What is attractive?

hannahlbur

Bit of a random question but what does everyone find attractive/sexy? Men and women.

But I am curious as to what most men find attractive...? With the influence of mags, movies, porn, music vids, it is quite confusing to know what men really like?

FatDadSlim

Confidence and "come to bed eyes"

Carl01

A pleasant smile and friendly personality.
Intelligence and strength,not being willing to be put down or held back.
Funny and loves to laugh.
A feminine figure with hips and curves.

shellyxxxxx

a sexy smile, and someone who makes me feel good x

shellyxxxxx

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shellyxxxxx

A pleasant smile and friendly personality.
Intelligence and strength,not being willing to be put down or held back.
Funny and loves to laugh.
A feminine figure with hips and curves.



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SoldierDad

Bit of a random question but what does everyone find attractive/sexy? Men and women.

But I am curious as to what most men find attractive...? With the influence of mags, movies, porn, music vids, it is quite confusing to know what men really like?

So many diff things. I truly and honestly think there is somethign gorgeous & attractive about everyone. Be it the way the smile, tghere eyes, there laugh, etc. Beauty is in all of us.

chloemeow

A great sence of humour always gets me someone with good personal hygene is a must!!! (i mean the main things, like showering daily, brushing teeth daily, deodrants)

rml_16

I don't think it's that simple. Everyone is attracted to what or who they're attracted to. My boyfriend thinks the women in the magazines are too skinny. And after all the years we've been together, I'm pretty confident he's not just saying that. He's also not the only man I've heard say that.

On the other hand, there are men who really like super skinny.

Some men like large breasts, some small. Some like a nice leg, some a big rear end, some a small rear end.

There is no "most" in this question.

I also find that people fall in love with someone and then the things about the person they love become what is attractive in their eyes, even if they wouldn't have found those things attractive before, if that makes sense.

rml_16

A great sence of humour always gets me someone with good personal hygene is a must!!! (i mean the main things, like showering daily, brushing teeth daily, deodrants)

I'm SO with you on the personal hygiene!!!

Years ago, when I gave the online dating thing a try (total bust), I was e-mailing and talking to this guy who was funny and nice and smart and I really, really, really liked him.

Then we met.

He didn't look like his picture AT ALL, but I could have gotten past that if he didn't smell. And not like the normal BO smell. It was something even worse and I to this day can't tell you what it was exactly, but it was disgusting. I cut that date as short as possible and never saw him again.

JennLifts

not being willing to be put down or held back.

I've never heard that in this context! I like it!


For me, a heart that you can see from a mile away, a great smile, and compassion.

laureneva15

my ex said what first attracted him to me was my smile, then later he'd say i had DSLs so... ha!

as to what attracts me to guys - eyes, smile, hair, personality (a must!)

poedunk65

Friendly sincere eyes and a great smile. Oh yeah and a nice rack helps too!!!>......LMAO..............Just kidin ladies!

JennLifts

I don't think it's that simple. Everyone is attracted to what or who they're attracted to. My boyfriend thinks the women in the magazines are too skinny. And after all the years we've been together, I'm pretty confident he's not just saying that. He's also not the only man I've heard say that.

On the other hand, there are men who really like super skinny.

Some men like large breasts, some small. Some like a nice leg, some a big rear end, some a small rear end.

There is no "most" in this question.

I also find that people fall in love with someone and then the things about the person they love become what is attractive in their eyes, even if they wouldn't have found those things attractive before, if that makes sense.

I agree. its no "one size fits all"

DarthCeltic

simply saying "I will do anything you want.. and btw.. afterward i will make you a pizza..."


That does it for me.. but then again.. i am fat... so dont believe me... anything with food and sex is a good day for me..

runninglol

Really smart guys attract me.

ItsCasey

Men who are not afraid of nor ashamed of their masculinity. There are too many girly men in the world today, so when a guy is just unapologetically male, that's very attractive to me.

Drunkadelic

... anything with food and sex is a good day for me..

lmao. I have to agree

Elle408

This attraction thing is very odd! lol

I used to fancy 'pretty boys'... the whole 6ft tall, broad shouldered, dark haired package... but after having dated a few I have realised there's definitely a lot more to it than looks and i've changed my outlook! lol

Intelligence and confidence are huge for me... The guy i'm currently crazy about is the smartest person i've ever met. And he's very confident in his work persona, but not so much in his private time, which I find endearing!

I still have to be physically attracted to someone, but it's not the a-typical Ken doll any more. I like eyebrows... strong eyebrows! lol And a cute smile... oh and good teeth. Have to have good teeth!

As for the other way round.... this is going to sound awful or whatever... but the thinner i've got, and the more socially acceptable my looks have become I rarely get approached, and generally find it's just the older, crazier 'nothing to lose' type chaps that do approach me... part of the reason I no longer go to pubs! So, conclusion: When I was fatter and unhappy, I wouldn't date because of my own confidence, now i'm thinner and happier, no one will approach me... sad but true story! lol

laureneva15

Men who are not afraid of nor ashamed of their masculinity. There are too many girly men in the world today, so when a guy is just unapologetically male, that's very attractive to me.

This. If he uses more hair product than my interest kind of dies down a bit ... which is very limiting cos i don't use hair products lol!

bry_all01

butt, eyes, hygiene and confidence, but not arrogance. :bigsmile:

kapeluza

A man who changes a diaper and does his own laundry. Just kidding, rofl.

Scott613

I don't think it's that simple. Everyone is attracted to what or who they're attracted to. My boyfriend thinks the women in the magazines are too skinny. And after all the years we've been together, I'm pretty confident he's not just saying that. He's also not the only man I've heard say that.

On the other hand, there are men who really like super skinny.

Some men like large breasts, some small. Some like a nice leg, some a big rear end, some a small rear end.

There is no "most" in this question.

I also find that people fall in love with someone and then the things about the person they love become what is attractive in their eyes, even if they wouldn't have found those things attractive before, if that makes sense.

Well said

ItsCasey

Men who are not afraid of nor ashamed of their masculinity. There are too many girly men in the world today, so when a guy is just unapologetically male, that's very attractive to me.

This. If he uses more hair product than my interest kind of dies down a bit ... which is very limiting cos i don't use hair products lol!

I agree, and it really bothers me when guys are hesitant to be who they are and do what feels right to them because they're afraid of offending a woman or because society seems to be stuck on the idea (at least since the late '60s) that men and women should be exactly the same and serve exactly the same role in a relationship. Do what makes you feel like a man, and if she can't handle it, then let her go find some dude who is missing a set of testicles, since that's clearly what she prefers.

JennLifts

confidence, but not arrogance. :bigsmile:

So true! Those seem kind of rare though!

lingading

simply saying "I will do anything you want.. and btw.. afterward i will make you a pizza..."


That does it for me.. but then again.. i am fat... so dont believe me... anything with food and sex is a good day for me..

^Lmao, but sooo true.

I like different people for different reasons, I may lust after a man with tattoos & a bad boy attitude, but I'm more likely to fall in love with a silly, carefree, makes a fool out of himself because he'd rather do that than conform to the norm type of guy that makes me laugh & is just plain adorable. With a bit of a dirty naughty sexual side that makes raunchy comments at unexpected times that really get my hormones in gear if ya catch my drift

ziggy67

I'm drawn to rugged intelligent men with good manners and a sense of humour..... I think pretty boys are a bit shallow.

writtenINthestars

A pleasant smile and friendly personality.
Intelligence and strength,not being willing to be put down or held back.
Funny and loves to laugh.
A feminine figure with hips and curves.

Aww Carl, how sweet of you to describe me to a T..



A man needs to be funny, intelligent, a gentleman, and be open minded.
As far as the figure is concerned...a healthy man with muscles and such is attractive, but it ultimately comes down to whether or not I can stand you while you are talking. If you don't have all the traits mentioned above, having a great body won't always get you to the finish line.

DarthCeltic

simply saying "I will do anything you want.. and btw.. afterward i will make you a pizza..."


That does it for me.. but then again.. i am fat... so dont believe me... anything with food and sex is a good day for me..

^Lmao, but sooo true.

I like different people for different reasons, I may lust after a man with tattoos & a bad boy attitude, but I'm more likely to fall in love with a silly, carefree, makes a fool out of himself because he'd rather do that than conform to the norm type of guy that makes me laugh & is just plain adorable. With a bit of a dirty naughty sexual side that makes raunchy comments at unexpected times that really get my hormones in gear if ya catch my drift

for a second i thought you were talking about me.. but since there is no comment about huge hairy man boobs... i decided it wasnt.... sad..

TheNewLK

Honestly what first attracts me to someone is their eyes.....after that i honestly depends on the person.....its not just looks that turn me on

Tiff_09

I also find that people fall in love with someone and then the things about the person they love become what is attractive in their eyes, even if they wouldn't have found those things attractive before, if that makes sense.

I completely agree with this