Do you ever give unsolicited advice on someone's diary?

kandrews24

I have never commented on anyones and no one had commented on mine. i have mine open so people can get ideas, I like looking at others for the same reason.

Precisely. I only give and receive unsolicited POSITIVE feedback. For example, if someone goes over their calories, and their diary is public, I say, something encouraging so long as it is true, such as, "Hey, you were not over by much, nice day."

I like to get ideas for meal combinations and low fat foods from other peoples diaries.

I don't view a public diary as an invitation for unsolicited feedback or criticism. I don't know why anyone would assume that.

ChrissyLu723

Eggs give you super-aids. Just like aspartame will.

What does that mean? I am not understanding what you mean at all

Hirundo

If you plan to be over on protein, why don't you just change the protein goal to be higher?

How can you do that ?

Salpica

If you know you did something wrong, such as eat to much sugar or eat something you shouldn't have, then post that fact in the notes at the end of the day. That way people will see that you held yourself accountable and may not comment about it if you show that you knew you did wrong.

Other than that if you don't want people to comment about what you ate, in a negative way, make it private and give access to those who you want to have it.

2112540

I don't but I love it when people give me some!!

Rae6503

If you plan to be over on protein, why don't you just change the protein goal to be higher?

How can you do that ?

Under Goals chose custom and you can change the percentages.

Shalimarmandy

"To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own"

"If people wanted your unsolicited advice, they’d ask for it."


***This is why I don't give unsolicited advice :flowerforyou: ***

Hirundo

If you plan to be over on protein, why don't you just change the protein goal to be higher?

How can you do that ?

Under Goals chose custom and you can change the percentages.

Ah cool ! Thank you !

Schwiggity

Eggs give you super-aids. Just like aspartame will.

What does that mean? I am not understanding what you mean at all

Super-aids is like aids, but worse. And you get it from eggs and aspartame.

change_happens

Honestly, I don't know why anyone believes that because a dary is public that they have the right to make comments about it. Your goals are your goals. People who do this apparently think there way is the right way and they have reached a level of perfection that others haven't yet attained.

I think you need a new group of friends! I can't say there has been one time where any of my friends have said anything about my diary. I am sure they thought about it after seeing that I had cookies and milk for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but instead I received encouragement and not critical remarks laced with sarcasm.

If you ask, you ask, if you don't ask then others need to learn how to keep it to themselves.

I like to look at diaries to get food ideas and meal ideas. I don't care if you decide to eat 90 cookies and ten cakes, if that is what you want, that is what you want. I woudlnt go up to someone in the grocery store and tell them that the food in their basket is unhealthy because they are in a public place. So, the thought processes behind folks being critical and offering unsolicited advice is beyond my comprehension.

People on mfp are the same folks you run into in a public group, you have those who are bossy, those who are agressive, passive, whatever.... Peoplk are still people and they bring with them their own personalities. What am I saying... Ditch those who aren't encouraging. If you are losing weight, which is more important than going over this-or-that, then I say yay!

Keep doing what you are doing. I am with Dr. Oz.... Lose the weight and while you are losing it learn how to incorporate healthier options. Sometimes it doesn't happen all at the same time. It is the weight being dropped that improves your health markers, and just ten pounds at that.

So! Don't worry, be happy!

I would leave a little note in my note section.... Maybe it wouldnt be so nice! :

chevy88grl

Nope. Never. To be honest, I don't read other people's diaries unless they have asked for help.

I keep my diary locked because I don't need crap from anyone else about what I eat. I swear. If people worried less about others and more about themselves - the world would be a much happier place.