Every Morning I wake up on a diet and every night I end in F

117bysummersend

Every Morning I wake up on a diet and every night I end in Failure

This has been happening way too much lately! Every morning I tell myself that today will be better then yesterday and that I will eat much better and exercise but then during the day I eat and eat and eat until I feel sick. If I continue like this then I will never lose the 40-48 pounds that I need too. Does any one else do this? and how can I make it so that I stop binging every day? Because In the past few weeks I have gained 4 pounds! and I know its not water weight.....

sammys1girly

It sounds like the problem might be that you are "on a diet". A lifestyle change is all that will really change your size for good.
And my lifestyle is not diet foods, but everything IN MODERATION...that's the hard part that I've finally mastered, most days!

shanolap

It sounds like the problem might be that you are "on a diet". A lifestyle change is all that will really change your size for good.

^^^^THIS!!!!

briar_rose

I think you have to make a decision to change and stick with it. Find the motivation to succeed. Change the way you think - you are not on a diet..you are living a healthier life which involves eating better and exercising. It's all a mind game. It's not easy but once you choose to stick to it and start seeing the results then it will be a lot easier.

mystiedragonfly

It sounds like the problem might be that you are "on a diet". A lifestyle change is all that will really change your size for good.

I was just going to say this!

Diets are restrictive and short term. What you want is to change your entire lifestyle. You didn't gain the weight in a month... why are you trying to lose it in a month. Take a moment to put how important YOU are in this situation in perspective.

katschi

Go to the library and find this book ...

Eating less -- Say goodbye to overeating by Gillian Riley.

It will help to teach you *how* to make the "lifestyle change" everyone talks about but never explains.
*How* isn't obvious to everyone. If you don't know, you don't know.

This book helped a friend to finally stop bingeing (for a year now) and she has lost 110 lbs.

Perfectlycrooked

It sounds like the problem might be that you are "on a diet". A lifestyle change is all that will really change your size for good.
And my lifestyle is not diet foods, but everything IN MODERATION...that's the hard part that I've finally mastered, most days!

Yes! you took the words right from my mouth! :P

hayley26d

As soon as i say to myself "right im on a diet" i get hungry and eat everything i can find. .

So now im not on a diet im just gonna eat less than i was and exercise more

Hollycat

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Hollycat/view/black-and-white-thinking-117821

I see you might be stuck in a little black and white "all or nothing" thinking...it's easy to do. It's also easy to get out of. Read my latest blog [link above] for more info on black and white thinking.

Hollycat
:flowerforyou:

Losingitin2011

Don't think of it as a diet. You're changing your LIFE! Eat those foods you enjoy, just eat LESS of them. Pizza is delicious, have a slice, not the whole pie. There are a lot of people that insist that if you enjoy things like pizza, or fast food, or even soda, that you don't want to lose weight. It simply is NOT true. Many people go on diets and deprive themselves of everything and they don't succeed, or gain the weight back. It's important not to make yourself feel deprived. So important.

ShellyMacchi

solution is... stop 'dieting' *S*.. just decide to get healthy, and it all falls into place *S*

Avalonis

It sounds like the problem might be that you are "on a diet". A lifestyle change is all that will really change your size for good.

^^^^THIS!!!!

I second the notion.

lisapickering

You have to want to change. It's not about dieting (as others have mentioned). It's about making smarter decisions. Make a plan at the beginning of the week and decide what you are going to eat for the whole week. Grocery shop, do prep and it's a no-brainer you eat what you planned to eat. Of course there are temptations but just know that those things don't fit into your plan right now. Once in awhile, when you have enough calories, work a treat in, but plan for it don't just decide at the moment that you should have it. This may sound very boring but without this structure I would not have been successful. After awhile you just make the smarter choices without thinking.

chevy88grl

Don't think of it as a diet. You're changing your LIFE! Eat those foods you enjoy, just eat LESS of them. Pizza is delicious, have a slice, not the whole pie. There are a lot of people that insist that if you enjoy things like pizza, or fast food, or even soda, that you don't want to lose weight. It simply is NOT true. Many people go on diets and deprive themselves of everything and they don't succeed, or gain the weight back. It's important not to make yourself feel deprived. So important.

I eat what I want - when I want. I've learned to read labels so I know and understand what a true portion size is vs guessing and eating 2, 3 or 4 servings instead. Americans as a rule have a warped view of serving sizes. Using the food diary tool on here is a very helpful way of knowing what you eating, how much and such.

Diets are too restrictive. Ask anyone and they'll tell you a "diet" doesn't work for long term weight loss. Lifestyle changes is what you need instead!

jlewis2896

(((((Hugs))))))

We've ALL been where you are! Listen to these guys, they know what's up. And if you need us, we're here for you!

littlelol

ive been like thuis all week!

littlelol

ive been like thuis all week!

melzteach

Go to the library and find this book ...

Eating less -- Say goodbye to overeating by Gillian Riley.

Also try, "Skinny Chicks Don't Eat Salads"

117bysummersend

But how do I change my mindset? I have never really had a "healthy" relationship with food how can I just change that?

Phera

I've felt the same way. I've been on mpf for almost three years now and have kept off 10 lbs. but I've lost up to 20 lbs. I gave up when I felt like I was on a diet restricting myself to 1200 calories and doing C25k plus Jillian because I wanted the weight off asap. This time, I'm really not trying to set a date of when I want the weight off but really taking it day by day even hour by hour. Like right now I'm hungry and there are pastries downstairs but if I can just make it to 4 o'clock I can go home and have a great dinner. Keep yourself busy, find little things throughout the day to get some steps in, and try not to torture yourself.

ninaws

I have found it really useful to plan out my meals ahead of time and take that food with me to work instead of relying on cafeterias/restaurants/vending machines. I enter everything into MFP in the morning, make little adjustments as I see are needed (ie. I need more protein - add a scoop of tunafish in the afternoon; too much sugar -- do a half serving of fruit at lunch instead of a whole one, etc). Eat small meals but eat frequently -- my trainer has me eating a small meal/snack every four hours. That way, I find that I don't feel hungry until it's just about time to eat again.

If you aren't eating to satisfy hunger, then you need to examine why you are eating. What purpose is it serving? Is it filling an emotion need? Is it out of boredom? If you can identify the cause, then you can take steps to figuring out solutions.

And finally, don't deprive yourself 100%! That is a recipe for failure. I generally try to eat well during the week and then am a bit more lax on the weekend. I miss chocolate and ice cream so instead of having a bowl if it, I will have a single serving of an ice cream bon bon instead. Do stuff like that and you'll find you're less likely to go all crazy with your eating. Or at least, that's what works for me!

sister_bear

I can't figure out how to view your diary (??? operator error on my end! lol), but I'm worried you may not be eating enough in the morning.

I ***must*** eat breakfast. If I don't eat breakfast, I will overeat when I finally do eat. I also need to eat snacks. I just... have to have a snack. If I don't, again, I will overeat.

katschi

But how do I change my mindset? I have never really had a "healthy" relationship with food how can I just change that?

The book I mentioned tells you the *how*. It is NOT a diet book.

shanolap

But how do I change my mindset? I have never really had a "healthy" relationship with food how can I just change that?

Knowledge is power my friend!

Elizabeth_C34

But how do I change my mindset? I have never really had a "healthy" relationship with food how can I just change that?

Take your time. Start switching out one food per week for something healthier and add in some activity. Example: switch fries for veggies if you go out and go take a 30 minute walk 2x per week. Gradually, keep doing this and adding more activity, and it'll become a habit.

Don't try to do it all at once, just take your time.

knittnponder

I agree with the others about the diet mentality. I did that too for awhile and lost/regained the same 10 pounds for a long time. Then I decided I'd just focus on one thing at a time instead of feeling like I had to magically wake up a new person. I began by adding in exercise. Not a ton, just making sure I was working out at least three times a week. And since I already did taekwondo it really only meant I was holding myself accountable to do one extra workout. I immediately passed that up because I like working out so that goal was mastered rather quickly!

Next thing I did was add green smoothies. I had been challenged by the Vitamix guy at the fair to add two a day for two weeks and see how I felt. He gave me a recipe but since I already owned a VM he didn't sell me a thing and didn't even attempt to. I did his two week challenge and was so amazed at the difference in how I feel that I have continued to have at least one smoothie every day.

After that I began added in other little goals one at a time until they were conquered. I took out refined sugar and flour, then I banned as much processed stuff as I could. I determined to keep my carbs at a certain level since they effect me quite a bit. I began tweaking my diet here and there and at some point found MFP through someone's facebook post (who incidentally isn't on here anymore).

I keep tweaking and changing things as I go and it's working without me feeling deprived or like a failure. Every time I realize something isn't working it's another thing I can cross off my list and don't have to revisit it. It's all a learning experience if you don't give up!

scoobysnack1983

well, your profile says your 18.... So you attend school or have a job?? Do you have a gym membership??? I use to weigh 245 pounds and sit on my butt eating and watching tv for fun..... ive learned to love the gym and outside activities.... im not at my goal weight yet and recently gained 12 pounds (from the fire academy) LOL!!! just finished in may and now im back on track....

anyway.... what im trying to get at... is pick the time you tend to eat the most and try leaving the house.... go out with friends window shopping... leave your money at home so you won't buy things (food)..... or do what i do!! go to the gym.... even if its to walk on a treadmil for an hour or so.... get yourself tired and then go home take a nice bubble bath and get ready for bed! i use to eat a lot at night and thats when id blow my hard work for the day.... now i don't really have that problem..... Just when im at work for 24 hours and get hungry running calls all day and night.... keep busy and don't leave time to lounge around near the fridge/sofa..... find a gym that has classes.... mine has a cardio cenima! a dark room with a huge screen on the wall and they play movies while you work out.... step class is a lot of fun too! and you burn tons of calories...
hope this helps!

tladame

I think you have to make a decision to change and stick with it. Find the motivation to succeed. Change the way you think - you are not on a diet..you are living a healthier life which involves eating better and exercising. It's all a mind game. It's not easy but once you choose to stick to it and start seeing the results then it will be a lot easier.

Exactly. When I started out, I said to myself, I can tolerate anything for 1 day. Then it was 4 days, then it was a week, then a month. Four months later, I've lost 12 pounds and love all the foods I eat. It is such a rush to see the scale go down, not to mention the inches I've lost. So easy to stick to it once you get used to it, but you just have to get over that first hurdle!

Losingitin2011

I am the first to admit that I love food.

I learned to accept that it is 100% ok to love good food. I had to change my perception not only of what I considered to be "good" and how much I ate of it. I had to convince myself that I would not go hungry tomorrow, and I am in total control of what I purchase and eat now.

It's a slow process, but digging down and finding out the why behind my food issues has been very beneficial to me. I know a lot of people who are emotional eaters. I am an emotional starver. I refuse to eat anything when I get very upset, and it can go on for a few days. I am working towards disassociating food from my emotions and finding healthier alternatives to handling my emotions other than punishing myself.

Hang in there, you *will* get through it all, and you will be successful. Believe in yourself and surround yourself with those who believe in you!

117bysummersend

well, your profile says your 18.... So you attend school or have a job?? Do you have a gym membership???

I'm going to be a senior in high school this fall and right now my car is being fixed so I can't really go any where and I do not have a job so I can't pay for a gym membership...

ladybg81

It sounds like the problem might be that you are "on a diet". A lifestyle change is all that will really change your size for good.
And my lifestyle is not diet foods, but everything IN MODERATION...that's the hard part that I've finally mastered, most days!

Exactly. It can not just be a "for now" thing or you will gain it all back eventually. You have to commit to a lifetime of better health. That is the only way to really make this work. If you are not ready for that, then maybe you need to take some time to reflect on what you're actually looking for