Ugh! Husband!

navvs15

You should tell him how important being healthier is to YOU. Tell him that his constant complaining about eating healthier foods and you going to the gym are killing your motivation. I mean, as a stay at home mom, you do need some YOU time. It's not like you stay at the gym for ten hours and neglect him all week.

I think in some ways, he's being unreasonable. And if his complaints are bothering you, the only thing you can do is talk to him about it.

As for the food, he doesn't have to eat fruits and vegetables. You can eat healthier foods, whilst he can eat food he enjoys.

Improvised

Are there some workouts you can do at home? Youtube has TONS of free workout channels, I use those. I have also purchased some inexpensive workout dvds that I like. I have three toddlers (all under 5), and they LOVE to workout with me, so I also get everything done before my husband comes home.
Can you go maybe three times a week, and spend the other days with him? My husband encourages me to get out but tends to stress if I'm gone too much, and I'm the same way if he's gone all the time, so we try to balance it a bit.

stefanwolf

I know exactly what you are talking about!! I have 2 children who I really want to teach good eating habits to, because being healthy isn't just about being skinny. But my husband has always been thinner, and doesn't see why he should have to eat the "crappy" foods when he doesn't need to loose weight. As well as the fact that unless I get up @ 4 in the morning to workout I am i inconveniencing someone. I have to say though that after years of this, he is finally starting to come around. He has actually joined MFP, and is trying to make some better choices. My advice to you is stay strong, and set a good example for your children. It's the best you can do. Maybe when he sees how healthy and happy you are becoming it will change his thinking a little. But you can't force him to come around (believe me, I've tried). And the more you try the more it will depress you if he doesn't see your point of view. Just keep working at it because you will be a happier healthier Wife and Mother.

brndygrl98

I feel your pain! My husband is not really supportive, is also overweight and is ok with it. When I tell him that it's about being healthier, not just looking better, he rolls his eyes. I work full time and have a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old. I workout at 8pm right after the kids go to bed.

deeharley

You might find him a little more supportive of your workout if you change your time - say, when he gets home, have dinner, spend an hour or so listen about his day, share yours, give him and you a little time to unwind. THEN go to your workout. As for the food, I've read several good suggestions in this thread. I'm still working on that one.

I have started using whole wheat pastas, pureeing veggies into recipes that they would never suspect, etc. I also will put three carrot sticks or snap peas on his plate and he has learned to chug them and then eat what he likes.

ColoradoRobin

Well, my husband first was supportive, then he complained about it... called it silly, etc.
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Last week, after the weight started really coming off and I started to feel a little more confident, he left me. I don't know if the two are related or not, but it wouldn't surprise me. I think he liked me fat and so gross that a man would never turn his head to me and he's intimidated that I may get my body back...

I don't know though.

I have supportive parents though...

I'm sorry to hear that he left. Take some time to really think things through and figure out your own feelings. Probably his own insecurity or jealousy caused him to act that way. He's a fool to give up a determined woman like you. I'm so glad you have your parents to keep you strong and centered. You go girl!