Whats your oupinion on National Don't wear a Bra Day?

deeharley

"But seriously, is this going a little too far? This day we will be flinging our boobs around and the next day we will be complaining that men are staring at our boobs and it's harassment. "


I'm not sure I have an opinion on the whole event, I just wanted to point out that even if women fling their boobs about, they can still complain about being harassed. A woman should never be harassed, no matter what she is wearing. Sorry if this comes off as pushy, it's just something that's very important to me!

Sorry, but men are visually oriented. If we're putting our boobs out there, and expecting them not to look, that's harassment on our part.

fteale

Lots of ladies here are talking about how uncomfortable they would feel if they went one day without a bra (and believe me, I understand this), but how do you think having breast cancer feels?

But how does a bunch of other people being uncomfortable (and in some cases completely incapacitated) for a day help that?

1234lbsgone

"But seriously, is this going a little too far? This day we will be flinging our boobs around and the next day we will be complaining that men are staring at our boobs and it's harassment. "


I'm not sure I have an opinion on the whole event, I just wanted to point out that even if women fling their boobs about, they can still complain about being harassed. A woman should never be harassed, no matter what she is wearing. Sorry if this comes off as pushy, it's just something that's very important to me!

Sorry, but men are visually oriented. If we're putting our boobs out there, and expecting them not to look, that's harassment on our part.

Thank you.

In all seriousness, I know harrassment very well. But you can't walk around with your boobs hanging out in a society where it is not a norm and expect it to go over without at nich. No, nobody deserves to be harrassed, but nobody needs to see your boobs either. If I walk around with a new hair do, people will notice and comment. If one day I walk around with no bra in a white t-shirt, people will notice and comment. We expect our new do to be noticed and commented on good or bad. So if your showing your boobs, expect the same thing. Only reason it's considered harrassment is because it's boobs which is why they are expected to be covered anyways.

OK, back to the laughter...............

1234lbsgone

I don't think I need to go with out a bra to show I support breast cancer. I would much rather do something really meaningful like donate money to the cause, give time to help register women at the clinic that does free mammograms for those who can't afford it, make a meal for someone recovering from breast cancer surgery.

My aunt passed away from complications from breast cancer, she battled it for more than 30 years.

In all seriousness I completely agree with you. There are so many more effective ways to provide support and awareness for breast cancer without going braless.

Agreed.

Jenny56dreams

Ummmmm......... I like wearing a bra lol especially with a D cup. :flowerforyou:

sarahbear1981

Lots of ladies here are talking about how uncomfortable they would feel if they went one day without a bra (and believe me, I understand this), but how do you think having breast cancer feels?

But how does a bunch of other people being uncomfortable (and in some cases completely incapacitated) for a day help that?

I don't think the point is to find a cure or make breast cancer all better. It is show solidarity and sympathy and even an attempt at empathy with women who have suffered from this horrible disease. yes there are better ways to cure cancer, but can you think of a better way to try and understand what a woman with breast cancer has to endure. How can we truly provide holistic support, not just financial, if we don't even understand what it feels like to be in their shoes. Of course wearing pink is a great way to show support and encouragement but so is this way, on what I feel to be an even deeper level.

I am disappointed in the way they are advertising it but I think that despite the advertising the heart of the concept is real and significant. As far as harassment goes, so what. I get harassed for being fat. When my friend who had a double mastectomy was bald she got strange looks. I decided to wear a bandana with her one day and I was shocked at all the stares I got and they way people treated me. It really made me understand on some level what she was going through. She actually cried and thanked me because it made her feel not so alone. Just like not being able to wear a bra would do. No one will treat you differently for wearing pink so how can you even come close to understanding what its like. Of course I am also all for wearing pink! I guess you just have to do what you feel is best and only take it so far as you feel comfortable. I just want to say that walking a mile in someone elses shoes can make a big difference. It could be life changing.

Behavior_Modification

OMG, I have had MANY nightmares about being in public w/o a bra -- very scary!!!

Heather75

What are you guys talking about? What is this "Breast Cancer" of which you speak? I'm not aware of it.

LorinaLynn

It's all fun and games til someone loses an eye.

sweet_t2483

I think the whole purpose of this is to have fun and bring another level to awareness. It's making a statement while getting others involved one way or the other. It's all about garnering attention--any publicity is good publicity. If you don't agree with it, keep the girls locked up, if you want to have fun with it let them fly. It's really no big deal one way or the other.

fteale

Nope, sorry. Don't get it. The idea was blatantly thought up by someone who is not a GG, and has not spent 6 years either pregnant or breastfeeding.

It's not about empathising, it's just stupid. I have all the empathy in the world. I lost one of my closest friends to cancer in March. Getting my tits out won't bring him back.

BirdsofaFeather

Nope, sorry. Don't get it. The idea was blatantly thought up by someone who is not a GG, and has not spent 6 years either pregnant or breastfeeding.

It's not about empathising, it's just stupid. I have all the empathy in the world. I lost one of my closest friends to cancer in March. Getting my tits out won't bring him back.

Let's not call it stupid because then you're calling every woman whom chooses not to wear a bra for the cause stupid as well. I lost an Aunt to breast cancer. I think she'd have a smile that I'm doing something (silly maybe) in her honor.

This is not about making women feel uncomfortable. If you do not want to do it...of course don't but let's not bash.

sarahbear1981

Nope, sorry. Don't get it. The idea was blatantly thought up by someone who is not a GG, and has not spent 6 years either pregnant or breastfeeding.

It's not about empathising, it's just stupid. I have all the empathy in the world. I lost one of my closest friends to cancer in March. Getting my tits out won't bring him back.

Its not supposed to be about how your floppy ginormous boobs look without a bra. Who cares. That is really not the point. Additionally, you have all the sympathy in the world but not the empathy unless you have actually had cancer yourself. The whole point is to actually be able to create a sense of empathy even if it is very tiny.

Sympathy is the broadest of these terms, signifying a general kinship with another's feelings, no matter of what kind: in sympathy with her yearning for peace and freedom; to extend sympathy to the bereaved.

Empathy most often refers to a vicarious participation in the emotions, ideas, or opinions of others, the ability to imagine oneself in the condition or predicament of another: empathy with those striving to improve their lives; to feel empathy with Hamlet as one watches the play (Random House Dictionary).

Normally, I am not one for splitting hairs and in this circumstance I feel I must since there is a difference and it is central to the point I am trying to make. Certainly if you feel that strongly against it please don't do it. However, perhaps you could try and empathize with those who feel that it makes a powerful statement.

Finally, I know I can empathize with your loss as I have lost two people in my life to cancer and am about to lose a third. I wish I could bring them all back and I know that it isn't possible. Yet, I can and will honor their memories and support women who have had or have breast cancer by participating in Don't wear a bra day. if nothing else, it will remind me of how truly blessed I am to have the choice of whether or not to wear one.

Jade_Butterfly

i think i will stick to wearing pink. i dont think ANYBODY would be too happy about me not wearing my bra! lol. breast fed two kids! that speaks for itself! LOL.

Much agreed. .. I will stick to wearing pink. . . unless at home kickin it!

suzycreamcheese

What are you guys talking about? What is this "Breast Cancer" of which you speak? I'm not aware of it.

lol

cowpacino

I'm for it...on a case by case basis

Jessamin

So much joy-killery in MFP today. I think it's a fun idea and those that want to join in should do so with vigour, big or small, perky or floppy.

Wearing pink won't inherently ~RAISE AWARENESS~ or bring your dead friends back either, but it's a fun little thing to do to show your solidarity with others.

Finally: implying that not wearing a bra/wearing low cut tops = harrassment to men is hilarious and embarrassing.

suzycreamcheese

it is bloody stupid and its sexist.


why do all the "supposed" breast cancer awareness things, always involve telling the world what colour knickers youre wearing, writing on facebook "where you 'like it'", going without a bra for the day, - ALL awareness things seem to involve women doing something with sexual connotations

Its fab if you want to raise money for a worthwhile cause etc, but really there is no point letting your tits hang low for a day for the sake of awareness about something everybody is already bloody well aware of. Its not a sponsorship thing, and for most people its going to be bloody uncomfortable possiblyhumiliating, and unless youre a perky teenager or very very lucky, its probably not even going to look very nice.

You can let your boobs hang low all you want, but dont go insinuating that because you go along with a little internet game, that youre somehow more sympathetic to cancer than I am, or that youre raising awareness to ANYTHING. Do it for a bit of fun if you want, but thats all it is, and noone should feel pressurised into it. Do race for life or get a sponsorship for something challenging if you really care and want to help.

katschi

I don't think the point is to find a cure or make breast cancer all better.

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katschi

I'm coming back as a man.
I want to see what stupid looks like from the other side.

bonjour24

what have you been doing for your boobs to be 'glistening'?
i'm concerned about anyone who wants to show off their 'glistening' jigglers.

and if i went bra-less, the low cut top thing wouldn't bother me. that's because to see anything you shouldn't, i'd have to lift my t shirt from the bottom ;-0

but....... if you want to swing low, i say 'go ahead'! i'm a nurse- whatever you've got, i've seen worse! but i will say that if you have no bra AND no teeth, you're going to fit a certain... stereotype!

bonjour24

If we can do this.....why not Nation ED day.....erectial dysfunction day.....let it all hang out.....nah.....no one would have an issue with that now would they!!!!!! Big ones, small ones...thick ones, thin ones......I don't know who comes up with all these different ways to show support for cancer........if commando boobs in white tees is the only way to raise funds and awareness I think its time to hire a new PR team.

i agree.... i've only ever seen small ones:laugh:

Missevanston

I just can't see how it would help or benefit breast cancer. Give $10 to your favorite charity..and keep the girls in their place...

katschi

If women really wanted to show solidarity to their Sisters who have lost their breast(s) to cancer, perhaps they could strap their own to their chests to mimic what it might feel like, not show them off.
Or carry placards of those women's chests who have lost their breasts (without faces for privacy).

Wouldn't showing what it looks like to NOT have your breasts because you've lost them to cancer raise more awareness?

curvygirl512

I don't get it.

There are better activities to promote BCA and some things should remain private. I would tell you that I think I'll support my "girls" by wearing a pink bra that day, but OOPS! that would be too much information.

suzycreamcheese

If women really wanted to show solidarity to their Sisters who have lost their breast(s) to cancer, perhaps they could strap their own to their chests to mimic what it might feel like, not show them off.
Or carry placards of those women's chests who have lost their breasts (without faces for privacy).

Wouldn't showing what it looks like to NOT have your breasts because you've lost them to cancer raise more awareness?

i agree.

way to make women with mastectomys feel sh1t by everyone showing off their lovely cleavages for a day

BettyMargaret

I'm all for showing support (n.p.i.) however you like... I just hope I don't trip! lol

FairyMiss

ihave a a ont wear a bra day every week its calle the weekend

♥jewel♥

I, for one, love my breasts! I've had two kids and breast fed both of them. My breasts haven't been affected by gravity *thanks to good genes* I am surprised at how many people are offended or think this idea is stupid. Be proud of who you are and what you've got!

I will happily go braless in support of breast cancer!

AngelsKisses75

Thanks for the post! I have decided to attend! I really do not like pink. :laugh: Though I may not do Turbo Fire, anything involving jumpping, jogging, or wearing a white t-shirt out in the rain. My girls are in a bra more than not, but hey why not!

Hey! Maybe we can inspire a bra burning event while we are at it! :drinker: