"You've lost too much weight" BS

linsben

I'm getting so tired ALREADY of people saying i've lost too much weight.

When i started back in Novemeber my co-workers were interested and supportive, i was asked everyday what i was doing and told it was all so great. 36 pounds later i still have so much i feel is important to work on, its exhausting to try to explain pounds vs body fat precentage to people who only want you to know they think its too much.
You just can't win. Now everyday instead of being supported ill feel like im viewed as some girl obsessed with a number on a scale when really im looking for a complete transformation of health and physical fitness.

Thanks to all my MFP friends for the support, i know you guys understand and are going through similar stuff.

Has anyone else been getting similar feedback?

MaureenCreates

ohhh yeah... even when it's something as simple as choosing light mayo when I go to Subway someone's like "***** YOU SKINNY YOU DON'T NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT" and I'm like "umm... how exactly do you think I maintain this? By stuffing my face?"
I choose to make healthy choices and people freak out.
I'm working more on toning up now then anything, but I still need to make good food choices to get there.
Baaaaah.

Jennwith2ns

That could be part jealousy.. I think some part of people want others to fail so they feel better about themselves. Keep doing what you're doing and screw everyone else.

BetterWithAge

What is wrong with people? Keep up the good work and congratulations on your achievement.

Edestiny7

Only from my morbidly obese parents. Physicians asked if the weight loss had been on purpose. That's about it.

Trixtabella

Haha, I was ill still am a little bit and the girl I go to the gym with says I am pushing myself and that's why I got ill.
I should mention that at this point all I was doing is gym class a night eating healthy and walking to and from work and to the gym which is about an hour and a half walk a day.

It annoys me when the people who are around you don't support you. Luckily I have a super supportive boyfriend at home.

balconywriternb

Yes! I get that all the time now. First I was getting compliments and now I'm getting "you need to stop dieting! you're too thin!"
People may not only be jealous that you're losing weight, but they're jealous that you have discipline and control. It takes a lot of will power to stick to a diet.
GO YOU! Go all of us!!!

schaapj2

When it comes down to it, they are incredibly envious and jealous...and people balk at what they don't know or understand. Coninue doing what you are doing...we're here and you ROCK! Keep the fitness and health going!

wxkris

I agree with the jealousy statement. People feel better about themselves if they can bring you down with them. By saying "you're losing too much weight" or "you should eat more," it makes them feel better to see you fall behind in your efforts.

bjshooter

ARGH, I am so fed up of everyone having an issue, I am far from skinny, but apparently I am too thin. Loads of people I hardly know have told me they 'are worried' and one girl last week told me I obviously had an illness :O

What the heck is wrong with people? Jealous, I reckon.

ChantalGG

Yeah. where I am everyone is a size large or bigger with bellies so being smaller than them already and then dropping 20 or more lbs just makes them see me as skinny.

luvgreen25

Yes. I'm down 21 pounds with about 25 more to lose before I even enter into a "healthy" BMI range and family members are telling me that I'm getting too skinny. Keep in mind, I come from a long line of overweight, unhealthy people. I am just trying to get healthy - not sickly skinny! My doctors keep telling me that I'm doing well and I'm sure that if I take this losing weight thing too far - they'll be quick to tell me that too.

Just keep up the good work and remember - either side of the situation has judgmental people. If there's an overweight person that reaches for a piece of chocolate, people say - "are you sure you should be eating that?"

Kristhin

Everybody in the world thinks they are entitled to their own opinion, and I suppose they are. Where most people are mistaken is that everybody also seems to believe that they need to tell everyone their opinion at all times, or that everybody is just dying to hear what they think. It is because they are ignorant fools. Even lots of people here on MFP pull that "losing too much weight", "not eating enough" crap on other people rather than just being supportive. Everyone thinks they are a doctor and everyone thinks they definitely must know more than you do.
The truth of the matter is, most people today, esp. in America are overweight if not obese. So obviously, when it comes to weight and diet, they don't know anything. A lot people are even ignorant to the fact that they are overweight.
So next time somebody tells you you're losing too much weight and you're obsessed with dieting, share your opinion right back and tell them how fat they are and how they're obsessed with eating food. Give em a taste of their own medicine and maybe they'll be quiet.
♥

MrsM1ggins

A lot of my colleagues have commented on my weight loss and they have been very supportive so far.

Where it starts to go a bit odd is when the discussion progresses and I tell them that I'm only half way to my goal and I have another 18kg/40lbs to lose, then it changes to "oh no, you don't want to lose that much! You'll be too skinny".

I want to say: "How would you know? Are you the one carrying all this excess fat around? Do you know how much I weigh? How much I'm aiming for? Do you know what my weight *should* be?"

Instead I just say "I'm just taking it one day at a time and I'll stop when I'm done" They aren't involved in what I'm doing and they don't get to say when I'm done!

I am looking forward to the first time someone tells me I've lost too much...:laugh:

Heatherbelle_87

Even from my supporters. They ask my goal weight and Ill get "Are you sure you can EVER be that thin?" or "Well make sure you dont lose TOO much!" or (my personal least favorite) "You know that makes you BARELY within normal BMI right?"

for the record YES, I will be!, How can I lose too much when technically, Ill barely be within a normal BMI, and (what Id love to scream) No *kitten*! But I havent been a normal BMI since I was a kid! Its my body and my numbers, if you dont like it Bite Me!

msblueyes5

ohhh yeah... even when it's something as simple as choosing light mayo when I go to Subway someone's like "***** YOU SKINNY YOU DON'T NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT" and I'm like "umm... how exactly do you think I maintain this? By stuffing my face?"
I choose to make healthy choices and people freak out.
I'm working more on toning up now then anything, but I still need to make good food choices to get there.
Baaaaah.

UGH! This happens to me all the time!! Super annoying..Its like..leave me alone! lol

linsben

I wonder if its the same for men or if this is mostly something women who have lost significant weight experience

VeganInTraining

To the women who say that I respond "that's no what your husband said last night." BAM

AI1108

Don't let it get to you... what someone else thinks of you is not what you're after. It's all about how YOU feel and how YOU want your body to look. When someone asks me why I make the healthy choices that I make, I tend to brush it off because I know that it won't matter to either them or I whether I chose the whole grain or white version, or the 0% or full fat version but I'll feel a whole lot better knowing that I made the right choice

If they think that you're too skinny, maybe it's their call for help - that they can't be happy in their own skin & that they have to criticize yours.

NuttyBrewnette

Yep, happens to me too...mostly in the form of a "concerned" question "Are you STILL losing weight?!" something like that....

whatever......just keep on making healthy choices. .....that's how I'm dealing with it.

maygans

I don't like when people exclaim "that's tiny!" when I tell them my goal weight (125). Sure maybe that's tiny for YOU, person who is a good 3-4 inches taller than me, but I'm short! Besides that, I'm not after a number, I'm after a range, and I'm more about trying to be fit and lean than having a certain number on the scale. At this point in the process I need a "goal" to work towards to keep me on track. It's just annoying that people feel they need to comment.

p.s. I've never had someone as short as me say "that's tiny!" about my goal weight, it's always tall people who are also extremely thin that feel the need to say something.

Ashley_Panda

Mine is the "You're going to look sick that thin." I'm almost 5'10" and want to be 175lbs. Hardly stick thin. I hate when people call me skinny or tiny or anything like that. Ugh.

audram420

Jealousy+lack of effort on their own part!! Keep up your great work!

VeganGal84

At Christmas, my family was all very supportive, but they all said something like "Just don't lose any more! If you lose ANY MORE you would look emaciated!"

Well, too bad for them, because at that point I was still a few pounds overweight. So I know that this year at Christmas, I'll get a lot of "you're too skinny now!" comments. Whatever, I know the truth, and all that matters is that I'm healthy and happy.

lauristewart

Yes, I hear it too!! My mom just last week said, you don't need to lose anymore.....and I am pretty happy here, but a few more lbs will make my legs smaller, which is what I want. I carry all of my weight in my lower part, so my upper body looks really skinny......but I am still at 150 lbs!! I am like REALLY??? Too skinny at 150 lbs!! LOL!! That is sooooooo laughable!!

mikeyrp

About 10 years ago I went on a diet and I dropped to about 11 stone (154lb) - at that time I got a lot of the 'you're too thin' comments. Maybe they were right but personally I don't think so: I just think people were used to me looking a bit podgy

This time around I've been working out a lot more and I deliberately dropped at a slower rate - I stopped at 11 stone 10lb ( 164lb) and I think that looks right - no negative comments from anyone either.

I do think its possible to 'over diet' - For one thing, last time I lost about 7lb as a kind of back up (like saving calories for the weekend) - that's just not sensible in hind site: Its more important to 'soft land' the diet and then maintain your ideal weight.

At the end of the day I would stop when you look in the mirror and think 'you know what - I am happy with how I look' - any number you set would have been arbitrary anyway. Trust your judgement first and foremost and if in doubt post a picture here - where people tend to be a healthy mix of honest and supportive - if people here agree its time to stop: it probably is.

Qarol

I can't help but think it's a bit of jealousy. Either at the actual weight lost or the discipline to lose it. It's difficult.

I know, personally, I have to be careful not to verbalize my obsession. Not everyone wants to hear about it all the time. I leave my vocalization to the people I know will be 100% supportive 100% of the time, like my hubby.

moriaht

I personally can't wait until someone tells me that! haha one day
Be proud of your accomplishments!

BethanyCee

Judging people based on their weight in either direction is crap. Just focus on yourself and brush off their comments. You seem to be doing very well for yourself.

jessradtke

I think some people feel that as long as you are carrying around extra weight and are struggling they can relate to you and commiserate with you, but as soon as you are successful with your weight loss/fitness plan they feel like they don't have much in common with you anymore. You become "one of them" instead of "one of us".

runner328

I am so tired of the "your too skinny" "don't lose anymore weight" comments. I have noticed the only people saying this to me are women heavier than me. I went to lunch with a thin friend the other day & it was so nice not to have someone commenting what I am eating & how much I eat!!!!!