Has this happened to anyone else...?

dragonflydi

I try not to be judgmental and yet, when I see a clearly obese person eating vastly unhealthy foods, I find myself questioning their food choices (especially now that I watch my own food choices so much more closely). I don't know if I would consider that judging someone because I don't think less of that person. Honestly, it makes me wonder what is going on in their life that has put them in a position to be so big and yet making choices that could very well shorten their life ... by years. Decades even.

Everyone has a story. Eating healthy is more expensive. Maybe the have been out of work for a long time? For some food is comfort - are they missing that comfort at home. Is there an abusive situation? For some it is an uncontrollable compulsion. For some it's depression. When I see someone that has me wondering these things, I remind myself that I am fortunate not to have demons so big that they are doing the same thing to me, say a little prayer for that person and then refocus on my own goals.

IndigoVA

Most of the time, no I don't do this. Honestly, I grew up with a mother who did this out loud all the time, and I still believe that this is one of the main reasons I've had issues with food my whole life. Also, unless you know the person, you really don't know their situation. Maybe they're having a treat after weeks of healthy eating?

That being said, there is a woman in my office I judge (not out loud). She's morbidly obese and on public assistance because she says she doesn't make enough to make ends meet. Yet, every single day she orders delivery of greasy burgers, fries, pizza, etc. for lunch. So every time she complains about her weight or her money situation it makes me cringe with anger.

ImperfektAngel

Guilty! I don't say anything but am definitely thinking it! Especially with what my mom eats

whisperingdragon

No, I look away. It's an addiction, and they haven't gotten to the place in their lives where they want to change. :flowerforyou:

Nytram81

I'm not a food Nazi - I'm just jealous of what they're eating.

catwrangler

I dont know about you, but since i have started with eating a lot healthier and losing weight, i find myself being a total food nazi when it comes to other people!

I don't know about you, but I can eat healthy for months, even years, and then fall off the wagon and go back to Burger King and pizza in a NY second. So when I see someone chowing on anything considered unhealthy, my first thought is "there but for the grace of God go I."

risak

Seriously, this attitude is why 'fat' has remained a prejudice in society. Not a single person on this site or anywhere else has the right to judge another for anything. EVER. Just because you have broken unhealthy habits does not make you better than those who haven't. Also, ask yourself, is your disgust with that person, or does it lie in a little inside you, with you? People have to make their own decisions in life and it's really no one else's business.

Except when our tax dollars have to pay for their increase health insurance costs.

powerpuffgirl66

Yes, yes and yes! However, what bothers me is seeing individuals who complain about their inability to lose weight stuff themselves of terrible and unhealthy foods. The icing on the cake is when they tell me they wish they had my metabolism. Pardon? What metabolism? It's called hard work and committment! Such a frustration!

HappyHealthyHolly

Honestly, when I see people eating differently than I do (which is easy since I'm vegan) I don't cringe too much. I simply see their food, know I don't want it & enjoy what I'm eating. If it's what they want, then hey, who am I to say different. I've certainly been there! However, if I'm eating with the right people, I don't feel too bad to at least inform them if I know something their eating is really not a good idea. But those are only certain people.

Now, if I know that the person is unhappy with their current state, yet still eat something unhealthy, then I feel very bad for them. I remember that time of my life & I really don't miss it. It's really difficult to know what to say, so sometimes it's nothing. I'd love to help them, & I try when I can, but it's difficult to know when to say something & when not to.

I always feel really bad when it comes to others & dealing with cravings because letting go of a lot of foods was relatively easy for me to do. I had cravings, & still do sometimes, but I guess I just don't have them like other do. It's way easier for me to eat in a healthy manner than an unhealthy one. That's why it's difficult for me to give advice to my family & friends when it comes to letting go of food, I'm just not as attached to it as most are. I feel really bad, only because it's not easy to sympathize with them when they're having a difficult time. I'm happy for me, but I wish I could help them more.

Oishii

I think I'm often the skinny person eating badly :blushing:

I check out my colleagues' plates a lot. A lot of them eat far more healthily than I do and I see a plate and think 'Ooo, carb loading' or '60% protein!!! Wow!' I assume they know what they're up to.

I eat more biscuits than anyone else and I think I'm the only person at school who buys the sweets sold for charity (the portions are WAY too big), and the last time Krispy Creme were on sale, nobody bought them (I wanted to but didn't have my wallet :laugh:).

If I seem to be under-eating someone may mention it, but I always have a reason.

If I ate better I probably would be a food Nazi, but until I do I'll just go on confusing everyone :laugh:

pricetm83

Seriously, this attitude is why 'fat' has remained a prejudice in society. Not a single person on this site or anywhere else has the right to judge another for anything. EVER. Just because you have broken unhealthy habits does not make you better than those who haven't. Also, ask yourself, is your disgust with that person, or does it lie in a little inside you, with you? People have to make their own decisions in life and it's really no one else's business.

Except when our tax dollars have to pay for their increase health insurance costs.

Honestly, we pay so much in taxes for so many other things and this is the cost you pick to complain about? Also, this is assuming these people are on Medicare, which you have no clue about.

Whatever happened to one love people? So sad.

alslau02

Now that I'm in braces, I notice teeth all the time. Usually I think, wow s/he has such a beautiful smile. It is probably normal to become a bit more aware of things as we try to improve ourselves.

christina0089

Don't be that guy. No one likes them.

I agree BUT....

Don't just not be that guy because no one likes them. Don't be that guy because you remember what it was like to be in their shoes.. Don't be that guy because people shouldn't be judged by their eating habits especially because everyone is going thru sumthing and you never know how deeply that cheeseburger is rooted in their emotional distress...

Instead when you see someone eating sumthing bad for them try thinking positively...like 'I am glad I am eating better now' or maybe say a prayer for them that one day they will come to terms with whatever brings them to eat that way... wether it be their emotions or them just plain not knowing better or not caring enough about themselves..

If you find yourself eating with a friend who makes poor food choices ask if maybe they wld like to join you for a bike ride or walk later. Somtimes people need help finding their way and just being kind can make a difference ... "Never underestimate the power of a smile."

bcattoes

Seriously, this attitude is why 'fat' has remained a prejudice in society. Not a single person on this site or anywhere else has the right to judge another for anything. EVER. Just because you have broken unhealthy habits does not make you better than those who haven't. Also, ask yourself, is your disgust with that person, or does it lie in a little inside you, with you? People have to make their own decisions in life and it's really no one else's business.

Except when our tax dollars have to pay for their increase health insurance costs.

Honestly, we pay so much in taxes for so many other things and this is the cost you pick to complain about? Also, this is assuming these people are on Medicare, which you have no clue about.

Whatever happened to one love people? So sad.

Geez, lighten up. Critiquing what others eat whether they are overweight or not is NOT the same as "judging" or "crticizing" or not loving others.