Leaving??

bry_all01

See the thing is in my "real life" I am really trying to fight my depression and I thought that it was getting better but a lot of peoples' negative comments have got me down. You know what you may think I'm weak and yeah I am sensitive and care too much but thats what makes me into the person I am today and I'm not going to be ashamed of that.

I'm not going to just leave... I'm going to have a good, hard think about it first.

I can relate to the depression and have also seen many negative or bashing comments posted on here. Sadly, I suppose there has to be sour pusses in every bunch, right?

I generally respond to posts in the chit chat to be silly or sometimes on the fitness ones, not too much on the nutrition ones, because that is where I have witnessed the most negativity and I respond to the NSV's.

A friend of mine was actually attacked off a forum by way of message to tell her how stupid her post and her doctor were. Rather than let it get her down, she went round for round with the opinionated lady (to be nice) and laughed it off.

Because I read the comments and decide where to post, I have never been verbally attacked and I hope that has not happened to you, personally, either.

_gwen

....stay away from the forums

+1

and add some supportive friends

KeriA

I have been here almost a year and I am only now seeing the negativity you are speaking of. Maybe before I didn't read as many posts. I read the ones that seemed helpful to me or answered questions I needed help with. I wonder that as MFP becomes more known we are getting more negativity and I have been thinking about it too. Not leaving but how to keep this site I love and need a positive in my life and how to avoid the negative. I think the Motivation and support section may have been a good place for this but I am impressed that you are getting positive support here. I am sorry you have had this experience because I think you are getting some support here you do need. I think there is the issue of different people being on here for different reasons. You need to find those that have similar goals for being on here and similar approaches to getting there. If you see a post that seems supportive and relates to the road you are going then see if that person is willing to be a friend and let them know why you are adding them. However the boards are a place to find the right type of friends. Some of the challenges and groups now get filled up quickly and there is no time to see if they are going to be a safe place for you to join. I typically keep to the open ones. The thing to remember is that MFP is a tool for you to improve yourself and not for others to tell you what to do. I have a food diary so I can track my food and see what is working for me. I get on the scale daily because it works for me and I am on here to get information to lose weight. I do not think that if others do it differently than I do that they are wrong. They are right for them. However some will tell you what they think is right here. It may be just right for you or not. It is your responsibility to figure it out. It is easier for me to see that since I am over 50 it isn't always that easy when you are younger. I wish the best for you. When my son was a bit younger than you he did alot of running and I always felt that the runner's high got him through some of those hard years.