Pregnancy – August 2011

MadBabysMama

Any obese/overweight mamas-to-be on here? I'm just curious what your OBs told you regarding weight maintenance and even weight loss during pregnancy. There is a lot of medical debate about this and I'm wondering how people's real life doctors are reacting - continuing to stay within the guidelines of 11-20 pound gain for obese and 15-25 pound gain for overweight women, or permitting less gain or even some weight loss during pregnancy (with healthy nutrition and careful medical supervision, as advocated by some doctors today)?

joonzgurl

Any obese/overweight mamas-to-be on here? I'm just curious what your OBs told you regarding weight maintenance and even weight loss during pregnancy. There is a lot of medical debate about this and I'm wondering how people's real life doctors are reacting - continuing to stay within the guidelines of 11-20 pound gain for obese and 15-25 pound gain for overweight women, or permitting less gain or even some weight loss during pregnancy (with healthy nutrition and careful medical supervision, as advocated by some doctors today)?

There has never been mention of weight, and I started this pregnancy at 255lbs. At the beginning they did say no more than 25lbs is ideal. I have gained more than that. But my blood pressure has been fine, I have not had toooo much swelling (have had a bit) and no gestational diabetes, so as long as the pregnancy remains healthy and the baby sounds fine, my dr doesn't worry.

indiankel

I hope its ok if I post here still....we are TTC. I just finished the pill and realize it could take awhile but I'm crossing my fingers in hopes that we get lucky! I am learning alot just by reading up on everyone!

Caperfae

Any obese/overweight mamas-to-be on here? I'm just curious what your OBs told you regarding weight maintenance and even weight loss during pregnancy. There is a lot of medical debate about this and I'm wondering how people's real life doctors are reacting - continuing to stay within the guidelines of 11-20 pound gain for obese and 15-25 pound gain for overweight women, or permitting less gain or even some weight loss during pregnancy (with healthy nutrition and careful medical supervision, as advocated by some doctors today)?

My doctor didn't want me gaining too much because I had gestational diabetes while pregnant with my daughter, as well as pregnancy induced hypertension.
I started this pregnancy weighing much less than I did in 2005 and in better shape but I was still lucky enough to get GD again but not the hypertension (knock on wood) so I guess the weight thing was more an issue for me back then.
I have gained between 15 and 17 lbs thus far and there's never been a mention of the weight.

Lleldiranne

Any obese/overweight mamas-to-be on here? I'm just curious what your OBs told you regarding weight maintenance and even weight loss during pregnancy. There is a lot of medical debate about this and I'm wondering how people's real life doctors are reacting - continuing to stay within the guidelines of 11-20 pound gain for obese and 15-25 pound gain for overweight women, or permitting less gain or even some weight loss during pregnancy (with healthy nutrition and careful medical supervision, as advocated by some doctors today)?

I started this pregnancy about 20 lbs overweight, by my own reckoning - based on where I am at my best, which is 120 at 5'0" (so I was 140 when I started). My OB has never said much about my gain, except in response to my questions. My net gain at 19 weeks was 0, and my total so far, I think, is 12 or 14 lbs (I'm 33+6 now). He said my gain is just fine when I did ask. He mentioned a couple of times to not see it as a license to go and suddenly eat a whole lot now, though.

On the other hand, the WIC nutritionalist (WIC is a nutrition program for low income expectant and nursing mothers and kids under 5) was much more nervous about the fact that I had only gained 6 lbs when I was in about 2 months ago (so about 24 or 25 weeks along) and did quote me the 15-25 pound thing. I asked my doc afterwards and he said I was doing fine.

anna441

Hi everyone,

I would also like to join Pregnancy Agugust 2011....Me and my hubby are so excited as we are pregnant with our first child, and it is a boy, we had songram last thursday and can't wait to meet our bundle of joy very soon. My due date is Dec 30th, 2011. We are hoping to have 2011 Baby.

Before concieving, I lost total of 40 lbs with the help of MF and working out. Since I got pregnant (12 weeks) I left MF just couldn't keep up calorie counting and morning sickeness (actually mine was evening sickness)...so far I have gain 11 lbs and I am on my 21st weeks ..I am hoping not to gain a lot of weight for my next visit (hopefully not more than 4-5 lbs)

I have stopped working out but would like to join the wagon again but it is just too hot here in Dallas, TX Can't wait to have lower temperature in weather so I can walk around the block in the morning and evening...

Lindseyjones1717

Any obese/overweight mamas-to-be on here? I'm just curious what your OBs told you regarding weight maintenance and even weight loss during pregnancy. There is a lot of medical debate about this and I'm wondering how people's real life doctors are reacting - continuing to stay within the guidelines of 11-20 pound gain for obese and 15-25 pound gain for overweight women, or permitting less gain or even some weight loss during pregnancy (with healthy nutrition and careful medical supervision, as advocated by some doctors today)?

There has never been mention of weight, and I started this pregnancy at 255lbs. At the beginning they did say no more than 25lbs is ideal. I have gained more than that. But my blood pressure has been fine, I have not had toooo much swelling (have had a bit) and no gestational diabetes, so as long as the pregnancy remains healthy and the baby sounds fine, my dr doesn't worry.

I am pretty much the same as Rachel. I started at 165 which is considered obese for my height (5'0) and weight has never been mentioned. I am almost 38 weeks, and have gained 25 so far. Strange how some doctors are very concerned with weight and some like mine do not even bring it up once! It doesn't bother me though :laugh:

kaymd

Any obese/overweight mamas-to-be on here? I'm just curious what your OBs told you regarding weight maintenance and even weight loss during pregnancy. There is a lot of medical debate about this and I'm wondering how people's real life doctors are reacting - continuing to stay within the guidelines of 11-20 pound gain for obese and 15-25 pound gain for overweight women, or permitting less gain or even some weight loss during pregnancy (with healthy nutrition and careful medical supervision, as advocated by some doctors today)?

I started out obese and my doctor told me the guidelines in the beginning but has never mentioned anything since then except when I mention something. One month I gained 9 pounds and she wasn't concerned because I actually lost weight at the visit before. If it would be consistently like that she would be concerned.

VeronicaanddMatt0605

welcome to all the new ladies!

Caper I'm glad thatbyour appt went well and was quicker than usual. it's good that your bp hasn't gone up I know that feeling of just waiting for it to be high because I had pih with both of my other pregnancies

Ronya are you doing anything to turn your little girl yet I was wondering because my daughter is breech too and I want her to turn before it's too late

scorpiomom I was wondering about having the placenta made into capsules but since I have gd and may possibly get phi so was wondering if my placenta would be any good

Julz ouch on that burn right on your pg tummy too that really stinks hope your nst goes well and the straps don't hurt your burn too much

Regina sorry about having pre e and not being able to have a home birth hopefully you'll have a good natural birth experience even in the hospital

as far as weight gain my dr hasn't said anything but I have lost weight this pregnancy so that may be why

Rachel hope that baby comes soon try to enjoy the alone time with hubby while you're waiting

afm I'm feeling much better now and we had my sons 5th bday party yesterday it went well but I'm tired now I have a Drs appt tomorrow which I expect will be uneventful

ron2282

Ashley – yea!!!! :bigsmile: :happy: :bigsmile: I’m so, so, so, so excited for you!!! I still stalk the TTC thread. Your day cares have a 2 year waiting list? That’s crazy! And I thought the 6 month waiting list for some around me were bad.

Kaylou – congratulations and welcome!

Caperfae – yea for a good appointment, glad everything looks good.

Mad – all my doctor told me was that I needed an extra 300 calories a day once I reached the second trimester. I started off this pregnancy very close to a “normal” weight but I was still in the overweight category. With 6 weeks left I’ve gained 37.5 which is more than I wanted to but my doctor never said anything. I haven’t had any complications and baby is healthy so I’m not too worried.

Anna – welcome! I lost 53 pounds before I got pregnant but so sick in the beginning that I didn’t track my food either. Unfortunately, the only thing that made my nausea go away was carbs, so I gained a lot in the beginning. Congrats!

Veronica – I’ve been doing some stretches to try to get baby to flip. I get on my hands and knees then and arch my back. I’ve also been putting pillows under my butt so my lower half is higher than the rest of my body. So far I don’t think it’s working, but the doctor said she can easily flip until 36 weeks, so I’ve got two more weeks until I start to panic.

ElizabethJ17

Mad- I could stand to lose about 100 lbs. When I got pregnant my ob office suggested no weight gain if possible. I lost 14lbs right at the beginning and then gained 6 or 7 back. I am still at a loss from the very beginning. The dr said I was up 3 lbs from the previous visit at my 20 week appt and was very happy. He said he wasn't concerned and would be fine with me even losing as long as baby looked fine on u/s and was growing. Which she is. I asked him about this site and calorie settings and he said he would prefer me to just be set at maintenance (not trying to lose or cut calories).

MadBabysMama

Thanks so much for the replies re: weight gain/loss, folks, that's very helpful. I will have to see what my own doc says (I just got a positive test on Friday at 10 DPO, so I'm not going to schedule my visit until after my vacation this week - my OB tends to want folks to come in around 8 weeks for the first visit anyway). I'm just concerned about gaining more weight given that I'm starting 50 pounds heavier than my first pregnancy, I'm hoping that my doctor doesn't push me to gain a lot. Given my large fat stores, I can't imagine the baby wouldn't grow well with those extra calories available! Of course I'll wait and see what my doctor says, but I am going to try not to gain much at all with this baby while eating very healthy and staying fit.

abeare

Thanks for the welcome response Ronya, oh and the daycares here are split. There are the ones that are government subsidized (CPE’s) and the private ones. It’s the CPE’s that have a 2year waiting list on them, but the wait is worth it. They are $7day instead of $30-35 with private, not to mention the CPE’s are monitored and inspected regularly unlike the private system, and they are open year round (you don’t have to take your vacation according to the educators schedule). Luckily my husbands aunt is one of the inspectors (she runs a CPE and inspects monitors 7 others, but in a different area) and she offered to come with me to visit the ones near my place and give feedback on who’s doing what to code. But given the time sensitivity, we need to do that in the upcoming month.

I don have a question for everyone, where did you guys get the tickers?

Lleldiranne

Ashley - I got my ticker from baby-gaga.com. You create the ticker and then copy and paste it to your signature. MFP won't use the html version, but it has another choice (I don't remember beyond that).

BadBabysMama - I can't imagine your doc wanting you to gain more than 15 lbs (I would even assume less than that). Congrats on positive test! Hope to see you around here plenty, this has been a great resource for me to maintain a healthy weight gain and keep my body moving this pregnancy.

Ronya - you could always try the hot/cold packs that Brittony had heard about :laugh: Hopefully Kathryn cooperates and turns herself back around like a good baby. Or, at the very worst, than a version is feasible for you.

AFM - had a series of bizarre dreams last night, something about us moving and I was trying to get everything packed before the movers came (and they were on their way or something) but the more I packed the more there was to do... I can't figure it out. But I'm quite fuzzy-headed today.
Went to a breastfeeding class through WIC today. I was so bored ... but maybe because I've been through it all before. There were a couple of things that were reminders, but not much that I didn't already know. But they require every mom-to-be to attend, so at least I've gotten that over with.

dmdaigle17

I was told today that this was my last "pants on" doctor appointment totally caught me off guard at first! :laugh: I immediately thought "Guess it's time to REALLY weedwhack!!" I am officially in the every week appointment zone now. I'll have my Strep B done next week as well as checking to see if I've dilated :noway: :noway: Oh, how quickly these last few weeks are going!

Anya1982

Hello everyone I am 10 weeks pregnant and would love to meet other moms to be who love to keep weight down and stay slim even being pregnant.
This is my second pregnancy, we have 9 months old son and with my first pregnancy I put 2 stones on. The first one has gone after the delivery of the baby but the second one is still on me. I love being slim and with my 1st pregnancy I could not exercise due to some complications but now I have decided to be much more active and healthy so I don't end up a stone heavier.
People say all sorts of things that breastfeeding helps to losethe weight, running after the child and so on.maybe .. for some women..not with me...
I did all of that plus trying to be active and healthy but have not lost anything since the delivery of the baby. That's why I would love to meet others who has similar experience and try to encourage each other with being healthy and active while being pregnant.
I believe losing weight with a second child on board will be even more challenging due to busy life style and being over tired.
Get in touch if you feel like you are in similar situation.:flowerforyou:
First pregnancy: starting weight 57kg=125.4pounds. End up and currently 63kg=138.6pounds.
Second pregnancy:starting weight 63kg.=138.6 End up..... we will see:) in 30 weeks time:)
The battle with the weight is on...
To be continued...

JKilty

So...finding full time infant child care is a nightmare. Any tips? Any questions I should be asking? I have a list, but I don't want to miss anything. We were wanting an in home daycare, but no one seems to want to hold a spot until we need it in January.

ElizabethJ17

We got super lucky with daycare. A girl I went to hs with and played sports with since we were little has an in home daycare. She watches my 20 month old now and said she would also have an infant spot for us in January. We pay $70 if my daughter only goes 2 days and we pay $130 for 3 days and up. For the toddler and infant she said she would charge us $230 every week. She has a degree in childhood education so she works with the little ones a bit more than a regular daycare provider. We looked into a center and for the 2 kids it would be $440 a week. That is on the low side some centers in the twin cities charge close to $1,000 a week for 2 kids. I would ask a few basic questions and I am sure other ladies will have some more advice.
Is the daycare licenses?
How many kids do they have?
What is their holiday schedule?
How much notice is provided when daycare is closed?
Do you have to still pay to keep your spot if you are on vacation or don't need daycare a certain day?
When is your payment due?
How much notice is needed to leave the daycare?
How much notice do they give you if you are kicked out?
Do they have current cpr training?
Have they had any medical issues at the daycare in the past?
What do you need to bring and what is provided by the daycare?

Hope this helps you some. Remember to go with your gut. As a mom you have a sixth sense and if a place seems shady or something doesnt seem right go with a different place. We were lucky my dad watched our first daughter until she was 1 that helped a lot. I am sure I will be a paranoid freak when daughter #2 comes.

Caperfae

Child care is a nightmare. That's why I stayed home with my daughter after she was born. Pretty rough financially with only hubby working though. Now I get to do it again for another 5 years!! He's been going away for 6-months at a time to work in Alberta because that's where the high paying jobs are. He's missed out on A LOT of his child's life as a result so it's a give and take scenario.
Babysitters/Day Care are expensive. If I were to work, my pay would be going toward child care so that's why I've stayed home and raised my child(ren). Oldest is starting school in a couple of weeks but by then I'll be close to delivering this one.

As it is today I am babysitting a little boy. His mom was stuck because day care is closed for 3 days and she didn't know about it!! So even if you are a working mom, things still arise where you need a backup plan. Luckily I don't have a social life so I'm almost always home. Stressful!!

I commend working moms.

jenzimmer

Hey Ladies! Question, what is one thing that you got/bought that you can't live with out for your babes? With DS it was a video monitor, best money I spent. The thing I coud have done with out is the bumbo seat, never used it. This time around I'm REALLY excited to use the fisher price rock and play sleeper for baby number 2. I've heard great things about it and am super excited. I also ordered a monitor for prevention of SIDS. I can't remeber the name but it clips right to the diaper and has a motion sensor on it. It it doesn't sense movement for 15 seconds it vibrates to stimulate the baby. If it happens again, the alarm goes off. I'm super glad to have that because with DS if I wasn't up nursing I was up standing over him making sure he was breathing. This way I can SLEEP! YAY!

mukie89

abeare- welcome and congratulations on the pregnancy!! As far as the question of when to tell people, the only thing id say is to remember the extra risk associated with the pregnancy in the first three months. because of this my fiance' and i waited until the 12 week mark to tell anyone other than immediate family, to protect ourselves

kaylou- welcome! its never too late to join this thread rolls over every month

Anna441-welcome!

Danielle- I dont know about you but any self-maintenance down there is already becoming a problem for me my fiance' has actually offered to help me out with it the past week which is sooooo nice, though the thought of him with a razor down there is a tad too daunting, i think brazillian is the only way to go lol, ouch

So i got abit of a shock when my colostrum came in the other day, I had just finished reading some of my book about breastfeeding and looked down to see my left nipple leaking through my shirt (i wonder if the increased thoughts of breastfeeding have brought this on).Either way it was actually quite exciting

The one pain in the butt i have at the moment (quite literally) is shingles :sad: there's a patch of it right below my right butt check and it hurts like hell! especially when im sitting all day. Just got to get through it i guess.

ron2282

Ashley – I had to read that a few times to make sure I got it right. $7 a day is awesome, we’ll be paying $165 a week when I go back to work in January. It’s feasible for us now, but I’ll have to get my student loans paid off before we have a second one.

Julz – I told my husband that I was going to try to cold/hot packs, but told me that I’d be torturing the baby. That just means I’ll do it when he’s not home. :laugh: And for as much as I don’t want a c-section, I rather end up with one than let the doctor try a version. One of the women I work with had one done least year, she ended up with two broken ribs and the baby still didn’t flip.

Danielle – I think after tomorrow I only have one more “pants on” appointment. I can’t really see enough to “weedwhack” so attempting that should be interesting.

Jenna – Elizabeth touched on most of the questions, but also ask about their sick child policy, the staff turnover rate and how they handle emergency situations (we just had an earthquake here so that’s fresh in my mind). I wish I could stay at home after she’s born but it’s not feasible for us.

Melissa – oh no! So sorry about the shingles, my brother had them all over his back and stomach last year, he said they were horrible.

Kathryn is confused and thinks she’s back in the 1st trimester again. I was sick for over an hour this morning and now I’m dizzy and nauseous.:sick: Blah! On a happy note, hubby is picking up our glider tonight and will be done painting the mural in the nursery this weekend! :happy: :happy:

Lleldiranne

Ronya - I had to chuckle about your husband's response to the hot/cold packs. I was putting ice on my tummy (where I'd burned it), and baby started wiggling a lot. I guess he didn't care for it (though it was reassuring to feel him move right then, after the burn). I think he also jumped when I first burned it. But the doctor said that baby is really well insulated, so it certainly didn't hurt him. Hot/cold pack when hubby isn't home ... good plan :laugh: . Hopefully you can avoid a c-section; I don't blame you for being nervous about a version, either.

Day care questions I thought of: -Ask to see where they diaper and where they prepare food/bottles (they should be different rooms) and look for sanitary conditions - make sure they sanitize changing station after each change, have clean kitchen practices, etc.
-Ask about their vaccination policy, both for other kids and for employees. My pediatrician said that everyone in my family needs a flu shot this year because baby will too young to get one for this flu season. I'm asking my mom and MIL to get it too, since they will be helping with baby. If the daycare is lax on vaccinations, you may want to find somewhere else (take into account your own vaccinations preferences here, too, but unvaccinated kids can put your baby at risk).
-If you are planning of bf/pumping and feeding baby breastmilk, make sure the center will support that. Ask how they will store you milk. Either way, make sure they throw out the rest of a bottle when baby is done (and that they only fill bottle to the right amount so you're not wasting a ton)
-Watch how they interact with infants. Some places, especially big/busy ones, tend to leave infants in crib or swing unless they cry/fuss. Look for places that interact with the babies, make eye contact, cuddle, play etc.

Danielle - Doc said my next appointment, in a week, is going to be the strep B and internal check. I'm hoping after that we will have another couple of weeks before the next check, but it's sounding like I shouldn't plan on it. As far as landscaping, I'm practically blind without my glasses, so I've gotten used to doing it by touch, but it's definitely getting harder to reach

AFM - Rough night last night. I had strange dreams the first few hours - that'll teach me to not read my Topology text right before bed, haha. Then I woke up just after midnight and couldn't get back to sleep because it seemed like baby wasn't moving. I finally got up and pulled out another text (will I learn?? lol) and once I was sitting he started moving more. Finally got back to bed 2 hours later. Soo sleepy this morning...

kaymd

Child care is a nightmare. That's why I stayed home with my daughter after she was born. Pretty rough financially with only hubby working though. Now I get to do it again for another 5 years!! He's been going away for 6-months at a time to work in Alberta because that's where the high paying jobs are. He's missed out on A LOT of his child's life as a result so it's a give and take scenario.
Babysitters/Day Care are expensive. If I were to work, my pay would be going toward child care so that's why I've stayed home and raised my child(ren). Oldest is starting school in a couple of weeks but by then I'll be close to delivering this one.

As it is today I am babysitting a little boy. His mom was stuck because day care is closed for 3 days and she didn't know about it!! So even if you are a working mom, things still arise where you need a backup plan. Luckily I don't have a social life so I'm almost always home. Stressful!!

I commend working moms.

This is the same reason why I don't work either. I have been home for 4 years now ( I have three children). I was just telling my husband how excited I was to possibly going back to work part-time and we found out about this little surprise so i will be home for another 4-5 years.

jenzimmer

Hello everyone I am 10 weeks pregnant and would love to meet other moms to be who love to keep weight down and stay slim even being pregnant.
This is my second pregnancy, we have 9 months old son and with my first pregnancy I put 2 stones on. The first one has gone after the delivery of the baby but the second one is still on me. I love being slim and with my 1st pregnancy I could not exercise due to some complications but now I have decided to be much more active and healthy so I don't end up a stone heavier.
People say all sorts of things that breastfeeding helps to losethe weight, running after the child and so on.maybe .. for some women..not with me...
I did all of that plus trying to be active and healthy but have not lost anything since the delivery of the baby. That's why I would love to meet others who has similar experience and try to encourage each other with being healthy and active while being pregnant.
I believe losing weight with a second child on board will be even more challenging due to busy life style and being over tired.
Get in touch if you feel like you are in similar situation.:flowerforyou:
First pregnancy: starting weight 57kg=125.4pounds. End up and currently 63kg=138.6pounds.
Second pregnancy:starting weight 63kg.=138.6 End up..... we will see:) in 30 weeks time:)
The battle with the weight is on...
To be continued...

Welcome! My story is kind of like yours. With the expection that I gained 50 with DS. I had pre e so a lot of it was swelling. My pre pregnancy weight with him was 130, ending at 180 (i'm 5'6). Got back down to 133 and found out we were expecting number 2! I've used this site and kept my weight in check this whole time. I'm 32 1/2 weeks and I have gained 20 pounds. My goal is 30 or less which if I keep it up I should be able to do. I have been way more active this time around and chasing DS helps to! BF did not help me loose ANY weight the first time. It took me 2.5 years to get back to my pre pregnancy weight and I did EVERYTHING. I even hired a personal trainer and worked out with her 2 times a week, did spinning, worked out at home and watched what I ate. My Dr. said that some times your body just hold on to that last 10, which is so true for me!

Lleldiranne

Just got back from NST and U/S. Baby is measuring about a week ahead overall, he's about 5 1/2 lbs right now by their estimate. The doc their (not my regular doc, but at the maternal fetal medicine clinic) asked if we'd discussed an induction date yet. He said that it would be best for me to not go much past due date, let alone 42 weeks. I think it has more to do with high AFP than baby size. Much as I'm starting to be ready for this to be over, I'm not sure how I feel about scheduling induction before 40 weeks. I think I'll wait and talk to my regular OB when I see him next week before I really think about it.

mrsgrovester

hi ive just found out im pregnant im 5 weeks and i was a size 6 with my first and wen id had her i was a size 10-12 now im a 16-18 im just so scared im going to end up like a whale with my second so want to start eating healthy. i havnt worked since i had my first and just got a job and found out i was pregnant with my second, complete bad timing but we were trying since we got married in may so decided to put back work another year

i want to eat healthy but its so expensive.... i shop at iceland mostly because its cheaper. what are you eating while u are pregnant? what foods r good for the baby? xxx

dmdaigle17

Jen- Someone bought us the rock and play sleeper and I’ve heard nothing but raves about it from other Mom’s. I’m hoping it is that good!

Melissa- Yeah, maintenance below was pretty bad here too. But all is well again! I bought a cheap pair of men’s clippers per Mel’s suggestion in the past and it worked out better than any razor ever has :laugh: ! I think I noticed my colostrum around the same time as you, too.

Ron- I’ve found that if I try to eat just a normal meal it makes me really sick. I’m eating almost less now than I have the entire pregnancy. Try eating 6 small meals instead and see if that makes you feel any better. It has really helped with my being so sick/upset stomach these last few weeks.

Julz- I think I’m going to have them go every other week with the internal checks. Unless it seems like things are progressing.

Welcome to all the newbies!!! :happy:

joonzgurl

On my way in to be induced this AM. I am pretty upset that I have not gone into labour naturally before the doctor feels it is crucial to intervene.

I am 41 weeks 6 days today. Next time i post i should have my little baby!

ElizabethJ17

I am sorry it isn't going as you hoped Rachel. Wishing you the best of luck and hoping for a fast and safe labor for you and the baby.