Anorexic at goal weight?

Angelgrl86

Just wondering about this, so I figured I'd ask..

Has anyone told you that you'd look anorexic at your goal weight?

I'm 5' 7" and 234.8 right now.
I had a doctor (a pediatric endocrinologist) tell me in High School that if I got down to 150 lbs, I'd be in the hospital on a feeding tube.
And my little sister told me the other night that I'd look anorexic at 153 lbs.

dayzeerock

I'm sorry, but:
1. You would NOT look like you had an eating problem at 5'7" and 153 pounds...that's totally healthy
2. Please be careful throwing such a strong word (anorexic) around. It's a SERIOUS disease that shouldn't be taken lightly. There's a huge difference between being thin and being anorexic. One is a state of being, the other is an illness.

etarre

I am 5'7'' and weigh right around 150...I think I look better at 145 and can certainly go as low as 140 without looking at all unhealthy. Every body is different, but I wouldn't worry too much about what other people think-- make sure that you feel healthy and not starved at whatever weight you wind up being.

BProudOfU

Yes, people tell me that too and I do agree with them somewhat. I think the "what you should weigh" chart is broken. I am 5'1" and I should weigh no more than 130-135. I think I would be OK at 135, but much lower than that I think would be too skinny. Of course, that has become the norm in society. I don't want to look like that and I also don't pay a lot of attention to what I "should" weigh. I will just keep doing what I know is right and when I get to a good, healthy weight, I will maintain.

♥Faerie♥

I agree with dayzeerock.............

Biggipooh

For some strange reason, they don't want you to lose weight. Why would someone say something like this?

summertime_girl

I'm 5'7" and my goal weight is 125. I don't start to look underweight until 115.

JStarnes

:huh: I'm three inches taller than you with a goal weight of 155. I didn't look "anorexic" last time I was there, nor was I on a feeding tube. :laugh:

Jamcnair

I think you should just keep going. You will be able to tell if you're looking too thin.

KnottyRae

I guess, for me, saying someone would look "anorexic" at a certain weight is like calling something silly "retarded" or "gay". I think at 5'7 you'ld look healthy at 153 lbs but I don't know your bone structure I don't know how you carry weight, you could look just as healthy at 145 or 138, ya know? My best friend and I are the same height and she weighs ten lbs less then me however, I look thinner then her. I am much more muscular and have a larger bone structure then she does.

While I'm not saying it's the case here, some people say things like that because it's hard for them to see someone doing something that they can't do or find unachievable. Stay strong, do what's right for you.

DancingYogini

I agree with dayzeerock.............

^^That!!

Angelgrl86

I'm sorry, but:
1. You would NOT look like you had an eating problem at 5'7" and 153 pounds...that's totally healthy
2. Please be careful throwing such a strong word (anorexic) around. It's a SERIOUS disease that shouldn't be taken lightly. There's a huge difference between being thin and being anorexic. One is a state of being, the other is an illness.

1. I know, that's why I set that as my goal weight. 118 lbs -159.6 lbs is "healthy" for my height.
2. I apologize if I offended or upset anyone by my sister's and my choice of words... Many people assume if you drop a significant amount of weight, you're starving yourself.
Personally, I am trying to take this journey one step at a time in the healthiest way I can.

karenjoy

how ridiculous, I am 5'6" and used to weigh 112 lbs when I was in my late teens and early twenties and looked totally fine, I then put on a little bit of weight but I looked overweight at 140lbs so I have no idea what they are talking about.

laurad1406

i'm 5'7" and I currently weigh about 144 (with a goal of around 135 depending on how i feel when i get there)....I don't start to look "too thin" until the 120's. And I don't have a tiny frame or anything, and I definitely am not shooting for a stick thin look either.

I would say part of it might be a little bit of jealousy....and part of it might be they are just bad visualizing what a certain weight looks like (your sister anyway, the doctor...i don't know if there's an excuse).

lcarter25

Thats ridiculous!

dont listen to them hun x

DancingYogini

Oh, and I am 5'9" and weigh 135lbs...at 128 I looked too thin, now I think I look just right. And, I can't believe that a doctor told you he would have you on a feeding tube at 150lbs?? That sounds uneducated and ill informed (MD's are only required to have very little education in nutrition). Looking too thin does not equal Anorexia. Go with what feels right to you, and stop when you feel like you have hit your own healthy goal!

cgipson001

It would all depend on your bone structure and muscle mass. I have an athletic body type. I'm 5'5'' and I would look unhealthy going under 140 lbs.

lotusfromthemud

I am 5 7 and 150 pounds.

I am fit as a fiddle, and do not look at all underweight, trust me. In fact, I'm still curvy/maintain my "voluptua".

Also, I am in strong agreement with the posters above who point out that anorexia is a serious disease, not a number on the scale. I'm sure your sister didn't mean anything by it, but maybe discussing how uncomfortable it made you and talking to her about it would be a good idea. Also, saying "well, let's wait until I get there and decide" is a good statement. (My mother expressed concerns when I started losing weight that were similar. Here's a quote "Just make sure you don't turn into an anorexic!" I had to have a talk with her that told her my weight loss was healthy.)

That ALL being said, remember not to be married to a number, but concentrate on what feels right for your body. You might find that your body wants to weigh a bit more than 150, or a bit less. Or bodies are terrible at math.

TheNewLK

I'm sorry, but:
1. You would NOT look like you had an eating problem at 5'7" and 153 pounds...that's totally healthy
2. Please be careful throwing such a strong word (anorexic) around. It's a SERIOUS disease that shouldn't be taken lightly. There's a huge difference between being thin and being anorexic. One is a state of being, the other is an illness.

^^^

This....People throw this around way to often....and if someone is saying that to you....then they are quite ignorant in there rantings

jessradtke

I really hate that! It's every bit as rude as saying "You look obese." Why do people feel it ok to "intervene" for one and not the other?

It also shows a certain amount of ignorance on the part of the person saying it. Anorexia is not a "look", it's a mental disorder. People may HAVE anorexica, or SUFFER FROM anorexia, but they don't "look anorexic". Not all anorexics are ultra thin, and all thin people don't automatically have anorexia.

People have (in the past) told me I "look anorexic". I was very thin, but never sick. I was fit and healthy, just skinny. (By the way, my teenage son is the same way, but no one ever asks HIM if he has an eating disorder. Why is that?) As I get closer to my goal weight I expect I'll start hearing it again. *sigh* I know what they mean when they say it, but it still irritates me. It irritates me even more when they say it like it some kind of compliment. Ugh.

And last but not least, 150 is NOT an unhealthy weight for most 5'7" women. Everyone is different and carries weight differently, of course, but 150 is within the normal weight range for a 5'7" woman.

stormieweather

I'm 5'5" and 151 pounds. I want to lose 15 more pounds and a lot of people are negative about that. I've weighed between 115 and 135 and felt and looked fine at all ranges. I once weighed 100 pounds and THAT was too little. I have lots of fat still to lose, my belly and butt and triceps have plenty they could still lose. But the actual scale number really isnt' as important as how my body looks and feels. Is my waist still 31"? Does my belly pinch more than an inch? Then, I can afford to lose more weight.

Getting fit and trim isn't just about the scale number, it's about your shape. Whenever you get to the point that your body is the shape that you want it, then that's the right weight for you.

Angelgrl86

For some strange reason, they don't want you to lose weight. Why would someone say something like this?

I think jealousy might be part of my sister's issue.. she lost around 20 lbs earlier this year and has since gained it back due to stress eating and not hitting the gym the way she used to.

The doctor, I don't know why he said that. Especially to a 14 - 16 year old girl with enough other crap on her plate health-wise. To be honest, it kinda put a huge damper on my enthusiasm to drop the weight and get myself healthy.

JaydeSkye

I'm 5'10" and I weigh 145lbs because at 153lbs I looked like I needed to lose weight.
Just because I'm tall, I still have a small frame - my wrists are tiny and my hips are narrow.
I'm not satisfied with being 145, I could still afford to lose another 10-15lbs and tone everything up some more.
Sure, many women would be THRILLED to have my body right now as it is, but I'm not done yet... and that's when they start calling me "anorexic" to which I call them a "moron." Caring about your health and having pride in your appearence does not = an eatting/mental disorder or ill state of mind...it's actually quite the opposite

Lozzy_82

I think it is a perfectly reasonable and healthy goal weight, but you'll be able to tell when you get there if it is right for you or not.

I think that a lot of people say things like this in an attempt to make people feel better... It's kind of as if by saying "you'd look anorexic if you lost that much" they are telling you you're not that overweight to start with. Does that make sense? I would like to lose another 2 and a half / 3 stone to get to a healthy, not uber-skinny goal weight. When I tell people this they usually say "no way do you need to lose that much - there'll be nothing left of you!" or something similar, when in reality I'd probably still be curvier than most of my friends and colleagues. I think they are trying to be nice! Just another possible take on it

Angelgrl86

I think it is a perfectly reasonable and healthy goal weight, but you'll be able to tell when you get there if it is right for you or not.

I think that a lot of people say things like this in an attempt to make people feel better... It's kind of as if by saying "you'd look anorexic if you lost that much" they are telling you you're not that overweight to start with. Does that make sense? I would like to lose another 2 and a half / 3 stone to get to a healthy, not uber-skinny goal weight. When I tell people this they usually say "no way do you need to lose that much - there'll be nothing left of you!" or something similar, when in reality I'd probably still be curvier than most of my friends and colleagues. I think they are trying to be nice! Just another possible take on it

Thanks for that, Laura. The world needs more optimism and kindness in general. ^_^

ambercole

I'm 5'7 and weigh 150 and definitely dont look anorexic. In fact I still have another 20lbs to lose. Do what feels right for YOUR body.

dad106

Darling don't let them get to you!

I'm 5'9(only 2 in taller then you) and my profile pic right now is me at about 155.. I was 157 when I took that and I know for a fact that I don't look anorexic or like I need to be on a feeding tube.

I personally want to get down to 150 myself, so if you want a new positive friend, feel free to add me!

Angelgrl86

Darling don't let them get to you!

I'm 5'9(only 2 in taller then you) and my profile pic right now is me at about 155.. I was 157 when I took that and I know for a fact that I don't look anorexic or like I need to be on a feeding tube.

I personally want to get down to 150 myself, so if you want a new positive friend, feel free to add me!

Thank you. You look great!

minadeathclutch

Just wondering about this, so I figured I'd ask..

Has anyone told you that you'd look anorexic at your goal weight?

I'm 5' 7" and 234.8 right now.
I had a doctor (a pediatric endocrinologist) tell me in High School that if I got down to 150 lbs, I'd be in the hospital on a feeding tube.
And my little sister told me the other night that I'd look anorexic at 153 lbs.

thats a bit dramatic. i'm 5'6 at 150 lbs.. and i still have a good 10-15 i need to lose. i still have FLAB and lovehandles. i dont look skinny at all.

TubbsMcGee

Bahahaaa!

This doesn't make sense.

If you're in a healthy weight range, you're "starving" yourself??

I'm 114lb s and 5'7''. I'd hate to think what your doctor and sister think of me!

Diamonds_R4_Ever

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I agree with dayzeerock............. and DancingYogini!