Why do SKINNY ppl think there FAT??

esmestarz

hi, guys well why do skinny ppl think there fat is this something we should laugh about or considered it is a problem in the future? my cusins daughter is only 6 shes sooo tiny...she crys when they tell her she needs to eat her mom is about 370 pounds....she says she dosent want to be FAT ....WHAT DO GUYS THINK ?

mommared53

I don't know. My son is tall and skinny (he's 24) and thinks he's fat. Give me a break!! Just because I'm fat doesn't mean he gets to think he's fat too.

Elizabeth_C34

Everyone has body issues, especially women. Doesn't matter what size they are, sadly.

MissAnjy

hi, guys well why do skinny ppl think there fat is this something we should laugh about or considered it is a problem in the future? my cusins daughter is only 6 shes sooo tiny...she crys when they tell her she needs to eat her mom is about 370 pounds....she says she dosent want to be FAT ....WHAT DO GUYS THINK ?

It's sad that a 6 year old is so scared to gain weight ....at that age. A lot of children are affected by having "fat moms" because they get teased or they see the torment etc. A woman on BL this year said her daughter nearly died because she dehydrated herself so badly because she was afraid to gain weight and get fat like her mom. This is sad. It's a real eye opener to the parents. They need to be the role model for the child before it's too late.

ZannahDia

I don't know either. My best friend thinks she is fat when she isn't AT ALL! I am a lot bigger than she is! So when she is constantly saying how fat she is, what am I supposed to think? If she thinks she is so fat? What does she think I am?

therealangd

Everybody has body issues. And categorically no, it's not something that we should be laughing about.

sydneyelise

I think sometimes people have a habit of not expressing themselves well enough. It's a lot easier to say "I'm fat!" rather than express to a person that this isn't where you want to be. I got into a habit of saying "I'm fat," instead of telling my friends "I know I'm not fat, but I think I'd feel better about myself if i lost a few pounds."

Also, although I never realized it, media does affect the way a person feels about themselves. I always said I wasn't trying to fit those standards, but in the back of my mind I was always thinking "You don't see fat Victoria Secret models." There's pressure to be what you see as socially acceptable weights, and I think everyone needs to remember we're all different with varying body types and sizes. We can't all look the same... that would be boring!

DiamondRubyMom

If your cousin is 370 pounds, her daughter might have a fear of becoming that heavy someday. I don't think we should try to deny or belittle that fear. At 6 years, she is old enough to understand some basics of food pyramid ideas and encouraging basic exercise like playing outside. In basic terms explain to her that food is good to help her grow and learn but that excessive eating can cause problems. Too often we as mothers pass on our problems with food to our daughters. Whether those problems are physical or mental.

HungryTuna

It's sad that a 6 year old is so scared to gain weight ....at that age. A lot of children are affected by having "fat moms" because they get teased or they see the torment etc. A woman on BL this year said her daughter nearly died because she dehydrated herself so badly because she was afraid to gain weight and get fat like her mom. This is sad. It's a real eye opener to the parents. They need to be the role model for the child before it's too late.

I agree with all of the above. Parents must try their best to lead by example. I realize some people have health issues or medications cause weight gain, but at least consume healthy foods and express love in the home by encouragement to stay involved in sports or playing outside.

Phanessa917

People tell me i'm crazy becasue I think i'm "fat". I tell them, I don't think i'm fat, I just don't look the way "I" want to. I have "problem" areas (who doesn't?). Anyway, I "appear skinny" but when i tell people how much I weigh, they're surprised. That's usually how I get them to shut up about it. In the past 10 years I've been asked if I was "expecting" which hurt my feelings at first but i got use to it and just tell people "i'm not pregnant, I'm just FAT" so yes, some people who others may think are skinny, can have problems with thier weight.

Your cousin is so young... and probably looks at mom and is afraid she might be 370 pounds as an adult?

Newmammaluv

Yes, I think it is something to worry about. It can quite easily develop into a lifelong disorder! Body Dismorphic Disorder. It can be weight, it can be the features of the face... it can be anything really but basically it's when you look in the mirror and see things that aren't really there. As a young child you don't understand the complexities of diet, lifestyle and exercise so maybe someone should take the time and explain that to her. It's so sad. :frown:

tsmom1128

hi, guys well why do skinny ppl think there fat is this something we should laugh about or considered it is a problem in the future? my cusins daughter is only 6 shes sooo tiny...she crys when they tell her she needs to eat her mom is about 370 pounds....she says she dosent want to be FAT ....WHAT DO GUYS THINK ?

It's sad that a 6 year old is so scared to gain weight ....at that age. A lot of children are affected by having "fat moms" because they get teased or they see the torment etc. A woman on BL this year said her daughter nearly died because she dehydrated herself so badly because she was afraid to gain weight and get fat like her mom. This is sad. It's a real eye opener to the parents. They need to be the role model for the child before it's too late.

I completely agree. We know that as a society we are having issues when our kids are starving themselves because they don't want to look like their fat moms. This was my eye opener. I need to do this for my daughter because unlike these girls, my 5 year old is telling me that she wants a belly like mine. I don't want her to have to go through everything that I have.

Neliel

Self body image is a bizarre thing. I've ALWAYS thought I was fat. Even when I was fit as anything, exercising 4 times a week and a steady 140 pounds. Now I look back and think 'was I mad?!' I'd LOVE that body again...

SemperAnticus1643

My husband didnt fall in love with me cause of my weight. I didn't even meet my husband until 2 weeks after we got engaged if you can believe that. So my weight is of little to no concern to my husband.

Some women, I think, just want to hear other people tell them they are SO skinny. Its not really about the weight they just want the attention drawn to their size. Other women don't completely think things through. Or think that not eating will keep them healthy. I wish we had more role models that promoted eating healthy as opposed to being a size -6. And not only being healthy but being ok with living how your body is shaped.

I'm a tall slender woman. I will never have the curves other women have. I know that. I also know that if I want to "not get fat" I need to eat healthy and work out. It all boils down to what other people think. We need to be happy in our own skin and know how WE FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Not how other people feel about us.

hroush

I read a study a while ago that said that many children of overweight people underestimate how overweight they and their parents are.

Have you seen these friends in a revealing bathing suit to actually justify that they are not fat? For example, I still have a stomach that I can't get rid of, but my shirt hides it quite well, so I "look" skinny.

ickybella

I don't know either. My best friend thinks she is fat when she isn't AT ALL! I am a lot bigger than she is! So when she is constantly saying how fat she is, what am I supposed to think? If she thinks she is so fat? What does she think I am?

You can't help what you see in the mirror. I am neither skinny nor fat, but I still see fat sometimes when I look in the mirror. It is getting better, but not every day is a good self-image day for me. As for what she thinks of you, I know that I see women who are technically bigger (heavier or a bigger size) than I am and I think they are smaller than me or that they look great. I have felt this way about women who are the same size as me as well. It has nothing to do with you. If someone has body issues, it's all about how that person feels about her/himself.

Missy123556

In that particular case I think your cousin needs to be more careful about what she says around her daughter. Six is very young to have actual body image issues yet, and its more likely that she is picking up on comments her mom makes. It could cause issues for her in the future, no matter how thin she is..

bunnywarrior

We should never laugh about such things. The suggestion that we should just laugh off serious issues like that rather makes me sick. I am in a healthy weight range for my height, and I have body image issues. When I was a kid my parents fed me crap. I was overweight as a child and then I had an eating disorder through most of my teenage years to cope with it. I almost starved to death when I was 15. Being overweight at that time wasn't my fault- my parents put food on my plate, so I ate it. If I didn't finish my dad would reprimand me for wasting food. I suffer from digestion problems now from eating so much fast food, processed food and low quality meat, and I can no longer eat meat at all. I probably never will be able to without taking medication. I think it's really a wakeup call for parents to eat right, feed your kids a balanced diet, and be a good role model!

Melinda1987

I don't know either. My best friend thinks she is fat when she isn't AT ALL! I am a lot bigger than she is! So when she is constantly saying how fat she is, what am I supposed to think? If she thinks she is so fat? What does she think I am?

I always wondered the same thing. But take a look at ANY magazine about stars. They will post some starlet's *kitten* on the cover of their magazine if she has TWO OUNCES of cellulite showing somewhere and call her FAT. Not only is it harmful to that famous chick, it's harmful to every single person (especially women) who see that. Because we look at that skinny *kitten* with a tiny bit of cellulite and think "OMG - I'm 50x worse than that! I'm a disgusting pig!" This world-wide (especially USA) obsession with "THIN" is disgusting! How about focusing on HEALTHY??

thecanface

because everyone knows what their body has looked like, looks like now, and how they want it to be.. when people look at me they don't see the inch of blubber hiding my muscles, or the giggle on my legs when i walk, but i do.. so i fee like i am fat..

Ahzuri

hi, guys well why do skinny ppl think there fat is this something we should laugh about or considered it is a problem in the future? my cusins daughter is only 6 shes sooo tiny...she crys when they tell her she needs to eat her mom is about 370 pounds....she says she dosent want to be FAT ....WHAT DO GUYS THINK ?

It's sad that a 6 year old is so scared to gain weight ....at that age. A lot of children are affected by having "fat moms" because they get teased or they see the torment etc. A woman on BL this year said her daughter nearly died because she dehydrated herself so badly because she was afraid to gain weight and get fat like her mom. This is sad. It's a real eye opener to the parents. They need to be the role model for the child before it's too late.

I read in my Early Childhood Education books last quarter that children are more likely to be overweight if they have a overweight mother themselves. It really motivated me to lose the weight before my daughter can really remember that I was this big because I never want her to go threw this.

Missy123556

bunnywarrior, I wish I could "like" your post!

Melinda1987

Years ago, one of my closest friends thought she was fat. She had just given birth a few months prior and I was in awe of how GREAT she looked - it's like the baby came out and *poof* she was thin again. Since I'm a very honest person and she & I were so close (still are) I knew I could be honest with her. I said "Tammy - you're kind of making me feel bad. I weigh over 300 lbs, and you're upset because you're a size 8?? Doesn't that imply that at a size 28 I should just be shunned by society as a pig?" And she nodded thoughtfully and said "Honey - I don't mean to make you feel bad, but please understand. Before the pregnancy I was a size 4 and I felt good. I felt fit & healthy. I could look in the mirror with some level of modest pride. Now I don't feel that way. This is about me - not you." Which set me back in my chair. Had to take that all in and see that she was right. Had she been feeling pressure from her hubby or society or whoever that she had to be thinner, I would've been disgusted. But she didn't. She just wanted to feel better about herself.

Now the 6 yr old you mentioned is a completely different issue. She might need therapy to avoid serious food issues down the road...

AngelsKisses75

I think we all have an ideal vision of our selves in mind. Thinking back to when I was in Junior High and thinking O M G I am sooooo FAT! Now it is a giggle to me, but it wasn't back then I was quite serious. Sometimes we are affraid of becoming what we see. Sometimes when we see a battle that is hard to fight we fear it becoming our own. So from my experience this is what I think. Weight control issues start at all ages, different levels, and for many various reasons. Once they are programed in to our minds they are much harder to reprogram with healthy ideals.

Best of wishes with you and yours on this journey!

vannaceej

Oh my goodness !!!! I know what you mean. I hear size 6 females saying my hips are too big or I have a pooch tummy and I want to smack them! You never hear an overweight person going around saying to anyone within hearing distance "Look how big my belly is, I have to lose a few lbs". Give me a break!! lol

beccarockslife

There are a good percentage who like the attention.

As far as 6 year olds being terrified to eat their parents need to take a good hard look at themselves.

ObviousIndigo

I know for myself I have never been skinny.... well, no smaller than a size 8 which is where I am now but I still don't feel skinny. At my highest weight I was 254... For most of my adult life I have been around 185 - 190lbs... Now I am 165ish but more toned than I have ever been but I still feel "big" I instantly go to the size 14's when I go in a store and the large shirts but they don't fit.... It is hard to wrap your head around being smaller, taking up less space, having less of a profile... I am not using these terms to be rude I am being honest on how I see myself. I no longer have to turn to the side to get through smaller spaces.... I can walk beside someone on the street without worrying about them having enough space. I fit behind booths, I am not more comfortable using the handicap stall because there is more room, I don't have to sleep on the edge of the bed so my husband has enough room....
It seems rediculous to look at your weight that way but 90lbs is 2 of my six year old..... CRAZY.
When you were bigger for longer than you have been smaller it takes time to adjust to your new size.

goron59

If skinny people think they are fat, their problems are likely nothing to do with weight.
Fortunately, I am fat, so can think it all I like

Minnesnowtagurl

I don't know either. My best friend thinks she is fat when she isn't AT ALL! I am a lot bigger than she is! So when she is constantly saying how fat she is, what am I supposed to think? If she thinks she is so fat? What does she think I am?

OMG YESSS! I have aco-work that is a size 4 at aprox 124lbs and she says things like " I wish I could lose ..." I wish my legs weren't ..." and all I can say to my self is wow i must look like I weigh half a ton to her! ... makes me feel bad sometimes and they don't even realize it.

Cynthia239

I can't STAND my MIL - she is 100 lbs and COMPLAINS - ' i have gained SO MUCH weight!!" - good god woman Get Over It!! ... ugh!

HaleyAlli

It's the comparison to underweight supermodels that makes alot of people think they're fat. But as for a 6 year old child being afraid because of how her mother is, KUDOS to her for recognizing a problem there. Now she needs guidance on how to eat the right way (and her mother needs to check into life, no offense).