Unconditional Support Group - May

magglett

Oh Wow ... I'm sorry for the delay in starting this new thread but here we go ...

sdereski

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profjan6

I guess spring fever has hit us all! wishing you all well!

magglett

Okay ... here I go again ... emotions ... crazy ... hunger ... yikes ... temper ... let me just say "back off" ... PMS AGAIN???? ALREADY??? Seriously ... every couple of weeks now. Hope it all just stops soon ... it's been a few years of crap now I'm just playing the waiting game. At least it's a beautiful day ... I'm heading out now for a nice little lunch time walk.

LucieBear

Yesterday was an emotional day for me... started crying in the morning and by evening was ok.. but I hate it.. I had a great loss in my family about a month ago.. thank God I do not eat my emotions anymore cause I would of had at least 2 or 3 chocolate bars.. Thanks to MFP, I was a good girl...

sdereski

I communicate regularly with a friend who lives about 1100 km away. We've been friends for almost 3 years and we talk about everything and anything. He's almost better than a girlfriend because he can give me a man's perspective on things.

I had not heard from him in a few days (yes that is unusal) and today he told me he was seeing someone. When I met him he was in a relationship. I'm married, but this was just like having a great pen pal. His 2 yr relationship ended last year, and we talked (wrote - as we seldom talk on the phone) about that. It has been a year that he's been "single" as he did date in there, But for some reason, when he told me he was seeing someong today, I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I know it was a purely selfish reaction. I don't want to lose my friend, which he assured me I won't, but I know it won't be the same. I wanted to curl up in a ball and cry. I thought "is this how women feel when their husbands leave?" Goodness, it is not my husband leaving, but a friend, that I care about and want him to be happy, has found someone. I need to get a grip. I won't turn to food, but I do want to curl up and cry. I suddenly don't have the energy to do anything.

I've had so many friends move away this past year, and I think this one is like the icing on the cake. 3 of my best girlfriends moved away all within a year - one to Vancouver, 2 to S. Ontario. This winter was very difficult on me for that reason - all the gals that I did stuff with were gone. I feel as I am losing my support group and really, really need another one.

Do I need Dr. Phil or just a good kick in the *kitten*?
Please ladies I need your perspective on things. I am totally at loose ends today.:brokenheart:

magglett

I communicate regularly with a friend who lives about 1100 km away. We've been friends for almost 3 years and we talk about everything and anything. He's almost better than a girlfriend because he can give me a man's perspective on things.

I had not heard from him in a few days (yes that is unusal) and today he told me he was seeing someone. When I met him he was in a relationship. I'm married, but this was just like having a great pen pal. His 2 yr relationship ended last year, and we talked (wrote - as we seldom talk on the phone) about that. It has been a year that he's been "single" as he did date in there, But for some reason, when he told me he was seeing someong today, I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I know it was a purely selfish reaction. I don't want to lose my friend, which he assured me I won't, but I know it won't be the same. I wanted to curl up in a ball and cry. I thought "is this how women feel when their husbands leave?" Goodness, it is not my husband leaving, but a friend, that I care about and want him to be happy, has found someone. I need to get a grip. I won't turn to food, but I do want to curl up and cry. I suddenly don't have the energy to do anything.

I've had so many friends move away this past year, and I think this one is like the icing on the cake. 3 of my best girlfriends moved away all within a year - one to Vancouver, 2 to S. Ontario. This winter was very difficult on me for that reason - all the gals that I did stuff with were gone. I feel as I am losing my support group and really, really need another one.

Do I need Dr. Phil or just a good kick in the *kitten*?
Please ladies I need your perspective on things. I am totally at loose ends today.:brokenheart:

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad ... change is hard sometimes. I'm sure if you and this fellow have been good friends all this time then that won't change ... real friends stay friends. I'm sure once some time goes by you'll be so happy for him because we all want our friends to find love in their lives. As you know, turning to food won't help anything ... but a good cry never hurt anyone so feel free if that's what you feel like doing ... then contact your buddy and congradulate him on his new girlfriend. Find out all the nitty gritty about her ... I'm sure he's dying to tell you everything about it.

sdereski

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad ... change is hard sometimes. I'm sure if you and this fellow have been good friends all this time then that won't change ... real friends stay friends. I'm sure once some time goes by you'll be so happy for him because we all want our friends to find love in their lives. As you know, turning to food won't help anything ... but a good cry never hurt anyone so feel free if that's what you feel like doing ... then contact your buddy and congradulate him on his new girlfriend. Find out all the nitty gritty about her ... I'm sure he's dying to tell you everything about it.

I did congratulate him, and you are right, I do want him to find love and be happy. He deserves it so much. Everyone does.
I also told him that I would love for him to tell me about her when he's ready. I think because the relationship is relatively new he wants to wait a bit. He's really struggled this past year in finding someone. But truthfully, I am not sure I am ready to hear it yet either, so I guess we both need some time.
He did reassure me he would be in touch with me always. I am going to miss our "daily" messages tho, as I can see that won't continue to happen. But then, maybe a nice longer e-mail every now and then will be better.

yes, I think a good cry is probably going to happen. I've been holding myself back while at work, but once I'm on my bike....well goodness knows what will happen.

Thanks magglett.

trimformecmb

thanks magglett for stargin a new thread.....seems llike there are alot of people who need a little support right now.......
I LOVE this forum for venting.....gets whole new perspective whne you put it in writing and i love the fact that people are supportive but hones tin a respectful way and creating accountability........Nice job everyone.......
I ehope everyone gets out there and sees the new sprouts and the new life in animals and plants and breathe !!!!
Good evening everyone....PEACE !!!!!

trimformecmb

thanks magglett for stargin a new thread.....seems llike there are alot of people who need a little support right now.......
I LOVE this forum for venting.....gets whole new perspective whne you put it in writing and i love the fact that people are supportive but hones tin a respectful way and creating accountability........Nice job everyone.......
I ehope everyone gets out there and sees the new sprouts and the new life in animals and plants and breathe !!!!
Good evening everyone....PEACE !!!!!

WOW do I need typing lessons or what???/

racergirl1991

A little late, but heres to May ending wayyyyy better than it started!!

magglett

Have a good one everyone ... :devil:

datenshi

I've been at a plateau for the last 5 days but hopefully it will break this weekend. I don't worry about plateau's though unless they go on longer than a month since it is usually the body's was of dealing with the change it has gone through and preparing for change to come. I have also really increased the amount of protein I am eating so that I am not losing lean muscle mass along with fat.

I hope everyone is having a super week and has a great weekend ahead!

Take care,
Datenshi

sdereski

I've plateaued for the last year and am slowly on an upward trend. I just cannot figure out what works for me and what doesn't. Ugh!
I have now incorporated weight training into my exercise, going 3x wk. Trying to do some cardio right after as I read that is when you start to "burn the fat".
So far...no change. Ugh. Some say "eat more" when I do, I see the scales climb, so I cut back, I get back down to where I was and there i sit.
I've tried changing things up, tried fasting, tried kickstarting, and nada.
BUT...............the most important thing is that I keep on keepin on and I am motivated to do so daily by so many amazing people on this site.

magglett

I've plateaued for the last year and am slowly on an upward trend. I just cannot figure out what works for me and what doesn't. Ugh!
I have now incorporated weight training into my exercise, going 3x wk. Trying to do some cardio right after as I read that is when you start to "burn the fat".
So far...no change. Ugh. Some say "eat more" when I do, I see the scales climb, so I cut back, I get back down to where I was and there i sit.
I've tried changing things up, tried fasting, tried kickstarting, and nada.
BUT...............the most important thing is that I keep on keepin on and I am motivated to do so daily by so many amazing people on this site.

I'm thinking that maybe your body is happy and healthy at the weight you're at ... you are so living a healthy lifestyle now ... That's awesome :drinker:

datenshi

I've plateaued for the last year and am slowly on an upward trend. I just cannot figure out what works for me and what doesn't. Ugh!
I have now incorporated weight training into my exercise, going 3x wk. Trying to do some cardio right after as I read that is when you start to "burn the fat".
So far...no change. Ugh. Some say "eat more" when I do, I see the scales climb, so I cut back, I get back down to where I was and there i sit.
I've tried changing things up, tried fasting, tried kickstarting, and nada.
BUT...............the most important thing is that I keep on keepin on and I am motivated to do so daily by so many amazing people on this site.

Something that was suggested to me if you are working out and not losing is that your body may not be getting or at least not absorbing the nutrients it needs so it holds onto the fat. Also to increase your protein intake and make sure to balance it between meat based protein from lean meats like chicken and fish and plant based protien such as from soy products. And also to avoid dairy products as they coat your organs including the villi in your intestines that absorb the nutrients with mucus so that it makes it harder for your body to absorb the nutrients in food and then they pass through you.

Granted, this information came from some nutrition classes I am taking that are sponsored by Herbalife and they try to sell you their product. Some of the info about dairy products is backed up by things I learned in university classes on nutrition. Dairy doesn't really create the mucus but it thickens it so that the villi don't work as well.

I am currently targeting about 125 mg of protien a day but still staying within my calories and carbs etc. I love fat free milk though so I won't be giving it up. I did cut back from 2 litres a day to 1 litre so it's a start..lol.

Take care,
Datenshi

racergirl1991

Help! Im trying to feed three of us on $300/month...me, my husband and my son (hes 15). Spending more is not an option as I only make minimum wage (two college degrees and no jobs available) and 300 is pushing the envelope at the moment, I have to eat what my family is eating. To complicate matters my son cannot eat vegetables (he totally lacks the enzyme that digests them) so any sugestions on how to do this????? Im so stresed at the moment that I'm once again gaining instead of losing....back up to 151lbs and that just totally pisses me off. I'm about to just give up...seems like I will never be thin again and I'm tired of killing myself working out to see NO results!!!

trimformecmb

Help! Im trying to feed three of us on $300/month...me, my husband and my son (hes 15). Spending more is not an option as I only make minimum wage (two college degrees and no jobs available) and 300 is pushing the envelope at the moment, I have to eat what my family is eating. To complicate matters my son cannot eat vegetables (he totally lacks the enzyme that digests them) so any sugestions on how to do this????? Im so stresed at the moment that I'm once again gaining instead of losing....back up to 151lbs and that just totally pisses me off. I'm about to just give up...seems like I will never be thin again and I'm tired of killing myself working out to see NO results!!!

wow, tough situation.....first and foremost...DONT GIVE UP!!!! YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!!!!!
are coupons an option? I am not a big user of them, but i know alot of folks who do and have alot of success.....
second, where do you live? Is there an option for a co-op. Where we are there are a few that you put in hours at the store and get bulk food for a discount......
Hang in there.......Things will get better!!!!

profjan6

Help! Im trying to feed three of us on $300/month...me, my husband and my son (hes 15). Spending more is not an option as I only make minimum wage (two college degrees and no jobs available) and 300 is pushing the envelope at the moment, I have to eat what my family is eating. To complicate matters my son cannot eat vegetables (he totally lacks the enzyme that digests them) so any sugestions on how to do this????? Im so stresed at the moment that I'm once again gaining instead of losing....back up to 151lbs and that just totally pisses me off. I'm about to just give up...seems like I will never be thin again and I'm tired of killing myself working out to see NO results!!!

I don't know if you have time since you work so much, but sometimes if you cook in bulk and then freeze portions it can save a bundle. Fresh fruits and veggies are expensive at times, but if you only buy what is in season maybe that will help also. Don't give up and don't give in! You can do this. Buy canned stuff on sale, too. So what if it isn't always fresh? You are still going to eat the good stuff. Hang in there. If I think of anything else I will write!

racergirl1991

Thank you Christine and Pro....Im not sure what Im going to do yet. Hoping for one of the other jobs I have applied for to come through or find another part time one (I have about 200 applications out there). Just feel like Im in a bottomless pit at the moment. Thinking the gloomy, cold weather isnt helping either. Things have to get better...right?

profjan6

Yes, things will get better! Sounds like you are such a serious, hardworking person.....it WILL pay off. Jobs are so tight out there, but the hard work is usually worth it and something will come through.Try to stay positive and take care of yourself!! You need to feel healthy so you can do what you need to do. Hope everyone is having a good Sunday!

sdereski

Help! Im trying to feed three of us on $300/month...me, my husband and my son (hes 15). Spending more is not an option as I only make minimum wage (two college degrees and no jobs available) and 300 is pushing the envelope at the moment, I have to eat what my family is eating. To complicate matters my son cannot eat vegetables (he totally lacks the enzyme that digests them) so any sugestions on how to do this????? Im so stresed at the moment that I'm once again gaining instead of losing....back up to 151lbs and that just totally pisses me off. I'm about to just give up...seems like I will never be thin again and I'm tired of killing myself working out to see NO results!!!

is there a food bank in your area? I know in our small town we have one, and ANYONE can go - no questions asked. If anyone needs to go - it is you! That is a tough situation for sure! Even if you can get your staples there and use the money to buy the fresh produce you require.
As was mentioned, coupons can be a huge help as well.
good luck to you! I'll say a little prayer that one of the jobs comes through for you - you so deserve the break!

racergirl1991

Good news...we had our weigh in for the fitness challenge at work and I did ok. Only lost 3 pounds but went down 2% in body fat, not bad for 8 weeks!!! At least I am happy with it!

magglett

Good news...we had our weigh in for the fitness challenge at work and I did ok. Only lost 3 pounds but went down 2% in body fat, not bad for 8 weeks!!! At least I am happy with it!

Way to go!!!

trimformecmb

Good news...we had our weigh in for the fitness challenge at work and I did ok. Only lost 3 pounds but went down 2% in body fat, not bad for 8 weeks!!! At least I am happy with it!

LITTLE VICTORIES!!!!!!!
hang in there........here if you need.....

magglett

Flower bed is prepared ... weeds are pulled … need to add more soil ... but now alas … the rain is back ... hope to plant the pansies soon.

racergirl1991

Im going to get flowers on Friday!! Can't wait...only have enough room for pots on the deck, we basicly have no yard. But it will put a bit of color out there!!

sdereski

Magglett you are a genius with your fancy pics n posts. I so enjoy them. :happy:

profjan6

Planted my flowers on Mother's Day weekend and with all the rain they look fantastic! Just so nice to see colors and greenery out there after such a long, snowy winter!
Trying to stay optimistic here, but I feel like this process is so slow and I get the blahs about it. Oh well, I guess we are all in the same boat!

racergirl1991

Planted my flowers on Mother's Day weekend and with all the rain they look fantastic! Just so nice to see colors and greenery out there after such a long, snowy winter!
Trying to stay optimistic here, but I feel like this process is so slow and I get the blahs about it. Oh well, I guess we are all in the same boat!

If I had planted anything on Mother's Day I would have had to replant! It only warmed up last week and its still below freezing most nights yet! BLAH!

sdereski

It's a beautiful day in paradis today, but when it's not, it's hell.