Am I the only one who feels this way?

JuniperT

So, here I am, a big fluffy girl trying to lose weight with the support of my wonderful man. And I've started the C25K and today will be my d2w1 and I had a hard time with the first day. Not a horribly hard time but it was very apparent how out of shape I really am :laugh: So, as moral support my boyfriend would like to come along for the run with me. And he has his reasons, quit smoking, started a new job which calls for alot less movement than he's used to so he's getting a bit of a belly. I know he really wants to come for moral support, and I appreciate it but here's the thing... I'm fat :laugh: and it's hard for me, I have a hard time excercising in front of him. And I know he loves me for who I am, and he thinks I'm beautiful no matter what, but I have a hard time with the idea of him coming along. I know they are my own demons to deal with, but am I the only one who feels this way?

shallo

I'm the same way. I only exercise if my husband isn't around. lol!

neelia

I don't like for my husband to exercise with me, either. He's in relatively good shape and I am soooo not. It is discouraging when he can push longer than I can.

Jenscan

You are not the only one. I refuse to exercise in front of SO when he's in town - he's allowed to watch me do a few yoga postures because I don't suck at it. Anything else, nope.

seemichellerun

I prefer to exercise alone. I just put my headphones on and ignore the rest of the world.

LesmillsJunkie

Not at all. My husband is a personal trainer and a group excersize insturcter. He makes me self concious. He looks amazing and everything seems so easy for him and I have neither of those luxuries. It is just easier to do my workout without him

Shutterpillar

I am the same way. Its the main reason I dont join a gym... i dont like people watching me. That includes the kids and husband.

Ashleypeterson37

I am the same way. I will not let my husband be in the same room as me when I'm working out in the house. He's an Army soldier and in great shape! I would feel like a fat cow breathing all heavy while he's not even getting winded! Maybe when I lose a majority of my weight I will feel more comfortable but for now, I exercise behind a locked door!

kimmerroze

I Prefer to work out alone, But I enjoy running with my husband, its quiet us time. and It keeps him active. But when we go to the gym together we don't work out together. and I REFUSE to do my videos unless he is gone, lol Its wierd having him there kinda watching me. lol

kristenMcP

I love working out with my fiance. We are both overweight and its an automatic high five of encouragement for each other. I'm a runner, he's not, so he rides his bike next to me. We both have our ipods in so its not like we're chit chatting the whole time. But he's there when I need a, "You can totally do this."

kenzietea

Nope. you are definitely not alone. When I met my boyfriend I was in the worst shape of my life- and he was in the best! I felt really uncomfortable when he asked me to go on hikes and other active things because I didn't want him to see how out of shape I was =/

sunshine__angel

I tell my boyfriend how much I weigh but I still won't let him watch me step on the scale! I also used to go to the gym with him, so he has seen me exercise, but I have gained quite a bit of weight since then and I don't let him watch me exercise now! When I use the Wii Fit, I prefer doing it when he is not home lol, I'm sure it will change for us once we become more comfortable in our own bodies, but no, you are NOT alone!!

franzy

I prefer to exercise alone. I just put my headphones on and ignore the rest of the world.

I'm the same way headphones on and in my own world

angiesteele

i dont workout if my hubby is home. I dont mind group excercise at the gym but just not the hubby.

Daisy_May

My Fiance wanted to do the Shred with me, I told him not until I can do it without huffing, puffing and jiggling around!

I won't even do it when he's home for fear he'll walk in the room and see me.

I will go hiking wiht him though, it's something we both love to do!

sarah44254

I'm ok with my boyfriend doing the work WITH me or guiding me to help me get my form right. But when he is just hanging out and using the internet while I am grunting and sweating on the other side of the room, that makes me feel awkward and I try to avoid it.

championnfl

Man's view! Put your focus on yourself and stop worrying who is there or might be watching! Your doing this for you & shouldn't care if anyone is watching or there opinion of how you look or do any exercise. If you do, find the proper technique and go for it....

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One other comment what better way to bond with your partner then to exercise and build a strong mind and body? Women always saying husband doesn't do enough with you this is your chance, quit worrying about how you look and enjoy the attention. this also provide subject matter when alone!

nosey_rosey

I usally work out while mine is at work on purpose! He usually likes to make comments about my butt(it jiggles) and how much he loves it.... needless to say Im sick of the flabby arsss He supports me with all of his heart but I would rather not have an audience

hello_kitty3

No you're not lol and here I thought I was the only one that felt that way! I can't stand for my husband to watch me cause all he does is try to control my workout... "you should be doing this... or doing that" it drives me insane! I do all my workouts while he's at work!

LemonSocks

I personally don't like anyone with me when I exercise as I get very self-conscious about it so it's not just you. I honestly believe as soon as the weight starts dropping off, fitness levels rise and you start feeling better about yourself you won't mind as much. I now let my boyfriend hang around whilst I do the warm up for my exercises (though he still has to leave during the bulk of it).

LemonSocks

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darrcn5

My husband will just sit there and watch me do the 30 Day Shred and 6 Week 6 Pack DVDs. It used to make me self conscious when I couldn't do half the moves, but now that I can actually get through them most of the time, it doesn't bother me. And it definitely makes me happy that he notices I can do something that I couldn't do a month ago!

jessp687

my hubby and I excercise togther like two workouts a year Lol, he is in better shape than me and it feels extremely weird/uncomfortable.

TXMayFlower

I know how you ladies feel. BUT having my DH's support has made a world of difference! I know you feel uncomfortable exercising in front of him, but dieting is hard and exercising is hard. Sometimes it goes a lot better and a makes it a little easier to have someone there doing it with you; encouraging you and in some cases, challenging you. My DH works offshore and is gone six weeks at a time, but we still talk or email every day and tell each other how our workouts were or what we ate that day and we have our weigh in day once a week and have little competitions to see who can lose the most in a week. It makes it fun. And when he is home, we work out together, or we go places where we know we're going to get a good walk in. Maybe you could start off simple like just going for walks or something and then work up to working out together when you feel more comfortable?

I've always struggled with my weight and I've always tried to go it alone. This is the first time I have someone doing it with me, and it's working!

Good luck!

TXMayFlower

ETA: This posted twice. Sorry!

thedreamhazer

I've gotten better about this, but it's been difficult! My boyfriend is very lean, and always has been. I signed up for a 10k at the end of this month and told him about it, and he got really excited and asked me to sign him up too.

It took a lot of effort for me to view it as something fun we can do together instead of an embarassment. But I'm getting there. I may not like that I train daily and he doesn't. I especially don't like that the one time we jogged together, his skinny little butt ran the 7 miles without any training and hardly any sweat (lol).

But I'm learning to enjoy the time together. It's one more thing that we both love and share.

TourThePast

So, as moral support my boyfriend would like to come along for the run with me. And he has his reasons, quit smoking, started a new job which calls for alot less movement than he's used to so he's getting a bit of a belly. I know he really wants to come for moral support, and I appreciate it but here's the thing... I'm fat :laugh:

Here's the thing - he's probably scared of the changes that are happening to his body, and it's easier for him to "offer moral support" than admit that he needs to run too. If he doesn't do something about his increasing weight, he might end up fatter than you.

So really... He loves you, he has presumably seen / felt your naked body he KNOWS you're fat and he's still with you and he still loves you. Don't let it freak you out. He wants to exercise, do tell him you're feeling embarrassed, but suck it up and let him run with you. My boyfriend's the other side of the atlantic right now, I'd LOVE to be able to share stuff like that with him.

kunibob

For me, it depends on the situation!

I don't like to run beside my husband because his pace is faster than mine, and I feel like I'm holding him back. We go to the track together, though, because then we can run "together" at our own paces. Once I get better at it, I'd like to do some trail jogging with him.

In taekwondo class, he's been a black belt for many, many years and I'm still working my way up, so I love to have him help me in some situations, but don't like those situations where I feel like I'm holding him back when he's my partner.

When we swim, he doesn't like to swim in the same lane as me because I'm too fast.

calamitygk

I used to feel the same way... I just toughed it out for a while and now I actually really like having the partner. Remember he loves you so he is a judgement free zone. Plus it will help you if he is in better shape cause you will want to push harder.

Lindz2323

you're not the only one.. the only thing i can get myself to do as far as a workout in front of my bf is going for a walk, or using my elliptical. I wont do my dance arobics, pilates, etc in front of him lol I feel uncomfortable even tho he's the same way, supportive and helpful! And he loves me the way i am now... but yeah lol you're not the only one dont feel bad

MrsSki

I also like to work out alone without my husband. Esp when I'm doing a video or something, I usually make him hide out in the office until I'm done, haha!