confused... my FAT pal?

Chiquita_Banana

so, i'm confused because some of my friends have been getting messages stating they're too skinny to be on here, that they are not welcome, their pictures aren't decent, their character is questionable... etc bla bla... well last i looked this is myFITNESSpal... i didn't see any rules to what you have to be to be on this website. you can be at a healthy weight an be out of shape... so why all the negativitey towards these people? they're here to better themselves and god forbid have fun while they're doing it. if they lost 100 lbs and want to show off their new body so be it. ultimately they are answerable only to themselves n shouldn't get a verbal lashing from someone else. the human body is beautiful any shape or form, and when a person is comfortable with their body that is a wonderful thing, my believe me when i am finally comfortable with letting the world see me in my skin, it will be shown, but that's just me. not everyone will do this n i'm not saying everyone should, but that's just how i feel about myself. if you're not comfortable with these people and their pictures or what not then walk on by. yes you have an opinion everyone does, but why be cruel when there are more important things to do or to be concerned with. we're all here for one reason, well i hope we all are but the main reason is to be a healthier individual inside and out. so if thats what you're on here for, don't go stepping out of your way to send a demeaning message to someone, cause then YOU will be answerable to yourself...

that's just my 2 "cents"... ror now gimme my fi dorra sarry!

godroxmysox

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people on here that think only those who have the same goals as them should be allowed on the site. I agree with you; it is not right. Sadly, there's nothing we can do about it other than block the users. Best of luck to you!

Avalonis

I have tons of skinny people on my friend list. It's helps with motivation! I don't know why anyone would be mean to someone that didnt have the same goals. Especially fat people! They should understand how it is to be criticized for their body and/or fitness level.

Fesse

That's my Girl !!! Like I said just BACK UP and move the F on people.

That said we have a very tight group here and we need to stick together because together we are stronger!!! They will not defeat us or break us because when we fall......... one of us is there to pick you up.

To my MFP family, I love you and could never have done this without your love, support and encouragement. Cheers xo

SheehyCFC

I've heard a lot of people mention this lately - but the moderators have told me (and others)... you can "report" the person's message, and they can handle it from there. Such a shame.

This should be about support! And if you can't offer it to someone, you should probably just keep on moving to someone else until you can!

FearAnLoathing

Whats funny is these people will never back up their crap on here and state it for everyone to see,insted they need to send their cowardly little messages.

keb80

Well said!!! I'm sure it comes down to one thing only: jealousy. Its sad b/c that is such high school BS.

bbush18

AMEN!! I agree!

Drunkadelic

PREACH!!!

jenseye

I feel really bad that is happening and it's truly sad.
This site is here to support people of all shapes and sizes!!
Some people are here to lose weight, some people are here to gain weight, some are here to get in better shape, and ALL of us are here to be healthly and eat right!!!
Sad when people hide behind the internet to judge and bully...just my opinion.
Like you said the site is called "my fitness pal" "fitness" being the key word!!!

emeraldpearl

One thing about opinions, everybody has one. that just wat they are opinions, not facts.......If someone is giving advice that i think i can't use i just move on to the next person who i feel is more positive.....This is why we have the option to delete ...... (poof be gone)

PeachyKeene

WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!

RCKT82

They're are a ton of angry, bitter, grumpy, people on here. I just try to ignore most of them. Too many have opinions that they cram down down the throats of others to show how smart/right they are. Opinions are great on here and are warranted, it's a public forum to discuss ideas, but it is NOT a website to force your "expert" methods onto people... Just do your thing and try to ignore those people. I'm usually pretty good at just moving along, sometimes I get sucked into their negativity and end up playing their stupid reindeer games. Attitudes are contagious...

Some of these people need to work out harder to tire themselves out and relieve some stress and some need stop restricting their diet so much because it's just making them cranky and lash out onto others.

Everyone has a right to use a public website regardless of what their goals are. On the same note, everyone needs to be a little more supportive of each other regardless on whether their goals are different. We're all here to become healthier....

Edit: Typos...

Chiquita_Banana

WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!

lets all hold hands n sing kumbaya... or however its spelled lol

paintmelucky

Good post banana..I no longer care that ppl hate...its their bad...I will continue to support my friends and love them to the fullest

dwardkaiser

They should take the time to appreciate each person as an individual! All body shapes and sizes have insecurrities and are working to maintain or reach a goal!

I know that I look at the smaller people on MFP as motivation and look forward to being healther and of course skinner!

HUGS and LOVE,

Danielle

CeleryStalker

This is the second thread Ive read this morning about jerks sending nasty messages to members, insulting them, etc.

It's friggin ridiculous that people can't come here and post without some asshat sending them nasty messages for no reason other than pure, unadulterated jealousy.

Personally, the fit folks around here inspire me. I don't have the time to dig into every member's history to see if they came here fat and got thin or what, but it doesn't matter. If you are in good shape, you're an inspiration to me, so thanks for not being a tubby. You're obviously doing something right, and the content of your posts is likely going to help me get to my goal as well.

There were some really high and mighty meanies on another forum I used to post on. They'd get wicked nasty with other members for 'not following the plan as written', they'd insult people to their faces, talk about them out in the open right on the forums, start crap on other people's threads just because folks there were looking for support after they screwed up and ate off plan, while these 'superior' folks who 'never' ate off plan didn't need any support other than the kind they found by sitting around in the daily thread they'd start, just to talk crap about others on the forum. Funny thing is, while these people DID make it to the 'maintenance phase' of the program quickly because they 'did the plan as written', nearly ALL of them gained the weight back after transitioning into maintenance. Oh sure, they had their pitiful excuses as to why the weight came back, but the long and short of it was, they only did the weight loss phase and transition phase 'as written'. They didn't do the maintenance phase 'as written' or they wouldn't have gained their weight back.

The world is full of all kinds of people. I learned a long time ago not to let what anonymous strangers hiding behind their monitors and keyboards had to say bother me. It's just not worth it, and I really don't have any sympathy or time for people like that.

Panda_Jack

Well said my Asian sista from anotha mista??

CeleryStalker

LMFAO!!!!



^ WTF??? hahahahaaa

LorinaLynn

Some of these people need to work out harder to tire themselves out and relieve some stress and some need stop restricting their diet so much because it's just making them cranky and lash out onto others.

Yes, this!

That said, I'm hurt that I haven't been anyone's lightening rod of hate. :sad:

RCKT82

LMFAO!!!!



^ WTF??? hahahahaaa

An example of having a too high of a calorie restriction???? LMAO

FearAnLoathing

I get a few PMs every now and then telling me what a b!tch i am an stuff,i usally print them out an put them in my scrapbook

Chiquita_Banana

Well said my Asian sista from anotha mista??

thank you bro from anotha h.. oh.. lmao

CeleryStalker

An example of having a too high of a calorie restriction???? LMAO

Hahahahaaa!!!

chrisdavey

I had no idea this was happening. Very petty.


Well said.

Can't we all just get along

brph26

Very well put!

And from what I learned way back in grade school....if you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything! I don't understand why this is so hard for some!!!

Haters are Motivators I suppose...

Heather75

See, this proves my theory that there will never be peace in the world until we are attacked by alien forces. If a bunch of people with similar goals (to be healthier and improve themselves) cannot effectively get along, how will people will different goals ever be able to do it?

It's exhausting being right this often. It's quite a burden.

Thanks for proving my point, MFP. I think...

MissAnjy

That's ridiculous. I love that there are people on this site from all different walks of life. When I was at my heaviest, I appreciated the thin, toned & muscular girls. Why? Because they gave me great insight and advice about how to achieve the look I wanted. I agree that this is about fitness, not necessarily weight loss in everyone's journey. It's about being fit, being healthy, supporting eachother & sharing knowledge. Some people just don't want to face the truth about themselves. Misery loves company.

martymum

I wasjust saying to my hubby what a friendly supportive site this is...especially compared to others. I recently joined a few sites for home educating my goodness they are seiously cliquey.

So thenks for the warm welcome and to hell with all the misery guts...lol

marty

Heather75

Seriously, I think there are some people on this site who have never felt beautiful in their entire lives. They see women on this site who have either achieved their goals or are very close to it, and it reminds them of how far they have to go.

On the other side, we have a group of pretty, gregarious people who are starting to feel good about themselves, some of them for the first time, and they are just enjoying that.

Unfortunately, the first group feels somehow hurt or threatened by this - that's the only way I can explain the vitriolic behavior - you don't lash out at someone unless you feel wronged by them in some way. Being able to respond with a keyboard might make them a bit braver about the way they phrase their objections, too.

The difference is that one group isn't deliberately trying to hurt the other and one group is.

Unfortunately, both groups have the right to behave the way they are. People are entitled to be themselves. In a fair and just world, everyone would understand each other and temper their reactions with kindness, but that isn't the world in which we live.

I don't want to see anyone get hurt, I mean, I am a person who adjusts my gait to avoid stepping on ants and have been known to move worms from concrete to grass so they won't dry out, but sadly, there are consequences for everything we do, even when we are only being ourselves.

I don't see this changing. What can change, however, is people on both sides deciding to make an effort to understand and not allow hurt feelings to affect them.

I will now return to my usual comic relief persona.

charityateet

It blows my mind that someone could be so shallow. WTF?? I mean, this same person that is here to get fit, lose weight, be healhier, skinner (whatever) is judging someone who has (literally) worked their *kitten* off to get where they are? What? How about when they get to their goal, are they not going to show off???

I'm telling you what, I plan on being on this site for a LONG time - once I get to my goal it'll be to maintain - I plan on showing off my body because I'm working hard to get there........if you don't like it, move on.

Haters. Asshats.