If someone was rude to you when you were fat...

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  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    and now want to get in your pants. What would you do?

    It depends if they were actually rude or just wasn't physically attracted to me and was left embarrassed by the advance.

    I guess I am gonna be the bad guy here. Why on earth should someone want to sleep with you if they don't find you physically attractive at least to some degree? That's just delusional.
  • kalelwifey
    kalelwifey Posts: 172
    Truthfully? lmaooo id date him! ...he could have changed...he could have not been attracted to bigger people..i mean if you have a friend now who wouldnt have dated you then but will now...would you call him a jerk or just say err naw....maybeeee he knew you didnt want friendship at the time and wanted a relationship and thats not what he was goin for so he just was like..naw im cool.
  • boomboom011
    boomboom011 Posts: 1,459
    im suddenly reminded of Romy & Michelle's High School Reunion!
  • kalelwifey
    kalelwifey Posts: 172
    and now want to get in your pants. What would you do?

    It depends if they were actually rude or just wasn't physically attracted to me and was left embarrassed by the advance.

    I guess I am gonna be the bad guy here. Why on earth should someone want to sleep with you if they don't find you physically attractive at least to some degree? That's just delusional.


    Exactly....if he really was a complete jerk then ok......but if not..lol
  • ChelDM
    ChelDM Posts: 145
    They do not change... They just don't ...You need to keep us posted though...This is like an evolving soap opera I want to watch! hahaha
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    nothing wrong with flirting back, just don't go any farther than that...unless he is REALLLLLLLYYYYYYYY HAWT!!! (jk!)

    Sounds just as shallow as the rude guy that is now paying attention to the former/fat/now/skinny girl. I thank my lucky stars that my wife saw past my looks and recognized substance.
  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    Ummmmmmmmm, yeah NO.
  • Still_Sossy
    Still_Sossy Posts: 868 Member
    I would enjoy every second of telling him in intimate detail how amazing it would be to get into my pants....then walk away with a smile.
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    I would enjoy every second of telling him in intimate detail how amazing it would be to get into my pants....then walk away with a smile.

    You can practice by whispering it in my ear.
  • Schwiggity
    Schwiggity Posts: 1,449 Member
    Pull a Californiacation and punch him the face when he's about to climax.
  • BrownEyedG1rl
    BrownEyedG1rl Posts: 625 Member
    Was he completely rude to you or just not really talk to you much? If he was a total *kitten*, I wouldnt' give him the time of day. Otherwise I'd just flirt with him.
  • jmgj27
    jmgj27 Posts: 531 Member
    H'ok - I think in all fairness I'm going to talk to him. Maybe I'll just ask him what the weird behaviour was about and then make up my mind if he's really a jerk-off based on his answer. I don't like game playing so I'd rather just have the awkward conversation and find out straightaway!
  • BrownEyedG1rl
    BrownEyedG1rl Posts: 625 Member
    Pull a Californiacation and punch him the face when he's about to climax.

    Holy crap....that's awesome! LMAO!
  • PeachyKeene
    PeachyKeene Posts: 1,645 Member
    I would flirt, tease and then say "Thanks, but no thanks"
  • ChaseAlder
    ChaseAlder Posts: 804 Member
    I'd tell him to go boff himself.
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    Pull a Californiacation and punch him the face when he's about to climax.

    What the...???? :huh:

    bwahahaha!! :laugh: :laugh:
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    I'd use him and abuse him, but that's just me...get a good lay, use him for all he's worth, and then dump his sorry @ss...chances are he'll think you're awesome and want more. But you get the upper hand and just walk away.
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    It actually doesn't sound like he was a jerk. It sounds like he wasn't attracted to you and felt uncomfortable dealing with you after you hit on him.

    I wouldn't disregard someone just because they used poor judgment in the past.
  • skittybang
    skittybang Posts: 1,525 Member
    In grade school I got teased a lot for my weight.. luckily, I've always known that I'm awesome and paid them no mind. Come high school and some of the guys are asking me out and the like... I pointed out the fact that they I had a library of names they used to call me (my name is Sam, so of course they called me things like Spam and Ham.. etc.) Some answered to normal "We were kids, come on!" but there were a few that truly didn't remember and apologized if it was hurtful.

    :bigsmile: still didn't go out with them though.
  • reese66
    reese66 Posts: 2,920 Member
    and now want to get in your pants. What would you do?

    I would usually say screw him but he is REALLY hot and I've been known to take things the wrong way a fair few times in the past (:explode: ) so I'm not all that sure he was being that rude before anyway - more like 'thanks but no thanks'.

    Would I be totally debasing myself if I flirted back?

    So the fact that he is REALLY hot is what matters the most here, because who cares that he hurt your feelings before. I mean really he only wants to get in your pants, so who cares, right?
  • hkrosez
    hkrosez Posts: 53
    Agreed!!!
  • bgelliott
    bgelliott Posts: 610 Member
    If you like him then go for it. You can't blame someone for not being attracted to you at any given point. After-all, what's love without attractions. Not to mention, you even said that maybe you took it the wrong way! I'm just sayin...
  • JennsLosing
    JennsLosing Posts: 1,026
    I'm the kind of person who if someone was rude to me bout my appearance in the past, they can go eff themselves from there on out. But that's just me. :) If you feel comfortable with it, that's all you need to know! :drinker:
    my thoughts exactly.
  • Samerah12
    Samerah12 Posts: 610 Member
    It actually doesn't sound like he was a jerk. It sounds like he wasn't attracted to you and felt uncomfortable dealing with you after you hit on him.

    I wouldn't disregard someone just because they used poor judgment in the past.



    ^yes
  • cieraangel
    cieraangel Posts: 88 Member
    Yeah, flirty, no touchy. You already know he's the type that would bail because of something superficial, so don't give him that kind of chance.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    It actually doesn't sound like he was a jerk. It sounds like he wasn't attracted to you and felt uncomfortable dealing with you after you hit on him.

    I wouldn't disregard someone just because they used poor judgment in the past.



    ^yes

    After reading your response OP, I agree that he just felt uncomfortable. It is normal to have a certain "type" and it is OK to not be attracted to someone for odd reasons. If I were dating a guy, and he dyed his hair blonde I would most likely lose my attraction to him. If he dyed his hair brown or black, my attraction would most likely come back. Just mere preference.

    I'm sure we have all been there before (at least for us ladies): Someone hits on you, seems to really like you, but physically you aren't attracted to that person. You don't want to be a jerk because you think they are nice, so...you avoid them. If that same nice person gets a makeover and is now your type, of course it is normal to NOW be attracted to that person.

    If you like him, go for it! BUT...make sure you don't put on extra weight again, because you know he isn't attracted to that. :smile:
  • adk88
    adk88 Posts: 143 Member
    I would flirt like crazy, then leave him hanging at the end of the night!!!

    Agreed!
  • Schwiggity
    Schwiggity Posts: 1,449 Member
    >mfw women act like they never disregard a guy based on looks.

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  • MarkS500
    MarkS500 Posts: 2
    LOL, give a guy a break ;-)
  • MarkS500
    MarkS500 Posts: 2
    :happy: Now that is a sensible attitude. You don't know what was going on with that person. Attraction and chemistry are fickle things sometimes. Most men & women are attracted to those with a good shape/physique and then see what value system the person uses.
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