I'm out

banks1850

So,

I've been giving this a lot of thought, and because of a lot of different factors, I have decided to delete my MFP account.

I could give you many many reasons, but mainly it's because of 2.

the first reason being that I no longer use the site for dietary reasons, and haven't for quite some time, as I don't really need to log my calories anymore (It happens in my head now automatically) and I don't really check the boards very much. I was mainly, for the last 5 or 6 months logging on here to offer support and connect with people I have met on this site, recently those relationships have mainly died off and I feel more frustration then joy when logging in (those of you whom have been long time members will understand why).

The second reason is because amount of people on here looking for quick fixes on these board has gone way up, people are now more rarely looking for help getting their health back, but now looking to complain about life issues, and look for enablers to help them continue their struggle. This wasn't the case a year ago, I find it appaling and (sadly) indicitive of this country. I hope this is just a trend that stops but really I doubt it will. I believe this is because of the popularity of the site. It was, I imagine, inevitable that this would happen, none-the-less it doesn't suite my personality; therefore I choose to leave. I hope you all respect my judgement and don't resent me for it, but if you do, it's regrettable.

I'll leave with this note:
I wish you all the best of luck on you're journey, and will hope with all my might that you all continue to use common sense, will power, and good judgment in your healthy lifestyle choices!

best wishes,

-Banks1850

banks1850

So,

I've been giving this a lot of thought, and because of a lot of different factors, I have decided to delete my MFP account.

I could give you many many reasons, but mainly it's because of 2.

the first reason being that I no longer use the site for dietary reasons, and haven't for quite some time, as I don't really need to log my calories anymore (It happens in my head now automatically) and I don't really check the boards very much. I was mainly, for the last 5 or 6 months logging on here to offer support and connect with people I have met on this site, recently those relationships have mainly died off and I feel more frustration then joy when logging in (those of you whom have been long time members will understand why).

The second reason is because amount of people on here looking for quick fixes on these board has gone way up, people are now more rarely looking for help getting their health back, but now looking to complain about life issues, and look for enablers to help them continue their struggle. This wasn't the case a year ago, I find it appaling and (sadly) indicitive of this country. I hope this is just a trend that stops but really I doubt it will. I believe this is because of the popularity of the site. It was, I imagine, inevitable that this would happen, none-the-less it doesn't suite my personality; therefore I choose to leave. I hope you all respect my judgement and don't resent me for it, but if you do, it's regrettable.

I'll leave with this note:
I wish you all the best of luck on you're journey, and will hope with all my might that you all continue to use common sense, will power, and good judgment in your healthy lifestyle choices!

best wishes,

-Banks1850

LokiFae

Goodbye Banks! You've always been an inspiration and a great source of information to me. You will be sorely missed. I understand your reasons for leaving and wish you all the best in your journey!

Anna_Banana

Oh, banks. I'm sorry to see you go. But I hear you. Everyday it's the exact same questions over and over and over.

I wish you luck in your life.

Losing_It

Thanks for all the help you've given, Banks! It's more appreciated than you will ever know. Good luck in all that you do.:flowerforyou:

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Fab140

I'm sorry to see you go, Banks. But, you have to do the mentaly healthy thing for you. I see a lot of the strong people leaving soon too......

:flowerforyou:

Best to you.

Theresa35

Banks, although I have not gotten to know you as a friend like others on here have, I must say that I will miss you. Your insight and education has brought more encouragement, support, and help than words can merely describe. I wish you and your wife the best of life, health, and love! Those who cross your future path will definitely be blessed, just as we have been here at MFP! :flowerforyou:

kellch

Wow....Banks you will be missed :brokenheart: :sad: :sad: :sad: BUT I understand. It's definately not the same atmosphere. I, however, have not reached my goal so I continue to use the site. I still post now & then but have to watch my every step. It's not as open of an enviroment and doesn't feel like family anymore. :sad: Not placing judgment on anyone or saying I dont respect anyone's point of view. So please don't take it that way. I DO respect everyone here. It really just isn't the same happy place it used to be. And it is sad.
And well, my mean bosses at work block all of the blogs and they even blocked the proxies...:grumble: :laugh: So I can't go anywhere else to chat....Oh well, I guess I'll continue to "earn" my paycheck...:laugh:

Anyhow, back to the point...Take care of yourself Banks. :flowerforyou:
Oh! And thank you for all of your advise and support. It has been very helpful....:flowerforyou: :drinker:

Hope all goes well...

:smooched: {hugs}

jamerz3294

What a bummer! You are one of the few people in here that actually knew what you were talking about! Your wisdom, intelligence, and friendship will be missed.

lotusfromthemud

Take care.

Your contribution of common sense and actual facts will be missed.

*sigh*.

Ezzie

Banks....We will miss you.....your words of wizdom, the super 'O", the friendship. May your journey continue to be filled with life, laughter, and love!
Ezzie

pinktoque

Take care.

Your contribution of common sense and actual facts will be missed.

*sigh*.

I second this sentiment. Goodbye and good luck, Banks. Thanks for all you've done for us and thanks for all of the inspiration you've given to so many.

johnsscarlett

I'm sorry that you are leaving I have been on this site since May and have always looked forward to your post. I noticed a lot of people that I use to enjoy reading have not been on for a long time I've missed them too. Well I am thankful for all the great advice you have given and have taken it to heart. God Bless you will certainly be missed:flowerforyou:

Jackie_W

Good luck in all you do Banks, I do agree that the site has changed from when I first joined at the beginning of the year, but, that's a sign if the times.

I have met some great friends on here, the posts can get a bit repetative, but then, new people, new situations, but we all have the same path to walk - weight loss goals :drinker:

mjfer123

Banks,

I completely understand.
if anyone has read the book by Atlas Shrugged, I feel like this is the exact same situation.
The people with strength and willpower are disappearing and learning to cope on their own while more and more people keep asking the same questions and looking for people to pat them on the back when they fall rather than taking the advice and wisdom gained by those who have been there.
Banks, youve worded this most eloquently, I appreciate the service you've provided so far and you will be missed.

FitJoani

goodbye banks we will miss you!!!!

BrandNewLaura

This is sad...so incredibly sad...

lina1131

Thanks for all of your help in the past Banks! Good luck to you.

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Ezzie

Hey all...He's gone, tried to PM and his account is deleted....

DETERMINED2Drop

I'm sorry to see you go. You have answered so many of my questions and helped me drop 30 pounds in a healthy and correct way! Thank you and good luck to you too.

PrincessLaundry

Friggin...Now I'm depressed and I'm going to go eat my entire rest of my birthday cake...grrrr...

kellch

Friggin...Now I'm depressed and I'm going to go eat my entire rest of my birthday cake...grrrr...

Don't make us slap you too missy!!!

:laugh:

stacystar

I did not know Banks (sure I've seen posts here & there) but from what I can tell--a huge impact was made. Guess that just shows that people come in and out of our lives for the reasons we need them. I feel the same way about this sight--I stumbled upon it just when I needed most. I have not been here extremly long--& I'm sure that things have changed as people have come and gone. Change is hard--changing our bodies is hard. I would like to say thank you to everyone who reads what I write and offers support (no matter how silly or dumb my questions maybe or no matter how down I feel) We are stronger together than we are apart.

arewethereyet

Just in case he can see this.

I want to thank you Banks for your posts. I have them on speed dial and use them once a week.

I hate that you feel you must go, but respect your wishes.

I actually thought it was pretty nice of you to stick around after you lost your weight and your need to use the site., just to help the ding dongs like me GET IT!

When I started 4 months ago, Banks, Tamtastic and Soupnazi were all instrumental in getting me on my way.

Cheers ol' chap :drinker: :drinker:

Mike

Banks - I'm sorry to see you go! But I totally understand and wish you the best of luck. You'll be sorely missed around here. You are a huge part of why the site is what it is. Thanks for everything that you've done for all of us.

I hope you'll stop by every once in a while and just let us know how you're doing.

Thanks again, and best wishes!

chipper15173

best wishes to you banks. i will miss your wisdom on things. i do understand why you are leaving.
chipper

Fitness_Chick

Friggin...Now I'm depressed and I'm going to go eat my entire rest of my birthday cake...grrrr...

and that's gonna make things better HOW????:flowerforyou: <~~~~But...you can eat those flowers....

cp005e

Awww... you will most definitely be missed. I have always appreciated your posts, and agree with our fearless leader (Mike) that you helped make the site and community in particular what it is today. Best of luck to you in the future, and feel free to stop by and say 'hi' sometimes.

PedalHound

I'm in total agreement for why Banks decided to leave. Even in June when I joined this site it was so positive and tight-knit and really family-like! But there really has been a flood of new members who aren't "buying in" like people used to, it seems, and there is so much more judgment and negativity. I guess that fact has been helpful to me personally because I don't waste a bunch of time on the message boards anymore, but how sad for the new-comers who would have benefited like I did when I showed up in June! It's not the same site from a community perspective. But, the actual tools are fabulous so it's great to have it.

Well, great for Banks for reaching the point of autonomy in his journey :flowerforyou: