Terrible, Horrible, Rotten, No Good Mood!

odusgolp

I am in a horribly foul mood. My best friend sent an email I feel to be out of line. My office has a weird vibe today (which is likely all in my head). My lip is chapped, etc....

Seriously. Someone punch me and give me a xanax or something. It's ridiculous that I'm this anxious and moody for no good reason.

Allyc804

Hang in there! Mondays are tough!!! Take a walk if you can. Removing yourself, even if brief, might help!!

xoxox

sexylonglegs

*hands you xanax*

me too. i think it's the damn hot weather. so sick of it.

cheer up!

LolasEpicJourney

manic monday... boo! tomorrow is a fresh start (

lizzybethclaire

I am in a crappy mood too. Too much drama going on in the office, my boss is a nutter and my other boss is a wimp. ugh.

Mamapengu

OOOh- I'm sorry. I've had those before and you just have to work it out. I had a physician I worked with ask me once to put a red scarf on when I had those- which totally insulted me since I thought closing the door to my office so I could try and relax was reasonable and it was his own fault for walking in....

dunsu47

While mine is not as bad, I am in a crabby mood.. I know it's me but somedays..hang in there and I agree.. it's the hot sticky weather, makes even the nicest people grumpy...

liz11599

I'm so hoping your day gets better for you! Sending good vibes your way :happy:

~big hugs~!
:flowerforyou: :bigsmile:

dmoses

Thank all that is HOLY - I'm working at home today and don't have to put up with anyone's crap!!

Namaste1983

sounds like someone has a case of the mondays.... bwahaha
Think of office space... Smile. Physically force yourself to smile for 30 continuous seconds. There is supposed to be a trigger that happens when you smile. Breathe and count to ten. These were tips in my positive psychology class so if they don't work i had nothing to do with you smiling like an idiot for 30 seconds
Buck up buckaroo.... We like you!~

jennyj09

SMILE!!!

It confuses people hee hee

FrancesGallagher

I think your best friend deserves an e-mail in return telling that the message has caused you stress. Maybe this person doesn't realize that you would be affected so negatively. Try not to over-react. Hang in there and things will be better shortly. FG

odusgolp

OOOh- I'm sorry. I've had those before and you just have to work it out. I had a physician I worked with ask me once to put a red scarf on when I had those- which totally insulted me since I thought closing the door to my office so I could try and relax was reasonable and it was his own fault for walking in....

Asked you to wear a freaking red scarf???? Shut the front door!!!! I would have punched him/her right in the trachea.

odusgolp

I think your best friend deserves an e-mail in return telling that the message has caused you stress. Maybe this person doesn't realize that you would be affected so negatively. Try not to over-react. Hang in there and things will be better shortly. FG

Can I just vent about it to get another perspective on this???

Here's the story.... My best friend's neighbor is going through an immensely hard time. Husband left her and two very young children, not paying any support, she's living on food stamps, etc. OK fast forward... I do a direct sales business (food business). This neighbor signed up last week to also sell this food product to try and make some extra money to support herself and the kids, obviously.

There is a meeting tonight that I told her I'd give her a ride to if she wanted to come. I told her this on Friday. The neighbor asked my best friend to babysit for her.

This is the email my bestie sent me this morning:

"Neighbor texted me yesterday afternoon asking if I could watch the boys tonight while she goes to training with you from 5-9. I can't b/c I'm being diligent about spin class, but this was totally what I was afraid would happen with WT. I know I told her I'd help her out with one time a month for WT, but I need more than a day's notice (especially once school starts back up) and I will always be the first person she will call on if there is not more notice than that. Anyway I'm hoping you can help me out with this by giving her more time with these things? That would be really helpful as I would like to help her out, but not at the loss of the things I've already committed to. I hope you understand where I'm coming from on this."

Before I say boo... How would YOU take this email???

Ajontheguitar

Sudo, I'm right there with you. Nobody should ever attack or upset me when I'm in this mood. Read my status...lol

chin up.

Ajontheguitar

Sudo, I'm right there with you. Nobody should ever attack or upset me when I'm in this mood. Read my status...lol

chin up.

Ajontheguitar

I think your best friend deserves an e-mail in return telling that the message has caused you stress. Maybe this person doesn't realize that you would be affected so negatively. Try not to over-react. Hang in there and things will be better shortly. FG

Can I just vent about it to get another perspective on this???

Here's the story.... My best friend's neighbor is going through an immensely hard time. Husband left her and two very young children, not paying any support, she's living on food stamps, etc. OK fast forward... I do a direct sales business (food business). This neighbor signed up last week to also sell this food product to try and make some extra money to support herself and the kids, obviously.

There is a meeting tonight that I told her I'd give her a ride to if she wanted to come. I told her this on Friday. The neighbor asked my best friend to babysit for her.

This is the email my bestie sent me this morning:

"Neighbor texted me yesterday afternoon asking if I could watch the boys tonight while she goes to training with you from 5-9. I can't b/c I'm being diligent about spin class, but this was totally what I was afraid would happen with WT. I know I told her I'd help her out with one time a month for WT, but I need more than a day's notice (especially once school starts back up) and I will always be the first person she will call on if there is not more notice than that. Anyway I'm hoping you can help me out with this by giving her more time with these things? That would be really helpful as I would like to help her out, but not at the loss of the things I've already committed to. I hope you understand where I'm coming from on this."

Before I say boo... How would YOU take this email???

one word: patronizing.

odusgolp

I felt it to be extremely condescending.

She's in her upper 30's. Boyfriend that she doesn't live with. No kids. Teacher so not working this summer. Doesn't like babysitting the neighbors kids.

However, NONE of this is my fault. Someone asked you to babysit and you need to make this big an issue of it?? I just... I don't get it.

fbmandy55

It is something in the air. Bad mood today is contagious!

ischmelle

I felt it to be extremely condescending.

She's in her upper 30's. Boyfriend that she doesn't live with. No kids. Teacher so not working this summer. Doesn't like babysitting the neighbors kids.

However, NONE of this is my fault. Someone asked you to babysit and you need to make this big an issue of it?? I just... I don't get it.

I would send her an email with just one sentence in it and one sentence only, "Did you ask her when she was notified about the meeting?" That way, it gets to the heart of the issue without getting you all riled up, which the emotion of would likely divert you away from the point you want to make. But, it would be enough to let her know that maybe she needed to look at things from a different angle.

In the end, if the neighbor doesn't make it to training, I don't know about you but I wouldn't stress about it. You did your part, she failed to come through on hers. It is hard to help people when they just won't help themselves sometimes.

Good luck!

odusgolp

I'm dwelling. I really do dwell about things entirely too much. I'm completely unfocused at work.

Must go for a walk. Or find a bottle of vodka.

*LOL*

Qarol

uh oh, sounds like someone's got a case of the mundays...

or my favorite...today was a total waste of makeup!

p.s. I think your friend was kinda out of line blaming you for someone else's lack of planning. If it were me, I'd really want to respond, but it would probably be best if I ignored it, as I might say something I'll regret. I, too, can't stand when people don't give me notice. (My husband's family is so bad about this!) But some people just don't get it.

odusgolp

I would send her an email with just one sentence in it and one sentence only, "Did you ask her when she was notified about the meeting?" That way, it gets to the heart of the issue without getting you all riled up, which the emotion of would likely divert you away from the point you want to make. But, it would be enough to let her know that maybe she needed to look at things from a different angle.

In the end, if the neighbor doesn't make it to training, I don't know about you but I wouldn't stress about it. You did your part, she failed to come through on hers. It is hard to help people when they just won't help themselves sometimes.

Good luck!

The thing is, she JUST signed up this past week. Yes, she got an email - probably Tuesday or Wednesday about the meeting after she signed up. Probably didn't see it - no internet connection. I told her about it Friday and told her I'd give her a ride. It's not mandatory, it is simply useful if she can find a babysitter. However, I know that's not easy. Her family doesn't watch her children for her and she has no money.

However, none of this is my problem, to be perfectly frank. All I can do i offer the ride, inform, and continue to support her in trying to make a go of this business.

If the neighbor called her and she doesn't want to babysit, say no. It's not my problem. And I feel it's really inappropriate to put that on me.

odusgolp

uh oh, sounds like someone's got a case of the mundays...

or my favorite...today was a total waste of makeup!

I even used the good primer *sigh* I look hot today and it's wasted b/c of the sourpuss on my face *LOL*

pumpkinmoccasin

If someone sent me that email I might be a bit miffed too... She offered to babysit at one point, the neighbor took her up on it, so she should be complaining to the neighbor and not you. Boo hoo she's going to miss her spin class. :noway:

Take some deep breaths, it's gonna be ok! I bet the weird vibe you're getting is just a projection of your mood... Take a nice walk at lunch or do some stretches and think about your happy place.

kjpollard

Your topic title reminds me of my favorite children's book "Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No-Good, Very Bad Day."

Basically, this kid's day sucked, so he decided he was moving to Australia. His mom is comforting him at the end of the day and gently lets him know that some days are like that....even in Australia.

Hope that made you smile. Hang in there. :flowerforyou:

LorinaLynn

To be perfectly honest, I'm a selfish person. I don't like being put out because other people failed to plan.

That said... I have enough compassion to realize that my friend who's been having a seriously rough time and wants to get back on her feet is a little more important than spin class. That the needs of someone I care about are more important than my wants. Furthermore, if I really, really, really didn't want to babysit, I'd have just said so to the neighbor, and it would have been the neighbor's responsibility to tell you if she couldn't get a sitter. There was no need to bring you into it at all. None of it is your fault.

Riebop

A simple response to that e-mail... "How is that my problem? You need to discuss that with your neighbor." The end....

Mondays are bad enough even when you're in a good mood. I hope your day gets better.

Cherilea

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Seriously. Someone punch me and give me

*gives you a slap* Snap out of it!!! Did it work?

odusgolp

To be perfectly honest, I'm a selfish person. I don't like being put out because other people failed to plan.

That said... I have enough compassion to realize that my friend who's been having a seriously rough time and wants to get back on her feet is a little more important than spin class. That the needs of someone I care about are more important than my wants. Furthermore, if I really, really, really didn't want to babysit, I'd have just said so to the neighbor, and it would have been the neighbor's responsibility to tell you if she couldn't get a sitter. There was no need to bring you into it at all. None of it is your fault.

How would you reply to her, honestly? I guess I'm so bothered b/c 1. we haven't had a real argument in the 9 years we've known each other. 2. i feel she's been up on a high horse about many things lately. she has finally fallen in love, remodeled her home, gotten a promotion, etc. and she's SO happy that she can come across as condescending and a bit uncaring about other people having problems.

luv_lea

This is me today also! I think I'm tired, and everything is not going well, and getting to me.

Hang in there...hopefully for everyone's sake...this Monday won't last too horribly long!