Disappointed in MFP people

jstrohs1

Actually I haven't run into many rude people.....but again I've only been here for a little over a month.
The people I pick for friends are :
*Guy's that are in the same boat as me and struggle through the weekend of BBQ's and friends partying too much! I want my six pack abs back!!
*New people that really need support. They want a new life life and I would really be happy for them to have it...I'm there for them!
What I have seen here are people who are transforming from what they are to whom they want be be......it starts with the body.
I give a lot of you credit for losing sooooo much weight. I'm sorry that you met such rude people. Maybe the stress and struggle of losing weight can get them uptight and emotional .......who knows

If any of you need my support or want my friendship.....add me

AKosky585

You are right, there are a lot of impatient people who have the 'know it all' attitude. But there are also a lot of helpful, kind people as well. I have been on here for a year and a half, and probably still ask stupid questions...but I have only lost 5 pounds in a year and a half too, so...I am obviously still doing something wrong and needing help. You just have to find the ones who want to take the time to explain things, and ignore the ones who are nothing but sarcastic and cruel.

shad1018

Agreed

TourThePast

IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE OR POSITIVE TO SAY (edit) don't say anything at all!!

Yes there are negaitive people on this site, and largely positive people who are sometimes given to making negative comments. It reflects our society, with all the good and bad which that implies, but on the whole I've found the members of this site to be kind and helpful.

JennsLosing

ive been here since jan, and i havent really come across any rude people. Maybe some blunt, but i dont consider it rude. Like any other site, your going to have positive and negatives...a post about how rude ppl are isnt going to stop anybody from saying whats on their mind, just like a post about stop asking about eating back your calories isnt going to stop ppl from asking that question. catch my drift?

JennsLosing

IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE OR POSITIVE TO SAY THAT KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!!

Anyone got a new irony meter? The needle on mine just bent round the stop.

Exactly what NICE or POSITIVE thing are you trying to say here?

Yes there are negaitive people on this site, and largely positive people who are sometimes given to making negative comments. It reflects our society, with all the good and bad which that implies, but on the whole I've found the members of this site to be kind and helpful.

i love your response to that, seriously...

k8edge

I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

You get the idea ...

You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...

This is an awesome idea!!! Some of it is posted in the newbie posts at the tops of the forums... but you definitely have some great points!

melzteach

Totally agree. I get a bit annoyed seeing some of the same questions asked over and over, however, sometimes when I search something in the message boards it brings up so many searches and is a bit cumbersome to find the answer to my question. So as a new person, I'd do the same thing. In fact, I'm sure I did and still do on occasion!

angelicdisgrace

Agreed. At one pointwe were all new to this site.

elmobabie84

very well said!!! i'm thankful when i joined and asked questions that have been answered over and over that i didnt get any rude people responding otherwise i probably would have left.

cmriverside

It would be great if we had a "Rant" category too. . . .in the tabs above.

Hyster1

I'm so with you on this. None of us are perfect so just keep it to yourself. This is all hard enough as it is.

peasgarden

Super agree!!!!! Hellooo! we are a community i dont see what's the purpose of existing as a *group* forum if there are insensible people without the will to help mutually! We need to be supportive, sensibles and respectful. Becoming healthy has to be something integral!!

meka325

I've really only had good experiences here. I'm sure the boards are full of snark, but that's what you get with message boards and the internet in general. Mainly, I've found most MFP people to be nice and supportive.

MicMar66

I have always thought that MFP was an awesome site and that everyone on here was so motivated to help others with their journies, but you know what I've discovered on here by reading a few forums? People on here are so freaking judgemental and rude...a lot of people are new to this site and a lot of people are going to have "stupid" questions or questions that have been asked before many times. But you know what? It's not that easy for most people to start a brand new lifestyle so they come here looking for support and what do they get? RUDE and JUDGEMENTAL people just the opposite of what they are looking for...so a touch of advice...IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE OR POSITIVE TO SAY (edit) don't say anything at atll!!

Totally agree. I read something earlier that sat the wrong way with me and I thought was a little mean. That being said, MOST (not all) but most of the people here have been so wonderful, encouraging and helpful. Thankfully they are far more of them than the ones who never learned the lesson, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything."

MicMar66

very well said!!! i'm thankful when i joined and asked questions that have been answered over and over that i didnt get any rude people responding otherwise i probably would have left.

Me too!

tuffytuffy1

I had the same thought when I read the post this morning about newbies always asking the same "dumb" questions. I have not asked any questions, but it would be really hurtful if I had, as a newby, and been attacked by people who discovered the site before me and who have zero patience for others who are not professionals at this site yet. Just don't read the post if you don't like it or if it has been asked a million times before. That's what I do.

SparkleShine

So true! A few kind words can go a long way!

TheOddOne

I started using the App in June... just recently started browsing the forums. There have been some questions I've wanted to ask but decided not to. I do not have the internet (I don't even own a computer) so my access is limited to just my phone. The search function does work but takes forever to load on my carrier. Since having to type on my phone, I'm sometimes prone to typos and fun auto correct issues.... so I've avoided posting for the most part. I might make more of an effort in the future bit for now I Linda like not getting slammed and labeled a stupid noob.

chantel14

I have to agree with you its very sad.. someone in my family signed up and after reading a thread about how people got so ticked off about spelling they almost left the site and are still afraid to post ANYTHING in the forum... this person has a learning disability and its hard for them spell and see things correctly... I convinced this person to stay ... and that not everyone is like that... after all we are here to motivate and encourage not belittle and be rude and mean.. right?

that just made me so sad

webdiva1

Meh. Poopyheads are everywhere.

Can't stop 'em and, this being America (OK, well, *I'm* in America, anyway -- freedom of speech is a right and a privilege. If ranters need to rant and downers need to ... umm ... down, well ... I can't stop 'em. I can, however, ignore them., and do, with great pleasure. Life's too short to let poopyheads get in the way.

145Karen

I agree! It is hard enough and everyone is different , we all make mistakes and if we can we learn from them and try and share with others. As for me I love MFP I have had mostly positive experiences except once I was trying a very contiversial way of weight loss it did not work for me but wow the sparks flew lol and I sort of felt stupid and attacted for even daring to post such a horrible thing (HGC) I say to each their own lets spread the love people! oh and mis spelled words lol I better never post again don't want to offend anyone for real lol God is Great Beer is good and people are crazy!

Lisahill5

I have asked many a stupid questions and my people have been amazing in helping me. They may lol at me but they r helpful. Sorry u had a bad experience that really sucks

tammyll3

Agreed!

Nailrep

So very true! I hate reading posts like that, so usually avoid reading them. I've been told my posts are crap and been attacked in other non weight related posts. Most people being jerks on here wouldn't have the nerve to come out from behind their computers to say the things they say on here.

kristinathenina

I posted this as a response to another message earlier, but I think it applies here ... a serious suggestion. Do you think if enough people asked to have this done it would help??

I think when a new person signs up, they ought to get a 'welcome' message with some basics ... such as:

1) Be sure to search for a topic/question to see if it has been discussed before using the search feature
2) A list of the most unknown acronyms such as NSV = Non Scale Victory, MFP = My Fitness Pal, etc.
3) How to post a photo: Post a photo by saving it to an online photo site, copying the url and then pasting that url in the box. Then change the "IMG" from the original upper case to "img" lower case, or it won't work.
4) Advice: Keep in mind that when you ask a question, you are going to get people's OPINIONS ... some of which you (and others) may agree with and some you may not.

You get the idea ...

You have to sign up to join, so would it be difficult to have the site set up to automatically send a welcome message to the e-mail used to register ... I know that way back when I used Yahoo Groups, it did that.

It might save a LOT of duplicate questions, and thereby duplicate answers, and as a result, less than nice comments/replies?? Just a thought ...

Add in what 'bump' means

AwesomeSauce4

I always try and be positive and motivational to all my MFP family.. After all I have the most AMAZING MFP Family.. Feel free to add me and I promise you will never hear anything from me.. We are all diferent and different things work for different people.. I say hey if thats what works for you then do it... But yea so many are negative but as long as us positive ones stick together we will "Kick *kitten*"

~Rachel~Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ

audigal2008

Amen sister! I agree...If there is a topic that you are "Sick and tired" of reading..dont read it..skip over it..dont belittle the people..everyone was new at one time..so let it be...

I agree with this! Some are new

fridayjustleft04

I agree to an extent. I mean, people should still use google before taking their questions to the boards. There's no need to ask what c25k is when google will tell you before you can finish typing it in the search bar.

IMYarnCraz33

I agree with the OP (original poster)