Half of men would ditch woman who gained weight: poll

I_give_it_2_u_str8

Found the link on reuters, but the original poll was done on askmen.com

http://www.reuters.com/article/2011/07/26/us-sexes-survey-idUSTRE76P5CU20110726

Just thought that was interesting - since this is a heavily female dominated forum, what do all you ladies think?

Edit: The original poll can be found here, along with many other questions men answered regarding dating & sex, and lifestyle.

http://www.askmen.com/specials/great_male_survey/

Ajontheguitar

Ooooh this is gonna get fat and ugly--err, ugly really quick.

daylitemag

In other news, it turns out that half of all men are idiots. Hmmm, coincidence? I think not!

WWhitaker

I think we live in a very shallow society where we feel we can replace anything or anyone at any given second.

HowardRose

Would half of women leave a man if gained weight?

HappyathomeMN

The "real" problem:

Men get married expecting she won't change.
Women get married expecting to change him.

:laugh:

jamie78

bump

ChitownFoodie

I gained 15 pounds and he didn't leave....15 may not seem like a lot, but I'm short....so I looked like an oompa loompa. Eh, weight is gone and he said it really didn't matter, but he is happy because I was happy

MissAnjy

I'm going to try to defend men here (even though i'm a woman)

MAYBE it's not about being shallow, or even about the weight gain. MAYBE the woman just perceives it that way.

Sometimes when someone gains weight, with that weight comes insecurity, jealousy, low self esteem, depression, all of which can be VERY hard to deal with on a daily basis. When someone becomes insecure, jealous, depressed, etc it affects their daily living and that of those around them. It's not easy to live with someone who hates themselves (for whatever reason).

It's not always about the weight of the person, but what comes with the gain. There can be a lot of negative side effects to weight gain that have nothing to do with appearance. Some of which, could ruin relationships.

Mdbondurant

Alot of men look for reasons to justify their "ill" behaviour, hence would break up over even less. I am thinking men of quality would not do such things...

wickedcricket

well since over half of all men are ferocious liars and the other 80% don't know WHAT they want, I wouldn't pay too much attention to silly polls.

LorinaLynn

Pttthhhbbtttt. Askmen.com. I've read that site. Among my friends (male and female), we call it, "Askmen... then do the opposite."

It's a site catering that unique sub-culture of men* who are ridiculously insecure, and yet suffer from delusions of grandeur.






* commonly referred to as "wankers" or "douches."

shiggyshane

hmmm for me it depends i mean a few pounds is ok we will naturally gain weight as we get older if we dont
stay in shape of course but if its getting out of hand i would speak up to my women and let her know its not
healthy for her that she is putting on so much weight and maybe we could change are earting habits together
and she can come excerice with me at the gym...

sexforjaffacakes

I worked in market research so I know how easily misleading polls like this can be; First of all, how old are they? Young men can be shallow, but they grow out of it, so age must be taken into account. Second, if the men aren't or haven't been in love before they might not realise weight doesn't matter as much - a man who's just had casual relationships doesn't have the same experience as a man who is truly in love with his partner, who probably wouldn't leave due to weight gain. And we don't know what kinda guy it is - if it's someone that works out a lot they probably would consider weight control more important than a man who wasn't into exercise etc. Also, how much weight we talking? I mean I'm in a good relationship but I'm not in love with him yet, and honestly if he put on like 10 stone I probably would consider leaving.

Just sayin.

Trixtabella

I'm going to try to defend men here (even though i'm a woman)

MAYBE it's not about being shallow, or even about the weight gain. MAYBE the woman just perceives it that way.

Sometimes when someone gains weight, with that weight comes insecurity, jealousy, low self esteem, depression, all of which can be VERY hard to deal with on a daily basis. When someone becomes insecure, jealous, depressed, etc it affects their daily living and that of those around them. It's not easy to live with someone who hates themselves (for whatever reason).

It's not always about the weight of the person, but what comes with the gain. There can be a lot of negative side effects to weight gain that have nothing to do with appearance. Some of which, could ruin relationships.

The lady talks sence

I speak from personal experience I guess I am just lucky that I have a man that loves me and as he puts it 'will take a bit more than my crazy ways and a bit of weight to put him off. he loves me for me'

However he knows I am not happy with my weight and supports me anyway.

I think if you truely loved the person it would take more than weight to put a man off a woman.

jamie78

I think it depends.. If someone gains alot of weight because the decide to be lazy and just lay around and eat all day.. and refuse to do nothing about it... Then yes I think a man or woman would not be in the wrong doing so. . WHO wants to watch someone kill themselves slowly and on purpose.

Trixtabella

ALthough on another point one of my OH's work colleaugues dumped his girlfriend the other week for gaining about 10 lbs.
However he was cheating on her and when my BF questioned him about it he said
'half to have a firm grip on the next branch until you let go of the last one'
Ashamed to say I did giggle a bit at that, but not at his actions.

Schwiggity

well since over half of all men are ferocious liars and the other 80% don't know WHAT they want, I wouldn't pay too much attention to silly polls.

over half

the other 80%

I'm praying to the FSM that this is a troll post.

jamie78

well since over half of all men are ferocious liars and the other 80% don't know WHAT they want, I wouldn't pay too much attention to silly polls.

over half

the other 80%

I'm praying to the FSM that this is a troll post.

haha

I_give_it_2_u_str8

I worked in market research so I know how easily misleading polls like this can be; First of all, how old are they? Young men can be shallow, but they grow out of it, so age must be taken into account. Second, if the men aren't or haven't been in love before they might not realise weight doesn't matter as much - a man who's just had casual relationships doesn't have the same experience as a man who is truly in love with his partner, who probably wouldn't leave due to weight gain. And we don't know what kinda guy it is - if it's someone that works out a lot they probably would consider weight control more important than a man who wasn't into exercise etc. Also, how much weight we talking? I mean I'm in a good relationship but I'm not in love with him yet, and honestly if he put on like 10 stone I probably would consider leaving.

Just sayin.

70,000 men were polled from across canada, us, uk, and australia so i believe there was a good cross-section of age.
i believe ~40% of the men polled answered they were 'single' - you can draw your own conclusions.

edit; the validity of the poll hasnt come into question. this poll is carried on an anual basis and has been quoted by CNN, reuters and many other legit sources.

TiniTurtle

In other news, it turns out that half of all men are idiots. Hmmm, coincidence? I think not!

bahaha truth, but the women who married them are idiots too if they didn't know how vain their husbands were already. i think both parties are at fault there.

strbryt

The "real" problem:

Men get married expecting she won't change.
Women get married expecting to change him.

:laugh:

bahaha very funny and a bit true. On the flip side I married a wonderful really thin man and I was super overweight. He loves me no matter what. I have lost a toal of 73 lbs so far and to be honest I am not sure he really even notices or just doesn't care. He didn't marry me for my fat but for my heart.

Marazene

I'm going to try to defend men here (even though i'm a woman)

MAYBE it's not about being shallow, or even about the weight gain. MAYBE the woman just perceives it that way.

Sometimes when someone gains weight, with that weight comes insecurity, jealousy, low self esteem, depression, all of which can be VERY hard to deal with on a daily basis. When someone becomes insecure, jealous, depressed, etc it affects their daily living and that of those around them. It's not easy to live with someone who hates themselves (for whatever reason).

It's not always about the weight of the person, but what comes with the gain. There can be a lot of negative side effects to weight gain that have nothing to do with appearance. Some of which, could ruin relationships.

I agree 100%!!

manorexicmarshmallow

Would half of women leave a man if gained weight?

I don't think that's the relevant comparison. Might be more relevant to ask: would half of women leave a man if he lost his job and became bankrupt?

I've seen polls that suggest 75% of women would not marry an unemployed man, so definitely there are both shallow men and women out there.

kapeluza

If a guy broke up with me because I gained weight then good f*cking riddance.

AndrewTub

Yea I know lot's of guys and I'd say around 1 in 10 are that shallow ! Not 1 in 2 surely or maybe I just know decent people !

I've seen poll where like most women said they wouldn't date a guy with a lower salary than 20,000 etc as well

angryguy77

Yea I know lot's of guys and I'd say around 1 in 10 are that shallow ! Not 1 in 2 surely or maybe I just know decent people !

I've seen poll where like most women said they wouldn't date a guy with a lower salary than 20,000 etc as well

Exactly. How many times do you see a guy who makes good coin with a girl that is way out of his league.

ShifuYaku

I worked in market research so I know how easily misleading polls like this can be; First of all, how old are they? Young men can be shallow, but they grow out of it, so age must be taken into account. Second, if the men aren't or haven't been in love before they might not realise weight doesn't matter as much - a man who's just had casual relationships doesn't have the same experience as a man who is truly in love with his partner, who probably wouldn't leave due to weight gain. And we don't know what kinda guy it is - if it's someone that works out a lot they probably would consider weight control more important than a man who wasn't into exercise etc. Also, how much weight we talking? I mean I'm in a good relationship but I'm not in love with him yet, and honestly if he put on like 10 stone I probably would consider leaving.

Just sayin.

70,000 men were polled from across canada, us, uk, and australia so i believe there was a good cross-section of age.
i believe ~40% of the men polled answered they were 'single' - you can draw your own conclusions.

edit; the validity of the poll hasnt come into question. this poll is carried on an anual basis and has been quoted by CNN, reuters and many other legit sources.

What about men from other countries? I think they have some say too...>_> My boyfriend isn't American.

ilookthetype

I'm going to try to defend men here (even though i'm a woman)

MAYBE it's not about being shallow, or even about the weight gain. MAYBE the woman just perceives it that way.

Sometimes when someone gains weight, with that weight comes insecurity, jealousy, low self esteem, depression, all of which can be VERY hard to deal with on a daily basis. When someone becomes insecure, jealous, depressed, etc it affects their daily living and that of those around them. It's not easy to live with someone who hates themselves (for whatever reason).

It's not always about the weight of the person, but what comes with the gain. There can be a lot of negative side effects to weight gain that have nothing to do with appearance. Some of which, could ruin relationships.

I would like to add, that when I was at my heaviest I was a b*tch and I was anti-social. If I had been dating me I would have dumped me. Not saying it's ok, but I think that when people gain weight their personality changes, just like it does when you lose weight.

Someone asked about women sticking around with a guy who gained weight: I can't tell you how many skinny women in my church have husbands who ballooned.

Someone else mentioned that woman would marry an unemployed man and thus were shallow: I've dated unemployed guys and I learned something. Generally there is a reason they're unemployed. In my experience it has been a combination of thinking he deserved more pay, that he was 'too good' for entry level jobs...and I am just straight up never dating another unemployed guy, it is a drain on your wallet, and your stability. I wouldn't dump a guy because he suddenly became unemployed either, but employment is pretty much essential.

LizC26

It's easy for someone not "in love" with someone to say "theoretically" that they'd leave someone who gained weight....Men just don't think that hard about stuff, I'm sure the men in this study didn't take anything into consideration before answering ie Love, how hard/costly divorce/breaking up is, whether they were living together, had kids---the list goes on and on.....On the other hand, women probably did take all that into consideration before answering the question.....It's a simple fact that men under-think situations and women over-think them.....So with that in mind, this poll is totally invalid.

BAMA66

Would half of women leave a man if gained weight?

I don't think that's the relevant comparison. Might be more relevant to ask: would half of women leave a man if he lost his job and became bankrupt?

I've seen polls that suggest 75% of women would not marry an unemployed man, so definitely there are both shallow men and women out there.

100% agree