I'm Embarrassed to Lose Weight

cscoggins

I feel a very similar way. I have not shared numbers with anyone- not even my husband! haha! Part of this is shame over letting myself get to this point- regardless the circumstances that contributed to it.... part of it is- I don't really care so much about the numbers on the scale. I care much more about the inches around and feeling comfortable in my own skin- being healthy and having energy! Most of my friends are tactful enough not to ask... but there are a few who have said things like, "Are you losing weight?!!" and while I KNOW they are trying to be encouraging and supportive, all I hear is, "I noticed how fat you are- and I am taking note of your weight every time I see you." It makes me feel scrutinized and pressured to take off lbs more quickly than I would generally expect of myself so that they can just STOP scrutinizing me... Some days, I just feel like staying away from social situations until this weight loss journey is over... but I can't hide in a closet- and I don't WANT to!! I am me. I am of value simply BECAUSE I am me!! A scale does not define me. My body does not define me. I am MORE than that! My soul is BEAUTIFUL- and people who cannot see that and love me WHERE I AM AT, are not the kind of people I want in my life. We don't have to share numbers- but why not share the journey with trusted friends/family who see the beauty in you and will be there to point it out to you when you are down? Their kind words and support will be PRICELESS in this journey! We need each other!!

amandavictoria80

I need to know if I am the only one who feels like this.

I want to lose weight, I want to be healthy, but I am embarrassed to tell people how much I have lost or that I'm even losing weight. I am so ashamed of how heavy I let myself get and I don't really want people to know that I've lost 61 lbs but have another 50 lbs to lose. It's embarrassing.

Does anyone else out there feel the same way I do?

You need to feel proud of what you are doing!

You don't need to tell anyone. You're not doing this for anyone else, right? So, then why care?
Of course it is embarrassing to be overweight and you are not alone in that shame. We all go through it. But you have no need to feel ashamed of yourself anymore. You are doing something to change your life and there is nothing in that to be ashamed or to feel embarrassed about. You lost 61 pounds!!!! That's amazing and I hope you know this!

maysflower

Thanks to all of you for your support, comments and suggestions. They are all very good and I am working on being proud of my current accomplishments.

I love MFP! It has saved my life :happy:

pkpzp228

I feel embarrassed BEING at the gym. I feel so out of shape and out of place whenever I step foot in the gym. I'm sure no one is looking at me, but I'm so self concious it makes me feel all eyes are on the "new girl" (I feel "new" because I go MAYBE once a week - ugh). My husband wants me to go with him and I finally had to break down and explain to him that I feel stupid being there with him. He's so supportive and wonderful with me -- I wish I could go with him and be supportive of HIM without feeling soooo out of place.

Don't feel embarrassed in the gym. Everyone has a reason to be there and yours is no better or worse than theirs. The more you go to the gym the more you begin to notice that there are a lot of people in there that don't have a clue. The gym is like any other environment that requires a serious personal effort to see results, people that put in the time and the effort to improve their fitness respect those who are making the same efforts...

The only people that find any reason to admonish another persons efforts towards improving their own lives are the ones you should care the least about. Those people should take a look in the mirror because those opinions are merely reflections of their own shortcomings.


To the original poster, who cares what other people think, you're here because you've made a decision to improve your lifestyle. To be honest, I think what your saying is a mental crutch, it's an excuse that you're either making to yourself consciously or subconscious to help you deal with the anxiety of undertaking such a difficult transition. Know that every effort you make is one that wasn't being made before, reflect on the choices you make and don't be discouraged by set backs or living up to unrealistic expectations.

Health is not about running fast, body fat or even a balanced diet. It's about maintaining a positive mental attitude that facilitates making the right choices in diet and exercise and recognizing the effect that your daily choices have on your lifestyle.

mfkfoster

First, Congrats on the weight loss! That's awesome! Second, you don't need to tell people anything! You should be proud of your achievement! If people say that your looking good, just smile and say "Thank You". And know that you've worked hard for that compliment and bask in it's glory! Just imagine the compliments when you lose all your weight!

Sneakz16

i seriously thought i was alone wit the depo shot and the weight gain im having such a hard time losing it i feel like i have tried everything and i cant even lose a pound i have gotten so desperate to lose weight at this point im willing to do anything

tonib29

well done!!!!! thats brilliant, u should def be proud, I I hope I can be as motivated as u xxxx