I am NOT Dieting...

arewethereyet

I have found recently that a lot of people come up to me and ask me what diet I am on.

When I tell them I am not on a diet, they smirk. Suuuuurre.

I tell them I am eating a healthy balanced diet full of veggies and fruits and lean proteins.
Exercise 3 x a week and lift weights 3 x a week.
I lose 1 pound every 10 days.
And I log everything in MFP> Use this site for support.

Some of the comments people say:

Geez, only 1 pound in 10 days, I was on this diet where I lost a bizzilion lbs in 1 week!
Yeah, but what are you taking?????
Oh I cant eat veggies!
Oh I cant drink water all day!
Oh I cant go without my bread!
I cant exercise my (put in ailment) will act up!

I tell them:
The diet you were on worked so well you are now 50 instead of 30 pounds overweight.
I am not on any drugs
I hated veggies and fruits when I started, now I seek them out, crave them.
Maybe you will get cardio in when you go to the bathroom all day. You have no problem taking those 10 ciggie breaks.
I didnt give up anything. A peice of bread doesnt own me anymore.
I have a severe neck injury which effects my entire back. It is BETTER from losing weight and exercise

Ok then, stay the way you are! Why ask me if you have no intention of listening?
I then tell them about this site, write it down, and ask them to look around. There are fantastic ppl here who have lost 20-50-125 pounds....no drugs....eating their freakin veggies and exercising.

Have any of you encountered this type of behavior? Why cant they just stop at "You look AMAZING!!" LOL

arewethereyet

I have found recently that a lot of people come up to me and ask me what diet I am on.

When I tell them I am not on a diet, they smirk. Suuuuurre.

I tell them I am eating a healthy balanced diet full of veggies and fruits and lean proteins.
Exercise 3 x a week and lift weights 3 x a week.
I lose 1 pound every 10 days.
And I log everything in MFP> Use this site for support.

Some of the comments people say:

Geez, only 1 pound in 10 days, I was on this diet where I lost a bizzilion lbs in 1 week!
Yeah, but what are you taking?????
Oh I cant eat veggies!
Oh I cant drink water all day!
Oh I cant go without my bread!
I cant exercise my (put in ailment) will act up!

I tell them:
The diet you were on worked so well you are now 50 instead of 30 pounds overweight.
I am not on any drugs
I hated veggies and fruits when I started, now I seek them out, crave them.
Maybe you will get cardio in when you go to the bathroom all day. You have no problem taking those 10 ciggie breaks.
I didnt give up anything. A peice of bread doesnt own me anymore.
I have a severe neck injury which effects my entire back. It is BETTER from losing weight and exercise

Ok then, stay the way you are! Why ask me if you have no intention of listening?
I then tell them about this site, write it down, and ask them to look around. There are fantastic ppl here who have lost 20-50-125 pounds....no drugs....eating their freakin veggies and exercising.

Have any of you encountered this type of behavior? Why cant they just stop at "You look AMAZING!!" LOL

Losing_It

I know exactly what you mean. My Mom says to me EVERY DAY "Quit starving yourself and eat!!!!!!!" I am not starving...I am eating...I'm eating H E A L T H Y! Why does everyone think if you lose weight you have to be starving?:grumble:

chrissyh

Everything you said was me before I started here - I didn't eat vegetables or fruit, fry it I'd eat it - give me the quick fix so I can hurry up and lose and then gain it all back again. If nothing else reading thru it reiterated to me that I am doing this the right way for the first time in my life! no drugs, nothing but me and my own will to be healthy!

Thank you for the post.

Jackie_W

People don't seem to understand the difference betwen healthy living and diet do they! LOL

Anna_Banana

You got to love people.

ErinRNinMaine

No my favorite is being called a "skinny *****" who can "eat whatever you want". Uh, yaaaaah. How about it pisses me off when youmake that comment as you see me piling salad and beans on my tray instead of a mounded plate of mashed potatoes, meatloaf swimming in gravy, and cobbler. That to me is as insulting as called some one fat. I work hard to look the way that I do...I make sacrifices. I'd like to eat the cobbler and mashed potatoes, too!! This used to come from a woman who'd scoff at me for wanting to take the stairs TWO FLIGHTS when she'd take the elevator. Then she'd whine about her weight.....:grumble:

So yes, we are living a lifestyle...not dieting!

shkaki

I went to visit a friend with my old college roommates this weekend, we all played basketball together so we used to run and lift and practice everyday. Now that we're older and settled into jobs, I continue to exercise and try to eat healthy, and I know they do on and off as well, but this weekend they kept giving me crap about not eating the cookies and bars they had brought for our road trip, and when I got up early before everyone else and worked out at my friends house, I got a bunch of grief for that too. I tried explaining the fact that this is what i do every day, and I'd feel crappy if I didn't. I just wish everyone would let us be healthy without having to make us feel guilty just because they don't feel the best about themselves!! I"m right there with you guys on this topic!

Fitness_Chick

You got to love people.

why's that!?:yawn:

tanzmamma

YES I get that ALL THE TIME. "What diet are you on, I'd like to do it!"

I say I'm not on a diet, just eating healthy and exercising...... but they look at me like they don't believe me :ohwell:

I have told a MASSIVE amount of people about this site so they can see for themselves. I lost most of my weight before joining this site (I didnt know about it). But still it has helped me close in on goal. 9 lbs to go................................... but even then I wont be eating big macs 4x a week I'll continue to eat healthy and exercise. If I drop BELOW my "goal" of 164, fine, whatever. But I'm not "dieting" to get to a certain number then letting loose and eating like a cow lol!

It is DEFINITELY a life change.. not a quick fix!

Anna_Banana

You got to love people.

why's that!?:yawn:

Because most of them are dump enough to think that the only way anybody loses any weight is some fad diet, and not through hard work. And most seem to think if you are doing it it must be something easy.

carajo

Great post!! Making lifestyle changes does take effort.......effort that is well worth it!!!! I too get the comment....you eat like a horse and don't gain weight.....ok that is a plate full of salad and other veggies, with a small amount of protein, not the fried potatoes, pasta salads, and desserts...which i too would love....but it's funny when i do eat heavy foods i just feel ill!!!! Your body responds to eating clean!!!

arewethereyet

fitness chick

arewethereyet

When I went for a meeting the other day, I brought my own plate with me. Fresh turkey (2oz) strawberries, blueberries, apples, 1 oz 2% ched cheese, banana. Oh and 3 triscuits.

Everyone else came in with the corporate breakfast of scrambled eggs, 6 pc of bacon, 4 sausage links, homefries and a HUGE bagel loaded with at least 2-3 oz of cream cheese. Oh and 8 oz of orange juice.

The girl beside me said, See...THIS is a balanced breakfast! I almost spit out my expensive organic low fat cheddar cheese!

Someone else said If they're buying I am eating! So you have to pig out to get a few additional dollars worth of food from the company??

I am thankful to all of you, who have helped me to understand myself and food. I have a much better relationship with food than 4 months ago.

:smooched:

arewethereyet

You got to love people.

why's that!?:yawn:

you crack me up. :laugh:

Fitness_Chick

You got to love people.

why's that!?:yawn:

you crack me up. :laugh:

Well then
:bigsmile:

ChubbyBunny

My family says I'm "doing weird stuff"....
Ummm...figuring out the numbers and working out isn't....weird.
Also, doing it on my own (with this site) isn't odd....They "can't" lose weight without their WW Leader (a particular one...who is 45 minutes away).

Sure, my loss hasn't been major and everyday is a struggle to pick the right foods and exercise, but I am changing a lifestyle developed through years of watching these same family members! It's not a diet, it's living healthy.

clewliss

I had lost about 20 lbs 2 yrs ago by going to the gym and eating right (gained it back because I didn't see the big picture then) anyway, I walked into the office at school where I work and there were 3 "oversized" ladies in there and one said smirkingly, "you're losing some weight there girl, how you doing it?" and I said EXERCISE.... and would you all believe they looked at me like I was doing a bad crime!!! I think alot of times it's just jealousy. They want the body without doing all the work to get it. People haven't seen me behind closed doors crying b/c I'm unhappy with myself and working SO hard to get it. Nor have they seen me in the fitting rooms when I throw the clothes back on the rack b/c they were still too tight. There are a lot of things that go on with us as individuals on this journey that isn't easy, but OHHHHHHH the feeling once we get there and walk out the door in a new outfit or that "new me" feeling! Be proud, it's what we've worked so hard to feel....and it doesn't happen overnight! Wow, you struck a nerve on this one and I wrote a book!

arewethereyet

Seems to me you aint so clueless after all!:drinker:

jenn10

I had too--- my MOTHER is "trying" to lose weight -- yeah she buys cookies by the boxes from costco twice a week - I went and stayed with her for the summer and put on almost 15 pounds ! :grumble:

ALL MY FAULT I KNOW BUT! when I buy food for me and my hubby and four boys - I do not buy anything for them that I would not be "allowed" to eat. They snack on apples and celery with pb, we do buy a few chips but they are corn chips and I won't eat them -- there fore the temptations are not in my house!

Since I came home I have taken off twelve pounds in 6 weeks- just going back to the way I use to eat and shop! Then I found you guys, and although I told her about this site - she won't join- saying its too much trouble to log your calories, If she is going to live she is going to live "happy" BUT SHE ISN"T - she complains all the time about her aches and pains and her weight!

Don't you guys ever have those people around you that are so negative all the time that you want to just smack the crap out of them!???

I won't even call her anymore because I am so tired of the complaining! THATS how people are until they realise they are thier own worst enemy! Then they "fix" the troubles they have with food and come and join us people that have decided to "fix" ourselves!

I honestly think most peole do not realise the effort that it takes to burn off one pound of fat and how easy it is to eat that one pound of fat in one day! I know I didn't !

clewliss

Seems to me you aint so clueless after all!:drinker:

If you only knew:laugh:

lessertess

Yea, I run into the same thing all the time. People at work are always asking me what I'm doing to loose weight. Most are shocked and dismayed that I can't offer them a magic pill or some new version of the grapefruit diet. Many acknowledge that loosing weight is hard work but they make a gazillion excuses for why they can't do it. My favorite is "I just don't have time". I have to admit, that is the one phrase that just IRRITATES me. You always have time for what's important to you. You make time.

I have come to the conclusion that misery loves company. Those people who give you a hard time about living a healthy lifestyle feel guilty when they're filling their plates with high calorie crap but don't have the disciplilne to make better choices. When you do, it illustrates their lack of willpower. They want the comfort of having everyone else in the same place they are. I don't think they do it maliciously, I don't even think they do it conciously. They just want to feel that they're ok, even though deep down, they know they're not.

I'm happy to say though that my real friends and family are extremely supportive and even help me make good choices. My mom hides the candy when I come to visit now because she knows it's hard for me to pass it up, so she just removes temptation. My firends are great about choosing places to go out where I can stick to my healthy lifestyle and some excercise and eat right with me. That is sooooo great!

MFS27

Yeah - it does get annoying hearing ...."Oh she's still on THAT diet" or "She won't eat x, y, z - cuz she's a health nut", etc.

I also don't know how to respond to things like, "OMG you've lost a TON of weight!"
What do you say? Yeah, I was a fat cow before - thanks for noticing. I just smile, and change the subject.

I do find it amusing when people don't recognize me - and do a double take, then their mouth hits the floor. That's kind of funny to watch.

I still eat my chocolate, bread, and occasional handful of potato chips (I perfer to bake my own) - it's all in moderation. I also try to be understanding of people who are oblivious to their unhealthy eating habits because I once was in denial too.

soup78

I also try to be understanding of people who are oblivious to their unhealthy eating habits because I once was in denial too.

Yep, me too.
People have to make the decision to change on their own. It took me awhile, but when I finally made the realization that I am in control I started changing little things first. Then, all those efforts together have drastically changed many aspects of my life.

It's all about a new lifestyle, to create a new YOU.

arewethereyet

Most people mean well. They just dont know what to say, and yes I think some feel inadequate. I was THEM a few months ago, and I must remember I have tried and failed many times before, I could go back. So I watch my mouth cuz you know that can come back to bite cha in the tushie.
I just dont get why we are nutty for being healthy! I hate being called a health nut.

Last night I ate 3 buffalo wings. Sauce, blue cheese and ALL. They were yucky, yummy, and I wont tell you what they are doing to me today.

The point is, I fit them into my daily schedule. I wanted them, I ate them. I also had a huge salad with a bunch of veggies....mmmmmmmmmmmm and lots of water.

ceedee22ed

Most people mean well. They just dont know what to say, and yes I think some feel inadequate. I was THEM a few months ago, and I must remember I have tried and failed many times before, I could go back. So I watch my mouth cuz you know that can come back to bite cha in the tushie.
I just dont get why we are nutty for being healthy! I hate being called a health nut.

Last night I ate 3 buffalo wings. Sauce, blue cheese and ALL. They were yucky, yummy, and I wont tell you what they are doing to me today.

The point is, I fit them into my daily schedule. I wanted them, I ate them. I also had a huge salad with a bunch of veggies....mmmmmmmmmmmm and lots of water.

Exactly...its not like you have to drop everything and suck on a carrot stick for life...you just have to measure what you eat and keep tabs to make sure you make up for it (with exercise or cutting back on other goodies)

in my case I have just realized that there is no way to win with most people...I love to eat raw veggies...my coworkers tell me that is not a meal...if i bring in KFC (Crispy strips, diet soda, substitute the fries for mashed potatoes or corn..much more filling than those little satan-sticks :laugh: ) then they tell me I only eat junk food...but everybody has noticed I lost a few pounds! Now they think i have financial issues because I eat less (seriously! a co-worker offered to buy me breakfast today...she said she had seen me eat a special-k bar and an orange and thought I was short of money and couldnt buy "filling" food...go figure)

there is a lot to be said about people not wanting to change...one of my closest friends is about 15-20 lbs bigger than me and when I suggested we join a gym she said "Im not going to go look ridiculous in front of a bunch of skinny people...they can laugh with something else"...when i asked other friends they turned me down as well...I didnt want to go alone :blushing: so I eventually invested in the equipment for my home.

I have recomended the page before and got the answer about not wanting to log calories and about how that takes up time...it hasnt set me back at all...I kind of like it...you learn a lot in the process

Im glad I found this page...you guys really keep me going :drinker: :drinker: :drinker:

arewethereyet

ceedee do ya need a few bucks??? have a sammich girl!!:laugh:

ceedee22ed

ceedee do ya need a few bucks??? have a sammich girl!!:laugh:

My co-workers are seriously worrying me...
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

vanessadawn

seriously the word diet does not bother me. Eating less calories in an attempt to lose weight is a diet, so I have no problem admitting I am on one. I think people see it as a bad word but it really is less scary then it seems. and also don't worry about people being jealous, everyone has been there. I am sometimes jealous seeing my friends eat a nice batch of onion rings or a dessert at dinner lol.

cp005e

Thanks for posting this thread. I have had this happen as well - people keeping asking what I'm doing, like it's some kind of secret. Exercising regularly and eating healthier? Their faces fall. That's not the answer they were looking for.

I think everyone just has to come to the realization on their own - that there are no quick fixes, no magic pills, it's "garbage in, garbage out", and that everyone have the power to change. I have to focus on some other things in my life right now, so I've given myself permission not to lose any more weight for the next few months. I'm still going to be eating healthy, and working out - but I'm not going to be focusing on 'making progress'. I am looking at these next few months as a test drive for how well I have solidified my habits. And I'm not worried - because I know that I am in control now. It's in my power. But that's not the sort of thing that somebody else can tell you.

greenbaum9

I have found recently that a lot of people come up to me and ask me what diet I am on.

When I tell them I am not on a diet, they smirk. Suuuuurre.

I tell them I am eating a healthy balanced diet full of veggies and fruits and lean proteins.
Exercise 3 x a week and lift weights 3 x a week.
I lose 1 pound every 10 days.
And I log everything in MFP> Use this site for support.

Some of the comments people say:

Geez, only 1 pound in 10 days, I was on this diet where I lost a bizzilion lbs in 1 week!
Yeah, but what are you taking?????
Oh I cant eat veggies!
Oh I cant drink water all day!
Oh I cant go without my bread!
I cant exercise my (put in ailment) will act up!

I tell them:
The diet you were on worked so well you are now 50 instead of 30 pounds overweight.
I am not on any drugs
I hated veggies and fruits when I started, now I seek them out, crave them.
Maybe you will get cardio in when you go to the bathroom all day. You have no problem taking those 10 ciggie breaks.
I didnt give up anything. A peice of bread doesnt own me anymore.
I have a severe neck injury which effects my entire back. It is BETTER from losing weight and exercise

Ok then, stay the way you are! Why ask me if you have no intention of listening?
I then tell them about this site, write it down, and ask them to look around. There are fantastic ppl here who have lost 20-50-125 pounds....no drugs....eating their freakin veggies and exercising.

Have any of you encountered this type of behavior? Why cant they just stop at "You look AMAZING!!" LOL

This is a great post, arewethere yet:flowerforyou:

I can only say the ppl who are here had their reasons for making this commitment to a lifestyle change, but those other ppl say the things they say , not to hurt you, but because underneath they envy you and feel they need to make excuses for why they can't do it, too. They will when they're ready b/c you gave them this website info.

I feel I have to add a few things about this topic.
I do not suck on a carrot or eat those :grumble: :grumble: veggies. It took a while for me to change my relationship to food, to my other half, and to myself. It also took me awhile to figure out that I had to get off my butt and get in the kitchen to cook my own food( my other half was a cook in a steak house and he did all the shopping and cooking). I had to figure out what to eat without waiting for him to cook. I use the exchange lists available from ADA, and I did get lots of good foods tips here at MFP. I actually began to LIKE foods I would not even look at before!

Has anyone had this experience? your relationships with ppl who you thought were loved ones or friends brought home a sub sandwich for you? Even my relationship with my other-half has changed.
But I will wait and see what happens with me and him.

OBOY, this thread got me going.
Well,Be Well to all of you and have a Good Night
:flowerforyou:
greenie

PS: I did my walk today and came home, and had a snack;
1/2 cup Turkey Hill frozen yogurt, fat free
1Tbs Smuckers chocolate syrup
2Tbs Reddi Whip (from the can)

Of Course it was ppl like you and Shore, and All who welcomed me and were there for me with the support to keep me going.

So here's to you:drinker: and CHEERS

greenie