Eating disorders.

Perfectlycrooked

I'd like to just say that no matter what kind of eating disorder you may have, you deserve the love and support of others.

I have a fear of food, something I hate to admit but if you were to look at my diary it would be obvious. Only last week I was eating 700 calories and still exercising. I've been eating more so I don't pass out at showchoir where I'm dancing for 6+ hours a day for a week. But I feel that I'm getting ridiculed for this. I know it's not right. I know I need to eat more. Smack me if I had been oblivious to these facts but I'm not. I know these things and I know what I need to do but that doesn't make it any easier or less scary.
But I have people sending me messages telling me these things or even yelling at me that it's "Sick" that I don't eat enough and "rediculous" that I could treat my body this way. Or course I get encouraging words and nice people, no doubt. There are supportive people out there. But I see people who over eat almost every day and all they get is" tomorrow's another day" "you can do this!"
I don't know, I just want people to know that an eating disorder is an eating disorder. Everyone deserves support and care, expecially those who are afraid of food or afraid to leave food. Those with binge-eating, Anorexia, Bulimia, ednos. anyone and everyone on here deserves support. Don't put anyone down, it's not right.

Perfectlycrooked

I didn't mean for this to be so long but I didn't really know how to cut it down.

DancingYogini

:flowerforyou: (((HUGS))) You are beautiful...and pushing yourself to eat more when you have a fear of food is very brave. Feel free to friend me, I know what you are going through!

jid314

I agree with you girl. People like me, who have always eaten as much as we possibly can without busting, just can't imagine people who psychologically CANNOT put food in their mouths. That is, of course, until you have someone in your own family who is going to lose their life any day now to an eating disorder. You realize that it truly is psychological and nobody WANTS to push themselves to the brink of death.

I hope you can get past this, and I hope you don't rule out letting your family or friends know about this problem so perhaps they can help you seek help. Looking at your pictures, you look incredible! Don't let that go to waste. My cousin wasn't fat andw as built normal, but now looks sickly.

EmilyKateAlice

You're so right. I'm so sick of people treating me like I'm not a real person! I think part of it is that in a lot of movies and on TV, girls with eating disorders are stereotyped. We're treated like we're stupid, fake and like we have to be 'fixed'. When will people realise that we're people too?! Stop stereotyping us all and pretending you know what we think and how we feel for God's sake! Don't pretend to understand when there's no way you could.

PoshTaush

I'm really sorry you are going through this. I used to be bulimic. I know how you feel. It is hard for others to understand... which can bring on negative comments.

I hope you can continue to try to have a 'healthier" view of food. It sounds like you are already taking the baby steps needed toward getting better. Please get the help you need. Until then, I am here if you need support...

Sincerely....

Perfectlycrooked

Yes! I'm so happy you guys understand!

Some people don't understand until it's put in front of them. I just want people to think about it. Everyone deserves support!

flyboy1

Don't take others too seriously. The "smart" people say to eat at least 1200 calories so you body doesn't think there is a food shortage causing your metabolism to slow down. The "smart" people also say to eat your calories but that does not work for me. Do what feels best for you, it is your body. Stay to the minimum and eat as you see fit. Your picture looks just fine. If you wish you can send a friend request.

NancyAnne1960

I'm so sorry you are going through what you are. You are a brave sole, and I give you credit for finding this site to help you on your trek as well. This should be a place for anyone concerned with getting healthy. Whether it be to lose, to gain, to build muscle, to tone, or just plain see what they have been eating and find a way to make it better. My best to you. I think you are a darling gal. Hang in there, and keep logging food and hopefully build it up little, to YOUR comfort zone. As everyone says, "baby steps". Best of luck to you.

Perfectlycrooked

I'm so sorry you are going through what you are. You are a brave sole, and I give you credit for finding this site to help you on your trek as well. This should be a place for anyone concerned with getting healthy. Whether it be to lose, to gain, to build muscle, to tone, or just plain see what they have been eating and find a way to make it better. My best to you. I think you are a darling gal. Hang in there, and keep logging food and hopefully build it up little, to YOUR comfort zone. As everyone says, "baby steps". Best of luck to you.

I couldn't have said it better myself! and thank you<3

EmilyKateAlice

QUOTE:

I'm so sorry you are going through what you are. You are a brave sole, and I give you credit for finding this site to help you on your trek as well. This should be a place for anyone concerned with getting healthy. Whether it be to lose, to gain, to build muscle, to tone, or just plain see what they have been eating and find a way to make it better. My best to you. I think you are a darling gal. Hang in there, and keep logging food and hopefully build it up little, to YOUR comfort zone. As everyone says, "baby steps". Best of luck to you.



Yes that is an excellent way of putting it.

clarech

Hi I'm sorry you are going through this! I don't have an eating disorder but often eat around 800-1000 cals due to not always having much food in the house as we are on a tight budget and i would much rather my children ate than me. I got so fed up with explaining this that I restarted and now have only one friend on here.

You are doing great and don't deserve any less support than anyone else on here. Some people just see the cals and don't think that there might be a real reason why they are low.

Jackie_Snape80

I agree! It took me a couple of months just to get the minimum of 1,200 calories...and I'm terrified of going over. I recommend FatSecret for support...all my friends there were great at helping me get a little bit over my starving/purging issues. There are no "calorie goal" posts for everyone to see. You can post journals instead or comments on the weigh in. Anyways...

I'm still terrified of food, and it's hard sometimes looking at my intake being over just 1,000. I know it's hard when it says I'm "under my calorie goal!" like it's so happy for me. I feel like I did good(especially if it was under 1,000), yet stupid for not doing what I should be doing. And when people comment positive things when I add a new low weight. -sigh-

If it's ok with you, I'd like to add you as a friend. Maybe we'll have at least one person who can be supportive ^_^

fuhhletch

My thoughts exactly!
I especially agree with the statement someone made about how it's portrayed in media...it's quite frustrating. I know for me personally, I always had to deal with hearing things like "Oh, they just need to be loved! It's a cry for attention!" or "They just want to impress people". Ughh, such BS. I always have to reiterate that when I'm "dieting", I'm doing it for myself and only myself. Just like any diet should be - not to please others.

also, this is my first post on here! .__. hi.

Madrow

I used to suffer from anorexia, not to the point I ended up as a "Movie of the Week" story, but the thing that upset me most was how people have the impression that an eating disorder is "the easy way" to lose weight. It still upsets me. There is nothing easy about an eating disorder, and that's not how I started having one. When I get stressed, I don't feel hungry, and if I do eat, it's because I force myself to. After a week of barely eating I noticed myself shrinking and figured I was able to take advantage of my stress. Eventually, I gained my hunger back but continued with the calorie restriction. I was never afraid of food and I didn't count calories but I got addicted to the feeling of being hungry, and I associated that sensation with weight melting off. I don't have the problem of fighting it every day like those who battle the illness for years, but I can completely empathize.

The easiest weight loss (and it still isn't easy) is eating healthy, staying active, and knowing what works for an individual's body. It's amazing how doing things "The Right Way" is sooooo much easier than lying to everyone, covering up your tracks and making excuses not to eat, avoiding social occasions because they may revolve around food (how does one refuse food at a banquet, for example), terrible fatigue, stomach cramps, and passing out (I'm also hypoglycemic, on days I wouldn't eat, I had to at least make sure my sugar wasn't low enough to send me to the hospital. I wanted thinness, not death). And that's just what I dealt with at the time. There are so many other things sufferers of eating disorders go through, that's why they "suffer".

Have pride in how far you have come! :flowerforyou:

butterflikisses13

I am eating disordered. Never diagnosed with anything. But I never eat right. I either eat far too much or nothing at all and everyone always yells at me that I'm too thin and not to worry. But it's hard. I've been trying to eat right but it's really hard to get up to the 1200 the MFP diary is looking for. I'm here for support, add if you want to!

infamousmk

((HUGS))


Please try to take the negative comments in stride and know that you're doin the right thing and taking the steps you need for your own journey.

Nailrep

Hi I'm sorry you are going through this! I don't have an eating disorder but often eat around 800-1000 cals due to not always having much food in the house as we are on a tight budget and i would much rather my children ate than me. I got so fed up with explaining this that I restarted and now have only one friend on here.

You are doing great and don't deserve any less support than anyone else on here. Some people just see the cals and don't think that there might be a real reason why they are low.

NOBODY should have to make the choice between feeding their kids and feeding themselves. Hugs to you!

dad106

You are so pretty.. don't let anyone on this site tell you otherwise!

I understand... it's hard to eat! Just like it's hard to change from eating fast food every day to eating healthier options. It doesn't happen over night and it shouldn't have to happen over night. Keep adding little by little until you get up to a healthy calorie goal(whatever that is for you).

Take it slow and you'll get there girl.. no one got where they are by rushing process.

findingfit23

Great post!!

You can do this!!!

RoseBlanc

(original post)

agreed.
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Recovery is being something of a devil to me. My body feels better, it's functioning better, and I know it appreciated me giving it what it needs... but eating the 1200-1500 I need a day is excruciating. My mind, emotions, and eating disorder voice all scream at me to stop what I'm doing.

You're very strong for eating more, I support you 100% as long as you're actively trying- and even if you fall off the wagon, revert to old ways, or your disorder morphs and you suddenly go off into left field you have the support of a total and complete stranger, lol.

Be strong, Lady stranger. B*tch slap your eating disorder and be good to you!

jessicakaycobb

It's amazing how doing things "The Right Way" is sooooo much easier than lying to everyone, covering up your tracks and making excuses not to eat, avoiding social occasions because they may revolve around food (how does one refuse food at a banquet, for example), terrible fatigue, stomach cramps, and passing out (I'm also hypoglycemic, on days I wouldn't eat, I had to at least make sure my sugar wasn't low enough to send me to the hospital. I wanted thinness, not death).

i agree completely! it's been so nice to be able to tell my husband about my weight loss and how i've been doing, and to ask for his help if i need it...instead of constantly lying to him and hoping against hope that he wouldn't notice that i was "dieting" again.

as for this original post: forget the hurtful people and just focus on the good you are doing for yourself. you're very brave to face the fear of eating more - as is anyone who is struggling to meet their lower intake levels. a lot of "normal" people don't get that. they think the answer to anorexia is "eat a cheeseburger." they think the answer to bulimia is "stop throwing up." they think the answer to EDNOS is "stop being a baby, you aren't really sick. just deal with your junk and quit crying for attention."

in other words, they are IGNORANT. we all understand where you're coming from, and at the very least, the ignorant out there need to take a step back and realize their comments are going to a real human being, not a computer screen. i'm so sorry your feelings have been hurt!

cowlover22

I know exactly what you mean...people look at me and make judgements(which NOBODY has the right to do) but yet they go and over eat and they are ok. Most people to some point have an eating disorder. It doesnt matter if you are to fat, to thin or some people are at the right weight but they binge ange purge..there are so many diferent things. I was only eating around 300 calories when I went into the hospital and came out eating 3600 calories. So it is possible. Unfortunately I have slipped backwards but I have not given up..no matter what people may think. You are young..please dont give in to this horrible disease have you had any professional help? It really has messed my life up and wouldnt wish it on anybody. And no we dont do it for attention...If I wanted to do something for attention I would get my weight up and get my life back. Cant change all of the harm it has done to my body, but I can try to educate others. Hang in there:happy:

cmriverside

Good for you for speaking up. You are welcome here!

There are people who will try to "help" you in not-so-helpful ways. Forgive them. They don't get enough love in their own lives, so they don't know how to lovingly help you.

Many people do not closely examine their issues. They just go through life getting progressively worse in whatever their problem happens to be.

I sincerely hope you will be one who breaks the cycle and learns to give back to others the love they can't give to themselves. :flowerforyou:

Katie3784

An eating disorder is very serious and needs to be addressed from a physical and emotional/mental standpoint. I hope you are getting the help you need because it's not fair to complain about people getting down on you for hurting your body if you are not willing to take the necessary steps towards recovery. ED effect family and friends in a major way and I'm sure they are scared for you and don't know what else to say. I have dealt with anorexia in the past and also have a sister with bipolar disorder, so I know how damn frustrating it is when the ones you love so dearly refuse the help that they so desperately need.

Katie3784

You're so right. I'm so sick of people treating me like I'm not a real person! I think part of it is that in a lot of movies and on TV, girls with eating disorders are stereotyped. We're treated like we're stupid, fake and like we have to be 'fixed'. When will people realise that we're people too?! Stop stereotyping us all and pretending you know what we think and how we feel for God's sake! Don't pretend to understand when there's no way you could.

People with eating disorders do need to be fixed, and until somebody can recognize that, they will not be able to get better.

Katie3784

Don't take others too seriously. The "smart" people say to eat at least 1200 calories so you body doesn't think there is a food shortage causing your metabolism to slow down. The "smart" people also say to eat your calories but that does not work for me. Do what feels best for you, it is your body. Stay to the minimum and eat as you see fit. Your picture looks just fine. If you wish you can send a friend request.

How can you say this to an admitted anorexic? It is an illness that you obviously do not understand at all.

Kalrez

My heart pours out to you. If I knew any words of wisdom that would make everything better, I don't think I'd be in my current situation. Recovery is hard, but it's worth it in the long run.

I can totally, totally relate. That's pretty much all I'm going to say on the matter.

HER94

Thanks for posting this I suffer from EDNOS and fed up of people just saying, stop eating, eat more, why are you so fussy, you dont need to diet, or your fat.. these mixed messages and negative atmosphere just dont help in Recovery.

mollycivinskas

I have binge-eating disorder. For me, it manifests itself in periods of starvation, followed by consumption of insane and shocking amounts of food (and calories!) Further, the obsession continues, as I try to exercise and exercise, so that I can eat more. I have been struggling to manage my food choices, and logging them on here has helped. What I really want is to be satisfied with my body, which I can remember feeling only once (and that was during a drug-problem I developed as another way to control my eating.) I'm not obese (yet-) though most of my family is... and I just don't want that for myself. Some people think I'm vain, superficial and self-obsessed, but that's not true. I just want to be comfortable in my own skin- not to look better than anyone else, but to look like the best me I can. And I believe in my heart that a healthy lifestyle and a healthy view of oneself are a fantastic foundation for an all-around amazing life. I just wanted to say thanks for speaking up... while eating disorders can differ in their manifestation, we all have some things in common: 1. The way we see ourselves, 2. The way we believe others see us, and 3. we all feel like outcasts who live in shame as a result of our eating habits. By speaking up, you give others hope, and you put a stop to the shame and secrecy. We all deserve support, whether we are here to lose weight, gain weight, manage our eating habits, build muscle, train for an event, or just begin or maintain a healthy lifestyle. You most certainly have my support and my respect. Thank you for not being a secret.

VampireKame

:O You're in show choir?! Where are you from and what choir?
I thank you for posting this. It takes a lot to come out and say you have an eating disorder.
And I can honestly relate to this post.
Thank you.