Someone asked my husband...pregnant

Salpica

Fortunately no one has asked me when I was due, or if I was pregnant. IDK how I would react to that.......:laugh:

It's good motivation indeed. I'm sure when people ask this they mean no harm, but yet maybe are a little misguided and should think before they speak. Good luck with your journey!

Rowann

I've been asked in the past, and like somebody else on here my response was "no, I'm just fat." However, I don't think any rudeness was meant by it, I just think the person concerned just didn't consider what the reaction might be if I wasn't pregnant.

Having said that, several of my male friends, when travelling on the London tube, have always said that they'd rather let a pregnant woman stand than a fat woman cry...

Pawsntails

I like jimmy carrs stance and its the one I take (talking about public transport and why he doesn't give up his chair) ' I'd rather see a pregnant girl standing then a fat one sat down crying'

Just spotted the post above, damn pages not loading fully lol

Bviera

I don't ask precisely for this reason! Heh. I have a former coworker who was pregnant last year and she told me she and her husband were having dinner at a Fuddruckers and the cashier kept looking down at her stomach. My coworker felt uncomfortable, but didn't say anything. A few seconds later, the girl says, "I'm sorry, I just can't tell... are you fat or pregnant?"

I still can't believe someone would ask that! The nerve of some people.

Fat_2_Fit_Mommy

Omg I had someone said that to me before and it was embarressing. So it will be your motivation to help with weight loss and I still remembered that and it will help me has well. the person before me that is awfull!! I don't like it when people do that!

misspopsicle

I've had this so many times and as a mum of 4, I do carry extra weight around my belly but it's so annoying. The last person to ask was my next door neighbour and the kick up the butt I needed to lose some lbs, actually. It's very embarrassing though and something that's brought me to tears a few times now

Johnnyswife

I had that happen to me too at Home Depot, the guy helping me load up my car asked how far along I was and I just went with it, it would be too embarrassing to say I wasn't.

I look them straight in the eye and say, I'm not pregnant. Yes. I am fat." They stammer and back off and than I go cry. But later, I get a laugh out of their horrified expresson when they know what they did. Maybe they will think twice before asking someone else.

jenniferg83

That was a turning point for me when one of my clients (hairdresser) asked me how far along i was. He was a regular client. It was an eye opening moment. A little bit after that is when I made a promise to myself to get in shape. 9 months later i'm still here on MFP working out and logging. Take that as inspiration!!

catlady100

My son's teacher wasn't fat at all, but she looked pregnant. It's a good thing that I never asked when she was due....over the course of the school year there was no pregnancy or baby announcement. A year later she did get pregnant and have a baby. I guess she carries excess weight in her stomach and still had a few pounds from her first child - who was about 2 years old.

Thank god I know what not to say or ask.

SoUnaware

The real question is why was your husband dumb enough to TELL you? If it were me I wouldn't have said a damn thing.

So true. I would LOVE for my BF to keep that **** to himself... and maybe casually suggest that we should go to the gym next week or something.

But hey, you're really strong for not breaking down. If someone asked me if I was pregnant, I wouldn't eat anything for a week :P

laurasnyder411

The first time I went to see my Grandma after having my baby (she was three months old at the time) she asked me if I was pregnant again. I guess having cousins who are a size 0 two weeks after delivering makes it hard to NOT look pregnant considering the 50 extra lbs I retained .... I said "I better not be!" and walked off...oh Grams.

j2poet

My mom actually asked me that once. I came home for Christmas and I guess after not having seen her in a few months, I looked like I had gained a lot of weight. I heard her talking to my grandmother and my aunt about whether I was pregnant or not. Then, when I walked into the room, before I could even sit down, she outright asked me if I was pregnant and seeing someone. In that order. I told her that I wasn't seeing anyone and that I wasn't pregnant. Talk about awkward moments. Thanks mom for making me feel depressed during what should have been happier times.

sculley

The real question is why was your husband dumb enough to TELL you? If it were me I wouldn't have said a damn thing.

I have to agree...He had to know it would be hurtful to you.

Jizes318

Aww so sorry. I have had some one rub my belly and ask if I was pregnant. I laughed it off and said no but you will be first to know. It killed me inside.

funfitfoodie

Ouch that's gotta hurt!

When I used to have my big protruding belly sometimes I would hold it and stroke it like there was a baby in theer because a) less embarrassing than being fat and b) im super brody hahahaha

2girls4boys

I don't think my husband told me to be mean. I still have a big belly. It is what it is. It's just super embarrassing. The funny thing about it is that the man who asked is not a thin person AT ALL.

I was pregnant with my first and worked as a cashier. A lady came through my line and asked when I was due. I told her and then asked when she was due. She looked at me, and told me she already had her baby. I was mortified! Granted, she told me the baby was only a week old, but still. I have never asked another person even when it is super obvious. That was over 9 years ago.

I had a little popcorn fest last night, but this morning, I am back on my game, and I exercised for the first time in a while. I was slacking off, and this was the push I needed to make me recommit.

jmruef

I get that sometimes. The first place I gain and the last place I lose is in the gut. I worked in a grocery store as a cashier and a customer asked me when I was due. I asked her due for what, an oil change? She got the hint lol.

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this. I don't think that people always mean it to be rude (I know that some do and they suck) but this is a perfect response to it either way - IMHO, of course.

atrayubrandy

I believe the comment I always remember on this topic is, "Never ask a woman if she is expecting unless you see a baby coming out of her." :happy:

I totally agree! I won't even ask an 8 month pregnant woman who is about to pop when she's due. I'm that terrified of the fact she might just have a giant tumor or carry her weight in a very unfortunate way. I remember when my best friend had her first baby, she was so excited about the whole experience that she wanted to talk to everyone about it non-stop. I hated going out with her because she would ask women that had even the slightest belly bulge if they were pregnant. Luckily (while I was with her, at least), all of them really were pregnant (or at least claimed to be). I am so grateful that no one has ever asked me if I was pregnant...at least not in the context of actually thinking I might be pregnant because of my protruding stomach. But that's because I was fat ALL OVER.

EdieBird

I was getting that all the time a few months ago! I work in a nursing home, and it's very hard to break it to a little old lady whose greatest joy in life would be to meet a new baby that no, I'm not pregnant. Especially when you know she'll forget you told her and ask again the next time you walk by her! I started just pretending I didn't hear those particular ones.

With non-senile folks, on the other hand, I keep a ready supply of smart-alec comebacks. "When are you due?" The twelfth of Never. "Do you know if it's a boy or girl?" Pretty sure it's neither, fat is gender-neutral! And for good ol' "Are you expecting?" Well, I did order something online last week, so I'm expecting a package in the mail, and I'm expecting to lose some weight, and I'm expecting the sun to rise tomorrow. Oh, that's not what you meant? Sorry!

I haven't gotten any more interrogations about my non-existent baby since I began working out, though. Only lost ten pounds, but my stomach is definitely flatter and my waist is way more defined, and even in scrubs, which fit like comfy pajamas, you can tell. Yay!

monkeefun

It kills me that anyone would come right out and ask such a thing. Blatant rudeness. Unless the person is OBVIOUSLY pregnant, don't say a thing. It just strikes me as another thing that society finds acceptable - that certain people don't deserve the same sort of respect that others do. Overweight people deserve respect too! :-(