Diet sabotage by partner :(

MissKim

Girl, I am in your exact shoes! on a daily basis!! only my honey complains non stop about being overweight. and then goes to the store and brings me home my favorite treats. I have battled with this long enough. From here on out I am saying NO! we have to make this decision for ourself. If he brings something else home, he can eat it , or i'll give it to my nieces and nephews or something. You have to stay strong, and I'm planning on it too!! Hang in there girly!! and just make sure and keep the communication open with him. Tell him how you feel about everything. communication is key!!

dfborders

I had to have a straight out talk with my husband. He has put on a few pounds over the past few years and wasn't being very supportive - why - I don't know. He didn't even realize he was doing it. I don't harp on him though to eat this or eat that or how much fat/calories is in something he eats- just like I had to make the decision to lose weight and watch what I eat - he will have to make that decision for himself. Now, if he wants something that I can't eat I just don't eat it. I will make my own dinner or stop by the store and pick up the makings for a salad that I love but is healthy. I do keep Weight Watchers Ice Cream treats in the freezer for those evenings that he and my stepson are eating something really yummy - this way I don't feel deprived. I also let him check out my diary whenever he wants. I tried losing weight a few years ago and got sick - that is his biggest concern - so since he can check my diary out whenever - he feels much more comfortable with this diet.

TheGoktor

Just an update, we had a chat. I explained that having junk food around makes it very difficult fo me to stick to my food plan. He has volunteered to keep junk in the office which i rarely go into I realise that trying to project my weightloss journey onto him was a bad idea. Successful weightloss only occurs when you choose to do it. So for now we are agreed, takeout once a fornight, junk food hidden, homecooked meals every night. Thank you for all the suggestions & support. Fresh start next week

Yay! I am so pleased for you! And for your man too because if you're happier, your relationship is bound to be too. Another positive thing to add to all the other positive things you are doing! Well done, my friend! :flowerforyou:

concordancia

Just an update, we had a chat. I explained that having junk food around makes it very difficult fo me to stick to my food plan. He has volunteered to keep junk in the office which i rarely go into I realise that trying to project my weightloss journey onto him was a bad idea. Successful weightloss only occurs when you choose to do it. So for now we are agreed, takeout once a fornight, junk food hidden, homecooked meals every night. Thank you for all the suggestions & support. Fresh start next week

I am very happy that y'all found a solution.

I am even happier that it includes the term "fortnight"

SoCalSwimmerDude

Ladies, ladies, ladies... As one poster said, us men are just a different species. The LAST thing that will get a guy to do what you want is by nagging him. That will only make him want more "man time" (I get 30 minutes of man time every night after work which includes not talking and watching something which requires no brain cells... like Family Guy). After that, I workout , cook dinner for us, etc. As much as my wife had let me know that she wasn't happy w/ my weight (and I wasn't more than 20 lbs over), it was me who had to make the change.... and she's the reason I'm doing it outside of my own personal desires.

The heart to heart sit-down was a good idea. After that, you can only do what you do and hopefully set a good example. I promise he doesn't feel good about his weight, and if you stay on your path, he may eventually join on... or he may not?