell her about my mini victories.

slinn1990

I know exactly what you are talking about, just ignore them....