Forced into eating a cupcake

BodyByButter

Marie Antoinette never said that. Just saying! But your point is well taken.

graysmom2005

Well obviously FORCED wasn't meant literally. But when 10 people are at a table and are offered what flavor of cupcake they want, being the one who says, "no, thanks" feels a little obnoxious...especially when you're one of the smallest people at the table. Like it would be a snub, and I didn't want to be rude. Everyone shoved theirs in their mouth, and had I sat there with my hands in my lap I thinnk that would have read awkward. I already had the tuna roll instead of the steak hibachi that everyone else ordered. I should of taken it "to go". You're right! I agree about eating everything in moderation. Cupcakes just happen to be one of those things that I don't find are worth the calories. I had a pint of Arctic Zero calling my name at home. LOL! I just felt it would have read rather rude and annoying if I just sat there nicely while everyone else ate their cake. But OBVIOUSLY it was my call...but it's a weird fine line sometimes with diet/and social graces.

LorinaLynn

if anyone on here has this problem again... send me the cupcake. I'll take care of it for you.

lambchop1042

Guilt doesn't burn calories so I don't waste time on it...!!! Enjoy the cup-cake..this isn't a diet its for LIFE and ..Cake Happens!! Its all good mama!!!

HAHA cake happens, I like that sentiment.
I have trouble w/"Social" eating too-- and I've learned to just focus on enjoying the company and sip on a drink rather than focus on eating/food. But really, 1 cupcake won't kill you :-)

myofibril

if anyone on here has this problem again... send me the cupcake. I'll take care of it for you.

Fight you for it!

In the context of an otherwise good diet a few cupcakes will have minimal to no impact. Minor slips here or there won't affect your outcomes unless you choose to let them. In other words, you hoover up the entire carton of cakes because you felt guilty or despair after having just one.

You don't have to be perfect. Just consistent.

Gary6030

Don't beat yourself up. We do have to live this life. One thing I have learned to do is use the ...Wheewwww I'm full. I don't think I could eat another bite. People struggle with forcing food down your throat when you seem to be so stuffed. My mother (the baking Queen of Ohio) has learned to not even offer at this point. With that said in 20 years you won't feel bad about the cupcake. At least you tried to burn some of those sugar calories off before bedtime. WTG!

angela828

ONE cupcake will not hurt you... I'm assumng you meant a normal sized cupcake? Once my mom bought these HUGE GINORMOUS seriously as BIG AS YOUR FACE cupcakes from costco. DELICIOUS but she and I split one. One birthday cupcake is not going to compeltely derail your efforts. 5? Maybe.

I'm sorry but nobody FORCED you to eat a cupcake.. I mean, no one shoved it down your throat, right? I'm not normally harsh on these things and I completely understand the whole I have to eat it bc everyone else is but that is not true. If you really didn't want it, just say oh no thanks I ate too much dinner! If they don't understand, frig them. If my friends and I go out drinking one night, they always want to stop a Mcdonalds.. I used to get that quarter pounder w cheese with them and once I started this, I stopped.. they push me and say come on do it and I used to feel like I HAD to.. and then I realized No I don't! And I stopped and now do not feel like ultimate crap when I wake up in the morning bc I'm not filled w McDonalds sodium and garbage.

Sorry if this is a little harsh.. peer pressure sucks!!! Stay strong you are doing a wonderful job. And remember, one cupcake is not the end of the world!

Kris0109

I'd gone a couple weeks with no loss, even a slight gain, despite kicking my own butt with running, calories, etc.

Then I went to my best friend's bachelorette party over the weekend, which included not only a wine and chocolate pairing class but a comfort food buffet. This is her happy time, and while she would have understood if I'd stood in the corner drinking water all night, it would have pissed me off. So there was wine, super dark chocolate and even a little homemade mac and cheese. I drank water before and after like it was my business, then Sunday went for a long run, just like always.

Monday morning, I'd lost 2 pounds.

This morning, another pound.

This is me, of course, not you, but just relax. 200 calories over on one day is not going to kill you, nor will it make you gain 82lbs over night. Get back on the horse today and keep going.

Barneystinson

Next time tell them you will eat it later, take it home, have somone else eat it or just throw it away. Cupcakes suck! It's called Birthday CAKE for crying out loud! If i'm going over on calories, it's going to involve some kick *kitten* cake!

You obvi. have not hopped on the cupcake wagon. I had a S'more Cupcake from Crumbs Bakery in Chicago on Sunday that was quite amazing. Plus there is a mocha brownie/chocolate peanut butter one from a local bakery that are kick *kitten*.. and I will def. indulge if that is on the menu.

And for gravy's sake, if you find me so amazing to friend me, put a message along with it:)
Totally unrelated, but saw this in another posters signature and thought it was the cutest thing ever

Crumb's Bake Shop in NYC makes the "Artie Lange" cupcake - from their website: "The Artie Lange cupcake was created by Artie himself live on the Howard Stern Show in 2008. Vanilla cake with chocolate cream cheese frosting filling, topped with vanilla cream cheese frosting dipped in chocolate fondant and edged with chocolate and vanilla sprinkles."

It's the most delicious cupcake I've ever eaten. Anytime I'm in NYC, this is on my menu.

AI1108

I think people took the whole "forced into eating a cupcake" thing literally. I totally get what you mean.. when you're out in a social situation and everyone's enjoying and you don't want to be the debbie downer and be like "ladies.. do you know that that *kitten* is going to stick to your *ss tomorrow." haha My friends already think I'm weird cause I don't do late night binges. I look for meals with protein and they think I "eat air." Ehh whatcha gonna do?

The way I see it.. we're working on ourselves to be able to enjoy life. What's the use of having a long healthy life if we're tormenting ourselves over a 440 calorie cupcake. In the grand scheme of things, you enjoyed the cupcake, your friends, the night.. now you can go back to enjoying your diet & exercise. I'm part of the school of thought that you only live once so.. live it up. I woulda just made that night my one cheat meal and had the hibachi too. ; ) Plus.. I'm sure the cupcake was for the better... you are having breaks in your diet, so you don't feel totally deprived, and teaching your body how to metabolize the good, along with the bad.

melizerd

I obviously did NOT take it literally which was why I was annoyed.

That said I also said that it's okay to have a cupcake once and awhile but *I* refuse to eat anything that I will feel guilty about later.

I've had splurges and I have fun, I go to BBQs, I still log everything, even on a free day 99% of the time since just because I'm "over" doesn't mean I shouldn't be aware of exactly what I ate. Too many "free" days is what got a lot of us into this mess.

If my friends can't handle the fact that I don't WANT dessert, or I only want one hamburger at a BBQ and I'm the one to bring the veggie tray they aren't really my friends. I must have some awesome friends because everyone has been super supportive and NO ONE would EVER EVER give me a hard time about skipping dessert, as a matter of fact most of them have paired down the portions especially on dessert now that I am more aware of portion sizes etc they have come to me asked questions etc. We're all getting healthier together. Of course some of them had very little "extra" work to be healthy but it's still nice.

I would not have skipped that party, but *I* don't like cake most of the time anymore, cutting out sugar was a big thing for me (sweets, cake, ice cream) and if I have one I'll crave another, so it's just not worth it.

It's about deciding what is worth it to YOU.

jmruef

Guilt doesn't burn calories so I don't waste time on it...!!! Enjoy the cup-cake..this isn't a diet its for LIFE and ..Cake Happens!! Its all good mama!!!

Guilt doesn't burn calories...I so love this!

Mairgheal

It's only a cupcake. relax.

sapphirelazuli

God, I don't think a fortnight goes by without there being something to 'celebrate' that involves social drinking and eating! Just do what you did - exercise to cancel it out! It works for me

dad106

Well obviously FORCED wasn't meant literally. But when 10 people are at a table and are offered what flavor of cupcake they want, being the one who says, "no, thanks" feels a little obnoxious...especially when you're one of the smallest people at the table. Like it would be a snub, and I didn't want to be rude. Everyone shoved theirs in their mouth, and had I sat there with my hands in my lap I thinnk that would have read awkward. I already had the tuna roll instead of the steak hibachi that everyone else ordered. I should of taken it "to go". You're right! I agree about eating everything in moderation. Cupcakes just happen to be one of those things that I don't find are worth the calories. I had a pint of Arctic Zero calling my name at home. LOL! I just felt it would have read rather rude and annoying if I just sat there nicely while everyone else ate their cake. But OBVIOUSLY it was my call...but it's a weird fine line sometimes with diet/and social graces.

No I understand what you mean about diet and social graces.... It's hard and you're right, had you turned it down they prob. would have thought you were being rude, even tho it's not the case.

I went to a BBQ a few weeks back for my church and I had totally went over board on the appetizers and got yelled at by the choir director cause I asked my mom if we were going to the gym the next day and that I didn't think I would be having desert... the choir director goes to me oh stop it! You don't need to go the gym, and the desert table looks fantastic.. I just sat there and said Ok, but in reality I'm thinking actually I'm full and I prob. will have one small brownie so just get off my case woman!

melizerd

I guess for me I just refused to let other people dictate what *I* eat. By letting people get to you you're still letting THEM decide what your body looks like. Smile, say no thank you and move on. If they have a problem it's THEIR problem not yours. Grow some cajones is what I did. Just need to stand up for ME and say no.

I used to be a HUGE yes person, for many many things and it got to be way too much and *I* wasn't being taken care of. So I started to say no. It was hard at first but now I only say yes when I MEAN and WANT to say yes.

nickiben

Eating 1 cupcake isnt going to make you put on 1lb. A little treat every now and again is fine. If youve had a deficit all week, then an overage 1 day wont hurt. Dont worry!!

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I don't think it's bad to go over by a little bit every once in a while, but it is bad to go over by a little bit regularly. You need to take it a little easier on yourself. It's unreasonable to think you'll never have a cupcake again, just not every night or every week, kwim?

nickiben

Well obviously FORCED wasn't meant literally. But when 10 people are at a table and are offered what flavor of cupcake they want, being the one who says, "no, thanks" feels a little obnoxious...especially when you're one of the smallest people at the table. Like it would be a snub, and I didn't want to be rude. Everyone shoved theirs in their mouth, and had I sat there with my hands in my lap I thinnk that would have read awkward. I already had the tuna roll instead of the steak hibachi that everyone else ordered. I should of taken it "to go". You're right! I agree about eating everything in moderation. Cupcakes just happen to be one of those things that I don't find are worth the calories. I had a pint of Arctic Zero calling my name at home. LOL! I just felt it would have read rather rude and annoying if I just sat there nicely while everyone else ate their cake. But OBVIOUSLY it was my call...but it's a weird fine line sometimes with diet/and social graces.

What was it about the cupcake you didnt like? Is it that you're still trying to lose weight, or the fact that now your food outlook has changed so dont want to eat "crap food" (even if its yummy!) If you're still trying to lose weight, then temptation is hard and the people around you should support you by not putting temptation your way and making you feel bad when you resist. If you didnt want to eat it as its "crap food", then I agree too. Ive gone off loads of foods now I know whats in them. People should respect your wishes, they would if you were allergic to one of the ingredients.

vnvdvci

You didn't have to eat the whole cupcake...I mean, just eat a few bites, half even, then toss the rest. You just ate a restaurant dinner--it'd be easy to say you were too full to have another bite. The friends I hang with in my group wouldn't think it was any big deal. You participate, have your couple celebratory bites, then you're done.

Just a thought for next time you have to face this.