MFP Dating Thread

SoldierDad

Ok, I don't know what everybody else is doing but I am looking at a mound of paperwork on my desk and I am trying to avoid it. So because of that I am going to start another MFP dating thread. Lol which is in of itself funny cause my life is so busy (work fulltime, have full custody of 2 small kids, coach, etc) that I do not have time to date. But this is mainly to distract me from work :-) So what are the qualities you look for in someone when you decide to date? For me (in no particular order)...

1. Must share the same faith as me
2. Must love kids
3. Must have kids and/or want more kids
4. Must be honest & faithful
5. Has to be a country girl at heart
6. Has to have a silly side
7. Must be compassionate, passionate and kind
8. Must respect that the kids always come first.

What does everybody else's list look like?

jend114

Caring
Must like kids and accept my daughter
tall
can make me laugh/funny
likes to cuddle
romantic
sweet

Triquetra

Be employed
Not live with mama (after 35)
No smoking, drugs, heavy drinkers
Romantic and loves to cuddle
Likes Horror, Sci-Fi and Heavy Metal
Must get along with my kids

Sunshine_Girlie

I'm with you on just about everything you've listed..expect I'm into men. Ha.

1.) My faith is very pertinent. I am very involved in my church, so it would be nice to have someone who enjoys it as well.
2.) I was a preschool teacher six years and I am a substitute teacher now, majoring in elementary education. He better like kids. Haha. I do want twins if that is at all possible.
3.) He cannot smoke/drink/ or partake in drugs.
4.) I'm a seafood fanatic, especially oysters. It's no fun eating them alone.
5.) He has to have a serious side AND a silly side. It's okay to let loose sometimes.
6.) I like to be spontaneous. There are times where I want to just take off and go to a different town if money and time allow for it.
7.) I'm not a money blower..all the time. I like to spend money, but I know how important it is to live, so I don't think having to do something that costs money is important.
8.) Both sides of the family are important..mine and his. My brother never does anything with my side of the family and it kills my parents.
9.) Being romantic is a great too.

I could add more, but I'll stop here. lol

MOMvsFOOD

Be employed
Not live with mama (after 35)
No smoking, drugs, heavy drinkers
Romantic and loves to cuddle
Likes Horror, Sci-Fi and Heavy Metal
Must get along with my kids

Haha love the Mama part!

SoldierDad

I'm with you on just about everything you've listed..expect I'm into men. Ha.

1.) My faith is very pertinent. I am very involved in my church, so it would be nice to have someone who enjoys it as well.
2.) I was a preschool teacher six years and I am a substitute teacher now, majoring in elementary education. He better like kids. Haha. I do want twins if that is at all possible.
3.) He cannot smoke/drink/ or partake in drugs.
4.) I'm a seafood fanatic, especially oysters. It's no fun eating them alone.
5.) He has to have a serious side AND a silly side. It's okay to let loose sometimes.
6.) I like to be spontaneous. There are times where I want to just take off and go to a different town if money and time allow for it.
7.) I'm not a money blower..all the time. I liek to spend money, but I know how important it is to live, so I don't think having to do something that costs money is important.
8.) Both sides of the family are important..mine and his. My brother never does anything with my side of the family and it kills my parents.

I could add more, but I'll stop here. lol

I have never been able to date a woman who loves seafood. Every woman I ever dated hated it. I LOVEEEEEEEEEEe seafood. I sometimes even have fish for breakfast.

NicolCook

If things in this world would work out perfectly, I would look for these:

Goes to church with me
Loves my son
Would want more children
Communicate well (key to a successful relationship, I think)
Have a sense of humor
Likes to exercise with me
Enjoys doing "fun' things
Has a good/steady job

Wow......maybe my man is right.....I will never be happy

Sunshine_Girlie

I'm with you on just about everything you've listed..expect I'm into men. Ha.

1.) My faith is very pertinent. I am very involved in my church, so it would be nice to have someone who enjoys it as well.
2.) I was a preschool teacher six years and I am a substitute teacher now, majoring in elementary education. He better like kids. Haha. I do want twins if that is at all possible.
3.) He cannot smoke/drink/ or partake in drugs.
4.) I'm a seafood fanatic, especially oysters. It's no fun eating them alone.
5.) He has to have a serious side AND a silly side. It's okay to let loose sometimes.
6.) I like to be spontaneous. There are times where I want to just take off and go to a different town if money and time allow for it.
7.) I'm not a money blower..all the time. I liek to spend money, but I know how important it is to live, so I don't think having to do something that costs money is important.
8.) Both sides of the family are important..mine and his. My brother never does anything with my side of the family and it kills my parents.

I could add more, but I'll stop here. lol

I have never been able to date a woman who loves seafood. Every woman I ever dated hated it. I LOVEEEEEEEEEEe seafood. I sometimes even have fish for breakfast.

And I thought I was the only odd one! lol I eat fish for breakfast too.

NightOwl1

Must be a woman. Other than that, I'm flexible.

kelly6485

Must love my kids, and be willing to have more
Non-aggressive in nature
Enjoys cuddling and being close
Appreciates the value of family
Prefer Non smoking/not a heavy drinker
No drugs, a must!
Faithful and Trustworthy
I am CRAZY silly and goof around and tease A LOT, he must appreciate that and accept it

My3Rayz

Must be a woman. Other than that, I'm flexible.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Aren't most men?!?!

elleninez

1. Must not be/have ever been a drug addict.
2. Must not be an ex-con.
3. Must not be/have ever been a prostitute (yes, I'm talking about men.)
4. Must have a job.
5. Must have some sort of transportation.
6. Must respect me & my children.

Is it sad that I have personal stories behind EVERY ONE of these???

froglegjack

Let's see
Goes to church with me.
Sense of humor bordering on hysterical
Romantic
willing to ride bikes walk etc. with me
can read.
preferably Brown eyes
Willing to wait. For intimacy.
Even at my age that is important.
Not a smoker
that's about it. Unless they also want to eat a pizza occasionally Love seafood as well and like to wrestle

klt1030

Must want/want more kids

Must be employed

Must not smoke- and that means anything

Must love the beach!

Must not have any, let alone 3 counts of active sexual harassment cases going on

Must want to have my back at any give time 'cause I will have his

Must already be, or is willing to be on a living healthy frame of mind

Must like to cuddle and doesn't mind a tinge of PDA

Must hate chick flicks but love suspense/horror movies

Must love dogs-especially those that believe there isn't a problem weighing 75 pounds and thinking they are lap dogs

SoldierDad

I'm with you on just about everything you've listed..expect I'm into men. Ha.

1.) My faith is very pertinent. I am very involved in my church, so it would be nice to have someone who enjoys it as well.
2.) I was a preschool teacher six years and I am a substitute teacher now, majoring in elementary education. He better like kids. Haha. I do want twins if that is at all possible.
3.) He cannot smoke/drink/ or partake in drugs.
4.) I'm a seafood fanatic, especially oysters. It's no fun eating them alone.
5.) He has to have a serious side AND a silly side. It's okay to let loose sometimes.
6.) I like to be spontaneous. There are times where I want to just take off and go to a different town if money and time allow for it.
7.) I'm not a money blower..all the time. I liek to spend money, but I know how important it is to live, so I don't think having to do something that costs money is important.
8.) Both sides of the family are important..mine and his. My brother never does anything with my side of the family and it kills my parents.

I could add more, but I'll stop here. lol

I have never been able to date a woman who loves seafood. Every woman I ever dated hated it. I LOVEEEEEEEEEEe seafood. I sometimes even have fish for breakfast.

And I thought I was the only odd one! lol I eat fish for breakfast too.

Lol just must be me and you! You know we match eachothers list perfect. :-) Except that every once in a whiel I will have a glass of wine and go on an MFP mooning spreee!!!!!!!!!!!!! hehehe!

SoldierDad

Let's see
Goes to church with me.
Sense of humor bordering on hysterical
Romantic
willing to ride bikes walk etc. with me
can read.
preferably Brown eyes
Willing to wait. For intimacy.
Even at my age that is important.
Not a smoker
that's about it. Unless they also want to eat a pizza occasionally Love seafood as well and like to wrestle

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Loves to wrestle. :-) lol You know I am with you on the intimacy thign to. After my last girlfriend I decided not to be intimate outside of at elast being engaged.

ket_the_jet

Perfect combination of beauty, intelligence, and charisma.
-wtk

littttlelaurra

Be employed
Not live with mama (after 35)
No smoking, drugs, heavy drinkers
Romantic and loves to cuddle
Likes Horror, Sci-Fi and Heavy Metal
Must get along with my kids

that list has to be why I did so wrong in my last relationship my guy didnt have a single thing on that list infact was a red flag warning in neon to run run run lol.

1. he was laid off (for 3 yrs)
2. he did infact live with his momma and was 36 (had never moved out and still was in his childhood twin -furniture and all omg)
3. he smoked pot , did coke, and drank like a fish (didnt know this till after we dated )
4. wasnt remotely romantic, thought giving me a grocery store plant over flowers were more logical since they lasted longer than flowers (omg dont ever buy me a plant )
5. he thought heavy metal was posioning and that was why he had ringing in his ears (duh couldnt be the years of slacking off doing drugs at his momma house lol)
6. he never wanted to meet my daughter and when he had to he was completely freaked out and awkward around her asking if she couldnt go to her dads or something. ''sighs "

ok now for my list

1. must know how to frikkin chill out about life, it ends, how can you take something that ends too seriously?
2. must be open minded and want to try new things in life
3. isnt looking for a mommy even if he loves his own dearly
4. has to like being goofy, silly , romantic, holding hands and public displays of affection on a regular basis.
5. money can not be his motivating factor for living even if he is successful at his career
6. must be an avid music lover, and preferrably have read a book within the last 6 months lol.
7. to know that he is willing to do the things I like even if he isnt crazy about them, would in turn make it high on my list of to do things to do the things he likes even if I am not crazy about it either but just enjoying eachothers company would be enough to make near anything enjoyable.
8. has friends and a life outside of the relationship , I like my alone time with a guy but not into our relationship being a private island for two for all eternity lol.
9. looks are not so important, I do not have a preferrence, tall, short, fit, stout, long hair, bald, brown eyes, blue , non of that would matter in the long run, we all get wrinkles and go grey so ... honor, integrity, character, respect for yourself and others, that has to be a part of my man, its all about what he has going on inside is what I need to see shine ...
10. always hold me close and kiss me any chance he gets.

HannahPastoor

Ok, I don't know what everybody else is doing but I am looking at a mound of paperwork on my desk and I am trying to avoid it. So because of that I am going to start another MFP dating thread. Lol which is in of itself funny cause my life is so busy (work fulltime, have full custody of 2 small kids, coach, etc) that I do not have time to date. But this is mainly to distract me from work :-) So what are the qualities you look for in someone when you decide to date? For me (in no particular order)...

1. Must share the same faith as me
2. Must love kids
3. Must have kids and/or want more kids
4. Must be honest & faithful
5. Has to be a country girl at heart
6. Has to have a silly side
7. Must be compassionate, passionate and kind
8. Must respect that the kids always come first.

What does everybody else's list look like?

1. Check!
2. Check!
3. I want about 15 kids...No joke. - Adoption : )
4. Check!
5. Check!
6. Check check! Can a person be TO silly?
7. Check!
8. Check!

To bad I am kinda young : )

binary_jester

Someone who won't pepper spray me and run.

On the other hand, my girlfriend had to lower her standards substantially.

SoldierDad

Someone who won't pepper spray me and run.

On the other hand, my girlfriend had to lower her standards substantially.

Anytime a woman dates any man she has lowered her standards. :-)

SoldierDad

Ok, I don't know what everybody else is doing but I am looking at a mound of paperwork on my desk and I am trying to avoid it. So because of that I am going to start another MFP dating thread. Lol which is in of itself funny cause my life is so busy (work fulltime, have full custody of 2 small kids, coach, etc) that I do not have time to date. But this is mainly to distract me from work :-) So what are the qualities you look for in someone when you decide to date? For me (in no particular order)...

1. Must share the same faith as me
2. Must love kids
3. Must have kids and/or want more kids
4. Must be honest & faithful
5. Has to be a country girl at heart
6. Has to have a silly side
7. Must be compassionate, passionate and kind
8. Must respect that the kids always come first.

What does everybody else's list look like?

1. Check!
2. Check!
3. I want about 15 kids...No joke. - Adoption : )
4. Check!
5. Check!
6. Check check! Can a person be TO silly?
7. Check!
8. Check!

To bad I am kinda young : )

And I am pretty old! lol :-) 34.5 years old!

My3Rayz

1. Must not be/have ever been a drug addict.
2. Must not be an ex-con.
3. Must not be/have ever been a prostitute (yes, I'm talking about men.)
4. Must have a job.
5. Must have some sort of transportation.
6. Must respect me & my children.

Is it sad that I have personal stories behind EVERY ONE of these???

WOW...you just described my ex-husband (except no one would pay him to have sex with them!)

chocolateandvodka

tallish
makes me laugh
makes me think
a little arrogant or sarcastic maybe?
affectionate at home
must have a very high sex drive
must not want children, or have them, or at least be open to never having them.
ambitious
even tempered
fitness minded, takes care of himself
must love music and not be adverse to me playing the piano at random times of day/night
must not have a crazy stalker ex or be married. (sad that i have to specify)
financially independent
that's pretty much all i can think of at the moment... but i'm sure there are more... lol

pandaeye

Knows when to make you laugh
Knows when you need a hug
Passionate and loving
Enjoys being silly with myself or the kids
Has a great sense of humour
Cuddly
Never scared to enjoy life

Now all I have to do is find this person lol!!

Sunshine_Girlie

Someone who won't pepper spray me and run.

On the other hand, my girlfriend had to lower her standards substantially.

Anytime a woman dates any man she has lowered her standards. :-)

How do you measure that? lol

AngelaPowPowPOW

Must be a woman. Other than that, I'm flexible.

Hilarious!!

Mkleder

Ok, I don't know what everybody else is doing but I am looking at a mound of paperwork on my desk and I am trying to avoid it. So because of that I am going to start another MFP dating thread. Lol which is in of itself funny cause my life is so busy (work fulltime, have full custody of 2 small kids, coach, etc) that I do not have time to date. But this is mainly to distract me from work :-) So what are the qualities you look for in someone when you decide to date? For me (in no particular order)...

1. Must share the same faith as me
2. Must love kids
3. Must have kids and/or want more kids
4. Must be honest & faithful
5. Has to be a country girl at heart
6. Has to have a silly side
7. Must be compassionate, passionate and kind
8. Must respect that the kids always come first.

What does everybody else's list look like?

You sound like one of my eHarmony matches! (wink)


Mine:
1) they must share my faith
2) they must share my traditional values
3) they must be passionate, compassionate, and a "touchy" type
4) they must love the outdoors
5) pictures in miiltary uniform bump them to the top of the list.

BEERRUNNER

Must have a sense of humor!
Be a bit of a free spirit!
Honest
caring
respectful
compassionate

And be a good drinking buddy form time to time

All in all be supportive of my wacky zanie ideas.....

VeryKerri

I hate to admit this, but I am picky.

I tend to like what my friends call pretty boys. The more out of the league in the looks department they are, the more I like them :grumble:

Family oriented meaning they would rather be with me and the kid/s doing something with us, than out bowling or golfing of fishing with thier buddies. Not that he should NEVER do those things, but they should not be priotiy # 1.

Should be up on current events, I like to have conversations about what is going on in our world, be it poitical, religious, or even about the state of mind of Lindey Lohan or lack thereof...

Should want to be a good provider for the family, not the only one, but at least not wanting me to take care of him and the family while he sits at home on the net chatting with other women... Yes I am bitter about that one! lol

Should love PDA, not the gross make out in public kind, but the hand holding slip me a peck every once in a while kind.

Average intimate life between us would be welcome. Five years of marriage with maybe a handful of passionate moments stunk!

Good personal hygiene is a must specifically must brish their teeth! A handsome smile is a plus!

I too am sure there a others, but these are the ones I can think of off the top of my head, and since I have not found this special someone yet, I am willing to wait for it and not settle for less.

BEERRUNNER

Ok ladies feel free to message me. I fit all your qualifications and more plus I'm big and brown! We all need a little latino heat in our lives.....HA!