Someone asked my husband...pregnant

2girls4boys
2girls4boys Posts: 72 Member
edited September 27 in Health and Weight Loss
Today, someone asked my husband if I was pregnant. My baby is almost 9 month old. He played it off, and said "I hope not" :( That right there is motivation to lose the weight.
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  • DonaGail
    DonaGail Posts: 190 Member
    awwww, that hurts. I had a co-worker ask me that once when I first really started putting the weight on, I remember it like it was yesterday. Its really embarassing too.
  • KimbersNewLife
    KimbersNewLife Posts: 646 Member
    People are so RUDE! I think you should use this as motivation to get this done you can do it! Everytime you work out just think about how you are sticking it to the rude people! I can not stand people like that they make me very angry! So sorry you had to deal with it. I have had someone touch my belly and ask that in the past - very rude! But use it as fuel to light the fire to work hard and get results we are here for you!!!
  • ImperfektAngel
    ImperfektAngel Posts: 811 Member
    Sometimes I wonder how some dare even ask if someone is pregnant when they are not sure! ^^^RUDE is exactly the word!
  • jhoffman27
    jhoffman27 Posts: 55 Member
    I had that happen to me too at Home Depot, the guy helping me load up my car asked how far along I was and I just went with it, it would be too embarrassing to say I wasn't.
  • Irene8509
    Irene8509 Posts: 381 Member
    I swear sometimes they do it a purpose. Look on the bright side, it's motivated the hell out of you!!!:devil:
  • cheysercan
    cheysercan Posts: 7
    That happened to me not to long ago! Some people are so rude!
  • cappi_18
    cappi_18 Posts: 9
    I too think its extremely rude.. ppl should just not ask that question...! my son has mentioned that Im having a baby, which Im not lol so that was part of my motivation to get this weight off. And I hate when ppl stare at your stomach but dont say anything, very uncomfortable. So here's to not being uncomfortable anymore!!!
  • lizbestus
    lizbestus Posts: 18
    That definitely hits hard=( I have had that happen to me on several occasions and it almost always catches me off guard
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    The real question is why was your husband dumb enough to TELL you? If it were me I wouldn't have said a damn thing.
  • t1981
    t1981 Posts: 54 Member
    once when I was on vacation about 5 years ago, a waiter asked me when I was due, and wouldn't drop it when I told him that I wasn't... He actually asked if I was sure!! I was mortified... And had actually lost about 10 pounds for that trip, so wasn't even at my heaviest!
  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    After already losing 20 lbs, a woman asked me if I had a baby "in there". I said no and she asked if I was sure. I wanted so badly to punch her. Apparently some other co-workers had situations where she was rude so I guess it's just her nature but boy did that irk me! After getting halfway and someone still had the nerve to ask. YOU NEVER ASK!!
  • stang_girl88
    stang_girl88 Posts: 234 Member
    I get that sometimes. The first place I gain and the last place I lose is in the gut. I worked in a grocery store as a cashier and a customer asked me when I was due. I asked her due for what, an oil change? She got the hint lol.
  • mem50
    mem50 Posts: 1,384 Member
    I had that happen too. It was a few years back. Still ....

    Granted, I did look about 8 months. Hubby was in the hospital, I was visiting and the nurse asked me when I was due. I told her about two weeks from never. She could not stop apologizing. I never assume that someone is pregnant and I don't ask.
  • rileydi
    rileydi Posts: 23 Member
    Someone asked me that last week in the grocery store...No lie, I looked her straight in the face and said "No, i'm just fat, but thanks!" and then I walked away!

    You should have seen her jaw drop! Hopefully she learned her lesson!
  • apeydawn
    apeydawn Posts: 52
    when i would go to towns where no one knew me i'd throw my hands on my hips like i was pregnant. it's sad but true!
  • WifeMomDVM
    WifeMomDVM Posts: 1,025 Member
    Someone asked me that last week in the grocery store...No lie, I looked her straight in the face and said "No, i'm just fat, but thanks!" and then I walked away!

    You should have seen her jaw drop! Hopefully she learned her lesson!

    LOL! I think honesty is the best policy! That would certainly make me think twice.

    My dad who is an OBGYN never asks. And he should KNOW when a woman is expecting... he said the last time he asked was when a woman was on the elevator - OBVIOUSLY pregnant, so he asked when the baby was due and she replied "I had him 2 weeks ago" Oops! So, yes, sorry it happened to you, but brush it off, don't look back and take control of your future now!

    Best of luck to you!
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    Oh no!
    For a giggle... when I was pregnant and someone would ask when I was due, I'd give them a dumbfounded look and walk away mumbling or straight out say I wasn't PG :) That was interesting towards the end! haha
  • whiskyzee
    whiskyzee Posts: 102 Member
    Lol, I have the opposite problem with my Mum-in-law. Every time I see her, she says I look like I've lost weight (which comes from a good intention, I guess). I've weighed roughly the same since the day I first met her, so I have to wonder just how fat she pictures me when I'm not around.
  • lkm111
    lkm111 Posts: 629 Member
    I believe the comment I always remember on this topic is, "Never ask a woman if she is expecting unless you see a baby coming out of her." :happy:
  • DancingYogini
    DancingYogini Posts: 377
    I really, really can't believe the outright rudeness of people??? I won't even ask, even if it is completely obvious, if someone is pregnant. Unless they say it, I won't ask...just in case. I know I still looked pg weeks after my babies were born! Plus, it is just bad manners!! Use it as a motivator, and don't let it get you down!
  • DancingYogini
    DancingYogini Posts: 377
    I believe the comment I always remember on this topic is, "Never ask a woman if she is expecting unless you see a baby coming out of her." :happy:

    Love it!! True...true!
  • 2stepz
    2stepz Posts: 814 Member
    Lol, I have the opposite problem with my Mum-in-law. Every time I see her, she says I look like I've lost weight (which comes from a good intention, I guess). I've weighed roughly the same since the day I first met her, so I have to wonder just how fat she pictures me when I'm not around.

    I HATE when people do that... I had someone ask me about a week before I started MFP if I was losing weight. "You look slimmer today." It was difficult to tell her that no, I'm the heaviest I've ever been. *sigh* Always makes me wonder how large people think I am. It's depressing.
  • ItsLessOfMe
    ItsLessOfMe Posts: 374 Member
    I understand your pain...after loosing 30 lbs someone asked me, while on a date with my husband, did I have a baby in my tummy!!!! I've only had 2 kids and my daughter is 1 year. I had been feeling so good about myself and that really brought me down.

    Hugs to you....
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    The real question is why was your husband dumb enough to TELL you? If it were me I wouldn't have said a damn thing.

    from the way she related the story, maybe she was standing there as it happened?
  • cecrossley
    cecrossley Posts: 46
    With all three kids of mine, I was asked shortly after birth when I was due.... I get it, you still have a tummy after... but with 1 and 3, I HAD THEM WITH ME. Stupid people. I have a 6 week old baby and you are asking me when I'm due. It definitely hurts. I'm sorry about that.
  • crystalslight
    crystalslight Posts: 322 Member
    This happened to me after my 3rd he was just over a year old. It was my birthday. My husband took me to Kohl's to buy me some clothes for my b-day. After trying on clothes and feeling like crap. The clerk asked if I was pregnant and what I was having. I just looked at my husband and walked out. Cried all the way home.
    Like other people have said let it be a motivator. Sorry that happened to you. It's so hurtful.
  • deeharley
    deeharley Posts: 1,208 Member
    Sigh - this story reminded me of the day I checked out of the hospital after having my first son. I was standing in the doorway of my hospital room, and a hospital volunteer came to the room to interview me about my stay.

    She asked, "Is she in there?" I asked, "Who?" She said, "The gal in the room - who just had the baby." TWO DAYS after I had the baby, I looked like a friend of the new mom!

    I wish that were still true today.
  • jllipson
    jllipson Posts: 646
    The day I went back to work after having my 2nd daughter, I had a co-worker stop and ask when I was due. My baby girl was 8 weeks old and I had dropped 40 pounds or so from my pre-pregnancy weight. I was floored. He played it off that it was because I was sitting and he couldn't see my stomach and since he worked nights (police officer) that he didn't know I had her already... I let it slide because he's always been a super-nice guy around and to me, and he probably honestly had no clue...
  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    It was the head bell-ringer at church who did it to me, on behalf of a group of his friends!

    I just said 'No, I'm just fat!' and lost 20 lb :wink:

    Now I have a colleague I wonder the same about, but I just bite my tongue!
  • kleavitt1992
    kleavitt1992 Posts: 592 Member
    Today, someone asked my husband if I was pregnant. My baby is almost 9 month old. He played it off, and said "I hope not" :( That right there is motivation to lose the weight.


    that has happened to me from some random lady in safeway 2 years ago I WAS 16!!!!! "when are you due" (i have polycystic ovary syndrome and insulin resistance which i wasn't aware of at the time) but i hold alot of excess weight around my middle once its been said the fear does not go away unfortunately so hopefully when i finish loosing the rest of my weight maybe it will go away lol i laugh only because its nice to know other ppl have experience that (it's not a nice feeling....) keep up the good work

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