really bothered by this comment

jcannon15

I just love the way that the woman in question doesn't share your belief and so she is automatically wrong and everyone jumps on her and calls her a moron and she is wrong and clearly jealous. This is such a school yard.

the look in question that she prefers is not healthy, it's not just a matter of difference of opinion. Skinny fat would be the best way to describe is taxing on the heart as well as other organs. it's not as obvious as being 400 lbs but its still bad for u. If thats how she wants to look thats fine. When she's having health problems and i'm not maybe she'll get the hint. Muscle is good for the body and any kind of resistance training(bands, bodyweight, dumbells, ect) is good for your health You don't need to be ripped although thats what some may prefer to be healthy. Her problem is she's misinformed about resistance training.

what rubbed me the wrong way was telling me because i'm a girl i shouldn't lift weights, that its not right. There's a difference between being the fairer sex and the weaker sex, for her that damsel in distress thing works but i like being strong and in control.

TavistockToad

I just love the way that the woman in question doesn't share your belief and so she is automatically wrong and everyone jumps on her and calls her a moron and she is wrong and clearly jealous. This is such a school yard.

i think its actually more that we are trying to be supportive of the person posting saying they were upset by the comments... plus this is a FITNESS website, so i would imagine most people using it would view a toned phisique as more attractive than 'soft' and 'doughy', hence the comments that dough woman is wrong....

Spedden

She is definitely jealous! I know that you're looking wonderful from all your strength and weight training!

Robscofle

The comments from your colleague say more about her than they say about you. People are welcome to their opinions. If we all liked the same things, the world would be a very boring place. saying that, there are a lot of ignorant people in the world who say whatever they want without thinking of how they make others feel around them. I used to get similar comments from male friends and colleagues about my physique (when I did a lot of weight training). It never stopped me doing what I wanted to do. I put it down to them being jealous of me.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

So people have different ideas of beauty. Doesn't make either of you right or wrong. She probably would prefer to have a super skinny body because she thinks it is more attractive, whereas you think a muscular look is more attractive. Probably if you took a bunch of the normal population there would be differences of opinion as to who is right. Great that you know what you want and how to achieve it but not everyone wants that look.

I actually agree with her in that I don't like having a muscular looking body. Skinny fat is not a good look either of course, I want to be able to use my body and work out hard. I would be really upset if people were unable to respect what body build I am aiming for because I am trying to achieve something beautiful in a healthy way. Does that make me so 'wrong' like you all have just said? Am I really doing bad for choosing diet and cardio and avoiding weights?

Are people here really unable to understand that having a different opinion of beauty isn't a failing, but just an opinion, and that this woman might have not been insulting the OP, but simply that she is as close minded as everyone else who has just posted saying that she is 'wrong'?

Yes, everyone has a difference of opinion, but you seem to think that thin and strong are mutually exclusive. When I think of "thin, soft, and doughy" I think of skinny fat and Olive Oil, which you said yourself you don't think is attractive. I think that everyone is entitled to their own opinion with whats attractive, otherwise it would be like saying that she's wrong for having a favorite color other than green. That being said I do think that she sounds misinformed about a woman's ability to bulk up and what strength looks like on a woman.

jcannon15

i think its actually more that we are trying to be supportive of the person posting saying they were upset by the comments... plus this is a FITNESS website, so i would imagine most people using it would view a toned phisique as more attractive than 'soft' and 'doughy', hence the comments that dough woman is wrong....

ahaha dough woman, i'm not gonna be able to look at her the same again.

Cmuehe

she sounds like a complete moron to me. Why worry about the opinion of a complete moron?

Don't forget: "never argue with an idiot. They'll drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience"

Amen to that fitness pal friend! :-) ~ cm

darrcn5

The only person who should be soft and doughy is the Pillsbury Dough Boy Lift away!

AudgePaudge

I just love the way that the woman in question doesn't share your belief and so she is automatically wrong and everyone jumps on her and calls her a moron and she is wrong and clearly jealous. This is such a school yard.

I think some one likes Drama...Now that's what I call school yard!! :laugh:

catshark209

Tell that bz to shut it. I keep a pic of Sarah Connor (Terminator) as inspiration and I get told I'm gonna end up looking like a Thai ladyboy..
I can't stand people that try and sabotage like that. She's obviously jealous of your progress.

sgoldman328

What a *****. Keep doing what you're doing

46and2

Women with muscle tone are the HOTTEST things to walk the earth.. Keep it up!

TheGoktor

That being said I do think that she sounds misinformed about a woman's ability to bulk up and what strength looks like on a woman.

And it's entirely possible that she genuinely doesn't understand about skinny fat, nor that slender people can have more fat around their organs than externally larger people. TBH *I* didn't know that until relatively recently.

It's also possible that she may have thought she was giving good advice about weights and bulking up but doesn't really have much in the way of tact.

I tend to work on the assumption that most people I come across on a day to day business are a) grossly misinformed and b) suckered in by media and advertising - it means I rarely take offence at people's ignorance! :laugh:

Qarol

It's her opinion. I find the extreme female body builders disgusting. But that doesn't make what they do wrong. If they love it, more power to them. We can't please everyone.

littlemili

Yes, everyone has a difference of opinion, but you seem to think that thin and strong are mutually exclusive. When I think of "thin, soft, and doughy" I think of skinny fat and Olive Oil, which you said yourself you don't think is attractive.

No, I know you can be thin and strong because that's where I'm going. But I don't want to have muscles showing because I don't think it looks attractive. I also don't want to wobble when I walk. Lifting weights would most likely contribute to a body type I really don't want, and if I wasn't well-informed about selecting exercise for its benefits then I would welcome the advice to stick to diet and low-res cardio, as indeed was the advice given to me here in the initial stages when I hadn't a clue about exercise.