Time to Grow Up

millerll

A lot of people come on here and post about their struggles with health. I read these, and shake my head sometimes. It’s one thing to ask for advice dealing with a tough situation, but it’s quite another to refuse to take any responsibility for your choices. It’s time to put on your big boy/girl pants and start practicing some accountability.

1. “I can’t stop eating ______.” Yes, you can. You are choosing NOT to. Big difference. Examine what may have influenced you to make the bad decision and work on changing that.

2. “My husband/kids won’t eat healthy food.” Well, if you’re the one cooking, they’ll eat what you make, or they can make their own meals. It won’t kill them to eat a healthy meal. You’re not a damn servant.

3. “I can’t get motivated to exercise/ eat well.” No one else can motivate you. Others can INSPIRE you, but only YOU can find the motivation within yourself to venture outside your comfort zone, be that with exercise or diet. You have to really want to make a change from within yourself.

4. “I don’t like vegetables.” Oh, please. Grow up. What are you, 5 years old? There are some people who could literally live on steamed broccoli, but most of us, not so much. Being an adult means sometimes doing things you’re not too keen on. I don’t like mopping floors and cleaning toilets, but you know what? It has to get done, do I just suck it up and do it. Same with veggies. You just gotta eat them if you want to be healthy. So experiment with different ways of preparing them until you find something you can tolerate. Even if it means you have to put some cheese on them or something, do it. You don’t have to love them, but you do have to eat them.

Yeah, we’re all here to support one another. But I can’t make you stop eating crap. I can’t make you stop feeding your family crap and then picking off their plates. I can’t make you find the motivation to exercise. I can’t make you eat your darn veggies.

What are your goals? Why are you here? Then do what it takes to achieve those goals, one step at a time. Learn from your set-backs and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. And, yes, certainly learn from the mistakes and successes of others here, but take some control of your choices and learn responsibility and accountability. It’s called being an adult.

Keep up the good work and best of luck on your journey!

kportelli70

LOVE IT !!!!!

irishblonde2011

AMEN!!!

Kayceeg27

Thank you.

Countrymade

Well said.
Thumbs up with this post!!

chicpower1

AMEN sister! I hear you on that and agree 100%!

fmorpurgo

Well said that woman!

tmarie2715

4. “I don’t like vegetables.” Oh, please. Grow up. What are you, 5 years old? There are some people who could literally live on steamed broccoli, but most of us, not so much. Being an adult means sometimes doing things you’re not too keen on. I don’t like mopping floors and cleaning toilets, but you know what? It has to get done, do I just suck it up and do it. Same with veggies. You just gotta eat them if you want to be healthy. So experiment with different ways of preparing them until you find something you can tolerate. Even if it means you have to put some cheese on them or something, do it. You don’t have to love them, but you do have to eat them.

That is so funny-- exactly what I think every time I read that. How about there are thousands of veggies. You don't like carrots? Really? Raw, steamed, ground up in pasta sauce, etc? Thousands of veggies, thousands of ways to serve them. Start experimenting.

chantel111184

same as above i agree

justann

Two thumbs up!!!!!

SquishyVicki

Well said! I think you've put into words what most of us have been thinking Vx

TourThePast

One I have seen quite few times on here...

Someone being upset because a very young child has referred to them as fat, and everyone rallying round and telling them how rude the child's parents are to allow them to speak like that.

Instead of getting dreadfully upset that someone else's four year old has not yet learned manners, which is not something you can change, take responsibility for your body, and how you feel about it - that is something you can change if you want to.

Instead of reacting "How outrageous, what a rude kid" how about reacting - "That kid was right, I am fat and it upsets me, so I need to deal with it - nobody else is going to do it for me".

beckyobsm

LOVE THIS POST!

anna_lisa

Thanks for this. Sometimes we all need a slap down from reality. The truth may hurt or be hard to hear, but the truth is the truth. Something we all need to hear cause that is the only place to really start.

tinamina78

Well stated and spot on. Thank you!

doodlebug66

I so agree.

ajbeans

Right on, OP! Even with the veggie thing -- I personally don't do raw veggies. Just can't, they make me sick. But I've been continually working at it, and now I can actually eat (and enjoy!) a salad if it has the right combination of protein and something dry like croutons or tortilla strips. It just takes practice.

One I have seen quite few times on here...

Someone being upset because a very young child has referred to them as fat, and everyone rallying round and telling them how rude the child's parents are to allow them to speak like that.

Instead of getting dreadfully upset that someone else's four year old has not yet learned manners, which is not something you can change, take responsibility for your body, and how you feel about it - that is something you can change if you want to.

Instead of reacting "How outrageous, what a rude kid" how about reacting - "That kid was right, I am fat and it upsets me, so I need to deal with it - nobody else is going to do it for me".

And especially since kids at that age don't understand manners, even if you do teach them. They just talk. They say whatever they think, because they don't have a filter yet. But there's always this rush to blame the mom. I've been lucky in that my kids haven't ever said something like that about someone in public within that person's hearing. But they do point out my "squishy parts", and they ask me about people in wheelchairs and such. They're not rude. They're kids. And we talk about it, but I'm not going to punish them just because they're too young to understand why an observation can be hurtful.

makena78

I agree with most of this. But get real...if someone doesn't like vegetables and can't stand them then they are not acting like a 5 year old. You can't compare that to cleaning toilets. I'm actually pretty healthy and getting even healthier without eating veggies everyday. I eat the ones I like when I'm in the mood and yes supplements do help with the job. I don't eat crap and just because someone doesn't like vegetable does not mean they are eating crap. You are right about most everything as people do make excuses. There is no room for excuses when it comes to our health. However, don't confuse eating healthy with only one way of eating. As there is a great variety of healthy foods that can supplement for those that we hate.

RCKT82

Great point! Thanks for the post!

If you want the results, you have to step up and take control. Deciding on excuses will never get you anywhere. Everyone needs to decide on what they deem acceptable for a standard of living. letting anyone dictate where you are is a decision you need to ultimately have to live with. Everyone needs to put on their game face and take control! suck it up, eat your veggies, don't use the excuse I'll start tomorrow. Now now now!

pmusholt

That realley a good post. It's what we need to hear. thank you

frando

I think, esepcailly with the excerise, people don't set out realistic targets. So when they cant achieve them, they get upset, get put off and whine.

I've not had proper regular excercise for five years, when I left school at 16, so setting myself a stupid target of doing an hour of constant pedling on my faithful stationary cycle would be terrible irresponsiable and pointless. Instead I'm setting myself a steady target, working my way up from stints of ten minutes to my eventual target of an hour.