what are you looking at? where do you get your self image?

MeliciousMelis

My self image has been an evolving one. I don't give much credence to what anyone else thinks of me, and I really do appreciate that self image isn't just what we see....but what we feel and what we believe.

To quote:

"I don't give a damn what men find attractive. It's unfortunate what we find pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is seldom the same." -- Fabienne, Pulp Fiction

LonelyPilgrim

My self image has been an evolving one. I don't give much credence to what anyone else thinks of me, and I really do appreciate that self image isn't just what we see....but what we feel and what we believe.

To quote:

"I don't give a damn what men find attractive. It's unfortunate what we find pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is seldom the same." -- Fabienne, Pulp Fiction

Love that Quote Melicious! It really stuck with me after watching that movie, and I've used it many times.. now if I could just get my brain to re-believe it! When I was in high school and into my early 20s I was heavier than I am now, and I thought--make that KNEW--that I was HOT. I had ZERO body issues.

then something awful/strange happened. I decided to start running (because my dad and brother were starting, so I thought, what the heck) ... and as I started naturally losing weight because of the exercise, I started getting more and more body conscious and unhappy with my body. The more I started losing, the more obsessed I became with losing more. So messed up!

morganhccstudent724

I hear what your saying and completely agree.

However, there are MANY men who do not share that same view. And with the mixture of media, where somone who is a size 6 is considered "plus size" being shoved down our throats with every tv show, magazine article and and ad on the internet (take at look at the ads the run here on MFP) it does not surprise me at all.

SoFancySoBlessed

VERY WELL SAID! I LOVE IT! I DONT COMPARE MYSELF TO ANYONE, I AM ON THIS JOURNEY TO BE THE HEALTHIEST THAT I CAN BE FOR MY TWO BOYS!!! THANKS FOR THE REALITY CHECK!

fteale

The closer people get to the right (healthy) weight for them, the easier it is to look at women in fashion magazines and films and think "Why don't I look like that?" When you are bigger you just know you'll never look like them so it's a pointless comparison, but once you are close, it's impossible not to compare yourself unfavourably. I would kill to look like my little sister, whereas she used to worry endlessly about having big ankles compared to Nadia Auermann and Kate Moss. I would never even think of comparing myself to them, as there's no point, but for my sister, who did a bit of modelling and is very beautiful, it irritated her she would never be in their league, as she was so close.

It may not be sensible, but it's the way most people are. As long as there is someone more beautiful, we think we aren't good enough. And there always is.