feel like im about to quit

M_lifts

dont give up. the only person you are giving up on is yourself. you can do this.

I have a toddler and i work full time but i try and make good choices. You have to include more fruit and veg into your diet. Invest in a slow cooker/ crockpot if you dont have one. It cooks away slowly so u dont have to spend time in the kitchen- pretty handy if you have a busy day. plus u can batch cook and freeze meals. your family will be a lot healthier if you are healthy as well!

I would also eat more. your diary is making me hungry. no less than 1200 cals in a day- the amounts you are consuming are very very low. you need to fuel your body better

Jholt47

Don't give up, it sounds like your metabolism is running slow. Eat more one day a week to get it going. High protein and coconut oil can also help increase your metabolism.

AliDarling

You claim that you cannot eat more than that -- I'm sorry, but you can. And you must. If you truly feel that you cannot eat more, then you need to see your doctor, because you are not eating very much food at all. You have convinced yourself that you don't want to eat very much because you think food is the enemy. It's not.

I'm sorry to sound harsh, but it sounds to me as though you're headed toward eating disorder territory, if you aren't there already. Healthy food is not the enemy. And quite frankly, you say you don't have time to prepare food for yourself -- if you don't take the time and effort to care for yourself, what kind of example is that for your child? Show your child that it's important to take care of yourself. Do this for yourself, and for that baby. Don't let your child grow up thinking that it's ok to completely sacrifice all of your own personal needs in the name of caring for others.

i didnt exactly say that. I lead a busy life and i sometimes have to skip a meal resulting in low cal count. I have never eaten very much, espically in summer. i tend to just drink water and teas. When i feel too tired to make food for myself, i dont think im setting a bad example for myself. i get up around 6 am every morning to make my husband and daughter breakfeast, and while he can watch her i start on the house work, laundy, and yard work. i dont get to my breakfest till 10-11 am. byt then its too late for lunch, and i'll have a snack. i make sure my husbands dinner is ready when he gets home, and he can rest before i go to the gym. at 7-8. i dont get home till 11 or 12 and i dont eat after 7. im not anorexic or bullimic. i dont binge and purge. i know food is not the enemy, but when you have a husband thats trying to gain weight, and youre trying to lose it, diet foods aren't for him. i make sure he and my daughter eat, and if i miss a meal, then thats the way it is.

if i were over the toilet gagging myself, yea, thats a bad example for my daughter. being busy isnt.

i_love_vinegar

it is a plateau. if you want to take a break for a week, thats fine! I did that and am back today with more motivation than before. i went through a plateau and began starving. I gained a little weight, but now i feel i am back on track.

hope this helps!!!

AliDarling

The whole eating your calories back thing seems to confuse a lot of people. When you exercise you are building muscle which will increase your body's ability to burn fat and calories at resting rate. So eating the calories back helps you to lose the fat and the exercise helps to increase your ability to burn the fat off as well. So make sure you eat at leat 1200, I know it is hard but there are a lot of calorie dense things out there if you don't want to eat too much, like peanut butter and cheeses etc...

you actually made me unerstand that. even the trainer couldnt explain that i burn cals durning the rest after work outs. so is it after i eat the 1200, burn off most of em, do i eat 1/2 or do i go up to 1200 again?

pumpkinmoccasin

I know EVERYONE has said it but you REALLY need to hear it: You NEED to eat more. Your body isn't losing any fat because every single thing that you eat, regardless of what it is, is turning into fat because your body is starving and freaking out. MFP calculates a healthy deficit in the calories that it gives you so eat that amount. Keep up your exercise routine and you don't have to eat back your exercise calories if that makes you uncomfortable (but if you still aren't losing at least eat some of them). It takes 2-3 weeks of doing something to be able to tell if the change that you made is gonna stick to at least hang around doing the RIGHT things for a couple more weeks and you should see loss.

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ajbeans

i tend to just drink water and teas. When i feel too tired to make food for myself, i dont think im setting a bad example for myself. i get up around 6 am every morning to make my husband and daughter breakfeast, and while he can watch her i start on the house work, laundy, and yard work. i dont get to my breakfest till 10-11 am. byt then its too late for lunch, and i'll have a snack. i make sure my husbands dinner is ready when he gets home, and he can rest before i go to the gym. at 7-8. i dont get home till 11 or 12 and i dont eat after 7. im not anorexic or bullimic. i dont binge and purge. i know food is not the enemy, but when you have a husband thats trying to gain weight, and youre trying to lose it, diet foods aren't for him. i make sure he and my daughter eat, and if i miss a meal, then thats the way it is.

if i were over the toilet gagging myself, yea, thats a bad example for my daughter. being busy isnt.

You're preparing food for your husband and your daughter. Eat that! You're already making food, so just have some yourself. If you make sure everyone else around you has enough to eat, why do you not think that you're worth the same consideration? And it's not like it would take any more work, because you're already in the kitchen preparing meals and snacks for other people. Just throw another egg in the pan, another potato in the oven, another serving of whatever it is you're making, and eat it. You don't even have to sit down if you don't want to. Grab a bite on the way through to the laundry room. Grab another one when you come back to get some water. Eat a few bites as you clear the table. And yes, being "too busy" to take care of yourself IS a bad example. Do you want her to grow up thinking she has to let herself come last in everything, to the point of sacrificing her health? Because that's what you're doing. You are her example.

The reason I think you have an unhealthy relationship with food is BECAUSE you eat so little. BECAUSE you don't care if you eat. BECAUSE you said that when you eat, you feel bloated. These are not healthy ways of reacting to food, and they CAN be signs of a budding eating disorder. Binging and purging are not the only bad things people do with regards to food. Food is fuel for life. You need it. So I'll say it again: if you don't eat enough because you don't think you have time, re-prioritize your time. But if you feel that you physically cannot eat enough, see your doctor. Nobody's body is healthy on such small amounts of food, and yours is no exception.

I'm saying these things because I want you to be healthy and happy. I want to see you achieve your goals, because you are worth it!

coltonsmumma

I second and third what everyone else says.

I don't understand though when you say you can't eat something. What can't you eat? I eat anything I want, about 1100-1400 cals a day depending on the day, and just eat in moderation. I lost 12 lbs in about 3 weeks. I'm not even working out like a maniac. I do at least 3 workouts at least 30 minutes each a week.

This isn't a restrictive diet. Why don't you eat a little bit of your daughter or husbands breakfast foods? You would get a morning boost, have more energy to do all the work you need to do, and you can count that as the 400+ calories you NEED in your diet.

Feel free to friend me and look at my food diary for ideas. I still eat burgers, pizza, ice cream, breakfast etc... I've just figured out how to do it modestly instead of the 4,000 calories a day that I used to consume.

Edit to add: I am also THE #1 most picky eater EVER born. I promise you that! lol

TLW77

I know I already replied to this post but I was listening to a Jillian Michaels podcast later today and I wanted to share something she said about herself on there. She said that she eats 1500-1600 calories a day and the days she exercises she eats around 2000. Also I have read that you should eat something alteast 30 minutes after exercise, a carb and protein, so that your muscles can rebuild and have the fuel to rebuild. I hope this helps you. Good luck to you.

EmilySG2011

I dont like to eat a lot either. I have found that drinking some kind of shake like slimfast helps get your vitamins and calories in and doesnt "blow me up" after eating it. I have been making very slow progress too----I don't mind working my butt off on workouts and eating healthy if I see results--however, it's very non-motivational to do so without results. I too have had those days that I feel I'm spinning wheels. It's a super hard journey.

Bluejay789

Dont quit! You need to take the time to log your food and not go over your calorie intake. If you are doing that then you need to probably measure yourself instead of weighing. Muscle weighs more than fat so you are probably loosing inches instead of pounds.


Also only weigh once or twice a month. I weigh at work. I had scales but threw them out because I was weighing daily and getting frustrated.

Dont' give up. I will be glad to support you! If you want to friend me, my username is Bluejay789 my name is Claire

Keep your chin up!

ruststar

I hit a plateau and didn't start losing weight again until I bumped my calories to more than 2000. If you're not hungry in the morning it's a sign that your metabolism is at a standstill - a revved up metabolism will be eager for food after a few hours sleep. You're putting a lot of effort into making food for your family, but there's no reason you can't eat when they eat, even if it's smaller amounts. Nothing is off limits to you if you plan well. I can eat steak and cheeseburgers, McDonalds and ice cream, but I'm smarter about it now. I split a meal with my daughter at McDonalds when I'm forced to go there, and when I go out to eat with my family I choose more carefully, order smaller versions of things I love, and leave food on my plate. Fat is not the enemy, nor is protein, nor carbs. Once I couldn't leave a Ben & Jerry's container in the freezer for even an hour, and now it will last all week. Aim for eating healthy 90% of the time, and incorporate things you love 10 % as you learn to control your cravings.

fakeplastictree

The whole eating your calories back thing seems to confuse a lot of people. When you exercise you are building muscle which will increase your body's ability to burn fat and calories at resting rate. So eating the calories back helps you to lose the fat and the exercise helps to increase your ability to burn the fat off as well. So make sure you eat at leat 1200, I know it is hard but there are a lot of calorie dense things out there if you don't want to eat too much, like peanut butter and cheeses etc...

you actually made me unerstand that. even the trainer couldnt explain that i burn cals durning the rest after work outs. so is it after i eat the 1200, burn off most of em, do i eat 1/2 or do i go up to 1200 again?

You should eat a net of 1200. which means eat 1200 calories a day (at least) and then also eat back at least half if not all of what you burn off in exercise. This is just becuase 1200 is the minimum calorie consumption they recommend for women, it is what you need to have your body function - blinking, breathing, heart beating, disgestion etc...

milaxx

i get up around 6 am every morning to make my husband and daughter breakfeast,

An easy was to get breakfast in when you are busy is to make to go things. When you are cooking boil half a dozen eggs. Then when you get up, grab a hardboiled egg and much on that while doing your house work, or if you need smaller, grab a piece of fruit or a handful of nuts. It doesn't need to be a big breakfast, just enough food to get your metabolism going. You sound like a great mom and this is a way to teach your daughter by example how busy women take care of themselves and their families.