single! and wondering

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  • CriticalX
    CriticalX Posts: 212 Member
    I very recently got out of a relationship and I'm looking forward to focusing on myself. I got lost in that relationship and neglected my health, needs, and wants.

    Be thankful for the time you have with yourself! You'll be a better/confident person being content with your life, the current people that are in your life that love you, your goals, your treasures inside of worrying why you DONT have a person in your life....And when that right person comes into you're life, you'll be ready :).
    easy said coming out of a relationship.. tell me that after a couple years of being single! being burned by what u thought was the right person over and over and over!
  • fitnhealthyccthatsme
    fitnhealthyccthatsme Posts: 359 Member
    Ditto!

    LOL... so that was a "ditto" to needing to work on myself before being concerned with a relationship.

    Maybe I'll learn how these message boards work. :-)
  • sla0814
    sla0814 Posts: 240
    I understand however I'm just saying to live your life right now to the fullest, without someone! Be happy in today, be happy in your successes without a relationship! You don't need a person in your life to be happy!:) There is a gal out there for you, it's just not the right time...but when she does make her way into your life, you'll be twice as happy because you'll already be living your life to the fullest! Then she can compliment you're already established and successful journey!

    Trust me, I did not like when people said, "Just wait" or "He's out there" or even now "It just wasn't your time." I'm learning from my post break up that the best relationship you can have is with yourself and there is someone out there for everyone...but in the mean time, smile more, laugh often, and be patient...that gal might be someone you know right now!:)

    God Bless
  • DowntimeDesigns
    DowntimeDesigns Posts: 134 Member
    psh. i'm not single. i'm in a relationship with my BICEPS...

    LOVE THIS!!!!!!!! and same... I mean I kiss them in the mornings and during my workouts... I have pet names for them.. lol... (all j/k, but thats one of my favorite posts I've read on here ever).
  • kelly6485
    kelly6485 Posts: 78
    I wish I was single. I kno that's bad to say. But i kinda settled since we have kids together. We just kinda exist with each other. Not very exciting or loving. We don't even sleep together and I'm only 22

    How Sad.....That was me a little under a year ago, but, along with all my self changing I decided to take the leap and file for divorce, I refuse to ever "settle" for anyone again
  • jend114
    jend114 Posts: 1,058 Member
    I very recently got out of a relationship and I'm looking forward to focusing on myself. I got lost in that relationship and neglected my health, needs, and wants.

    Be thankful for the time you have with yourself! You'll be a better/confident person being content with your life, the current people that are in your life that love you, your goals, your treasures inside of worrying why you DONT have a person in your life....And when that right person comes into you're life, you'll be ready :).
    easy said coming out of a relationship.. tell me that after a couple years of being single! being burned by what u thought was the right person over and over and over!

    all this, I got really lost in my soon-to-be-ex-husband and he burned me so many times. I can't wait for this part of my life to be over.
  • elliecolorado
    elliecolorado Posts: 1,040
    I very recently got out of a relationship and I'm looking forward to focusing on myself. I got lost in that relationship and neglected my health, needs, and wants.

    Be thankful for the time you have with yourself! You'll be a better/confident person being content with your life, the current people that are in your life that love you, your goals, your treasures inside of worrying why you DONT have a person in your life....And when that right person comes into you're life, you'll be ready :).

    Same here!

    Honestly before I was with my most recent ex, I spent years avoiding relationships like they were a death sentence. And well I was right! Before him I dated guys for a couple of months here and there, had friends with benefits and I was always so much happier then I was when I was in a relationship. I think I will be avoiding relationships for a long time, if not forever!
  • savvystephy
    savvystephy Posts: 4,151 Member
    psh. i'm not single. i'm in a relationship with my BICEPS...

    LOVE THIS!!!!!!!! and same... I mean I kiss them in the mornings and during my workouts... I have pet names for them.. lol... (all j/k, but thats one of my favorite posts I've read on here ever).

    This was an awesome post. :tongue: Getting a little vain seems to be a side effect of body transformation :wink:
  • amelia_atlantic
    amelia_atlantic Posts: 926 Member
    I feel like maybe you're looking for tough love here. While all the "the right one will come along" pieces of advice are totally true, it's probably hard to take them seriously at the point of cynicism you seem to be at.

    I'm single. I haven't been in a real serious relationship for a few years. I have weeded through what I don't want in a relationship and reached one conclusion:

    LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. Take care of YOUR needs. Take care of YOUR body. Take care of YOUR mind.
    Don't sit and wallow in the fact that you are single...relish it! Take a class, see a stupid movie, buy weird art, listen to Brittney Spears really loud and dance around your living room to "Toxic". Whatever makes you happy or whatever you think is worth the risk: DO IT.

    Don't expect someone to "complete" you. Expect someone to enhance you. Though it feels like it sometimes; I promise you are not doomed to be single forever.

    Keep on keepin' on!
  • Curves73
    Curves73 Posts: 134 Member
    Newly single after 10 years and dating is interesting to say the least... Lots of freaks out there. I'm thinking about writing a book about it. Lol
  • mamijujuphat
    mamijujuphat Posts: 407 Member
    If you're tired of being single... then go out & meet people... are you trying to find a steady relationship or just random hook-ups? you know a steady relationship requires a lot of work... so if you ready for it....it's all about confidence... your confidence is getting you the body you wanted to have... so your confidence should get you somebody you want to have in your life:wink:
  • CSausage
    CSausage Posts: 345
    I'm in a relationship with my right hand!
  • kseier
    kseier Posts: 91 Member
    that's awkward, bro.
  • kseier
    kseier Posts: 91 Member
    haha thank you i always try to appear a little more confident than i am: it's a little trick i have. not only to make people think that i think i'm teh ****, but so i start to believe it myself too :) i'm always pushing myself to be a happier more outgonig confident person with a little chip on my shoulder saying, hellll yeah i can match your energy...hell i can even do it BETTER!
  • FitFrenchGirl
    FitFrenchGirl Posts: 177
    People shouldn't settle, the right person will come along when you least expect it.


    wow love this quote
  • vampymegs
    vampymegs Posts: 39
    I very recently got out of a relationship and I'm looking forward to focusing on myself. I got lost in that relationship and neglected my health, needs, and wants.

    Be thankful for the time you have with yourself! You'll be a better/confident person being content with your life, the current people that are in your life that love you, your goals, your treasures inside of worrying why you DONT have a person in your life....And when that right person comes into you're life, you'll be ready :).
    easy said coming out of a relationship.. tell me that after a couple years of being single! being burned by what u thought was the right person over and over and over!

    Amen to that! it's tough getting out of something where you've been burned ... even repeatedly ... its rough ... and I've been there ... seriously you just need to be true to yourself and ya know ... put out the possitive energy to the universe ... eventually love will find you ... until then ... love yourself the most honest way you can ... only when you love yourself can you truly offer love to others.

    good luck to you man
  • BEERRUNNER
    BEERRUNNER Posts: 3,046 Member
    haha thank you i always try to appear a little more confident than i am: it's a little trick i have. not only to make people think that i think i'm teh ****, but so i start to believe it myself too :) i'm always pushing myself to be a happier more outgonig confident person with a little chip on my shoulder saying, hellll yeah i can match your energy...hell i can even do it BETTER!

    I love this!
  • CriticalX
    CriticalX Posts: 212 Member
    when did i say i didnt love myself in this post lol everyone keeps saying love ur self. well im tired of loving myself!
  • Curves73
    Curves73 Posts: 134 Member
    Me too. Lol:glasses:
  • TamiLinc
    TamiLinc Posts: 70 Member
    I didn't settle, thought had found my 'soulmate' but turned out he didn't feel the same. Sometimes being single sucks and its lonely but its a lot better than being lied to and cheated on. Never mind being happy, right now I'd settle just for some peace!




    i agree and have to keep reminding myself of this!!!
  • TamiLinc
    TamiLinc Posts: 70 Member
    I'm in a relationship with my right hand!





    SMH!!! Wow...
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