Robin's 100 Lb Plus Weight Loss Group
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Hello everyone.
I hope everyone is well...and resisiting temptation(says she who is avoiding the crisp packet)
well yesterday i did okay but lasted till 10pm and went on a bit of a binge...but i logged all my food and i was still way better than i would have been if i hadnt been on here. So while its not good...i feel its still postive that i actually managed to not eat everything in sight.
Yesterday i did my workout - Chalean Extreme, Burn Circuit 1 and she kicked my *kitten* good and proper to the point where i turned over in bed through the night and though id fell out of bed..:bigsmile: but no it was muscle soreness. Getting out the car this morning the neighbours must have thought i was nutts as it took me ages to pull myself out the seat. Anyway as the day has gone on its worn off and im feeling good.
Food today has been good- but ive upped my calories slightly to 1800 and upped my protein so im following 40% carbs, 30% protein and 30% fat which suits what i want to achieve.
So Tuesday is the day we talk about things thats bugging us....well i have something but its a long story but ill try and keep it short. Im off work at present due to my mum s ill health. My mum has been ill for the past 2 years with non alcoholic cirrhosis and is at the point of transplant but she cant have it due to her other health problems and to top it off she has just been diagnosed 3 weeks ago with lung cancer which hit the family kind of hard. well i am an only child and we dont have much family so everything kind of falls on me and while ive coped with her illness, supporting her and looking after my 3 kids and working full time as a childrens social worker, i finally came to a halt 4 weeks ago when i just couldnt do it anymore. So this past 3 weeks i have been off work and due to go back next week. Anyway whats bothering me is that i have been there when all my friends have been through some awful times , i have helped them pick the pieces up and cope when they have had no one yet i realised last week that i have no one....when i really need a friend ...I have no one. Anyway..thats whats bothering me but im okay..ill come through it..and i will be stronger for it!! (seems strange sharing this with people i hardly know..but it feels good to write it down)
Wvbaywgal - its a great idea of the bracelet, something visual to see and watch grow. I would also like a personal chef ...lol but i dont have the money either so were stuck with our own cooking and grocery shopping.:sad: Food shopping always seems such a waste of time to me and i end up with goodies in the trolley which is why i order my food online and have it delivered.
Robin - I know the feeling about waking up and worrying about things you cant control and i dont have any advice on stopping worrying but it might sound strange but i actually cry and i feel much better for it. Someone suggested meditation to me..but i havent mastered it yet..maybe worth a go! As for your three days at your friends, could he not come to you and then restrict his goodies :laugh: or maybe try and take your own low fat treats. You can do it Robin...you will find a way...your in hte right frame of mind!
Myssrenee - welcome to the group, the more the merrier.
Solat37 -Nice to meet a fellow englishman (although im a woman..but im english :laugh:) Its great that you believe in yourself and have faith as i do think this is the key to long term success. Great job on the 10lbs.
well its supposed to be my rest day today but im going to do cardio party 3 so i can have a chocolate treat tonight without feeling guilty. Has anyone ever heard of Turbojam workouts? i love them..the music is so fantastic and whenever i hear it i just cant sit still.
see you all tomorrow.
ps: forgot to ask.. is there a way we can get the replies to this thread sent to us via email or do we have to keep checking.
You'll get your replies in this thread unless some kind soul messages you.
I can really sympathize with you for your troubles with your mom's illness and having everything fall on your shoulders AND having all your so-called friends disappear at the same time. It sounds trite, but that is the way of life. Your friends probably care but don't know what to say. If you are the ballsy sort of person, get on the phone and start asking for little favors. I think you would be surprised. If you asked nicely I think they would be happy to help. Maybe they could come and read to your mom for 1/2 and hour or so, or make a casserole once a week to help you out. The key is you have to tell THEM WHAT YOU NEED. As I said, they are holding back afraid of the situation and not knowing what to do, they are doing nothing. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
Hope this propels you to the phone.0 -
Bluesday: Today I went way over calories, like 2600 total 2300 net. I sat there and cried when I realized how high everything was. It's finals week. I have a 25 page paper due thursday which only has 12 pages. When I think about it I nearly throw up. I'm so stressed that I have acid and heartburn all the time. I had 2 finals today and it was not as great as I would have liked for either of them. I am the deans list girl, not the oh good you passed girl. If I do not have a 3.7-4.0 I fail to me. It is not acceptable.
Yesterday my boyfriend was supposed to visit before he left for Indiana but he was too busy at work with another pastor and didn't make it over. I saw him twice in April I think. I'm feeling kinda neglected, maybe forgotten. He said he is just soo busy right now and I know he is... but i'm selfish, I want someone to spend time with me, to talk to, to hold me. I need too much. I ask too much. But its what I want.
He keeps encouraging me to hurry up and lose weight for our trip and it makes me both motivated and depressed. I have lost 27.5 pounds. But I don't think anyone notices. Or cares. If I don't mention it neither does anyone else. I wish someone would notice. Its not a big enough loss yet I guess. And I'm not going to get anywhere with eating fast food, pizza, chocolate and a donut all in one day.. diet hell. whhhhhhy!?
I understand how frustrating it is for no one to notice your weight loss and I heard a great analogy.
Imagine you are a roll of paper towels. When the first few sheets of paper towels comes off that represents your 30 lbs. No one notices a few sheets being gone from a big roll of paper towels. It takes a lot of sheets to be taken off before you notice the change in the roll of paper towels. When you have lost 50 or 6o pounds EVERYONE will be commenting because you will look like a skinny roll of paper towels. Every paper towel that comes off after that dramatically changes the shape of that roll of paper towels.
Also go back to page 1 and read the article by WolffEarl about shopping for clothes. Its very inspirational. It gives you darn good reasons to keep on trying.
Why? Toddlers don't quit trying to learn to walk do they? NO! So, you are going to keep trying, no matter how many times you fall, you are going to reach up, pull your self up and keep trying!0 -
Here's my Tuesday Bluesday-
I am grateful to have a hubby that is going through this process with me, but he is overly supportive. It bothers me that he won't let me do my own thing, learn this my way without constant input. I'm not saying that he can't be right, I'm saying that I DON"T CARE if he's right or not.
I tried walking the dogs today. I was going to walk for an hour, but one of the dogs got off her lead and ran back home (where I really wanted to be anyway). Instead of saying "Wow, that's ambitious that you'd want to be out of the house for an hour", he chastised that I was setting myself up for failure by setting a goal to walk for an hour.
It just depressed me.0 -
Tuesday - Bluesday - get what’s bugging you off your chest!
My job. I need another one! However, I am taking the necessary steps to change this. :happy:0 -
Its Wednesday for me - am I holding strong? - eh....heh, heh, heh....well, I'm recording my foods, but I went over a little - just a little yesterday. I thought I had frozen low cal ice cream bars at my BF's house where I'm staying. Well the box was in the freezer, but it was empty !!! And he had frozen DOVE bars at 250 calories, so I had one of those, and a few too many handfuls of mixed nuts.
Today is a good day for me. I'm seeing my step-mom today. She lives in this town - and I'm going to celebrate Mothers Day with her (no food involved - she's diabetic) She's 90 years old. She came into my life when I was 19, a year after my mom died, and was married to my dad for 15 years until he passed away. She has 2 kids of her own and they and my 4 siblings never melded into a cohesive family. I'm the only step child that has remained in touch with her. She has been one of my strongest supporters all my life and I love love love her!!!!0 -
Wednesday - Midweek - are you holding strong?
I have to say....so far, so good. I know that upping my amount of calories allowed per day has helped me. I don't feel deprived if I go to bed with some calories left over...in fact I feel good. That little trick on my brain has been very helpful. I went from the 1 1/2 pound wt loss/ week to 1 pound/wk....giving me those extra calories if I WANT them. As long as I have at least 1350 calories/day....and not over my maximum (1560) ...then I'm good. Now, don't ask my why that simple change has made a difference in my mindset....but whatever works!! I guess when I had 1350 and used them up by the time I went to bed...then I felt deprived. By having some leftover....I know I CAN use those if I want to....I just haven't wanted to.0 -
Here's my Tuesday Bluesday-
I am grateful to have a hubby that is going through this process with me, but he is overly supportive. It bothers me that he won't let me do my own thing, learn this my way without constant input. I'm not saying that he can't be right, I'm saying that I DON"T CARE if he's right or not.
I tried walking the dogs today. I was going to walk for an hour, but one of the dogs got off her lead and ran back home (where I really wanted to be anyway). Instead of saying "Wow, that's ambitious that you'd want to be out of the house for an hour", he chastised that I was setting myself up for failure by setting a goal to walk for an hour.
It just depressed me.
This has got to be disheartening....but men think differently than women. They are 'goal setters' and we are....well, I'm not sure what it's called, but THE end goal isn't that important to us. I think that is because we have so much to do that whatever we can accomplish is good. I'm not sure if that makes sense...but I know when my son was growing up, if I accomplished half of what I intended to get done I was thrilled!!! Don't let it get you down....you've got lots of support here on MFP!!:flowerforyou:0 -
I was just looking for something like this. This group is exactly what I need.
I'm Sarah. I'm 28, I'm 5'2 and I currently weigh 289 pounds. I've lost and gained the same 11 pounds. I'll do really good, then I'll do bad. It goes back and forth like this. I have Leslie Sansone Walk Away The Pounds For The Week, Leslie Sansone Walk Fast and a Gold's Gym Lose The Baby Weight Fast DVDs. I tried doing the Gold's Gym DVD and failed. I tried doing the Walk Fast and couldn't do it.....I was pretty successful with the Walk Away the Pounds For The Week.....maybe I should stick with that, but I guess I just didn't feel like I was burning enough calories. I can't afford a gym membership and I'd be embarrassed to go anyways.
Then, when it comes to food, I eat, I count calories, but I get hungry and I eat more. It doesn't help having 3 kids and a husband in the house who all like their sweets. The kids aren't overweight at all, but my husband weighs almost 300 pounds. He keeps saying he will do it with me, but he works and falls off the wagon and doesn't get to workout.
I just don't know what to do. I'm so SICK of being this big, but I feel like, once I start, I'm just gonna fail again. I'm a stay at home mom with no friends, really. I'd love to be able to go out and workout or go for a walk or something like that, then come home and walk.....I just don't know what to do........0 -
Wednesday - Midweek - are you holding strong?
Yes! In fact today is my rest day, but I'm committed to at least getting in 30 minutes of cardio!0 -
I am holding strong this Wednesday....off work today. I took my bike to the bike shop as it has been sitting in the garage for 6 years....needs a complete overhaul and new tires. All my food is recorded as is my exercise for the day. It was a good day all around.0
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I was just looking for something like this. This group is exactly what I need.
I'm Sarah. I'm 28, I'm 5'2 and I currently weigh 289 pounds. I've lost and gained the same 11 pounds. I'll do really good, then I'll do bad. It goes back and forth like this. I have Leslie Sansone Walk Away The Pounds For The Week, Leslie Sansone Walk Fast and a Gold's Gym Lose The Baby Weight Fast DVDs. I tried doing the Gold's Gym DVD and failed. I tried doing the Walk Fast and couldn't do it.....I was pretty successful with the Walk Away the Pounds For The Week.....maybe I should stick with that, but I guess I just didn't feel like I was burning enough calories. I can't afford a gym membership and I'd be embarrassed to go anyways.
Then, when it comes to food, I eat, I count calories, but I get hungry and I eat more. It doesn't help having 3 kids and a husband in the house who all like their sweets. The kids aren't overweight at all, but my husband weighs almost 300 pounds. He keeps saying he will do it with me, but he works and falls off the wagon and doesn't get to workout.
I just don't know what to do. I'm so SICK of being this big, but I feel like, once I start, I'm just gonna fail again. I'm a stay at home mom with no friends, really. I'd love to be able to go out and workout or go for a walk or something like that, then come home and walk.....I just don't know what to do........
OK - I'm going to ask you to go back to page 1 and read the article I quoted from WolffEarl. At the end he comments that when we were toddlers learning how to walk, we didn't give up and stick to crawling around the house. We kept at it. We kept trying.
We kept grabbing ahold of the furniture and pulling ourselves up taking a few steps and falling down. We did it over and over until we could walk from one piece of furniture to the next.
You are that toddler. You are just extremely frustrated and tired right now. You need to take a great big sigh and sit back and center your mind on the whole situation. You're not in this for your husband. You're in this for yourself. After you lose 60 pounds your husband will probably join you!
You need to cleanse your self of that sick feeling. You need to forgive yourself for the negativity your feeling. You are a beautiful person about to start on a marvelous journey and a person needs to be prepared. You need the right groceries. you have the exercise videos. Do you have rockin' music? Can you do a little dance step when you clean house? Can you put some extra movement into your day that way? Will you please use this forum as your daily VOICE to tell us your progress or feelings? I think you are ready!0 -
Doing good this wed. started a new exercise program...it seems a little difficult but i'm going to keep at it0
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Doing good this wed. started a new exercise program...it seems a little difficult but i'm going to keep at it
Great job! Keep it up! More success to you.
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Thursday - Meditation or deep thoughts time
Well, I've never been good at meditation or deep thoughts about myself, but I did have a revelation this week. It has nothing to do with food. My mom passed away in Dec 09....she had been diagnosed with lung cancer in Feb 08 with a prognosis of less than 6 months to live. Having that diagnosis and those 22 months knowing she had a terminal illness gave me 22 months to say everything, ask the questions I needed answered, talking from the heart with my mom. I am an only child and my father passed away in 1982...I was a professed "Momma's girl" even at age 58. Knowing our time was limited was the best gift. None of us know how much time we have left with people we love....take advantage of the time we have.
Also....after signing off last night, my 'binge monster' arrived and I ate something I shouldn't have. I am going to go back and log it, but as it always has in the past...the 'GUILT monster' arrived, and I almost let it get to me. Actually, it is what got that binge fella started....that 'peep' I ate put my brain in that old thought process of..."well, if I ate that, I might as well eat _______!! Today is a new day and TODDLER"S RULE!!!!0 -
I'm getting confused. Do we post here or in the other one?0
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I'm in! I have 130lbs to go! I'll just jump in on the Monday posts.0
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I'm getting confused. Do we post here or in the other one?
There is an older group called "Need to lose 100 lbs? Lets start a group" that has over 250 members who are well on their way to success and know each other quite well. I started that last Aug.
I started this group "Robins 100 LB Plus Weight Loss Group" just a few days ago for all the newbies who are starting out on their journey. My goal was to get a new group of friends together at the beginning of their weight loss journey to share and support each other.
My advice is to choose one group OR the other and not to post to both or it will get confusing for yourself. Your posts show up on YOUR PROFILE PAGE on the bottom left corner so you can find your way back to the forum your posting to by clicking on the blue header name of the forum above your posting.
I am personally more invested in this new group as I did not lose much weight and fell behind the other people in the "Need to lose " group, but I am posting to both groups as I am founder of both groups and I have a sense of responsibility to the old friends I was encouraging. But I also have a STRONG sense of belonging to this new group as it is here that I hope to meet the friends with which I hope to start my real weight loss journey.
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I just discovered something....I'm not on a 'diet'! I'm on a "do-it" because I can do it with the support and encouragement of all you wonderful people!!! :bigsmile:0
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Hello everyone and welcome to the new people.
Im doing good and sticking with it...my food choices could be better at times ..but this is a working progress..right!!
will be back tomorrow to post in more detail as im running way behind on things today but just wanted to let people know im still here0 -
I just discovered something....I'm not on a 'diet'! I'm on a "do-it" because I can do it with the support and encouragement of all you wonderful people!!! :bigsmile:
I love this outlook - we are all on "do-its" what a great attitude adjustment!
I'll be using that word a lot, girlfriend!0 -
Friday Fitness - will be doing some gardening - wall pushups - and walking . How about the rest of you?0
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Fitness Friday:
Yes I have been doing more this week than I have done in years. Having lived a really sedentary lifestyle for the past few decades (minus ocassionally chasing children or grandchildren ), anything beyond rushing to the bathroom would really be considered movement for me. BUT instead of just doing that I:
worked hard in my yard, getting it ready for summer
I walked the dogs
I cleaned house
I walked some more
I moved and lifted things, rearranged things
I cleaned some more and then I was back outside again....
At some point, I hope to be more structured, but the idea that I was out and moving around is enough for my first week of trying!0 -
Friday Fitness - will be doing some gardening - wall pushups - and walking . How about the rest of you?
I didn't even think of wall pushups!
Are there other things you do?0 -
Who has Netflix?
I was filling my queqe the other day and noticed that there are a ton of exercise programs. Anyone interested in picking a couple and going at it with me?0 -
Friday - Fitness - have you been exercising this week?
Not as much as I should have been, but I HAVE been exercising, which is good.0 -
MsCracker - you've done a super job of exercising - congrats.
themrs08 - even a little bit of exercise counts. A Mayo Clinic study says that people who fidget burn more calories than those that sit still. So if we can think of ways to wiggle our feet and move our hands more we'll burn more calories.
I do wall push ups because I can't get on my knees. My arms were so weak when I started that I started with 5. Now I can do 20 at a time. I just need to do them more religiously.
Question to the group - I was thinking - shall we change Tuesday from "Bluesday" (such a bummer) to Goals - what are our goals for the week?0 -
I haven't incorporated exercise into my routine as of yet. I have enough exercise equipment to open my own gym!!! My intentions were always very good when I would purchase something....but I never followed thru. Now, due to physical limitations, I don't have many choices of what I can do. I may try the wall push ups....if my wrists can take it. I crushed my wrist several years ago and it doesn't bend like it should, but I can give it a try and see what happens. I'm gonna pull out my Gazelle this weekend and attempt to start using that..... Does anyone know of something I can do to stretch my lower back? I had back surgery almost 20 years ago and I have a very stiff lower back that makes it difficult to stand up straight and walk. I'd appreciate any input for lower back pain and muscle tension. I'm on a limited income, so as much as a massage helps, I can't afford one very often. Anybody ever use an exercise ball to stretch their lower back?
Hope y'all have a great weekend!!!!0 -
BayouGal - I don't have any specific back stretches except one - you can do it on you hands and knees. (since I can't kneel I do it laying on my side in bed) In that position raise your back up into a camel shape and stretch your back. Then lower your back til its flat like a table. I don't know how many seconds to hold it. I suppose you start with what you can do and build up. You are supposed to do this several times in a row every day.
Also Google " back strengthening exercises" and pick and choose those that you are comfortable with.
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Thanks, Robin....I'll try that!
Hope you have a great weekend!!!0 -
Saturday - have I been true to myself? I'd have to answer yes. I knew I was off my diet the first several days of the week, I was overeating my calories, but I was recording them. However yesterday and today I finally got a grip on them, and have been at goal. My calorie level is 1300 calories a day and I finally kept to it. I think getting to the grocery store yesterday made quite a bit of difference. Having the right kinds of snacks around really helps when I get the "snack attack"0
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