does this make me a jerk? Probably...

awelch79

So my SIL started bragging to me about how she fit into a 6 at Kohls (I was stoked about getting an 8 last week). She sent me a pic of herself in them from the dressing room. They were TIGHT and theres no way she could have worn them with any other shirt than the tunic she had on...you could see the muffin top flowing over them. So---am I a jerk that I say that you can only count a size when you can zip them without holding your breath AND wear any shirt in your closet with them?

or maybe its just a rivalry thing...any opinions? (and I think I am usually a pretty nice person, for the record!!!) :grumble:

B_L_A_Z_I_A_N

just because you can "fit" into something doesn't mean you should [justsayin]

hottamolly00

Ummm... no. You're not a jerk. She's a jerk for sending you that pic. You would be a jerk if you didn't tell her nicely not to buy them, yet.

Heatherbelle_87

I ony consider it my size when I can zip & wear them without a muffin top.

I hate seeing women with huge muffin tops, or dangling belly's OVER their jeans and going what? I weight the same as you how are you 3 sizes bigger??? Um because my pants fit right!

**And usually people guess im 1-4 sizes smaller because I wear things that fit well and compliment my body type

MissyFit08

Ummm... no. You're not a jerk. She's a jerk for sending you that pic. You would be a jerk if you didn't tell her nicely not to buy them, yet.

You hit the nail on the head! :laugh:

ACEgirl1

I definitely would have thought that!

LorinaLynn

I wouldn't SAY anything to her, but zipping isn't the same as fitting.

I can zip my old high school jeans. And they hurt. A lot.

CaptainAmerica1970

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kiminita

when you have a muffin top and can only wear pants with a tunic, that doesn't mean you actually fit them. She's in denial, and obviously in competition with you, and/or seeking your approval. Be the better person and let it go, but also let her know that they may be a little tight....in other words....lol I shouldnt give advice on this aspect since people tell me I am an *kitten*, but I'd let her know all the kinds of infections, including yeast infections she can get from wearing clothing that is excessively tight.

B_L_A_Z_I_A_N

also... i hope you are encouraging her to tone up and be healthier. i would consider a friend to be more of a jerk if they went around making fun of me behind my back instead of telling me that im fat to my face.

julieban1

Not a jerk! You shouldnt be able to claim a size without being able to zip up with ease and wear anything with it. She isn't fitting into it. She's pouring herself into them.

mimiswoboda

Oh my gosh that's great! You're not a jerk. Just honest!

earthsember

A little schadenfreude never hurt anyone. It's a little jerkish if you say anything rude, but a little "ohhh, that's nice, but it might not be the most flattering look"

MissyFit08

I wouldn't SAY anything to her, but zipping isn't the same as fitting.

I can zip my old high school jeans. And they hurt. A lot.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I can say the same thing!! OUCH!! *barely breathing* "does it f-it??"

ohwhataday

So my SIL started bragging to me about how she fit into a 6 at Kohls (I was stoked about getting an 8 last week). She sent me a pic of herself in them from the dressing room. They were TIGHT and theres no way she could have worn them with any other shirt than the tunic she had on...you could see the muffin top flowing over them. So---am I a jerk that I say that you can only count a size when you can zip them without holding your breath AND wear any shirt in your closet with them?

or maybe its just a rivalry thing...any opinions? (and I think I am usually a pretty nice person, for the record!!!) :grumble:

rofl. awesome. I am a pretty nice person too.. but that doesn't seem to matter! hah

fteale

Don't antagonise the mother in law.

megz4987

No, I don't think so. I don't believe it's your size if you can't wear them comfortably. Anyone who claims they're comfortable when they have to lay on their bed to zip their pants are lying.

crisanderson27

Two nights ago...I was going through my closet cleaning out old clothes. I've got like 10 pairs of jeans I have NO idea why I've kept...so I decided to try them all on just to see. First pair, 30" waist...got them on (couldn't do that last time I tried), sipped them cleanly...and...they buttoned lol. I was kinda in shock to be honest. I normally wear 34's comfortably, and some of my 34's only fit if they're dead out of the dryer...or they fall down around my *kitten*.

However...the point of this is...I looked like an IDIOT! You think women look silly with muffin tops?? Try bread tops...on a guy.
Sooo, back to the point. I am SO not a 30" waist pant size. They were...umm, wearable I guess, but you won't catch me dead in them in the forseeable future. Still a solid 34" pant...until further notice lol.

GypsyRose25

Two nights ago...I was going through my closet cleaning out old clothes. I've got like 10 pairs of jeans I have NO idea why I've kept...so I decided to try them all on just to see. First pair, 30" waist...got them on (couldn't do that last time I tried), sipped them cleanly...and...they buttoned lol. I was kinda in shock to be honest. I normally wear 34's comfortably, and some of my 34's only fit if they're dead out of the dryer...or they fall down around my *kitten*.

However...the point of this is...I looked like an IDIOT! You think women look silly with muffin tops?? Try bread tops...on a guy.
Sooo, back to the point. I am SO not a 30" waist pant size. They were...umm, wearable I guess, but you won't catch me dead in them in the forseeable future. Still a solid 34" pant...until further notice lol.

lol! You're awesome!

sesecat

It's funny... some folks I've recruited to the site have also seemed to make it a competition or top my successes. Bums me out, but I feel like a jerk not wanting to congratulate them. LOL

Guess we just need to focus and be excited about our own successes, the true ones.

And congrats on getting into the single digit! I've never been there myself, but the thought of a single digit gets me all excited. Maybe this time I'll get there! :-)

dyaniT

I often tell my friends that what you can "fit into" isn't necessarily what "fits."

cmriverside

I wouldn't have said anything. Two jerks don't make a nice person.

kgagnon7779

Do you think she was rubbing it in to make you feel bad or was she just happy for herself and wanted you to be happy for her? I called my SIL from the dressing room when I fit into a pair of 4's - she seemed happy for me....huh...now I feel like an *kitten*.

Either way I guess, you should congratulate on her for being able to fit into a size 6 and being able to WEAR a size 8,

dyaniT

lol

stormieweather

I wear a size 6 right now...they're drooping around the crotch area and gaping open in the back waist. But if I try on size 4's, they're tight, tight, tight. I have no muffin top, my mid flab is nearly all gone. But something that tight simply doesn't look good (or classy). So, was far as I'm concerned, I'm in between a 4 and a 6. Until I'm fully a 4, however, I won't be buying (or wearing) any. Clothes that don't fit right make you look a lot lumpier and heavier than you really are. So no thanks.

crisanderson27

Do you think she was rubbing it in to make you feel bad or was she just happy for herself and wanted you to be happy for her? I called my SIL from the dressing room when I fit into a pair of 4's - she seemed happy for me....huh...now I feel like an *kitten*.

Either way I guess, you should congratulate on her for being able to fit into a size 6 and being able to WEAR a size 8,

Give this lady a prize =D!

lloydmel

I agree with you. I think you aren't truly that size if you can't wear them without spillage... Fret not, she's not truly a size 6... she is probably still a size 8 or higher :-)

Monica_has_a_goal

I hate seeing women with huge muffin tops, or dangling belly's OVER their jeans...

Hey.. men with big bellys overflowing are just as bad..

I'm a big woman and I KNOW not to fit myself into a small size just so I can "claim the size" !! ... Some people make me laugh.. :laugh:

crisanderson27

Hey.. men with big bellys overflowing are just as bad..

Worse...trust me. Even though my belly isn't 'big' anymore...it looked disgusting in 30" waist pants lol.

awelch79

You guys crack me up! Yes, I love my SIL most of the time, BUT she is highly competitive. When we bought our house, a month later, they bid on something bigger. We got pregnant, a month later she was pregnant. We got a chocolate lab, two weeks later they had a black AND white one. People who know all of us actually laugh and make fun of us..We went to CA for my daughters birthday and everyone asked them if they were going for their daughter. They laughed and said no, but 3 months later...where did they celebrate? Hmmmm....

The pic was to rub it in...I would gaurantee it. And when I went to her house, I asked to see the magnificent 6s and she admitted she didnt buy them...but just HAD to send the pic.

LOL! Like I said, I do love her and consider her one of my closest friends, but Ive worked HARD to get into that 8 and she hasnt been counting calories or working out, so it wasnt like she was saying, look what Ive done with all my hard work...she just wanted to show she was still smaller than me! Guess I should take it as a compliment and RUN!

BettyMargaret

I think she loves you and wants to emulate you, you know what "they" say, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery!
Just sayin'