MEN!!What do you consider a BOOTY CALL.

brnsgrsbody

Can you be friends with benifits for a whole year? Is this considered a booty call? I mean hes my really good friend we dont just meet in a parking lot when we get the urge, its cool we hang out go to eachothers sons b-day parties, know eachothers family members, work together, watch movies, talk about normal stuff not just sex like booty calls usually do, go out to the clubs together and what not. So its been a year now this has been going on and neither one has ever mentioned anything about a relationship to eachother, we just been going with the flow and having fun together. BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this? I mean u can tell we both have feeling for eachother but I been getting the feeling that this will not go no where because its been a whole year of this already, Im not one to rush things at all but just curious why a guy would stick around with me so long but never want anything more especially if we get along so well, no clingyness, we give eachother space its all good??? But lately I been feeling weird, I guess cuz its been so long Im bound to grow feeling to want more with someone. Is he just sticking around because he knows he can get away with having me with no strings attached or is he just scared hmmm...just curious to hear a mans point of view if you guys have ever been in a situation like this? I guess women can answer too

All joking aside, friends with benefits with the right person is a great relationship if you can stay focused on what's going on. If you're friends that can just have great sex while keeping the emotional attachement out of it, it's pretty good. Had one for about five-months. I had a friend like that. We were good friends prior to that, during, and although we've stopped we're still good friends and there's no awkwardness.

Ugh I hate that guys act like they can do the no emotional attachment thing!!!! What that really means is that the woman wasn't good for anything except sex in the first place but to keep the sex good you she aren't going to tell her that.

Scott613

He's getting his you're getting yours as long as you can keep it how it is there shouldn't be any akwardness. If you bring up a relationship he may run however, if you wait till he's ready you could be waiting for awhile. If you want to know if he'll step up and se where he's at with it... go on a date and let him know about it. Even if it's a guy you don't really like. If he wants a relationship he'll have to speak up but, if it's fwb he won't say much!

binary_jester

Can you be friends with benifits for a whole year? Is this considered a booty call? I mean hes my really good friend we dont just meet in a parking lot when we get the urge, its cool we hang out go to eachothers sons b-day parties, know eachothers family members, work together, watch movies, talk about normal stuff not just sex like booty calls usually do, go out to the clubs together and what not. So its been a year now this has been going on and neither one has ever mentioned anything about a relationship to eachother, we just been going with the flow and having fun together. BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this? I mean u can tell we both have feeling for eachother but I been getting the feeling that this will not go no where because its been a whole year of this already, Im not one to rush things at all but just curious why a guy would stick around with me so long but never want anything more especially if we get along so well, no clingyness, we give eachother space its all good??? But lately I been feeling weird, I guess cuz its been so long Im bound to grow feeling to want more with someone. Is he just sticking around because he knows he can get away with having me with no strings attached or is he just scared hmmm...just curious to hear a mans point of view if you guys have ever been in a situation like this? I guess women can answer too

All joking aside, friends with benefits with the right person is a great relationship if you can stay focused on what's going on. If you're friends that can just have great sex while keeping the emotional attachement out of it, it's pretty good. Had one for about five-months. I had a friend like that. We were good friends prior to that, during, and although we've stopped we're still good friends and there's no awkwardness.

Ugh I hate that guys act like they can do the no emotional attachment thing!!!! What that really means is that the woman wasn't good for anything except sex in the first place but to keep the sex good you she aren't going to tell her that.

Bitter much? It is possible to have a mutually beneficial sexual relationship without all the trappings of a normal relationship. Neither person is demeaned and the girl is not a victim or getting played.

JNick77

Can you be friends with benifits for a whole year? Is this considered a booty call? I mean hes my really good friend we dont just meet in a parking lot when we get the urge, its cool we hang out go to eachothers sons b-day parties, know eachothers family members, work together, watch movies, talk about normal stuff not just sex like booty calls usually do, go out to the clubs together and what not. So its been a year now this has been going on and neither one has ever mentioned anything about a relationship to eachother, we just been going with the flow and having fun together. BUT Im curious from a guys point of view, what is this? I mean u can tell we both have feeling for eachother but I been getting the feeling that this will not go no where because its been a whole year of this already, Im not one to rush things at all but just curious why a guy would stick around with me so long but never want anything more especially if we get along so well, no clingyness, we give eachother space its all good??? But lately I been feeling weird, I guess cuz its been so long Im bound to grow feeling to want more with someone. Is he just sticking around because he knows he can get away with having me with no strings attached or is he just scared hmmm...just curious to hear a mans point of view if you guys have ever been in a situation like this? I guess women can answer too

All joking aside, friends with benefits with the right person is a great relationship if you can stay focused on what's going on. If you're friends that can just have great sex while keeping the emotional attachement out of it, it's pretty good. Had one for about five-months. I had a friend like that. We were good friends prior to that, during, and although we've stopped we're still good friends and there's no awkwardness.

Ugh I hate that guys act like they can do the no emotional attachment thing!!!! What that really means is that the woman wasn't good for anything except sex in the first place but to keep the sex good you she aren't going to tell her that.

Thanks but you're quite wrong actually. She knew exactly what was going on and didn't want anything more than that either. We were both very honest with each other and what we wanted. LIke I said, when we decided to stop we walked away and we're still very good friends. Her and I have talked about similar situations we were in with other people and how some emotional attachment did develop, but not in our situation.

brnsgrsbody

My thoughts since I have been throuhg various things. When you all conversate do you all talk about randome topics where you all can pretty much gauge whether you all would be good tofether. I think you both know that there is something that keeps you from hooking up in a relationship. I have a friend like that. He cannot keep a good enough career and too much drama with his baby mama that I could never be with him.

#1 I wouldn't have enough money to spend if his baby mama made me mad
#2 I would probably strangke his baby mamma cause she so crazy
#3 He owes bazooka in child support because he claims it got backed up the 5 months he wasn't working. (WHATEVER)

But guess what if I ever got divorced and needed some good stuff cause I had cobwebs I would let him come down and clean them out. Yes we would go out and everything but he is no good for anything else.

binary_jester

My thoughts since I have been throuhg various things. When you all conversate do you all talk about randome topics where you all can pretty much gauge whether you all would be good tofether. I think you both know that there is something that keeps you from hooking up in a relationship. I have a friend like that. He cannot keep a good enough career and too much drama with his baby mama that I could never be with him.

#1 I wouldn't have enough money to spend if his baby mama made me mad
#2 I would probably strangke his baby mamma cause she so crazy
#3 He owes bazooka in child support because he claims it got backed up the 5 months he wasn't working. (WHATEVER)

But guess what if I ever got divorced and needed some good stuff cause I had cobwebs I would let him come down and clean them out. Yes we would go out and everything but he is no good for anything else.

My...head...hurts.......

dumb_blondes_rock

I hang out with a lot of guys, and my thinking about that is this\

He OBVIOUSLY likes you, but he most likely sees other people too. Guys have this "don't want to commit" thing because if he did commit to you, then he wouldnt' be able to hook up with anyone else/.,....even if he isn't hooking up with anyone else, its the point that he CAN if he WANTS to. If he wanted to be with you, he would have made you his....

I had a booty call for three years, we never really "hung out" we just had sex and id peace out of there. One day he tells me he likes me and how we should be together blah blah blah and it just made it super weird (especially since we never had a conversation that was more than hey i'm horny, take your pants off.) and things have never been the same since. Everytime i try to get my jollies we end up arguing about why we can't be together and all that fun stuff. (he cheated on his girlfriend with me, without me knowing he had a gf and i refuse to date a cheater)

Anyways, if the sex is good and you have fun together, why define it? just roll with the punches and if he wants to be with you, he will make you his.

LittleBuddy13

I hang out with a lot of guys, and my thinking about that is this\

He OBVIOUSLY likes you, but he most likely sees other people too. Guys have this "don't want to commit" thing because if he did commit to you, then he wouldnt' be able to hook up with anyone else/.,....even if he isn't hooking up with anyone else, its the point that he CAN if he WANTS to. If he wanted to be with you, he would have made you his....

I had a booty call for three years, we never really "hung out" we just had sex and id peace out of there. One day he tells me he likes me and how we should be together blah blah blah and it just made it super weird (especially since we never had a conversation that was more than hey i'm horny, take your pants off.) and things have never been the same since. Everytime i try to get my jollies we end up arguing about why we can't be together and all that fun stuff. (he cheated on his girlfriend with me, without me knowing he had a gf and i refuse to date a cheater)

Anyways, if the sex is good and you have fun together, why define it? just roll with the punches and if he wants to be with you, he will make you his.

I like the way you put this hun. I am definately gonna roll with the punches and let what happens happen Thanks hearing the feedback helps me understand that whats going on is normal and happens to other people, I just gotta let nature take it course and not over think it too much

danadee

If you are okay with the way things are, don't say anything. Let it play it's course.
BUT, if you want more, you need to have a conversation with him about it. Because, the one that will get hurt is you, and we don't want that.

Looking at it from a guy's perspective....why not continue the FWB relationship.....he's getting laid with no commitment.

Good luck hun! Hope it works out the way you want it too.

That_Girl

I'm a woman (obviously) and I had a friend with benefits for about a year. It was great!

He's still a dear friend. Just not with benefits. LOL!

JNick77

I'm a woman (obviously) and I had a friend with benefits for about a year. It was great!

He's still a dear friend. Just not with benefits. LOL!

^

See it's not just a guy thing.

angryguy77

both are pretty close to being the same thing.

Reading posts like these confirms my belief that life isn't fair. I never met girls like this in college.

Sad face

BecksgotBack

Booty Call-Girl you know that you toss one into at random aka FitFrenchGirl

FWB-Exactly as stated, someone you are friends with that you like but are not either mentally ready or THAT interested in to take it beyond the physical level aka Becks1030 & Paintmelucky

Awe, now there's a man who truly understands me
To the OP: there's no magic way to make a man's heart melt so he will only want you....right now he's getting the best of both worlds with no strings attached. If that's what you've had for the past year then he's comfortable with it and will probably bounce the second you start talking about "relationship" stuff. So i agree with most other people here: if you're happy with the way things are keep the 'relationship' thoughts to yourself. If you want something more then speak up, but be prepared if it doesn't go the way you might hope. We tend to romanticize things in our heads and build things up way too much for what they really are. If you can't just sit down and tell him straight up how you're feeling/thinking for fear of his reaction then it's no good anyway...set yourself free of him. We all deserve to be happy with the right person, when we are ready for it...doesn't sound like he's ready for it. Even your friends are starting to question the whole situation "what's up with ___________?
I have/had both types; the booty call guy and the FWB and if played right it's awesome.

brnsgrsbody

My thoughts since I have been throuhg various things. When you all conversate do you all talk about randome topics where you all can pretty much gauge whether you all would be good tofether. I think you both know that there is something that keeps you from hooking up in a relationship. I have a friend like that. He cannot keep a good enough career and too much drama with his baby mama that I could never be with him.

#1 I wouldn't have enough money to spend if his baby mama made me mad
#2 I would probably strangke his baby mamma cause she so crazy
#3 He owes bazooka in child support because he claims it got backed up the 5 months he wasn't working. (WHATEVER)

But guess what if I ever got divorced and needed some good stuff cause I had cobwebs I would let him come down and clean them out. Yes we would go out and everything but he is no good for anything else.

My...head...hurts.......

Why? I said the truth. Whatever!

binary_jester

My thoughts since I have been throuhg various things. When you all conversate do you all talk about randome topics where you all can pretty much gauge whether you all would be good tofether. I think you both know that there is something that keeps you from hooking up in a relationship. I have a friend like that. He cannot keep a good enough career and too much drama with his baby mama that I could never be with him.

#1 I wouldn't have enough money to spend if his baby mama made me mad
#2 I would probably strangke his baby mamma cause she so crazy
#3 He owes bazooka in child support because he claims it got backed up the 5 months he wasn't working. (WHATEVER)

But guess what if I ever got divorced and needed some good stuff cause I had cobwebs I would let him come down and clean them out. Yes we would go out and everything but he is no good for anything else.

My...head...hurts.......

Why? I said the truth. Whatever!

No...you just set back the English language about 200 years.