Am I going to be on a "diet" for the rest of my life?
Rworthy
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If so, kill me now. I want to eat the delicious foods that are terrible for me. When I cut those out, I just find other vices to fill the void. I'm starting therapy again but I don't want to commit to eating only healthy foods for the rest of my life. Any advice?
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OMG I've wondered the same thing. At least with this program, you can indulge once in a while. There's no way I'll ever be able to eat whatever I want like I did when I was skinnier
Or people that take diet pills to lose weight, are you really going to take those for the rest of their life?0 -
dont restrict your foods you love...eat them in MODERATION with in your calorie limits
its not a diet its a lifestyle change0 -
Unfortunately, you have to make it a way of life. Not just a diet. Otherwise you'll end up a yoyo.0
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technically you are on a 'diet' from the moment you are born til the moment you die.
the true meaning of diet is simply what you eat.
whether you eat low car, low fat . across the board balanced or mcdonalds every day that is still you diet.
so yep yo are on a diet the rest of your life0 -
You're going to have to be mindful of what you eat for the rest of your life yes. That doesn't mean you can't indulge but it does mean that you won't be able to eat mindlessly or eat whatever you want, however much you want and as often as you want it. So you'll be just like everyone else.0
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Well, it depends. I think deprivation is a sure way to find your way to overeating.
My suggestion, is do enjoy the food you love, in portions you can control. Speaking for myself, I know that I want this to be forever, so I have to learn how to eat forever.
Also, I;m not one for suffering, so making sure I can eat what I want by exercising, and by counting my calories and planning, is key. You can do this!!0 -
I know right? The thought of dieting and exercising from here until eternity kills me. However, the thought of gaining another 30lbs every year because I'm being lazy and eating whatever I want kills me 10x more.0
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Everyone is correct. Its not a diet it needs to be a life style change. One of the most important things I have leared with MFP is you can enjoy what you love, but in moderation. What has helped me is learning to find a release that is NOT food. I always associate food with everything: Happiness - sadness - ext: Now I found running. So find whatever works for you and you will win in the end
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Unfortunately, you have to make it a way of life. Not just a diet. Otherwise you'll end up a yoyo.
I agree and after a while you won't want anything but healthier foods. Besides, food can be "healthy" and just as good with recipes that are almost like what you like but made with better ingredients. Cruise the internet and you'll find tons of new discoveries.0 -
You can eat those things, but if you eat them too often you will get fat again.I want to eat the delicious foods that are terrible for me.
So you'd better get your head round the idea, otherwise it's pretty pointless losing weight, because you know that if you go back to your old habits you're going to put all the weight back on straight away.
The good news is that if you exercise, you can eat those things a bit more often, if you do manage to build some muscle (which wouldn't be easy but can be done) that helps too. Plus, when your body is healthy, that makes it easier to keep your mind healthy too - so if you're not exercising, I suggest you get stuck in and start developing an addiction to those lovely endorphins.
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If so, kill me now. I want to eat the delicious foods that are terrible for me. When I cut those out, I just find other vices to fill the void. I'm starting therapy again but I don't want to commit to eating only healthy foods for the rest of my life. Any advice?
You don't have to eat ONLY healthy foods, but they should be the bulk of your diet. Everything else in moderation...I often find though that most things don't taste as good as I think they should for the calories/fat etc. that go with them. Better be darn worth it!! Otherwise, I have no problem passing these days.0 -
I guess I don't understand what "moderation" is. The other day I had some lite soup, a garden salad with only veggies and fat free dressing with a corn muffin. There was no protein, and 1400 mg of sodium! This was supposed to be a "healthy" lunch. I didn't eat the sandwich with bread (AH! carbs!) and deli meats (AH! Sodium!!!) , no cheese (AH! dairy)! I try to eat the right things and even THEY'RE wrong!!!! I don't know what to do/eat sometimes I just crawl into a ball and cry!!!!! I know it's a lifestyle change, but I can't imagine what that lifestyle is. I've given up SO much!!! I don't know what else to do.
I have changed my lifestyle - exercising 1.5 hours - 2 hours three times a week - before I was doing ABSOLUTELY nothing....The weight loss is about 2 pounds lost per month. I don't drink soda. I don't want to admit HOW MUCH candy and sweets I used to eat! Now I've cut that into about 8 and am eating 1/8 of what I used to. I used to eat out 5x a week, or more! Fast food - yes. Super size - hell yes. Now I might eat a snack wrap every now and then, but never what I used to. If THIS ISN'T A LIFESTLYE change, I don't know what is. I cant help seeing it as all unhealthy or all healthy, and can't figure out a healthy inbetween, or "moderation" everyone speaks of. I feel like I'm not succeeding at anything in my life, at all!!!! All I can think about is going to every fast food place in town, ordering one of everything, and choking on it.0 -
Unfortunately, you have to make it a way of life. Not just a diet. Otherwise you'll end up a yoyo.
I agree. But, the good news is that the longer you eat healthy foods, the more you enjoy them, and you won't even want the junk you want now. You couldn't pay me to eat a piece of cheesecake now - something that I never thought I would want to give up a couple of years ago. My best advice: Take it one day at a time. Don't think about "the rest of your life" because if you stay on track, you will be a different person with different values, and everything in terms of your diet will have a different meaning in the future.0 -
Unfortunately, you have to make it a way of life. Not just a diet. Otherwise you'll end up a yoyo.
I agree and after a while you won't want anything but healthier foods. Besides, food can be "healthy" and just as good with recipes that are almost like what you like but made with better ingredients. Cruise the internet and you'll find tons of new discoveries.
I agree is not a diet is lifestyle change, I know exsactly what you mean b/c I have thought that and I don't see how people do it but everyone is doing it and have reach they goal so can we. Keep up you good work and good luck!!!
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2 things:
1. Don't call it a "diet" you aren't on a diet, you are changing your life by changing what you eat, how you eat it, and how much you eat. It's a 'lifestyle' change. For the better I might add, you're down almost 30lb! Way to go!
2. Imagine how boring your life would be if you never had an indulgence ever again. You still have to LIVE happily, but you need to make good decisions. You're allowed to have chocolate, you're allowed to have chips, you're allowed to even have a beer, but you HAVE to remember that the hardest muscle to get into shape is the SELF CONTROL muscle... It's also the biggest. It's what gets us into these messes anyway. You are allowed to have something tasty, a treat, maybe even every day, but you MUST control the consumption, with moderation.
YOU my dear look gorgeous! But do you think you'll feel gorgeous on the inside if you're always wondering when this "diet" will be over and you can enjoy life again? You should be enjoying life through this process, and learning how to enjoy it, and the simple pleasures of life that go along with living healthy, like enjoying a night out with friends, or a few strawberries under the chocolate fountain, but not the entire bowl of strawberries dredged in it. Splurge a little every once in a while, but record it, and if you go over, make up for it with a little extra push at the gym. And definitely post on here when you are feeling down, there's always someone up for a pep-talk! 0 -
everyone's already said it, but you can't think of it as a diet! it's a lifestyle change. you can eat anything you want! just watch how MUCH of it you eat. i would have never made this much progress if i gave up everything i love. sure french fries and candy aren't "good" for you, but i refuse to stop eating them! i just have a little bit and not every day! if you think of it as depriving yourself of things you enjoy, then you'll never stick to it.0
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Healthy according to who?The other day I had some lite soup, a garden salad with only veggies and fat free dressing with a corn muffin. There was no protein, and 1400 mg of sodium! This was supposed to be a "healthy" lunch.
If you're not eating properly you're going to end up hungry and miserable. Healthy food doesn't have to be horrible; there are plenty of great cookbooks and online resources which give recipes for a balanced healthy diet.0 -
You can eat those things, but if you eat them too often you will get fat again.I want to eat the delicious foods that are terrible for me.
So you'd better get your head round the idea, otherwise it's pretty pointless losing weight, because you know that if you go back to your old habits you're going to put all the weight back on straight away.
The good news is that if you exercise, you can eat those things a bit more often, if you do manage to build some muscle (which wouldn't be easy but can be done) that helps too. Plus, when your body is healthy, that makes it easier to keep your mind healthy too - so if you're not exercising, I suggest you get stuck in and start developing an addiction to those lovely endorphins.
I am actually exercising MY *kitten* OFF!!! I'm sore immediately afterward (circuit weight training, running and more cardio 3x a week), am sore until my next workout, and can barely complete my routines. It doesn't matter. Everything I want to eat, whether it's "healthy" or not, makes me gain weight! BTW what is healthy anyway? Everything is terrible, even soups and salads...what gives?0 -
a few notes here:
1) A diet should not be hard to follow, this ensures failure.
2) What is your definition of "healthy foods" ?
3) Give an example of foods you miss.
Eating healthy isn't hard or bland. If it is, you're doing something wrong.0 -
You CAN eat the stuff you love that is not good for you, it is all about moderation. That is key, and something I have to remind myself of often.
At Christmas you best believe I have having a peice of pie. But one peice, not 3 or 4. I am going to eat some yummy bad for me Mexican food on my birthday, but it is one meal, not a week of pigging out.
LIfe is not worth living if I can never ever eat the things I love.0 -
2 things:
1. Don't call it a "diet" you aren't on a diet, you are changing your life by changing what you eat, how you eat it, and how much you eat. It's a 'lifestyle' change. For the better I might add, you're down almost 30lb! Way to go!
2. Imagine how boring your life would be if you never had an indulgence ever again. You still have to LIVE happily, but you need to make good decisions. You're allowed to have chocolate, you're allowed to have chips, you're allowed to even have a beer, but you HAVE to remember that the hardest muscle to get into shape is the SELF CONTROL muscle... It's also the biggest. It's what gets us into these messes anyway. You are allowed to have something tasty, a treat, maybe even every day, but you MUST control the consumption, with moderation.
YOU my dear look gorgeous! But do you think you'll feel gorgeous on the inside if you're always wondering when this "diet" will be over and you can enjoy life again? You should be enjoying life through this process, and learning how to enjoy it, and the simple pleasures of life that go along with living healthy, like enjoying a night out with friends, or a few strawberries under the chocolate fountain, but not the entire bowl of strawberries dredged in it. Splurge a little every once in a while, but record it, and if you go over, make up for it with a little extra push at the gym. And definitely post on here when you are feeling down, there's always someone up for a pep-talk!
Thank you. For the record, I've lost 33-35 lbs. And I am not happy. I don't have friends, I'm new in town, no job, no family here, nothing that makes me happy. I thought losing weight and exercising would make me feel better about myself, and just from getting healthy. Now it's more of a burden - something I can't master and that won't go away. I need to learn how to eat - it's been a whole year and I still haven't figured it out. Thanks for the kind words. You're right. The problem is me - I know that, but I just don't know what I need to do to be happy and healthy and to eat food that fills me up without making me fat.0 -
You just need to explore some yummy healthy foods. I eat all the time, and i loveeee about 90% of what i eat. (sorry breakfast, i will eat you, but i will never love you! haha) I think you need to go on a food exploration mission. Hummus, edamame, sushi, black beans and rice, chicken with spices, dill - the spice of the gods, home made soups.....once you start finding healthy foods that you love, you wont feel so bad.
And, don't make yourself eat something you really dont like just because its "healthy." they make low sodium deli meat, low fat cheese and whole grain bread, and they are all DELISH! throw a pickle on the side and now we're talking!
It's gonna feel more normal soon, don't give up!0 -
I am glad you are starting therapy. That was the best money I have ever spent on myself. Seems like you are eating to get rid of emotions/make you happy, which was what I was doing too. Eating better is not going to make the emotions go away, it is probably going to make them more prominant. But eating to cover them up is not going to make them better either. They have to be dealt with seperate from food...and seperate from food is where they need to stay. I know, easier said than done!2 things:
1. Don't call it a "diet" you aren't on a diet, you are changing your life by changing what you eat, how you eat it, and how much you eat. It's a 'lifestyle' change. For the better I might add, you're down almost 30lb! Way to go!
2. Imagine how boring your life would be if you never had an indulgence ever again. You still have to LIVE happily, but you need to make good decisions. You're allowed to have chocolate, you're allowed to have chips, you're allowed to even have a beer, but you HAVE to remember that the hardest muscle to get into shape is the SELF CONTROL muscle... It's also the biggest. It's what gets us into these messes anyway. You are allowed to have something tasty, a treat, maybe even every day, but you MUST control the consumption, with moderation.
YOU my dear look gorgeous! But do you think you'll feel gorgeous on the inside if you're always wondering when this "diet" will be over and you can enjoy life again? You should be enjoying life through this process, and learning how to enjoy it, and the simple pleasures of life that go along with living healthy, like enjoying a night out with friends, or a few strawberries under the chocolate fountain, but not the entire bowl of strawberries dredged in it. Splurge a little every once in a while, but record it, and if you go over, make up for it with a little extra push at the gym. And definitely post on here when you are feeling down, there's always someone up for a pep-talk!
Thank you. For the record, I've lost 33-35 lbs. And I am not happy. I don't have friends, I'm new in town, no job, no family here, nothing that makes me happy. I thought losing weight and exercising would make me feel better about myself, and just from getting healthy. Now it's more of a burden - something I can't master and that won't go away. I need to learn how to eat - it's been a whole year and I still haven't figured it out. Thanks for the kind words. You're right. The problem is me - I know that, but I just don't know what I need to do to be happy and healthy and to eat food that fills me up without making me fat.0 -
Sorry, I am being a postwhore on this, but look at www.skinnytaste.com, it has some great SUPER yummy recipies that are lighter versions of things that I love.You just need to explore some yummy healthy foods. I eat all the time, and i loveeee about 90% of what i eat. (sorry breakfast, i will eat you, but i will never love you! haha) I think you need to go on a food exploration mission. Hummus, edamame, sushi, black beans and rice, chicken with spices, dill - the spice of the gods, home made soups.....once you start finding healthy foods that you love, you wont feel so bad.
And, don't make yourself eat something you really dont like just because its "healthy." they make low sodium deli meat, low fat cheese and whole grain bread, and they are all DELISH! throw a pickle on the side and now we're talking!
It's gonna feel more normal soon, don't give up!0 -
Here's the daily scenario I go through:a few notes here:
1) A diet should not be hard to follow, this ensures failure.
2) What is your definition of "healthy foods" ?
3) Give an example of foods you miss.
Eating healthy isn't hard or bland. If it is, you're doing something wrong.
It's 11:30 a.m. and I'm starving. I probably had a cup of coffee for breakfast about an hour ago.
What's for lunch? Sandwich? No. Bread. Meat. Cheese. None of that is good for you. Sodium, fat, cholesterol.
Salad? Lettuce and carrots? No. No protein. Dressing full of fat, sodium. No carbs - you need some carbs.
TV dinner? HELL NO! Soduim, carbs, fat.
This is when I give up and start crying. What the hell can I eat??????
This also happens at dinner when I've just finally cooled down from my workout. Now if we want to eat something, I have to cook it. Usually I'm way too exhausted to cook, so we think about ordering something. Every single thing that we can order or pick up is terrible for you...So I start crying again! What the hell can I eat?????????
Some days are fine, I just end up eating the crap I'm not supposed to - A plain hotdog on a wheat bun. Some baked chips. A diet soda. Guess what? I'm hungry again in about an hour. ...the cycle continues.0 -
I will be eating heathy/ smaller portions for life. Ive strayed before and I ALWAYS gain like 15 pounds. There is no way around it0
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I think you are over thinking. Deep breaths
Here's the daily scenario I go through:a few notes here:
1) A diet should not be hard to follow, this ensures failure.
2) What is your definition of "healthy foods" ?
3) Give an example of foods you miss.
Eating healthy isn't hard or bland. If it is, you're doing something wrong.
It's 11:30 a.m. and I'm starving. I probably had a cup of coffee for breakfast about an hour ago.
What's for lunch? Sandwich? No. Bread. Meat. Cheese. None of that is good for you. Sodium, fat, cholesterol.
Salad? Lettuce and carrots? No. No protein. Dressing full of fat, sodium. No carbs - you need some carbs.
TV dinner? HELL NO! Soduim, carbs, fat.
This is when I give up and start crying. What the hell can I eat??????
This also happens at dinner when I've just finally cooled down from my workout. Now if we want to eat something, I have to cook it. Usually I'm way too exhausted to cook, so we think about ordering something. Every single thing that we can order or pick up is terrible for you...So I start crying again! What the hell can I eat?????????
Some days are fine, I just end up eating the crap I'm not supposed to - A plain hotdog on a wheat bun. Some baked chips. A diet soda. Guess what? I'm hungry again in about an hour. ...the cycle continues.
I am going to friend request you and you can look at my diary for the last couple days. I do eat some of that crap, and I know it is not the BEST for me, but it is also what works for me at this point in my life. I eat frozen meals. I eat carrots. I cook quick and easy dinners. In a time crunch? Subway is an awesome "fast food" if you are in a crunch.
I work full time and go to school full time, so I often choose the easy way. And you know what? I dont care It is working for me right now, and that is all that matters. 0 -
Unfortunately, you have to make it a way of life. Not just a diet. Otherwise you'll end up a yoyo.
I agree. But, the good news is that the longer you eat healthy foods, the more you enjoy them, and you won't even want the junk you want now. You couldn't pay me to eat a piece of cheesecake now - something that I never thought I would want to give up a couple of years ago. My best advice: Take it one day at a time. Don't think about "the rest of your life" because if you stay on track, you will be a different person with different values, and everything in terms of your diet will have a different meaning in the future.
Very true. Someone ordered chocolate cheese cake for me at a meal out last night. I just ate the strawberry off the top and left the rest. It didn't interest me at all, so I left it.0 -
I think you are over thinking. Deep breaths
I am going to friend request you and you can look at my diary for the last couple days. I do eat some of that crap, and I know it is not the BEST for me, but it is also what works for me at this point in my life. I eat frozen meals. I eat carrots. I cook quick and easy dinners. In a time crunch? Subway is an awesome "fast food" if you are in a crunch.
I work full time and go to school full time, so I often choose the easy way. And you know what? I dont care It is working for me right now, and that is all that matters.
Thanks, I looked at your diary. The thing is I need at least 100 g of protein in less than 1600 calories. It is virtually impossible - in fact I've never done it. I'm usually way low on protein and doing this bodybuilding workout, I am probably losing muscle and gaining fat in the process.0 -
I guess I don't understand what "moderation" is. The other day I had some lite soup, a garden salad with only veggies and fat free dressing with a corn muffin. There was no protein, and 1400 mg of sodium! This was supposed to be a "healthy" lunch. I didn't eat the sandwich with bread (AH! carbs!) and deli meats (AH! Sodium!!!) , no cheese (AH! dairy)! I try to eat the right things and even THEY'RE wrong!!!! I don't know what to do/eat sometimes I just crawl into a ball and cry!!!!! I know it's a lifestyle change, but I can't imagine what that lifestyle is. I've given up SO much!!! I don't know what else to do.
On the sodium front, pretty much everything you buy that is bottled, dried, packaged or canned has sodium. The Progresso Traditional soups that are supposed to be so good for you, have almost 1000mg of salt per serving, IE, buy the lower sodium versions. Moderation and self control is the absolute hardest part of ALL of this... If you buy the pre-sliced deli ham from near the hotdogs @ the grocery store, you'll see that the sodium isn't too bad, it's nearly fat free AND low cal.... You can buy whole grain/whole wheat breads/rolls/flats, you don't have to cut out carbs, but for some people it makes them feel like crap after they eat it. Don't buy fat free, buy light, or low fat, they load up the fat free stuff with salt to improve the taste. If you need to add salt to anything, buy a box of granulated sea salt, not only does it taste better, but it's better for you. If you're constantly hungry still, you need to bulk up on fiber and protein, on average, a 1lb block of swiss cheese (hannaford) has 16 1 oz servings, and are only 100 calories each, and are high in protein.
Another thing to help with moderation, portion your food into baggies before you start eating it. If you buy a block of cheese, cut it into serving sizes. If you buy a box of dried fruit (which is loaded with sugar) divide it into baggies with one serving in each etc. Do you have a kitchen scale? I suggest getting one that measures oz and grams.
You CAN do this! You can change your life, your habits and take control.0
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