I am so mad right now...

millerll

Good for you! I think your goals are admirable. The body type you're aiming for IS extreme - for the average person, But you're doing it for a specific reason - to compete, so that makes perfect sense. Truth is, most people don't have the discipline and dedication required to go for this type of body type, so I applaud your efforts! So many women are so wrapped up in the supposed "ideal" body promoted by fashion magazines and celebrities that those of us who have different goals are seen as weird.

On another note, kudos to you for promoting a healty body image as a police officer. No offense to your brethren in blue, but I am SO tired of seeing overweight, out of shape law enforcement officers out there on the street. It's a pleasure to see one who actually looks like she could chase down a bad guy!

Keep working towards your goal. I have no doubt that you'll soon be posting about your top-place finish in your first competition. Congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals! Best of luck!

Cherilea

Congrats on your upcoming wedding! So being a police officer, I have to ask, do some people think they can push you around because of your size? Or maybe they don't take you seriously? I have often wondered if female officers are treated differently than a male would when it comes to arresting the bad guy/girl. Oh, and good luck with your goal, I have a feeling you won't have any problems reaching it!

velix

Read the whole rant and I have to say, first of all - good luck on your fitness plan! Indeed, as you said, everyone's goals are personal and should be respected as such. I understand that some people have "concern" in regards to eating disorders and whatnot, but to send an unsolicited (and what sounds like an uninformed) private message sounds like the person harbors their own issues ...

Secondly, I have to say I am very happy to say that in my 245 days on mfp, I have never received such a message - there are a lot of supportive people on here - just put the others on ignore ;-)

ZebraHead

Nice Post - well done!

Blow them off, cause.... Haters gonna hate.


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Jenlynphi

Some people need to get a life! You look great and you are doing awesome. Don't let one jerk bring you down. Congratulations! I know that you are excited about your wedding.

AlexandriaMichelle

I feel where you are coming from. I once asked for advice on how to boost my matabolism to get the scale moving again and I got so many people critisizing my food diary because they saw "fries" and "sloppy joes" and things like that, not knowing that those are my personal, healthy recipies I made and named myself. I felt the need to explain that and people started sending me messages about how I should take their advice and I shouldn't ask for help if I don't want it ect. Someone actualy told me I eat like a child!!! So rude. I had to block someone from sending me messages. someone even told me I should name my recipies to make them sound healthy. Why should someone elce even care what I name my recipies??? People are nuts.

Hey, I get that too with some of my recipes! I eat pizza, spagetti, etc...but instead of asking what it's made of, they criticize the fact that I having it at all. My entire 12" pizza has less than 600 calories, but it is chock full of fiber, protein, etc. and is low in saturated fat and sugar. I guess I should rename the recipe "healthy pizza like concoction" or something like that. :laugh:

What people also don't realize is that this shouldn't be about "Oh you can't have "this or that"! " This is a LIFE-STYLE change not a diet. It's just not realistic to stop eating the "bad things" forever! We can have something "bad" every once in a while and LIVE and ENJOY and then get right back on track. You only set your-self up for failure when you lie to your-self and say that you NEVER eat bad again. I have lost 30+lbs and I am continuing to loose everyday. But guess what? I still LIVE as well and enjoy my piece of cake every now and then. So LIVE and then get right back on track later. Remember your more likely to splurge and binge on something bad when you keep telling your-self NO then when you allow your-self to have a little of what you are craving. So go and have your pizza and/or sloppy joes girl! Then get right back on track! :drinker:

NikkisNewStart

Thank you so much for your post. I, too, have received several "hate mails" in my inbox, on my wall, and on my blog lately... and it makes me feel sad for those sending those messages. Today, I have deleted half of my friends list and shut down my blog because of it. I guarantee the ones emailing you are the same ones emailing me...

You're exactly right! People shouldn't try to put their limits onto you. You keep doing what you're doing!

TheTeeWhy

People need to learn to hold their tongue. if you disagree with someones goal, then do it privately, it's none of your business.

I think some people may get a bit, not jealous but may think that someone who is 'healthy' doesn't belong on a site like this where a lot of the people are overweight. I disagree with that, people come on here for a multitude of reasons. I wouldnt ever DREAM of pissing on someone elses goals =/ Dont let it put you off the site anyone, dont let them get to you. Alot of people just do things like that to get a reaction(trolling for the more internet savvy crowd)

Kazimira

Well said. I don't understand the need of some people to spread their negativity, but they are everywhere making sure we stay strong for ourselves. Their pouting and poo-pooing on others dreams and goal can be a great motivator. :flowerforyou:
Congratulations and keep on burning that fat!

PS: That pizza of yours sounds fab.

sweetiebelle

Cograts on your weight lose and getting married. You go girl! Right on!!!

mamagooskie

GOOD LUCK WITH REACHING YOUR GOALS!

If I can come as far as I have and go as far as I plan to, I have doubt in my mind that ANYONE on this site can do what they set out to do if they work hard enough for it!!

Becca_007

People need to learn to hold their tongue. if you disagree with someones goal, then do it privately, it's none of your business.

I think some people may get a bit, not jealous but may think that someone who is 'healthy' doesn't belong on a site like this where a lot of the people are overweight. I disagree with that, people come on here for a multitude of reasons. I wouldnt ever DREAM of pissing on someone elses goals =/ Dont let it put you off the site anyone, dont let them get to you. Alot of people just do things like that to get a reaction(trolling for the more internet savvy crowd)

You made some great points here!:drinker:

AtticusFinch

I've skimmed through your rant, (don't usually read them), and agree with your anger.

Ignore this arsehole. Your goals are just that, goals. Whether they're are realistic or not it's what you are targeting and will help you change your body the way you want to.

Why not out this individual or, if you think that's a step too far, at least report them to the mods. The idea of this site is as a tool for your personal fitness, and to get encouragement from like minded individuals. You should not tolerate negative comments, especially when delivered personally to your inbox.

LaraRN

Good luck with goals!! I'm SURE you'll achieve them!