Standing up for myself

antijen

After reading this I've changed my mind. Tell her to buy the ingredients and that you'll teach her to bake her own things!

TourThePast

I really wouldn't let her attitude bother you for a moment, she is hardly going to put a gun to your head until you bake lots of free cakes for her!

Say no, mean it, and then don't give it a second thought.

You have already been generous by baking for her, by demanding more, she is overstepping her boundaries. Freebies should be a nice surprise, not an obligation.

Gerkenstein

tell her to look into bakery prices and she will see she's getting a great deal. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself because it seems she is taking advantage of your good nature.

I have difficulty telling people no and standing up for myself too. I would even have a list of local bakery prices and give it to her. Seems like a great idea. Family or not, *kitten* ain't free! :laugh:

therobinator

Tell her that because of all your other (full-paying) orders, you don't have time to do her orders without being compensated in some fashion. I like the other posters idea of asking her to go out and buy the ingredients (so you don't have to front the money) and then tell her you are doing the baking part for her for "free."

magichatter06

Tell her that because of all your other (full-paying) orders, you don't have time to do her orders without being compensated in some fashion. I like the other posters idea of asking her to go out and buy the ingredients (so you don't have to front the money) and then tell her you are doing the baking part for her for "free."

Agree!:flowerforyou:


Or you could tell her to go pay full retail at some other bakery if she doesn't like your half off deal!

dlaplume2

I would tell her that although you have made them in the past, you are starting up a buisness. Your accountant told you, that you need to keep track of all inventory and you need her to at least cover the cost of the ingredients. If she balks at that, just tell her you are too busy with paying customers.

thumper44

She is taking advantage of you.
Asking for all these baked good and not wanting to give you money "family does it for free" is her excuse to try and get things for free.
Stand up for yourself, tell her again you could do it for 50%, and if not, tell her you have paying orders that you need to work on.

Then give her a copy of the recipe, and tell her good luck.

kimberly428

I agree with this! But make sure you tell her this is the only time you will do this and next time it will be full price. How rude of her!

If you want to do her the favor, give her the grocery list to buy all the ingredients for you. That way at least you're not out of that money - but still that is a lot of time you will be out of. I'd still charge her.

Nailrep

I would probably tell her if she misunderstood the whole business thing, that it is okay this time. Next time would be full price though.

Voncreepy2

:grumble: She sounds spoiled......what's next......keeping her kids......mowing her lawn................yadddayadddayaddda!? I have a relative like this too. Very hard type of person to deal with. If she is so forward and direct, she shouldn't mind if you are. I would tell her you it is a business now and you can't make anything giving away time and money like that. You will be setting yourself back. Also, now that she thinks she has found a free bakery you will be the first one she calls for a free cake. I would stick to the 50% discount and if she goes elsewhere, then it's her loss. if you don't stand up to her nicely now, she will be the type to walk on you whenver she wants something and make family relations miserable later. You will resent her and she will be reaping all of the benefits. Good luck. I hate issues like this they are sooooo unecessary and tiresome. It should go without saying!!!!