SIXERS Headed for the Beach--Week 4

chipper15173

good morning....

lula....i have an ice cream cone every night. i count carbs (night is 30). i measure out 3/4 cup and a cone it comes close to 30. i only eat ice cream that is 17 grams and under. i get my fill and i am within my ranges. i don't feel deprived. ice cream has been a staple in our house since 1977 (when we married). the kids grew up with it. they also have a problem with it as i do (my fault as with everything else wrong in their lives). so this keeps me in check.

have my 3 months endro appt today. she wanted me to start losing this weight. that last time i was suppose to have lost 15 i had pulled 2 or 3 off. well this time i think i hit 15+. scale was up a little this morning. see what her scale says. i also see my primary care doctor at end of july. need to drop one of these doctors. i don't think i need to see them every 3 months for the same thing. will discuss that with her. she is the farest to travel to. had a a good zumba workout. she is changing the routine which i like. next week putting a different workout plan together. needing to change things up some.

need to get showered and dressed in light weighing clothes....

chipper15173

having my pitty party. feeling down. i know food won't help it or solve my problems so not going to eat them. they will still be there after anyway, just worse.

off to the 45 m in drive to doctors. hope the roads are good.

mlek

Afternoon Sixers!
Having a good morning so far - work is going by fast, and I have a night of planing ahead of me - we are two weeks out from the BFFs bachelorette party! I would love to get a cute new dress for that so I am really motivated to stay on track! Going to see if my friend coming over tonight wants to go for a long walk with the dogs - I promised myself that I would do 60 minutes of exercise per day (walking dogs, weights, elliptical, mowing the lawn... doesn't matter what - I just need to do it)... If she is not up for it I will try and get my lunch walk in then 30 minutes on the elliptical, or finish up the yard work - (our lawn is growing like a weed this week!)

Going to do some online shopping for some party stuff and then get back to work... taking an early lunch break today - so hungry!!

Personals and more later!

Denziee

thanks for all your kind words and advice girls. I'm on beta-blockers at the moment and they make me feel a little crazy!!!

busy at work today, waiting to present my item at committee and its way past home time! i am starving so am trying not to raid the chocolate machine!

friday tomorrow! YAY! talk tomorrow xx

chipper15173

yea the endro just took me off my meds. so now i have to really watch what i eat and exercise. and test daily. i was testing just once a week. hope i can do this. it will be nice not having to give myself a shot anymore.

later

chipper15173

mowed lawns, DH made dinner, had a simi good cry, took a short swim (water was cool) had a shower ready for bed.

chipper15173

good morning....

had a rough night, emotions wise. did good on food. still a little down again today. men just don't get it when all you want is a hug....

good news is son is trying really hard to get his power on for moving day the 12th. if not that day it will be the end of july. i pray it's the 12th. i am so ready for him to be gone. you love your kids, but, after 30 years you are so ready for them to be gone....(he's only not lived at home for 6 of those) sorry to complain here. i know you are tired of it. so won't say anymore.

had good numbers this morning. hope they stay that way. don't want to go back on meds.

later

kistinbee

Morning! Been SO busy! Had a HORRIBLE day yesterday...bad eating, no exercise...I want a re-do! Oh well...we all have mishaps and it's a new new day! Gonna be a hot one! Kadence and I are heading to the beach after work for a while. Don't have much planned for dinner yet...never a good thing, but I will make a good choice...I promise. And then plan tonight is yoga!

Gotta get back to some work...have a great day and a FABULOUS long weekend if I don't get to check back!

Denziee

WENT FOR A RUN
really hurt. no energy. not fun!!!

going to my friends fordinner now
happy friday people x

chipper15173

sure hope you feel better clair.

i hope everyone has a great holiday weekend. no plans for us.

jmiller0906

Just wanted to say "hi!"

Lorna - Wow! Awesome - everything you wrote about your kids and sitting down with them to talk about all this eating stuff. You are seriously the only person I have ever heard say that they did that with their kids! That is so inspirational and thank you for sharing! :flowerforyou:

Cathy - I think you're doing awesome too. I just want to tell you that I'm really enjoying your posts (except that last few - I'm not enjoying that you're bummed ). Keep your chin up though, you're doing great!

Hello to everyone else! Have a great 4th! :happy:

chipper15173

well zumba was with a sub tonight. she went sooo slow. didn't even get a good sweat on. after she asked us what we would like her to do differently she said speed up. there are normally 10+ in class tonight there were 4 than 3. one walked out ano even 1/2 way through. the normal instructor went to get her cert to teach zumba tone with weights. can't wait for that to start. i love zumba.

had homemade chili with hot dogs for dinner. was so good. had them beans cooking since 1 this afternoon. amazing what you can come up with using just what's in the house, cause there's no money.

well almost my ice cream time. must be 8 pm and shark tank.

see you in the morning.

lulabellewoowoo

Quick catchup -
Kristin, you do soooo well so often, that maybe your body needs a "rest/cheat" day to get remotivated.

Clare - great job on getting out there. Sorry it hurt, but you are moving and that is a good thing. Pat yourself on the back for that.

Cathy - how are you doing? You always have so much stuff going on, I have no idea how you keep it all together. Your family is very fortunate to have such a strong woman to keep everything in line.

jmiller - thanks. I didn't have a very good healthy example growing up, and I don't ever want my daughter having issues the way I do. But in teaching her about exercise (we are now training together for our first 5K in October) and how to choose wisely and not eat everything in front of you because it's there, it is actually helping our whole family. My son, who is underweight, is learning to make better choices on protein rather than just going for "meat". And the cool thing is they are only 9 and 10, so hopefully it's a good start for less stressful teenage years on their self-image. Even hubby is losing some of his "comfort weight", which is cool. It's hard though combating their other household who are into "quick fix diets", but we'll see how it goes.

AFM - Finally got back on the treadmill with my girl yesterday and was glad I did. Then sat by the pool all afternoon. After dropping them off at their other father's at 3 (I had them for 7 straight days), I laid down for a nap at 4, and woke up this morning at 3 a.m. Didn't even know I was that tired. Could easily go back to bed too, but duty calls. So doing lots of yard work this weekend, so I'm using that as my exercise. Hope you all have a great weekend, and stay healthy and cool.

chipper15173

good morning.

went and did a few yard sales. looking for a meat grinder. we decided to make our own hamburger. found a really nice rug for son. after we got it home and vacuumed it, we really liked it. too bad i already told him about it and he paid me back for it. it will almost fit his whole living room. oh well.
nothing much planned for the weekend.

hope everyone has a great day.

chipper15173

afternoon
an afternoon rain fall today. this is our normal summer weather. saves watering the lawn.

went and picked out new cell phones, didn't buy just what to get next. picked out new washer i really dislike the one i have. i just made the payment so need to talk to finance guy about it on tuesday.

grilling chicken for dinner.

doing pretty good without meds, numbers a little high, but, good.

off to look at a few things and clean pool

lulabellewoowoo

Cathy(chipper)...............................SW 237.2 lbs / GW 229.0 lbs / CW 234.2 lbs / PROGRESS -3.0 lbs
Kristin (kistinbee)..........................SW 157.0 lbs / GW 152.0 lbs / CW 152.0 lbs / PROGRESS -5.0 lbs WOO!!
Em (MLEK)....................................SW 175.0 lbs / GW 160.8 lbs / CW 169.6 lbs / PROGRESS -5.4 lbs
Lorena(reyna99)...........................SW 154.2 lbs / GW 150.0 lbs / CW 152.6 lbs / PROGRESS -1.6 lbs
Shanell (Nellienell12.....................SW 195.0 lbs / GW 189.0 lbs / CW 190.0 lbs / PROGRESS -5.0 lbs
Julia (jmiller0906)..........................SW 134.4 lbs / GW 130.0 lbs / CW 136.2 lbs / PROGRESS +1.8 lbs
Amy(Amy_36)................................SW 200.2 lbs / GW 194.0 lbs / CW 200.2 lbs / PROGRESS 0.00 lbs
Kim (JDKLove18)..........................SW 197.0 lbs /GW 192.0 lbs / CW 196.7 lbs / PROGRESS -0.3 lbs
Clare (Finnhead)...........................SW 155.6 lbs / GW 150.0 lbs / CW 154.0 lbs / PROGRESS -1.6 lbs
Lorna (lulabellewoowoo) ..............SW 133.2 lbs / GW 127.0 lbs / CW 136.8.0 lbs / PROGRESS +3.6 lb

Jennifer(candycaneps)..................SW 170.0 lbs / GW 165 lbs / CW 170 lbs / PROGRESS 0.00 lbs
Julie (juliebily)................................SW167.7 lbs / GW 155.5 lbs / CW 169.3 lbs / PROGRESS +1.6 lbs
AmyLou (amylou_24)....................SW 150.0 lbs /GW 145.0 lbs / CW 148.2 lbs / PROGRESS -1.8 lbs
Stacey(Stacey765)........................SW 155.0 lbs / GW 145.0 lbs / CW 155.0 lbs / PROGRESS 0.00 lbs
Kel(redneckwoman)......................SW 148.7 lbs / GW 143.0 lbs / CW 148.7 lbs / PROGRESS 0.00 lbs
Tiff (gonabfit) ................................SW 0.0 lbs / GW 0.0 lbs / CW 0.0 lbs / PROGRESS 0.00 lb

So not the direction I wanted to be going in. Don't know what's going on. Did some drastic change to my diet in the last 10 days and cut out wheat altogether because I ran out of my antidepressants and can't afford a refill right now, and I know that part of my depression is cycled with the effects that wheat and all the bad choices I make concerning it (cakes, cookies) that go with it. But the one thing I haven't been doing is counting my calories because I couldn't focus on too many things. So I guess I'll have to go back to giving that a try and see if I can shift some of this around. Hubby said that when you make a huge change in your lifestyle diet like that, it usually takes a month to see the positive results. I like his theory and I hope he's right. But going on the beach all week next week for a vacation is now a little discouraging. But ever onward.

lulabellewoowoo

I need to vent please - I get a text from my daughter at 11:09 last night (just walked in the door myself) that said "Daddy is very drunk." The next one indicated that they were driving. So I called him, pretending to be concerned about them because I could hear a lot of ambulances and police cars (white lie?). He knew something was up and kept asking what was really going on. And yes, I know him well enough to be able to tell from a phone conversation if he is inebriated, and he was. After we hung, I no longer was getting messages from my daughter. So then I started texting my ex and asking him to let me know he was home safe. That didn't work. Then my husband is getting all worked up (he was not drunk, but slightly inebriated as we had just gotten home from dinner with friends) and mad at me for not calling him back and cussing him out or calling the police and having them waiting at his house. My only concern at that point was making sure they all got home safe. Calling my ex and agitating him while he was driving was not going to help the situation, nor would having the police waiting when my children got home. So I drove to his house (7 minutes away) and didn't see their car and decided to wait up the street. Hubby gets pissed and jumps out of the car. Great!!!! So now I have TWO problems, and still have no idea where my children are. Finally, after pleading on the text messaging my daughter calls, crying, telling me she made a horrible mistake, Daddy wasn't really drunk, she was just trying to tell me her day and didn't mean to cause so many problems. They were in their driveway and she was in the car with her father talking. So I drove to the house, asked if I could just quickly give her a hug, promised not to cause a scene, and went and hugged her, made small talk with her about her day. Then after 5 minutes I asked her to go inside so I could talk with Daddy. Now, I think I handled it well. No sense in arguing with a drunk person. I learned that a long time ago. So I calmly reasoned him out of his aggravation, embarrassment, irritation and simply told him that if he had responded to my texts, I would not have come over. I had to decide if I wanted to break the trust of my daughter (who will not be texting me about stuff like this for awhile now), or be a mother. I opted for motherhood over friendship at this point. By the way, this is at midnight outside, and I'm trying to keep everything calm in front of my kids (who he had cussed at in the car - which he only does when he is drunk), while my husband is seething in our car ready to punch somebody. It did allow me the opportunity to discuss with him other "safe" drinking incidents that I have witnessed when he had the kids that maybe he might want to reconsider. The only upside to the whole situation other than them being safe, was that his wife was out of town so I didn't have to deal with her too. But after putting out that fire (still going to have a sobering conversation with him), when I got in the car and then got home, my husband is so mad at me and ranting and raving and telling me how I should have done ... and then some ...., and yeah, and why didn't I .... Why couldn't he have been my friend, realized that the kids were safe, and seen that I had handled the best situation with the least amount of fireworks for their sake. I felt beaten and exhausted in my own house and this morning still feel the emotional bruises from it. I hate the tug of war that goes on between me and my ex and my hubby. I can't do anything right for either of them most of the time. Now , I get to see my daughter for two hours tomorrow, and I have to concentrate on making sure she is mentally and emotionally okay through all of this. How come the two men get to act like children and my ten year old baby is the one that acted like the adult? skldjfal;sdejkfakl;sfjl;askdfjkl;asdfjkl;asdjfkl;adfjl;ejwfoi;ajwefrio;adjcioasdjfkl;asdfjl;sakfjkl Okay, sorry about that. I feel a little better. Just needed to vent. It will all work itself out. Just not looking forward to my day. Definitely takes away my appetite. Looking forward to a good run at some point though.

chipper15173

good morning...

lula.....i can't say i know where you are coming from. but, i understand the dealing with men. they wanted to be macho and show themselfs as the good guy. it's a guy thing. i read a book called "for women only" by shaunti feldhhahn. we learned about her books from church. she goes into why men are men and in the one called "for men only" she goes in why women are women. very interesting stuff. DH says she is right on about it too. me don't like to be "showed up" by anyone. to them it makes them look weak. take the 2 hours with your daughter and just be there with her. let her bring up and talk about the night. do what she wants to do and just listen to her if she wants to talk. i know we as mothers are always concerned about our kids no matter their age. we always want them safe and worry about them. that will never end. it does get better and easier. you will have a good day. you are what you make of your day. go for a run and shower and dress and lift your head up high cause YOU ARE WORTH IT.....take on the day and lest it become the past. there is nothing we can do about the past. we learn from it and we have to move on. you will be in my toughts today. please post again tomorrow and let us know how your day went. love you sixer sister.

today is family gym day. tired this morning. wanting to get things done around house. but, son holding that train up. seems his stuff is over flowing into the rest of the house, not just his room. cause things are being bought and there is no room. only 10 days left until we get a truck and most of it goes to his trailer. can't wait.

need to get dressed.

chipper15173

had a pretty good workout. got really dizzy at first. BBQing with the kids they got some ribs. a little pool time also.

later

lulabellewoowoo

Thank you so much for your advice yesterday Cathy. Huge help. Actually, I don't think my ex remembers much about it, which was okay for yesterday. Once we get back from vacation, him and I are gonna have a face to face and discuss this as the things that he said to my kids about me were inappropriate and need to be addressed. But it can wait.

So, today starts me back to counting calories. Bad day to start I know as we are having a cookout. But it has to be done. I need to be in a good habit so that when I go away next week with my family I don't overeat and walk around feeling gross and lethargic. So today it is.

I hope you all have a wonderful day with your families (if you are here in the States and have off). Have a wonderful, safe, and healthy day!!!

chipper15173

good morning.

lula glad i was some help. yes address the issues after vacation. any day is good day to begin even any time of day is a good time. it's not the end of the world. you will from now on just make better choices. choices you feel comfortable with. just repeat to yourself. i make the choices in my food plan. they will be good choices. because i am worth it.......have a great day.

we had our cookout with the kids yesterday. ribs on the grill, sooo good. just taking it easy today. a lazy day. it will affect my weigh in tomorrow, but, that's life for today.

back later.

Denziee

hi ladies

lulu! crikey you needed to vent! and i can totally see why. And I think you dealt with it very well. calm and reasoned and setting a gret example to the kids. I agree with chipper - your hubby wanted to be the big man but you took control and dealt with it yourself. In hubbys defence, i expect your ex's behaviour just infruriates him and he wants to just sort it out for you. he won't like seeing you stressed out or the kids upset and wants to make that right. And thats a good trait.... its great to have a man that wants to sort it out for you. But sometimes.... its just adds to the situation and you end up coping with the lot.

I think you did great!!!!

I am feeling a bit better these days, going to the docs tomorrow for blood tests and then i am off work for the rest of the week. BLISS! going to try and squeeze in lots of extra exercise!

bye girls, have a great rest of day x

chipper15173

week 5 up. sorry forgot about it until this morning.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/280780-sixers-headed-for-the-beach-week-5